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I wish I didn't miss my Gemini ex. I hate that I still love him. I hate that I still want him. I hate that he won't go away from my thoughts. It's been almost 3 months. I should be fucking over this shit already. But I'm not & I fucking hate it. I wish I could go back to the day I met him & walk away. *sigh*
He was flaky in the beginning of the relationship, then he did a 180. Totally changed his perspective & was putting in alot more effort into making our relationship work. He's always been unstable though, lol. Didn't care about it much because I'm a little unstable myself. 😛
The entire 2 years we were together we would NEVER fight. Tiny misunderstandings, but never anything significant until...at the end of June we had 2 major blowouts. He got crazy, I got crazy & that's all she wrote. We haven't contacted each other since...well he inadvertantly tries to get my attention though through fb. I'm friends with one of his friends & he tries to say & do things to get my attention. Last month he's been calling me from a restricted # in the wee hours of the morning. I knew it was him because NONE of my friends will ever call me at that hour from a blocked #. Anyway, I never responded & do not plan to.
Other than that, we had a pretty good relationship. Of course there were speed bumps, nothing I couldn't handle until now.
The entire 2 years we were together we would NEVER fight. Tiny misunderstandings, but never anything significant until...at the end of June we had 2 major blowouts. He got crazy, I got crazy & that's all she wrote. We haven't contacted each other since...well he inadvertantly tries to get my attention though through fb. I'm friends with one of his friends & he tries to say & do things to get my attention. Last month he's been calling me from a restricted # in the wee hours of the morning. I knew it was him because NONE of my friends will ever call me at that hour from a blocked #. Anyway, I never responded & do not plan to.
Other than that, we had a pretty good relationship. Of course there were speed bumps, nothing I couldn't handle until now.
Oh no. I'm sooooo not contacting him. I couldn't if I wanted to. The bastard changed his # & how I know is THROUGH fb! Of course I was stalking his wall, hahaha & he was talking to one of his friends & he just happend to mention that he had a knew phone #. He's such a fucker because the convo they were having had NOTHING to do with him telling him oh & btw, I changed my #. That was totally left field. He knows I go on his fb. We're not friends but his wall is open to the public. I know, stupid.
He's younger than me so he doesn't know how to deal with me head on & confront me. He's not REALLY a Gemini either. He is watered down with a Picsces moon & Cancer Venus, so he is sensitive as hell. He is sensitive enough with that gem sun as it is. He's not that expressive with what he's feeling, so he would always act it out. I saw raw emotion from him once when he cried like a baby in front of me, & it broke my heart.
We both have tempers & during the 1st fight I said some very awful things to him. Demeaning & disparaging things. I didn't mean it. It was out of hurt & anger. He also said some things to me as well which resulted in my throwing objects at him. He knocked a few things down in my apt. as well, but I also think he liked it too. I yelled at him to get out. Afterwards I received 11 texts from him...I know, total nutjob. The next day he wanted to see me like nothing ever happened. He has ALOT of issues but I loved him anyway. I just have a gut feeling that he isn't gone. I just believe I'm going to hear from him soon. I just don't know how I'm going to react. I feel like ignoring him, but I would like to talk to him. IDK what I want sometimes. I'm confused too. *sigh*
He's younger than me so he doesn't know how to deal with me head on & confront me. He's not REALLY a Gemini either. He is watered down with a Picsces moon & Cancer Venus, so he is sensitive as hell. He is sensitive enough with that gem sun as it is. He's not that expressive with what he's feeling, so he would always act it out. I saw raw emotion from him once when he cried like a baby in front of me, & it broke my heart.
We both have tempers & during the 1st fight I said some very awful things to him. Demeaning & disparaging things. I didn't mean it. It was out of hurt & anger. He also said some things to me as well which resulted in my throwing objects at him. He knocked a few things down in my apt. as well, but I also think he liked it too. I yelled at him to get out. Afterwards I received 11 texts from him...I know, total nutjob. The next day he wanted to see me like nothing ever happened. He has ALOT of issues but I loved him anyway. I just have a gut feeling that he isn't gone. I just believe I'm going to hear from him soon. I just don't know how I'm going to react. I feel like ignoring him, but I would like to talk to him. IDK what I want sometimes. I'm confused too. *sigh*
Posted by bubblyaquarius
Hmm. yeah definitely different from my Gem. Mine was Air and Fire. He said all the time he didn't have emotions, I think he was right. Yeah yours sounds like a very emotional Gemini, but its also typical of Gemini men to not be confrontational. They are retarted. Mine never confronted me, on anything. If there was anything ever so slighty tesne, he would shut down. He would stop speaking. Jerk
Yeah I say stuff I don't mean either, we all do when we are upset. 😆 You threw stuff at him?! Wow! Wow....
