thisismylife2015
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Having the "talk"
Posted by littlemegabyteThis is the gem sun/scorp moon guy. He is, but kinda in a joking way. I assured him the other day that he was the only one I am currently entertaining after some inquiries and I could tell the difference in him almost immediately. Lol. But thank you for answering my question! I appreciate your insight!
Did you end up pursuing the gem sun/scorp moon guy? Or the other Gem guy who's placements you didn't know? That's a tricky one... you need some gem male advice! My gem w scorp moon is always making what I think to be half serious - half kidding jokes that I am the one using him for sex hahaha.
I would really advise against having the "what are we" talk, that shit will scare away a gem. I dread it!! And another thing - I think you should wait it out until you get a better idea on what his intentions are, naturally, as this connection progresses. Is he still being kinda jealous and possessive?
Yes, I agree w/Littlemegabyte...Don't initiate "the talk" Just hang out and when you start to see him fall for you/get feelings that's when you know it's time. It's a look/touch/action...forget what he says. Go with your gut, and if you doubt then it's not time. Geminis take awhile to fall so if it seems rushed then the connection isn't deep enough and engaging sexual behavior will most likely turn into a FWB situation.
Posted by MoonbutterThanks for the advice! I need to listen to my gut more and stop second guessing. Maybe I'll meditate on it. Now I have to look up signs when Gemini likes you *sigh*
Yes, I agree w/Littlemegabyte...Don't initiate "the talk" Just hang out and when you start to see him fall for you/get feelings that's when you know it's time. It's a look/touch/action...forget what he says. Go with your gut, and if you doubt then it's not time. Geminis take awhile to fall so if it seems rushed then the connection isn't deep enough and engaging sexual behavior will most likely turn into a FWB situation.
Posted by thisismylife2015You are welcome, however looking up the signs may not help or give mixed msgs to you since everyone in comprised of a lot more then just their Sun sign...you gotta look at their Venus, Moon, aspects, etc...Basically look for an overall "softness" in their touch, their look at you and behavior. Look up body language for tell signs. 🙂 It is the man's mission to make sure you know his intent and if he can't produce that then he is either not the one for you, not "there yet" or playing games. Either way it is in your benefit to "wait and see" until you take things further.Posted by MoonbutterThanks for the advice! I need to listen to my gut more and stop second guessing. Maybe I'll meditate on it. Now I have to look up signs when Gemini likes you *sigh*
Yes, I agree w/Littlemegabyte...Don't initiate "the talk" Just hang out and when you start to see him fall for you/get feelings that's when you know it's time. It's a look/touch/action...forget what he says. Go with your gut, and if you doubt then it's not time. Geminis take awhile to fall so if it seems rushed then the connection isn't deep enough and engaging sexual behavior will most likely turn into a FWB situation.click to expand
My advice would be to ask him what his intentions are... Doesn't hurt to ask and it puts everything out on the table beforehand... I, as a gem, appreciate that. Let's me know that you know what you want out of life and aren't afraid of acting.
Posted by MoonbutterVery true. I don't know his Venus yet. I have to find out his birth time. I can say that when we do finally see each other, he is very affectionate. A lot of hugging, rubbing my back, kissing my forehead, etc. He also talks about goals, fears, and tells me everything positive or negative going on in his life. He's said he has a short list of people he trusts, and I seem to be on that list based on things he's told me. I think some of this suprised me as he is admittedly unemotional. I think the fact that I'm possibly falling for him scares me some. He gives me no reason to doubt him or his words/actions. I just don't want to get hurt again.Posted by thisismylife2015You are welcome, however looking up the signs may not help or give mixed msgs to you since everyone in comprised of a lot more then just their Sun sign...you gotta look at their Venus, Moon, aspects, etc...Basically look for an overall "softness" in their touch, their look at you and behavior. Look up body language for tell signs. 🙂 It is the man's mission to make sure you know his intent and if he can't produce that then he is either not the one for you, not "there yet" or playing games. Either way it is in your benefit to "wait and see" until you take things further.Posted by MoonbutterThanks for the advice! I need to listen to my gut more and stop second guessing. Maybe I'll meditate on it. Now I have to look up signs when Gemini likes you *sigh*
Yes, I agree w/Littlemegabyte...Don't initiate "the talk" Just hang out and when you start to see him fall for you/get feelings that's when you know it's time. It's a look/touch/action...forget what he says. Go with your gut, and if you doubt then it's not time. Geminis take awhile to fall so if it seems rushed then the connection isn't deep enough and engaging sexual behavior will most likely turn into a FWB situation.click to expand
Posted by misslissaDo you think it should be an in person conversation? Due to some circumstances, I won't see him for another 2 weeks 😢
My advice would be to ask him what his intentions are... Doesn't hurt to ask and it puts everything out on the table beforehand... I, as a gem, appreciate that. Let's me know that you know what you want out of life and aren't afraid of acting.
