Gemini who has 12 "exes" but says he's not a player?

Hi, what would your first impressions be about a a male gemini who has been "intimate" with 12 different people (and he's only mid-twenties), claims they were just not the "one" but that he fiercely denies that he's a commitmentphobe/player - will these types of people ever settle down?

I just think if someone who is only 25 has had 12 people, surely they either get bored very easily or are very critical of people & will be too de-sentizised to find "forever" lasting relationships? e.g. if you are used to eating different types of food each day and then suddenly someone says you can only eat 1 type of food for the rest of your life, it'd be quite a challenge.. & he very much has a personality that comes on very strong at the start.. easy come easy go, as they say?

Any thoughts? I personally think he's going to play the field until well into his forties or even further

I have 1 ex and im player.

Posted by Geminiam
I'm a Gemini female but I can see where he is coming from. I've dated and slept with, had short term relationships with a decent number of guys in just a year after my divorce (14 years). I do want to be in a relationship but I also get bored quickly or start seeing signs that they won't fit into my life, or I leave because it starts to get a bit deep and honestly I get scared of the deeper emotions or just don't want them knowing too much about me. Maybe sex to him doesn't necessarily mean anything more than that but he is ultimately looking to be with the right person. They say Geminis are always looking for the perfect person and sometimes can't get all of what we need in one relationship. I also have moon in Taurus though and Mars in Scorpio so I crave deeper, more emotional relationships even though I may come across as fun and lighthearted.

Ive heard this many times by gems how can one love u and go.deep if ur running because things get deep? Did u see what u posted? I dated a gem thats why we didnt work.i felt they self sabotage us before we even got it started then the whole getting bored thing. They do get bored too. How can one love you and u come off light fun but want deep connection. You may can get this if u allow someone in further to get deeper. Dont be afraid

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Posted by Geminiam
I'm a Gemini female but I can see where he is coming from. I've dated and slept with, had short term relationships with a decent number of guys in just a year after my divorce (14 years). I do want to be in a relationship but I also get bored quickly or start seeing signs that they won't fit into my life, or I leave because it starts to get a bit deep and honestly I get scared of the deeper emotions or just don't want them knowing too much about me. Maybe sex to him doesn't necessarily mean anything more than that but he is ultimately looking to be with the right person. They say Geminis are always looking for the perfect person and sometimes can't get all of what we need in one relationship. I also have moon in Taurus though and Mars in Scorpio so I crave deeper, more emotional relationships even though I may come across as fun and lighthearted.

Ive heard this many times by gems how can one love u and go.deep if ur running because things get deep? Did u see what u posted? I dated a gem thats why we didnt work.i felt they self sabotage us before we even got it started then the whole getting bored thing. They do get bored too. How can one love you and u come off light fun but want deep connection. You may can get this if u allow someone in further to get deeper. Dont be afraid

Agree. I'm only lighthearted up front with people. Once I trust someone in a relationship I do start letting them see the other side. At that point if they aren't smart and articulate it can be hard to feel anything more as I like to talk about a variety of things. We like to talk so it's important to have something to talk about. As for the running away. I've only run away from it once due to things getting too deep, but I learned as I really regret that because it could have been good. That's one reason why I'm hoping not to fuck it up this time with this Scorpio guy, now that I found someone that really "gets" me. The current guy can keep pace with me so we both get sarcastic and have fun but can also switch like a lightbulb to deep conversation about serious issues. I also thrive with someone who is stable and a little possessive even (maybe due to my Taurus moon or Scorpio in Mars). Hope that makes sense.

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Ok got it..makes.sense

Posted by littlemegabytes
Uhh I know a lot of guys who at 25, claim to have slept with 30+ people. I know women who have shamefully confided in sleeping with over 60 by their Middle Ages (two Scorpio women btw).12 people at the age of 25 is pretty standard or even less from what I have seen in my experiences in the dating world. It's not hard for an attractive guy in his mid twenties to find sex. Especially in a college town?? 12 is not that big of a number for an attractive guy in his mid twenties.

Why is he being shamed for being a player for sleeping with 12 women throughout his life?

Sex is not a shameful act. This is a very medieval mindset to have 😢 There's nothing wrong with two consenting people engaging in sex. And they should be able to do so free of judgement.

Even in the medieval days they frequent brothels and had concubines. 🙂

Agreed!

I have quite a few exes and I am a monogmous partner. Seldom do I do the leaving. How does that qualify as a "player" exactly?

My last ex stated that he could not count the number of people he's had sex with. I was like "50?" and he responded "I don't know. I lost track after a while". Haha. He was only 23/24. But, he was very loyal to me while we were together and when we broke up he even told me that I could always come back to him as long as I didn't have sex with someone else. He'd literally wait a lifetime for me. So, the number of exes or sex partners doesn't mean much, imo. It's about how you feel about each other and your ability to be loyal while in a relationship.

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Posted by Scenic
My last ex stated that he could not count the number of people he's had sex with. I was like "50?" and he responded "I don't know. I lost track after a while". Haha. He was only 23/24. But, he was very loyal to me while we were together and when we broke up he even told me that I could always come back to him as long as I didn't have sex with someone else. He'd literally wait a lifetime for me. So, the number of exes or sex partners doesn't mean much, imo. It's about how you feel about each other and your ability to be loyal while in a relationship.

Well said! Was he a Gemini?

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Aquarius
He has mars in gemini, even though that doesn't really count...