He sounds really emotional. Hmm, opposites attract. He's weaker then you, your the stronger one. Its like he follows your lead.
Well figure out what you want. Your going to need to before he does call so that things can go down calmer. So, you don't want him back, but want to talk. Do you want to be friends again or what?
It feels like talking would just get stuff started back up. I know for me it would.
No I doubt that. Your gem was probably an emotional mess. He just hid it well. People that are very airy, I believe to be more emotional anyway. You said he's air & fire? That's me. Air, fire, earth, then water in that order. Not having much water at all. I wish I had more, therefore I could deal with my emotions better & not bury them. When they do come to surface, it's hell.
Yes!!! I threw things at him!!! See, I was emotional too with that shit. I just blacked out. He called me a bitch & I lost it. He NEVER called me out my name before & it was a total shock really. It pissed me off so bad I grabbed the nearest thing. Luckily it missed him. That's when he got angry. Not so lucky the 2nd time around. I threw other things at him that actually hit him...
Anywho, I DO want him back, but our relationship was becoming unhealthy & I can't deal with that unless he changes, but I don't see it happening now. It was very intense & passionate. Good or bad, we had such a strong connection, from the first time we met. It's like I knew him all my life. I don't believe in that soul mate crap, but I've spoken to a clairvoyant & she told me that he was. That we were together in a past life. WTF? I guess I can see the logic & I have an open mind, but IDK. I guess I need some type of closure...but will it ever be closure? I mean, me still longing for him & everything, even if we did talk again & smooth out the wrinkles, I'd stil
RealTalk,
I know what you mean, i really love and missed my gemini ex as well. Its hard to describe because i usually move on fairly fast. I did a lot of contemplation and i realized this "missing" and inability to let go is due to "regret". Regret i didn't say what i wanted to say. What i really felt. Did things i shouldn't have done. The regret came from a sense of "guilt". Guilt that i deserved what he did. I caused him to do what he did. That i am no worthy and only he can possibly "love" me and i can't believe i let that go. I thought of all the things he has done and it just pissed me off...the truth has set me free. TRUTH: i had every right to feel the way i did. (nor should i let him manipulate it as if i was crazy) he simply was wrong in all levels. Now im over him, of course i do care for him and wish him the best still. I just learned to have more respect and love for myself. One must be more discerning and absolute...hes ABSOLUTELY TUTLEY wrong and messed in the head. THen my mentality turned my guilt around, regret in turn went away, finally the reminiscing is gone, nor the act of missing him. Its HIS LOST not mine, and its Your gem's lost ..not yours.
Just like Decan25 expressed. "peace comes from within" nothing could've been wiser than these few words. Hugs hope you feel better! if i survived then you can as well. After all, we do have a similar story of our gems. more like broken Gems.
I know what you mean, i really love and missed my gemini ex as well. Its hard to describe because i usually move on fairly fast. I did a lot of contemplation and i realized this "missing" and inability to let go is due to "regret". Regret i didn't say what i wanted to say. What i really felt. Did things i shouldn't have done. The regret came from a sense of "guilt". Guilt that i deserved what he did. I caused him to do what he did. That i am no worthy and only he can possibly "love" me and i can't believe i let that go. I thought of all the things he has done and it just pissed me off...the truth has set me free. TRUTH: i had every right to feel the way i did. (nor should i let him manipulate it as if i was crazy) he simply was wrong in all levels. Now im over him, of course i do care for him and wish him the best still. I just learned to have more respect and love for myself. One must be more discerning and absolute...hes ABSOLUTELY TUTLEY wrong and messed in the head. THen my mentality turned my guilt around, regret in turn went away, finally the reminiscing is gone, nor the act of missing him. Its HIS LOST not mine, and its Your gem's lost ..not yours.
