Getting all your flaws pointed out

How would you feel if your best friend of 15 years wrote a letter to you pointing out all your flaws and reasons why you've been failing some things in order for you to learn and be a better person in your life?

Something like: "All that emotional baggage you're carrying is the reason why you're not happy. You need to get rid of it and I'm willing to do that with you" kinda letter.

The question is...Is it true? Is any of it true?

If it's true I wouldn't have an issue with it if I were in your shoes, that's what friends are for, they help us dig deep and transform ourselves.

Maybe you're getting on your friends nerves with your issues, discussing them constantly, repeating the same mistakes over and over in some way or another but still no improvement.

Your friend is concerned but probably just fed up.

Sounds like a Virgo is on the case.

The way she "offered advice" is definitely wrong. However, i think it wont do you any good if you keep thinking about how badly she said it but why?
Are the things she said true? How can you change them?
Just take some time to think about the things you need to work on. Remember nobody's perfect, but theres nothing wrong with improvement. Oh, and yur friend probably didnt mean to offend you..

Posted by tiki33
The question is...Is it true? Is any of it true?

If it's true I wouldn't have an issue with it if I were in your shoes, that's what friends are for, they help us dig deep and transform ourselves.

Maybe you're getting on your friends nerves with your issues, discussing them constantly, repeating the same mistakes over and over in some way or another but still no improvement.

Your friend is concerned but probably just fed up.

I agree, u may be resisting what she is saying because you dont want to face it. I have a virgo friend and I keep her around because she tells me the truth, she challenges me to see things differently.

It doesn't really matter "how" your friend told you... What matters is they cared enough to tell you in the first place!! It's hard to watch a loved one make the same mistakes over and over again.... It causes emotional pain that is unbearable, sometimes!

For me, I would not mind. I might be upset at first, but will (and have) realize that there's probably some truth to it and I work on it. That simple!

Now, if it's a constant nitpicking at my flaws... I heard the first time and will get irritated. But, I will work on making a better me.

I don't mind constructive criticism. I very much WANT to learn and grow, and that can't happen if I'm being blind to the things in myself that might benefit from change. I have enough self-confidence to take each criticism with a grain of salt and decide for myself if it's something that's true and needs to be addressed...so bring it on.

Was said letter attached to a bottle of red wine?
Because if not, I'd return to sender.

if theres a reason your friend is doing that and you can understand it but dont want to get into it, laugh it off... thats what id do

but this is a weird question to ask when we really dont know the details