Posted by thisismylife2015Yes, I would do it in person. 2 weeks should be enough time to work it all out before you talk to him, and to work up the courage, if need be.Posted by misslissaDo you think it should be an in person conversation? Due to some circumstances, I won't see him for another 2 weeks 😢
My advice would be to ask him what his intentions are... Doesn't hurt to ask and it puts everything out on the table beforehand... I, as a gem, appreciate that. Let's me know that you know what you want out of life and aren't afraid of acting.click to expand
Posted by misslissaSo right on! This is exactly how I am.
My advice would be to ask him what his intentions are... Doesn't hurt to ask and it puts everything out on the table beforehand... I, as a gem, appreciate that. Let's me know that you know what you want out of life and aren't afraid of acting.
Thanks everyone! I'll find out if we're on the same page next time I see him and then take it from there.
Posted by thisismylife2015Let us know the know the outcome 😄
Thanks everyone! I'll find out if we're on the same page next time I see him and then take it from there.
Posted by thisismylife2015
So here's the story.....Gemini man and I have been getting to know each other for the last 2 1/2 months but it's mostly been over the phone. We communicate every day by either text or phone, phone conversations range from anywhere between 1-6 hrs, and we somehow have ended up having "phone dates" every Saturday night.
When I met him, he told me he wasn't quite ready for anything yet because he needed to get himself together. I found out later that it was because he wasn't working, which resulted in us only seeing each other 2 times since we've met. He recently started working, and has become more agressive on talking and making plans which is great.
But here's my issue....we've talked about having sex, I'm sure it will eventually happen, but I'm scared of getting hurt. I've had someone manipulate me just for sex before, and I think that left me somewhat scarred. He doesn't know this, but I don't want to get sexually involved with him if he's just looking for a sex buddy. I hate having to have the "what are we" talk, but I don't want to get more emotionally involved and end up hurt.
So any advice gemini folks?
If you are giving a man you have just known for 2 months 1-6 hours a day of your time you don't have to worry about getting hurt, you will be. We don't take women who give us that much of their time seriously.
Excerpts from a book..
Whatever type of girl you may be and whatever your reasoning is, having sex with a guy you like is the absolute WRONG thing to do. The trick is DO NOT HAVE SEX. The less a man gets, the more a man wants. Men only want you when they can’t have you. Bottom line. I know it’s so stupid and you’re probably tired of hearing this. You may think, “If two people like each other, then what’s the problem?” Remember...these are men we’re dealing with
I interviewed ten single men, ages 18-43, and asked a very specific question, “Why do guys act like they want a girl to give it up, but then treat her badly when she does?” Their answers were brutally honest. They simply said, “Men don’t love sluts.”
The woman they really want is the one who rejects them. They want to get the girl that’s a challenge and doesn’t ..give it up easily. The girl that makes him wait for it, work for it, and chase after it. The woman he falls in love with is the exact opposite of a slut, because men don’t fall in love.
All he has giving you are phone calls. If he was a real man and unemployed if he liked you, he would not spend 6 hours laying up on the phone instead of being gainfully employed. I can almost promise you, it won't be special. He will get what he wants and the phone calls will stop almost immediately. Take it from a man whose done this to women over and over and over again. He will fuck you and dismiss you.