Just like Decan25 expressed. "peace comes from within" nothing could've been wiser than these few words. Hugs hope you feel better! if i survived then you can as well. After all, we do have a similar story of our gems. more like broken Gems.
btw i totally saw a PENIS not a sleeping dog. fml
Posted by 25thDecanPosted by RealTalk
I wish I didn't miss my Gemini ex. I hate that I still love him. I hate that I still want him. I hate that he won't go away from my thoughts. It's been almost 3 months. I should be fucking over this shit already. But I'm not & I fucking hate it. I wish I could go back to the day I met him & walk away. *sigh*
Is it legitimate defense mechanism? Or is it legitimate wounded pride? Choose wisely.
-Siddharta Gautamaclick to expand
It's both man. I'm defending myself from being hurt again, & I'm also angry for everything that transpired which makes me proud, & not want to be bothered. I do look at the things that keeps me from reaching out to him,(there goes that pride)not wanting to admit my mistakes because I'm still angry with him, thinking it's all his fault. But then there's another side that remembers all of the good things about him that makes me sad that we're not together anymore. I did that pros & cons list thingy. The pros outweighed the cons, but some of the cons were pretty heavy. I think about that as well.
The thing is, I can't choose!!!! I soooo can't make up my mind regarding things which causes me to linger in situations longer than I'm supposed to. Damn Libra merc...😛
Dammit DXP!!!
As I was saying...I'd still think of him & he'd still be in my heart, even when I move on.
As I was saying...I'd still think of him & he'd still be in my heart, even when I move on.
Posted by candi3bb
RealTalk,
I know what you mean, i really love and missed my gemini ex as well. Its hard to describe because i usually move on fairly fast. I did a lot of contemplation and i realized this "missing" and inability to let go is due to "regret". Regret i didn't say what i wanted to say. What i really felt. Did things i shouldn't have done. The regret came from a sense of "guilt". Guilt that i deserved what he did. I caused him to do what he did. That i am no worthy and only he can possibly "love" me and i can't believe i let that go. I thought of all the things he has done and it just pissed me off...the truth has set me free. TRUTH: i had every right to feel the way i did. (nor should i let him manipulate it as if i was crazy) he simply was wrong in all levels. Now im over him, of course i do care for him and wish him the best still. I just learned to have more respect and love for myself. One must be more discerning and absolute...hes ABSOLUTELY TUTLEY wrong and messed in the head. THen my mentality turned my guilt around, regret in turn went away, finally the reminiscing is gone, nor the act of missing him. Its HIS LOST not mine, and its Your gem's lost ..not yours.
Just like Decan25 expressed. "peace comes from within" nothing could've been wiser than these few words. Hugs hope you feel better! if i survived then you can as well. After all, we do have a similar story of our gems. more like broken Gems.
Candi!!!!! 🙂 *waves*
Yeah, I know. You're right though. I don't like to regret things. I usually chalk it up to being a learning experience but sometimes I regret meeting him. I wouldn't feel this way now. But I believe that every action has a reaction & the things we did to each other was just that. Him reacting to me, me reacting to him & it DOES still piss me off. The mere thought of it. I do have love & respect for myself which is why I know I can't be with him. He's also messed up in the head & that is something I cannot put up with, but I'm still weak in certain areas.
If he were to call me, I know I'd talk to him. Probably even see him, but I know just how far to go. I wouldn't willingly get back with him with the way things are. I'd have to see significant change & improvement, but I know better so I pressing forward. No I'm not at peace but I'm striving to get there & I guess once I do, he'll vanish. Yes they were br
Broken. He's still broken & I can't fix him. he has to do that himself, but at this point in his life he's not. I don't even think he knows how to. He has to find his way, & I can't be there right now.
Posted by candi3bb
btw i totally saw a PENIS not a sleeping dog. fml
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! That's the whole point. 😛
I can relate, RealTalk.
I am not over my Gemini ex and I miss him every day.
Mine was messed up in the head and still is. I don't see this changing any time soon since he prefers to take care of his legitimately crazy ex than being with an healthy relationship with me. Now, he's avoiding all contact with me and it pisses me off to no extent.
He was not flaky at all at first. He was actually very consistant and putting a lot of effort in the first few weeks. Then his ex came back into his life and he changed entirely.
Gemini men and their ability to switch off will always be a mystery to me.
I am not over my Gemini ex and I miss him every day.
