Guys are trying to pick up my Gem GF

Hey Gem ladies I need some input here. So yeah I have been dating this gem girl for about two months now. Despite the no no's between Caps and Gems things are going pretty well. I give my girl alot of space to be free, and she always likes to hang with me. So I think all in all we are a good couple.

However there is one thing that sort of bothers me. She has this one guy friend who is always asking her out. She knows she has a BF but the dude keeps making advancements on her.

Now I don't want to tell her who to be friends with for she is entitled to her own life but I wonder why she still hangs out with him. She always afirms that she likes me.

Yet should I be worried?

that happens alot butshe's with you! Tell her how you feel & see
if she can't make her message more clear.Some guys refuse to accept
that No' means NO forever!!! Maybe she needs to force him to leave
her alone? As strange as it sounds,she might just have to do that!

Posted by Geminithefox
that happens alot butshe's with you! Tell her how you feel & see
if she can't make her message more clear.Some guys refuse to accept
that No' means NO forever!!! Maybe she needs to force him to leave
her alone? As strange as it sounds,she might just have to do that!

Thanks Geminifox. We have talked about it already so I guess it's a wait and see if he listens.

I trust her so I don't think I have to worry about it.

Posted by eric11

Posted by Geminithefox
that happens alot butshe's with you! Tell her how you feel & see
if she can't make her message more clear.Some guys refuse to accept
that No' means NO forever!!! Maybe she needs to force him to leave
her alone? As strange as it sounds,she might just have to do that!

Thanks Geminifox. We have talked about it already so I guess it's a wait and see if he listens.

I trust her so I don't think I have to worry about it.

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Indeed Eric, once a Gem is committed, usually, its exactly that and he can ask forever and when she gets fed up, or it causes you difficulties and she is concerned enough to take action, she will do exactly that what ever the cost to this "guy friend that is interested in her" trust her, until she gives you reason not too, dont let him manipulate YOUR relationship with her!

I couldn't agree more with Perfect Gem Angel!

Posted by Perfect Gem Angel

Posted by eric11

Posted by Geminithefox
that happens alot butshe's with you! Tell her how you feel & see
if she can't make her message more clear.Some guys refuse to accept
that No' means NO forever!!! Maybe she needs to force him to leave
her alone? As strange as it sounds,she might just have to do that!

Thanks Geminifox. We have talked about it already so I guess it's a wait and see if he listens.

I trust her so I don't think I have to worry about it.

Indeed Eric, once a Gem is committed, usually, its exactly that and he can ask forever and when she gets fed up, or it causes you difficulties and she is concerned enough to take action, she will do exactly that what ever the cost to this "guy friend that is interested in her" trust her, until she gives you reason not too, dont let him manipulate YOUR relationship with her!

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Thanks Gem Angel. I appreciate your advise. 🙂

Let me see if I have this straight .....


This guy hits on your girl

You and girl have talked about it before, so she knows that it bothers you

Yet, she keeps telling you about this guy hitting on her


You said .... "We have talked about it already so I guess it's a wait and see if he listens." .. which was meaning "we" in this talk was you and her, yet, you are expecting him to listen eventhough it was her to whom you talked.

And still, she continues to tell you about this guy who keeps hitting on her, knowing that it bothers you



I agree with PGA to an extent .... you definitely don't want anyone to manipulate your relationship with her .. only problem is, it looks like it's her that is doing the manipulating here ===== she's trying to make you jealous because she doesn't HAVE to tell you about this guy ... she CHOOSES to do it, while having full awareness that it bothers you.

Posted by P-Angel
Let me see if I have this straight .....


This guy hits on your girl

You and girl have talked about it before, so she knows that it bothers you

Yet, she keeps telling you about this guy hitting on her


You said .... "We have talked about it already so I guess it's a wait and see if he listens." .. which was meaning "we" in this talk was you and her, yet, you are expecting him to listen eventhough it was her to whom you talked.

And still, she continues to tell you about this guy who keeps hitting on her, knowing that it bothers you



I agree with PGA to an extent .... you definitely don't want anyone to manipulate your relationship with her .. only problem is, it looks like it's her that is doing the manipulating here ===== she's trying to make you jealous because she doesn't HAVE to tell you about this guy ... she CHOOSES to do it, while having full awareness that it bothers you.

Uh, I don't see where he ever says that she was the one telling him about her friend hitting on her. It could just as well be he sees it when he's around the both of them together. I think you're jumping to conclusions a bit. There's really not enough information and you really don't know who has talked to whom.

I think PGA has the best advice in this situation. You already say you trust her and you've discussed it with her; which is really great, btw! It's refreshing to hear someone talk about actually talking to their SO about something that bothers them instead of just being suspicious and assuming. Don't let someone else's intrusion mess up your relationship. If your girlfriend has made it clear she has no feelings for the guy and you trust her, then no matter what the friend feels it doesn't matter. The friend will eventually get over his crush when he realizes it has no future and he'll move on.

"Don't let someone else's intrusion mess up your relationship."



Someone else isn't messing up his relationship .... his girlfriend is messing up his relationship with her by not rejecting the hitter, and still trying to be friends with him.