This man does not like you enough to give him your body. When a man likes you we will borrow money to see you. We will hop on a train, plane, buggy, horse. Here is another excerpt from the book
If a guy likes you, he WILL pursue you. If he doesn’t, then he doesn’t like you. No excuses. You’ll need to learn to accept this fact. Usually I give a girl a lot of phone play when my red-bone is at work, or busy. Nothing would stop me from seeing Red. Nothing! I would rob a gas station if necessary to get the money to see someone who I am "into" He's into you a little, you are making excuses to make yourself feel better because you like him so much. He will tell you what you want to hear, ejaculate and re-focus on his main woman. I'm sorry.
If a guy likes you, he WILL pursue you. If he doesn’t, then he doesn’t like you. No excuses. You’ll need to learn to accept this fact. Usually I give a girl a lot of phone play when my red-bone is at work, or busy. Nothing would stop me from seeing Red. Nothing! I would rob a gas station if necessary to get the money to see someone who I am "into" He's into you a little, you are making excuses to make yourself feel better because you like him so much. He will tell you what you want to hear, ejaculate and re-focus on his main woman. I'm sorry.
Posted by Dyxpnetuser424Ok, I think I get what you're saying. Let me clarify for you though.
This man does not like you enough to give him your body. When a man likes you we will borrow money to see you. We will hop on a train, plane, buggy, horse. Here is another excerpt from the book
If a guy likes you, he WILL pursue you. If he doesn’t, then he doesn’t like you. No excuses. You’ll need to learn to accept this fact. Usually I give a girl a lot of phone play when my red-bone is at work, or busy. Nothing would stop me from seeing Red. Nothing! I would rob a gas station if necessary to get the money to see someone who I am "into" He's into you a little, you are making excuses to make yourself feel better because you like him so much. He will tell you what you want to hear, ejaculate and re-focus on his main woman. I'm sorry.
#1) it's not 1-6 hrs a day. We communicate every day by either phone or text, but it's only once or twice a week where we have lengthy phone conversations.
#2) I understand your point about making a way, but not every single man feels that way. not to put his business out there, but his issue was a money issue. I know plenty of men (platonic friends), who have gone through the same issues and acted the same way he did in regards to dating/relationships while going through money issues. Now because he was in that situation and we could not go out, I was invited over to his house several times. I declined because I know it could've possibly led to sex. I wasn't ready for that with him.
#3) now that things are better, we can't see each other because I'm out of town.
But the other Gemini man that commented on this said nothing like this. So I'm wondering if you're just saying this or if he's not telling me everything.
Posted by thisismylife2015Posted by Dyxpnetuser424Ok, I think I get what you're saying. Let me clarify for you though.
This man does not like you enough to give him your body. When a man likes you we will borrow money to see you. We will hop on a train, plane, buggy, horse. Here is another excerpt from the book
If a guy likes you, he WILL pursue you. If he doesn’t, then he doesn’t like you. No excuses. You’ll need to learn to accept this fact. Usually I give a girl a lot of phone play when my red-bone is at work, or busy. Nothing would stop me from seeing Red. Nothing! I would rob a gas station if necessary to get the money to see someone who I am "into" He's into you a little, you are making excuses to make yourself feel better because you like him so much. He will tell you what you want to hear, ejaculate and re-focus on his main woman. I'm sorry.
#1) it's not 1-6 hrs a day. We communicate every day by either phone or text, but it's only once or twice a week where we have lengthy phone conversations.
#2) I understand your point about making a way, but not every single man feels that way. not to put his business out there, but his issue was a money issue. I know plenty of men (platonic friends), who have gone through the same issues and acted the same way he did in regards to dating/relationships while going through money issues. Now because he was in that situation and we could not go out, I was invited over to his house several times. I declined because I know it could've possibly led to sex. I wasn't ready for that with him.
#3) now that things are better, we can't see each other because I'm out of town.
But the other Gemini man that commented on this said nothing like this. So I'm wondering if you're just saying this or if he's not telling me everything.click to expand
Okay lady. Do it your way. I"m done with it.
You should trust this guy @Dyxpnetuser424. That's like in our faces..a harsh truth!
"If you are giving a man you have just known for 2 months 1-6 hours a day of your time you don't have to worry about getting hurt, you will be. We don't take women who give us that much of their time seriously.