Mine was messed up in the head and still is. I don't see this changing any time soon since he prefers to take care of his legitimately crazy ex than being with an healthy relationship with me. Now, he's avoiding all contact with me and it pisses me off to no extent.
He was not flaky at all at first. He was actually very consistant and putting a lot of effort in the first few weeks. Then his ex came back into his life and he changed entirely.
Gemini men and their ability to switch off will always be a mystery to me.
Posted by bubblyaquarius
Well you know, after being with him as long as I did, I realized he was more emotional than me. I just didn't want to get into it. It's draining just to type about it. He was more emotional than me for sure. He said he wasn't all the time, all out of the blue. I never accused him of being emotional, it was just literally something he would tell me randomly. "I don't have emotions" blah blah yatta yatta. But not talking about your emotions and denying them pretty much actually makes you more emotional, because I'm analytical enough to actually think about them, preocess them, and discuss them.
Yeah I do recall you telling me you were air and fire. Opposites attract. I seem to attract types like you. lol Oh, just try and tap into that earth a lil. The lil smigden ya got! Just stop viewing emotions as weakness or however you Airy Firery people view it. I felt like my ex was scared of feelings. Always ignored me whenever things got even the slightest bit intense. -_- I could be crying and he was never there. I could be calm and not flying off the handle, and he ran away. *pulls hair*
😆 Omg you are sooo wrong. Hmm, my ex had a temper..."secretly" thank God that never happened. 😆 Did you bruise him, make him bleed?
Awwwww, you should talk to him and work it out. Omg you guys were a couple in the past life. If its true, wow, you should pick up next time he calls or something. Has he moved on? Has he apologized? What sort of closure dear?
That's the thing!!!! I don't view emotions as weakness...it's a strength, I just don't know how to process them well. I tap into Earth though, fire & earth are close in my chart but fire outweighs the earth. I'm still a Virgo sun & I do analyze the shit out of some things.
Yeah...I did bruise him & make him bleed. He put his hands on me too now...don't go feeling too sorry for him! He didn't hit me but he grabbed & pushed me. You know how guys do & that made me very angry. No, he has NOT apologized this time & he's "acting" like he's moved on, but he's full of shit. I guess the closure that I need is to know what REALLY happened. What the hell else was going on in his head to make him get so angry when we never fought. Why did it happen then? Why did he lose his temper like that? Why didn't he apologize to me? That & then some. I have so many questions for him.
I mean, if he does contact me
It keeps cutting off!!!!
If he does contact me again, I'm sure I'd talk to him but I don't believe we can work things out right now. You believe in that past life stuff?
If he does contact me again, I'm sure I'd talk to him but I don't believe we can work things out right now. You believe in that past life stuff?
Posted by marythevirgo
I can relate, RealTalk.
I am not over my Gemini ex and I miss him every day.
Mine was messed up in the head and still is. I don't see this changing any time soon since he prefers to take care of his legitimately crazy ex than being with an healthy relationship with me. Now, he's avoiding all contact with me and it pisses me off to no extent.
He was not flaky at all at first. He was actually very consistant and putting a lot of effort in the first few weeks. Then his ex came back into his life and he changed entirely.
Gemini men and their ability to switch off will always be a mystery to me.
Not me. They just change their minds frequently. I can relate to that totally so I can't call the kettle black. I'm starting to think they like crazy...lol. Seriously though. I did some "not so nice" things to him, & he'd come right back to me like nothing happened. Nothing like stalking him though 😈 I'd admit a little on fb, but not physically. More "mean" things than anything & he just came back for more. I wasn't a total bitch though...I was really sweet to him, but certain shit I just wasn't going for & wasn't afraid to let it be known.
Posted by bubblyaquarius
I have not researched into anything about reincarnation or the past life. never been curious or cared. I mean, i can't remember my past life now, so when i do die and have another life, if i don't remember again, why does it matter? I'm sleepy. *yawns* i sound like a lil kid.
Goodnight. I appreciate your response. 🙂
I'm starting to think they like crazy...lol. Seriously though. I did some "not so nice" things to him, & he'd come right back to me like nothing happened.
You know what? I think you nailed it. I have been extremely understanding and way too nice until today. He was supposed to call me yesterday and I got so pissed that he didn't, I sent him a message telling him how disappointed and frustrated I was with him for ignoring me; how he didn't respect me.
