Gemini Woman with Piscean Man

Hello all,

Looking for a bit of advice here on how to manage emotions and be less "mean" (in the words of my fiancé):

I am engaged to marry my best friend and someone I have been with for 8 years of my life. I am very much in love with and support this individual in many ways; either emotionally, monetarily, even physically. We have a great time together, but not without our mortal challenges; he is very much a moody, imaginative, brooding Pisces but that is something I love about him. He is humane, caring, emotional and needy. My problem is that he is very in his head at times - I see him drifting off thinking about things like problems or aspirations and I feel like I have to reel him out of his head in order to communicate his thoughts with me. Sometimes I feel like I am bothering him but I believe that it is healthier to share and confirm feelings rather than let them fester internally and manifest anxiety (which he deals with on a daily basis). He thinks that I come across mean with my blunt way of speaking. I say what I want when I want but not without reason. I choose my words carefully and they are factual, but one can say I do not have a filter (very Gemini). I don't mean to come across as rude but I find it hard to level myself on the emotional and accommodating Piscean plane. I want to be softer, less intense and I often find it hard to control my thoughts and emotions. I often REACT rather than think before I do something. He also finds me to be flaky and unpredictable (wow shocker).

Can any other Gemini out there offer their advice? Anyone else with a Pisces partner?

Thanks!

Personally I think that the Pieces are emotionally drowning... and I wouldn't be able to be with someone who would keep me under water with them! lol I need my air!

I can't support the obvious... but if you decided fitness your own happiness to be with that person, then you need to compromise. When he is sad ask him open indirect questions... and don't make a joke or be tactless.... just go for awwww, it's shame... say less! Maybe talk to him after his emotions pass, ask him what was that all about... do you feel better... etc...

And you need to talk to him to compromise for you too, that he knows your flaws and that he will be more sensitive to that too!

Posted by dvpxo

Sometimes I feel like I am bothering him but I believe that it is healthier to share and confirm feelings rather than .....

You are bothering him .. every time, in fact, that you pressure him with your expectations of him.

What you believe is healthy is great for you.

this isn't you, this is another person ...

A Fish is in their head all the time, their whole life .... so what you're expecting him to do is to change his whole essence of being.

But, of course .. that's what YOU want, so it's not like you're actually going to compromise because after all, if you had any intentions of understanding his nature, you would have bothered to care by now.

Anxiety is common among Pisces. You mentioned all the true qualities of a Pisces here and I can completely understand about him being upset of your straight talking even though you are not rude. This always baffles us Geminis. We do love and care others through our actions but they expect more of sensual talks, roses and cards. Yes it is frustrating sometimes but we can change for the best I hope as they don't change for us. Good luck on your marriage.

Posted by dvpxo

I often REACT rather than think before I do something.

He also finds me to be flaky and unpredictable (wow shocker).

If you often react without thinking ... why are you then shocked to be viewed as unpredictable?

How bizarre, and self unaware

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Posted by dvpxo

I often REACT rather than think before I do something.

He also finds me to be flaky and unpredictable (wow shocker).

If you often react without thinking ... why are you then shocked to be viewed as unpredictable?

How bizarre, and self unaware

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so you really had sex with over 120 guys?

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Posted by P-Angel

Posted by dvpxo

I often REACT rather than think before I do something.

He also finds me to be flaky and unpredictable (wow shocker).

If you often react without thinking ... why are you then shocked to be viewed as unpredictable?

How bizarre, and self unaware

so you really had sex with over 120 guys?

Lmao where was that said? I must see it.

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you'll have to ask @themagnetoreborn to find that one

Why do I get the impression you are more sensitive than he is?

8 years is a long time to be with someone, congrats on that .. Do u think u can take a lil time to think what u will say before reacting ,at least most of the time , before u guys get married ? Cuz if not, it might get ugly during marriage down the line