Whatever type of girl you may be and whatever your reasoning is, having sex with a guy you like is the absolute WRONG thing to do. The trick is DO NOT HAVE SEX. The less a man gets, the more a man wants. Men only want you when they can’t have you. Bottom line. I know it’s so stupid and you’re probably tired of hearing this. You may think, “If two people like each other, then what’s the problem?” Remember...these are men we’re dealing with
I interviewed ten single men, ages 18-43, and asked a very specific question, “Why do guys act like they want a girl to give it up, but then treat her badly when she does?” Their answers were brutally honest. They simply said, “Men don’t love sluts.”
The woman they really want is the one who rejects them. They want to get the girl that’s a challenge and doesn’t ..give it up easily. The girl that makes him wait for it, work for it, and chase after it. The woman he falls in love with is the exact opposite of a slut, because men don’t fall in love.
If a guy likes you, he WILL pursue you. If he doesn’t, then he doesn’t like you. No excuses. You’ll need to learn to accept this fact. Usually I give a girl a lot of phone play when my red-bone is at work, or busy. Nothing would stop me from seeing Red. Nothing! I would rob a gas station if necessary to get the money to see someone who I am "into" He's into you a little, you are making excuses to make yourself feel better because you like him so much. He will tell you what you want to hear, ejaculate and re-focus on his main woman. I'm sorry"
Only if I could give this 100+ votes ^^
Whatever type of girl you may be and whatever your reasoning is, having sex with a guy you like is the absolute WRONG thing to do. The trick is DO NOT HAVE SEX. The less a man gets, the more a man wants. Men only want you when they can’t have you. Bottom line. I know it’s so stupid and you’re probably tired of hearing this. You may think, “If two people like each other, then what’s the problem?” Remember...these are men we’re dealing with
I interviewed ten single men, ages 18-43, and asked a very specific question, “Why do guys act like they want a girl to give it up, but then treat her badly when she does?” Their answers were brutally honest. They simply said, “Men don’t love sluts.”
The woman they really want is the one who rejects them. They want to get the girl that’s a challenge and doesn’t ..give it up easily. The girl that makes him wait for it, work for it, and chase after it. The woman he falls in love with is the exact opposite of a slut, because men don’t fall in love.
If a guy likes you, he WILL pursue you. If he doesn’t, then he doesn’t like you. No excuses. You’ll need to learn to accept this fact. Usually I give a girl a lot of phone play when my red-bone is at work, or busy. Nothing would stop me from seeing Red. Nothing! I would rob a gas station if necessary to get the money to see someone who I am "into" He's into you a little, you are making excuses to make yourself feel better because you like him so much. He will tell you what you want to hear, ejaculate and re-focus on his main woman. I'm sorry"
Only if I could give this 100+ votes ^^
From my personal experience, me and all the other geminis that I have met, we may seem flirty but we do know the true meaning of a relationship. And honestly him waiting to fix himself so that he could treat you right.... It doesn't sound like he's trying to dick around.
A frivolous Gemini would have taken the good conversation and still have had sex with you by now... or tried to. Not caring that he was unemployed, he still would have tried to get some if he was uncaring.
A frivolous Gemini would have taken the good conversation and still have had sex with you by now... or tried to. Not caring that he was unemployed, he still would have tried to get some if he was uncaring.
Honestly though, I got to agree with Teena. If you don't want this to be a one time thing.... wait. And if he really really really cares about you. Like long term, possibly lifetime relationship cares about you he'll wait. A Gemini, if any other sign, will wait.
Posted by thisismylife2015
So here's the story.....Gemini man and I have been getting to know each other for the last 2 1/2 months but it's mostly been over the phone. We communicate every day by either text or phone, phone conversations range from anywhere between 1-6 hrs, and we somehow have ended up having "phone dates" every Saturday night.
When I met him, he told me he wasn't quite ready for anything yet because he needed to get himself together. I found out later that it was because he wasn't working, which resulted in us only seeing each other 2 times since we've met. He recently started working, and has become more agressive on talking and making plans which is great.