He replied with some excuses and asked when I want us to meet up.
I should get pissed off that him more often. If he likes crazy, I'll give him crazy. >😢
Good luck with your Gemini, Realtalk. It looks like Virgos and Geminis are having a really hard time making it work. I wonder if it's a doomed pairing...
Wow...
okay i guess we all can conclude tonight that regardless of chart placements (by the general pattern). SOME GEMINI men dont have all their cheerios in one bowl! spanks* spanks*
off with his head!
okay i guess we all can conclude tonight that regardless of chart placements (by the general pattern). SOME GEMINI men dont have all their cheerios in one bowl! spanks* spanks*
off with his head!
Posted by marythevirgoI'm starting to think they like crazy...lol. Seriously though. I did some "not so nice" things to him, & he'd come right back to me like nothing happened.
You know what? I think you nailed it. I have been extremely understanding and way too nice until today. He was supposed to call me yesterday and I got so pissed that he didn't, I sent him a message telling him how disappointed and frustrated I was with him for ignoring me; how he didn't respect me.
He replied with some excuses and asked when I want us to meet up.
I should get pissed off that him more often. If he likes crazy, I'll give him crazy. >😢
Good luck with your Gemini, Realtalk. It looks like Virgos and Geminis are having a really hard time making it work. I wonder if it's a doomed pairing...click to expand
IDK, maybe it's too much mercurial energy, lol. You can't soley depend on the sun signs though. Factor in the whole chart along with how the family life is. Him & I had some interesting synastry. I have gemini in my 6th & 7th house so I believe that's why we also clicked.
Hahahahaha, you'll give him crazy. I don't think it's so much of "being crazy". I just believe they respect boundaries (at some level) & they appreciate someone who is not afraid to call them out on their bullshit. See...this-------> "He was supposed to call me yesterday and I got so pissed that he didn't, I sent him a message telling him how disappointed and frustrated I was with him for ignoring me; how he didn't respect me".
That right there is a game. He knew you'd do that. My gem pulled that same shit one time. I didn't flip on him & get irate. I acted as if I didn't care, BUT I did inform him that I didn't appreciate it, & I would like it if he did what he SAID he was going to do, & for the future to not do it again. Since I told him that, if he couldn't call as promised he'd let me know why he couldn't. 😉
Do a flip Wilson on his ass & confuse him, but don't be afraid to call him out when he's being an ass. You don't always need to do it in anger though, but just be firm about it. Times can call when being irate is neccessary. You just have to determine WHEN.
Posted by candi3bb
Wow...
okay i guess we all can conclude tonight that regardless of chart placements (by the general pattern). SOME GEMINI men dont have all their cheerios in one bowl! spanks* spanks*
off with his head!
I concur!!!! Guillotine style ...😛
That right there is a game. He knew you'd do that. My gem pulled that same shit one time. I didn't flip on him & get irate. I acted as if I didn't care, BUT I did inform him that I didn't appreciate it, & I would like it if he did what he SAID he was going to do, & for the future to not do it again. Since I told him that, if he couldn't call as promised he'd let me know why he couldn't.
The thing is, we're not together anymore. I don't know if telling him how I feel about his disappearing acts would change anything.
It angers me that he can't be man enough to speak up and tell me what he wants. I don't think he would take it too well if I made my case by implying he's missing a certain part of his male anatomy that would make him stop acting like a coward. hehe
Wow...
okay i guess we all can conclude tonight that regardless of chart placements (by the general pattern). SOME GEMINI men dont have all their cheerios in one bowl! spanks* spanks*
off with his head!click to expand
The spanking could be a good start and if nothing improves, let's bring out the guillotine as Realtalk suggested 😉
oh hun, you can't be mad at him for not speaking up what he wants. HE doesn't even know what he wants. Thats the whole thing isn't it? they dont ever really know, so in those moments they only know that they probably* (keep in mind that word) made a mistake and should "probablY" apologize and truly try to make up for it. To only later discover, it could'nt have been a mistake or was it? But at its core they mean well, and most women linger on their sweetness to only be left at the end. i think the only real way to handle a gem is also not knowing what you want. Or if you know what you want to leave him for someone that can satisfy you. A gem isn't a woman's best friend. DIAMONDS ARE! remember that!