But here's my issue....we've talked about having sex, I'm sure it will eventually happen, but I'm scared of getting hurt. I've had someone manipulate me just for sex before, and I think that left me somewhat scarred. He doesn't know this, but I don't want to get sexually involved with him if he's just looking for a sex buddy. I hate having to have the "what are we" talk, but I don't want to get more emotionally involved and end up hurt.
So any advice gemini folks?
So what are the aggressive plans? In 2 and half months he hasn't bothered to come down to see you? He could invite to his house for sex, but not for a walk in the park holding your hand looking into your eyes. Do you two glide? Has he sent you at least fake flowers from the internet? A free card? A poem? So since he told you he wasn't ready for anything you are basically agreeing to have casual sex. Just because he wasn't ready to have a serious relationship because he wasn't working doesn't mean that he wants a serious relationship with you now that he is working. So if you don't want a sex buddy you may want to select a man who shows more genuine effort to win your affections.
Posted by TeenaI agree with what he said. I do plan on talking with him the next time I see him in person and see where he is. Next time I see him, we will have been dealing with each other 3 months, and I would like to get to know the going out side of him.
You should trust this guy @Dyxpnetuser424. That's like in our faces..a harsh truth!
Posted by ShrewdsharpI don't have any agressive plans, just talking to him to find out where he is next time I see him in person. I didn't agree to have sex, I said we've talked about it and will probably eventually happen. It's not like an exact date has been set for sex. I still would like the chance to actually date him, hence the talk. Again....no definite plans for sex. I do plan on talking to him more once I get a chance to see him again.Posted by thisismylife2015
So here's the story.....Gemini man and I have been getting to know each other for the last 2 1/2 months but it's mostly been over the phone. We communicate every day by either text or phone, phone conversations range from anywhere between 1-6 hrs, and we somehow have ended up having "phone dates" every Saturday night.
When I met him, he told me he wasn't quite ready for anything yet because he needed to get himself together. I found out later that it was because he wasn't working, which resulted in us only seeing each other 2 times since we've met. He recently started working, and has become more agressive on talking and making plans which is great.
But here's my issue....we've talked about having sex, I'm sure it will eventually happen, but I'm scared of getting hurt. I've had someone manipulate me just for sex before, and I think that left me somewhat scarred. He doesn't know this, but I don't want to get sexually involved with him if he's just looking for a sex buddy. I hate having to have the "what are we" talk, but I don't want to get more emotionally involved and end up hurt.
So any advice gemini folks?
So what are the aggressive plans? In 2 and half months he hasn't bothered to come down to see you? He could invite to his house for sex, but not for a walk in the park holding your hand looking into your eyes. Do you two glide? Has he sent you at least fake flowers from the internet? A free card? A poem? So since he told you he wasn't ready for anything you are basically agreeing to have casual sex. Just because he wasn't ready to have a serious relationship because he wasn't working doesn't mean that he wants a serious relationship with you now that he is working. So if you don't want a sex buddy you may want to select a man who shows more genuine effort to win your affections.click to expand
Posted by thisismylife2015Posted by misslissaDo you think it should be an in person conversation? Due to some circumstances, I won't see him for another 2 weeks 😢
My advice would be to ask him what his intentions are... Doesn't hurt to ask and it puts everything out on the table beforehand... I, as a gem, appreciate that. Let's me know that you know what you want out of life and aren't afraid of acting.click to expand
You said he is aggressively making plans? What are the plans? Girl, I hope I am wrong, but since I was married to a Gemini I hate to tell you that many Gemini men are notorious heartbreakers and players. I don't think he's that into you he's not acting the way Gemini act when they are hooked or deeply interested. He invited you to his house, but he couldn't take a cheap greyhound bus to see you? Has he sent you fake internet flowers, a poem, a card? It took my Gemini 90 days to fall. I am a Libra btw. I really think you could do better. I didn't have to do any research on my Gemini he was always in my face. You deserve so much better. I am sooo much more happier with a Capricorn. With my Gemini brother and son women women women everywhere. I am sorry honey, I am not trying to discourage you, but you can do soo much better. His half hearted pursuit is pathetic. LOL. If you were my daughter, I would not like this man for you at all. But I would have to let my child make her own choices. But baby girl, let me warn you; they mean exactly what they say and the heart break is unforgettable. Go to yahoo answers and listen to the women's horror stories with Gemini men. So many many trails of broken hearts. So tread cautiously okay? 🙂
Posted by ShrewdsharpOh ok. Just making plans for us to go out when I get back from out of town, planning out our weekends, etc. All I've ever read on here is that a Gemini man is into you if they're always flirting, asking questions, have constant communication. Which all that has been going on, so I went with what I read. My only other experience with a Gemini man was completely different. He hardly ever communicated, but he was really into me. But everyone could be 100% right, maybe he's just using me as a phone girlfriend. The thing is I won't know for sure until I ask him. I expect honesty since I've gotten it so far. I'll know my move from there once I find out. But I really do appreciate all the different advice and perspectives! It helps me see things a different way.Posted by thisismylife2015Posted by misslissaDo you think it should be an in person conversation? Due to some circumstances, I won't see him for another 2 weeks 😢
My advice would be to ask him what his intentions are... Doesn't hurt to ask and it puts everything out on the table beforehand... I, as a gem, appreciate that. Let's me know that you know what you want out of life and aren't afraid of acting.