the best way to get back a gemini is to ignore them, be cold to them, passively verbalize their lack of intelligence and inadequacies in duality. They hate looking and being stupid or even the thought of someone thinking they are lame socially and dumb would be the guillotine! They may not respond, they may look happy. BUT deep in their cave. their dark room has a dark soul lonely and depressed. By not even expressing why your angry or cold. manipulation. re-invent-re-adapt-change the course-attack!!
sighs. who am i kidding a have a gemini moon so i can relate ahahahah 😛 men want to throw me into a pit of fire. either they love me or hate me. its a tough audience out there!
the best way to get back a gemini is to ignore them, be cold to them, passively verbalize their lack of intelligence and inadequacies in duality. They hate looking and being stupid or even the thought of someone thinking they are lame socially and dumb would be the guillotine! They may not respond, they may look happy. BUT deep in their cave. their dark room has a dark soul lonely and depressed. By not even expressing why your angry or cold. manipulation. re-invent-re-adapt-change the course-attack!!
sighs. who am i kidding a have a gemini moon so i can relate ahahahah 😛 men want to throw me into a pit of fire. either they love me or hate me. its a tough audience out there!
HAHAH WINN! earhtygem
i also like to add. in our day and age, moving around a guillotine and doing a sneak attack seems highly unrealistic. its not exactly built for stealth.
Posted by anearthygeminiPosted by candi3bb
oh hun, you can't be mad at him for not speaking up what he wants. HE doesn't even know what he wants. Thats the whole thing isn't it? they dont ever really know, so in those moments they only know that they probably* (keep in mind that word) made a mistake and should "probablY" apologize and truly try to make up for it. To only later discover, it could'nt have been a mistake or was it? But at its core they mean well, and most women linger on their sweetness to only be left at the end.
So true. He is learning and developing too. We all make mistakes that we need to improve on. He's got his, you have yours and I have mine... You are both at different stages of learning about yourself and developing. He might not be well defined at this point in his life, or he might be very doubtful of what he chose. This is such a Gemini dilemma...
Posted by candi3bb
HAHAH WINN! earhtygem i love how creative and articulate you are in your posts!
Thanks dear! 🙂
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im curious on the refrence you made with Carl Jung's The Problem with puer aeternus. What are your thoughts on it?
Interesting analysis you have there i believe i am the same way but the female version. I've only read bits and pieces of his books. (my gemini in me wont let me finish anything!) Do you think there could be a female version? perhaps, puella aeterna? Because i feel the main difference between the puer and the puella, is in love relationships: the puer both seeks and runs away from the Great Earth Mother seeking perfection in other women (constantly seeking), while the female version gets sucked into the Underworld by the Demon Lover.(or in this case the men with peter pan complex)
I dont understand how does running away from the great mother in Puella Aeternus for a male description and then when a female does it correlate to an attraction to these men? im trying to connect things haha😛
I dont understand how does running away from the great mother in Puella Aeternus for a male description and then when a female does it correlate to an attraction to these men? im trying to connect things haha😛
Wow, I am not a Gemini nor have i dated one but aneartygemini you just hit me in the heart with that statement about mothering a man.
I didn't use to be that way until I had my son which is four now, but i realize that I do that, I naturally put on my mother mode with guys -- guess I have to work on that.
I didn't use to be that way until I had my son which is four now, but i realize that I do that, I naturally put on my mother mode with guys -- guess I have to work on that.
Thanks for summarizing it in such a concise manner.😄 BRAIN EXPLOSION.
I may have to buy those books you listed to really grasps the concepts fully. I don't think i am but then again i dont know enough to really access myself haha. Hmm the general patter has been an attraction to those kind of males. And the reason is for youth is the sense that i am afraid of assuming adult* responsibilities: committed relationships, marriage, settling down, working a unhappy job. I see adulthood as something unnecessary. Perhaps due to that innate need, like you mentioned above,to stay "youthful" i steer clear from good, honest, mature, and mindful men. I also do notice how some women act out more on their venus than their moons.
Good post, enjoyed the forward thinking.