You said he is aggressively making plans? What are the plans? Girl, I hope I am wrong, but since I was married to a Gemini I hate to tell you that many Gemini men are notorious heartbreakers and players. I don't think he's that into you he's not acting the way Gemini act when they are hooked or deeply interested. He invited you to his house, but he couldn't take a cheap greyhound bus to see you? Has he sent you fake internet flowers, a poem, a card? It took my Gemini 90 days to fall. I am a Libra btw. I really think you could do better. I didn't have to do any research on my Gemini he was always in my face. You deserve so much better. I am sooo much more happier with a Capricorn. With my Gemini brother and son women women women everywhere. I am sorry honey, I am not trying to discourage you, but you can do soo much better. His half hearted pursuit is pathetic. LOL. If you were my daughter, I would not like this man for you at all. But I would have to let my child make her own choices. But baby girl, let me warn you; they mean exactly what they say and the heart break is unforgettable. Go to yahoo answers and listen to the women's horror stories with Gemini men. So many many trails of broken hearts. So tread cautiously okay? 🙂click to expand
Posted by thisismylife2015He'll play around n may try avoiding the topic all together.I've dealt with a gemini guy before.I myself have gemini rising n I can see gemini traits in me to a very large extent.I just don't want you to end up hurt n feeling used again.They may not really be into sex.But they're players.They only like the chasing part.N once it's over their need for stimulation ends n then they're bored.You should leave him wanting more.Geminis run away from confrontations.But that's when they're not serious about you.Don't be scared to have the talk if you want to.If he runs away you know where you stand.Just don't be too strong.Posted by TeenaI agree with what he said. I do plan on talking with him the next time I see him in person and see where he is. Next time I see him, we will have been dealing with each other 3 months, and I would like to get to know the going out side of him.
You should trust this guy @Dyxpnetuser424. That's like in our faces..a harsh truth!click to expand
Posted by TeenaThank you! I will use that as a gauge. But what do you mean by don't be too strong? Like have a lighthearted talk?Posted by thisismylife2015He'll play around n may try avoiding the topic all together.I've dealt with a gemini guy before.I myself have gemini rising n I can see gemini traits in me to a very large extent.I just don't want you to end up hurt n feeling used again.They may not really be into sex.But they're players.They only like the chasing part.N once it's over their need for stimulation ends n then they're bored.You should leave him wanting more.Geminis run away from confrontations.But that's when they're not serious about you.Don't be scared to have the talk if you want to.If he runs away you know where you stand.Just don't be too strong.Posted by TeenaI agree with what he said. I do plan on talking with him the next time I see him in person and see where he is. Next time I see him, we will have been dealing with each other 3 months, and I would like to get to know the going out side of him.
You should trust this guy @Dyxpnetuser424. That's like in our faces..a harsh truth!click to expand
Now I low key don't know how to respond to him for the next couple of weeks when he does reach out. Crap. My impatient venus is about to kick in any second now. 2 weeks is a long time....