I may have to buy those books you listed to really grasps the concepts fully. I don't think i am but then again i dont know enough to really access myself haha. Hmm the general patter has been an attraction to those kind of males. And the reason is for youth is the sense that i am afraid of assuming adult* responsibilities: committed relationships, marriage, settling down, working a unhappy job. I see adulthood as something unnecessary. Perhaps due to that innate need, like you mentioned above,to stay "youthful" i steer clear from good, honest, mature, and mindful men. I also do notice how some women act out more on their venus than their moons.
Good post, enjoyed the forward thinking.
Thanks for summarizing it in such a concise manner.😄 BRAIN EXPLOSION.
I may have to buy those books you listed to really grasps the concepts fully. I don't think i am but then again i dont know enough to really access myself haha. Hmm the general patter has been an attraction to those kind of males. And the reason is for youth is the sense that i am afraid of assuming adult* responsibilities: committed relationships, marriage, settling down, working a unhappy job. I see adulthood as something unnecessary. Perhaps due to that innate need, like you mentioned above,to stay "youthful" i steer clear from good, honest, mature, and mindful men. I also do notice how some women act out more on their venus than their moons.
Good post, enjoyed the forward thinking.
I may have to buy those books you listed to really grasps the concepts fully. I don't think i am but then again i dont know enough to really access myself haha. Hmm the general patter has been an attraction to those kind of males. And the reason is for youth is the sense that i am afraid of assuming adult* responsibilities: committed relationships, marriage, settling down, working a unhappy job. I see adulthood as something unnecessary. Perhaps due to that innate need, like you mentioned above,to stay "youthful" i steer clear from good, honest, mature, and mindful men. I also do notice how some women act out more on their venus than their moons.
Good post, enjoyed the forward thinking.
Thanks for summarizing it in such a concise manner.😄 BRAIN EXPLOSION.
I may have to buy those books you listed to really grasps the concepts fully. I don't think i am but then again i dont know enough to really access myself haha. Hmm the general patter has been an attraction to those kind of males. And the reason is for youth is the sense that i am afraid of assuming adult* responsibilities: committed relationships, marriage, settling down, working a unhappy job. I see adulthood as something unnecessary. Perhaps due to that innate need, like you mentioned above,to stay "youthful" i steer clear from good, honest, mature, and mindful men. I also do notice how some women act out more on their venus than their moons.
Good post, enjoyed the forward thinking.
I may have to buy those books you listed to really grasps the concepts fully. I don't think i am but then again i dont know enough to really access myself haha. Hmm the general patter has been an attraction to those kind of males. And the reason is for youth is the sense that i am afraid of assuming adult* responsibilities: committed relationships, marriage, settling down, working a unhappy job. I see adulthood as something unnecessary. Perhaps due to that innate need, like you mentioned above,to stay "youthful" i steer clear from good, honest, mature, and mindful men. I also do notice how some women act out more on their venus than their moons.
Good post, enjoyed the forward thinking.
@Candi, so nice ya had to post it thrice!!!!😛
@Mary, maybe you SHOULD just tell him he doesn't have the balls, hell I would & wouldn't care about how he felt about it either. Oh well...
@Earthy, hey there!!! Mothering? Oh hell no. I have no children of my own & I have no interest in being a grown man's guardian. If I ever even considered the fact of mothering a man, I'd play a role as Faye Dunaway in "Mommie Dearest". NO....WIRE....HANGERS!!!! Straight like that. But absolutely not. Who wants to make love to their mom? Ickkkkkkkkkk!!!!
If I ever touched the surface of "mothering" it would have been feeding him. He loved it when I cooked(his Cancer Venus), he'd tell me how cozy he was. 🙂 But that's about it. That's just me. I like to keep my man well fed in every way. 😉
@Mary, maybe you SHOULD just tell him he doesn't have the balls, hell I would & wouldn't care about how he felt about it either. Oh well...
@Earthy, hey there!!! Mothering? Oh hell no. I have no children of my own & I have no interest in being a grown man's guardian. If I ever even considered the fact of mothering a man, I'd play a role as Faye Dunaway in "Mommie Dearest". NO....WIRE....HANGERS!!!! Straight like that. But absolutely not. Who wants to make love to their mom? Ickkkkkkkkkk!!!!
If I ever touched the surface of "mothering" it would have been feeding him. He loved it when I cooked(his Cancer Venus), he'd tell me how cozy he was. 🙂 But that's about it. That's just me. I like to keep my man well fed in every way. 😉
Posted by anearthygemini
Ok, I read through this thread and think you guys need a community hug!