Posted by thisismylife2015Yes.That's what I meant.Coming off as too strong will scare any guy away.You can have this lighthearted talk n still get your answers.But don't play around.He'll play better n win.Geminis are very clever with words.With Geminis, investing as less emotions as possible will go a long way.Posted by TeenaThank you! I will use that as a gauge. But what do you mean by don't be too strong? Like have a lighthearted talk?Posted by thisismylife2015He'll play around n may try avoiding the topic all together.I've dealt with a gemini guy before.I myself have gemini rising n I can see gemini traits in me to a very large extent.I just don't want you to end up hurt n feeling used again.They may not really be into sex.But they're players.They only like the chasing part.N once it's over their need for stimulation ends n then they're bored.You should leave him wanting more.Geminis run away from confrontations.But that's when they're not serious about you.Don't be scared to have the talk if you want to.If he runs away you know where you stand.Just don't be too strong.Posted by TeenaI agree with what he said. I do plan on talking with him the next time I see him in person and see where he is. Next time I see him, we will have been dealing with each other 3 months, and I would like to get to know the going out side of him.
You should trust this guy @Dyxpnetuser424. That's like in our faces..a harsh truth!
Now I low key don't know how to respond to him for the next couple of weeks when he does reach out. Crap. My impatient venus is about to kick in any second now. 2 weeks is a long time....click to expand
Lol!! Chill.Everything is gonna be ok!You'll be fine 😘 Be as casual as possible.What are your zodiac placements btw??
Posted by TeenaOk. I think I can do this. Just be direct, non-emotional, state how I feel, matter of factly. Got it. Aquarius Sun, Pisces Moon, Aries VenusPosted by thisismylife2015Yes.That's what I meant.Coming off as too strong will scare any guy away.You can have this lighthearted talk n still get your answers.But don't play around.He'll play better n win.Geminis are very clever with words.With Geminis, investing as less emotions as possible will go a long way.Posted by TeenaThank you! I will use that as a gauge. But what do you mean by don't be too strong? Like have a lighthearted talk?Posted by thisismylife2015He'll play around n may try avoiding the topic all together.I've dealt with a gemini guy before.I myself have gemini rising n I can see gemini traits in me to a very large extent.I just don't want you to end up hurt n feeling used again.They may not really be into sex.But they're players.They only like the chasing part.N once it's over their need for stimulation ends n then they're bored.You should leave him wanting more.Geminis run away from confrontations.But that's when they're not serious about you.Don't be scared to have the talk if you want to.If he runs away you know where you stand.Just don't be too strong.Posted by TeenaI agree with what he said. I do plan on talking with him the next time I see him in person and see where he is. Next time I see him, we will have been dealing with each other 3 months, and I would like to get to know the going out side of him.
You should trust this guy @Dyxpnetuser424. That's like in our faces..a harsh truth!
Now I low key don't know how to respond to him for the next couple of weeks when he does reach out. Crap. My impatient venus is about to kick in any second now. 2 weeks is a long time....
Lol!! Chill.Everything is gonna be ok!You'll be fine 😘 Be as casual as possible.What are your zodiac placements btw??click to expand
Posted by littlemegabyteOk. I can do the no sex part. I'm going to just pull it back and continue being friends and see how things flow from here on out. Let him know I like him, I'm just not quite ready yet for anything more (sex I mean specifically).
I agree with Teena and Shrewdsharp, except my experiences has not been with gem men being Heartbreakers unlike so many others. They are not that hard 😛 This could be because I am gem female though and I can do everything they do exponentially better 😛 Dxpnetuser was right as well. When a gem man is very interested, they are IN YOUR FACE with it omg. My gem sun/scorp moon. The sweetest words you will ever hear, mine just had flowers delivered to my apartment, making all kinds of fancy plans. Totally pampering me all the time, even though I told him it's too much, he insists that I "deserve it." These men IMPRESS more than any other sign, I think, and they are so incredibly romantic. Gosh I love gem men
My 2 relationships with gems so far (cancer moon & scorp moon), both initiated the "what are we" talk themselves.
Oh yea and DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM. The 2 gems I have been with told me they were in love with me before sex was ever had, which one was at 5 months and I haven't even slept with my scorp moon yet!
Posted by littlemegabyteLol! Lucky you!! I'm sure it's because of their moons though.. 😛
I agree with Teena and Shrewdsharp, except my experiences has not been with gem men being Heartbreakers unlike so many others. They are not that hard 😛 This could be because I am gem female though and I can do everything they do exponentially better 😛 Dxpnetuser was right as well. When a gem man is very interested, they are IN YOUR FACE with it omg. My gem sun/scorp moon. The sweetest words you will ever hear, mine just had flowers delivered to my apartment, making all kinds of fancy plans. Totally pampering me all the time, even though I told him it's too much, he insists that I "deserve it." These men IMPRESS more than any other sign, I think, and they are so incredibly romantic. Gosh I love gem men
My 2 relationships with gems so far (cancer moon & scorp moon), both initiated the "what are we" talk themselves.
Oh yea and DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM. The 2 gems I have been with told me they were in love with me before sex was ever had, which one was at 5 months and I haven't even slept with my scorp moon yet!
Posted by thisismylife2015Yes! That's what I'd do.N yeah don't forget to keep us posted 😉Posted by TeenaOk. I think I can do this. Just be direct, non-emotional, state how I feel, matter of factly. Got it. Aquarius Sun, Pisces Moon, Aries VenusPosted by thisismylife2015Yes.That's what I meant.Coming off as too strong will scare any guy away.You can have this lighthearted talk n still get your answers.But don't play around.He'll play better n win.Geminis are very clever with words.With Geminis, investing as less emotions as possible will go a long way.Posted by TeenaThank you! I will use that as a gauge. But what do you mean by don't be too strong? Like have a lighthearted talk?Posted by thisismylife2015He'll play around n may try avoiding the topic all together.I've dealt with a gemini guy before.I myself have gemini rising n I can see gemini traits in me to a very large extent.I just don't want you to end up hurt n feeling used again.They may not really be into sex.But they're players.They only like the chasing part.N once it's over their need for stimulation ends n then they're bored.You should leave him wanting more.Geminis run away from confrontations.But that's when they're not serious about you.Don't be scared to have the talk if you want to.If he runs away you know where you stand.Just don't be too strong.Posted by TeenaI agree with what he said. I do plan on talking with him the next time I see him in person and see where he is. Next time I see him, we will have been dealing with each other 3 months, and I would like to get to know the going out side of him.
You should trust this guy @Dyxpnetuser424. That's like in our faces..a harsh truth!
Now I low key don't know how to respond to him for the next couple of weeks when he does reach out. Crap. My impatient venus is about to kick in any second now. 2 weeks is a long time....
Lol!! Chill.Everything is gonna be ok!You'll be fine 😘 Be as casual as possible.What are your zodiac placements btw??click to expand
Aquarius n Gemini is a pretty decent pair.You should be able to do this (y)
I'm a gem married to an aqua. And, yes, they are all right... Every single gem are their negative traits!
Sn: That last line is dripping with sarcasm...
Sn: That last line is dripping with sarcasm...
Ok, so Aries Venus won. I sent him a text this morning -
Good morning! So I was up late, thinking a lot about our recent talks. Not that I don't want things to progress between us. I do really like you, I would just like to spend more time getting to know you better in person first before taking that next step. Let things naturally flow from there. Just being honest.
His response was - I thought we were waiting until 2016. Lol. We joked a little about it, and then just starting texting about regular life stuff and he said he'll call me later.
Good or bad? I know I won't really know until I get back to see how he really responds. Just continue to keep it friendly from here on out?
Good morning! So I was up late, thinking a lot about our recent talks. Not that I don't want things to progress between us. I do really like you, I would just like to spend more time getting to know you better in person first before taking that next step. Let things naturally flow from there. Just being honest.
His response was - I thought we were waiting until 2016. Lol. We joked a little about it, and then just starting texting about regular life stuff and he said he'll call me later.
Good or bad? I know I won't really know until I get back to see how he really responds. Just continue to keep it friendly from here on out?
Sounds like he's in agreement with you. 🙂
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