No guillotines please!
Ahh come on!!!! Not even 1? Not even for the other head? 😛
Har, har, "let them eat cake" 😈 😛.
o_O! fakkity fak, dxpnet fail.
Posted by anearthygemini
The situation is a true pickle. In the end, it doesn't matter what he did. What is important is what YOU choose to do NOW. Put your guillotines away. Instead, look in the mirror. And tell me what you see.
This looks like a guillotine btw...haha.
The guillotine was a joke. Really? I don't plan on doing any Lorena Bobbitts in the near future.
No, I know exactly what you meant. Yeah I'd help him. By encouraging him. Lifting his spirits. Not holding his hand doing everything for him. I need a man, not a boy. That's part of the reason I'm not with him now. And yes...of course I miss making love to him. I'm not ashamed to admit that. I miss it ALL the time, it was great, why not?
I know your pic was a mirror. Again I was making a joke. The pink shading of the mirror looks like the chopper on a guillotine. Yeah I may be sexually frustrated, but that's because I have no interest in having a fuck buddy for the time being. I can wait, I'm not thirsty. I'd rather have sex with myself for now anyway. 😉
No, I know exactly what you meant. Yeah I'd help him. By encouraging him. Lifting his spirits. Not holding his hand doing everything for him. I need a man, not a boy. That's part of the reason I'm not with him now. And yes...of course I miss making love to him. I'm not ashamed to admit that. I miss it ALL the time, it was great, why not?
I know your pic was a mirror. Again I was making a joke. The pink shading of the mirror looks like the chopper on a guillotine. Yeah I may be sexually frustrated, but that's because I have no interest in having a fuck buddy for the time being. I can wait, I'm not thirsty. I'd rather have sex with myself for now anyway. 😉
I didn't take it personal. I know you meant no harm. 🙂 Just voicing the fact that I understood what you were saying by mothering & explaining my perspective. Hahahahaha, I thought you didn't get the guillotine joke. I would never take my frustrations out that way...sheeeeesh!!
Posted by RealTalk
I wish I didn't miss my Gemini ex. I hate that I still love him. I hate that I still want him. I hate that he won't go away from my thoughts. It's been almost 3 months. I should be fucking over this shit already. But I'm not & I fucking hate it. I wish I could go back to the day I met him & walk away. *sigh*
I feel exactly the same. and its been exactly 3 months and 1 week...
I know what you mean.
just keep busy. keep finding things to do. even if in the back of your mind it's all still there.
many, many hugs to you.
you and I will get out of this.
one day.
but things are just not the same. I changed tremendously. I something hardened. Something broke. Something is just ravaged so much that I don't even know where or how to begin at times.
It will be ok though.
Met a Leo just recently, who is just a friend, but it's calm and just so nothing that I can actually turn my mind for a min, and Leo is ok with it. He understands.
You will find someone too. Even if right now probably it's the last thing on your mind.
I was and still am actually repulsed by the thought of someone else. If that makes any sense.
I guess the point of this ramble is that... you are not alone and you will get better. As much as I hope I will get better.
Posted by roamingfreePosted by RealTalk
I wish I didn't miss my Gemini ex. I hate that I still love him. I hate that I still want him. I hate that he won't go away from my thoughts. It's been almost 3 months. I should be fucking over this shit already. But I'm not & I fucking hate it. I wish I could go back to the day I met him & walk away. *sigh*
I feel exactly the same. and its been exactly 3 months and 1 week...
I know what you mean.
just keep busy. keep finding things to do. even if in the back of your mind it's all still there.
many, many hugs to you.
you and I will get out of this.
one day.
but things are just not the same. I changed tremendously. I something hardened. Something broke. Something is just ravaged so much that I don't even know where or how to begin at times.
It will be ok though.
Met a Leo just recently, who is just a friend, but it's calm and just so nothing that I can actually turn my mind for a min, and Leo is ok with it. He understands.
You will find someone too. Even if right now probably it's the last thing on your mind.
I was and still am actually repulsed by the thought of someone else. If that makes any sense.
I guess the point of this ramble is that... you are not alone and you will get better. As much as I hope I will get better.click to expand
Thanks roamingfree. I appreciate that. I do stay busy, go out with friends, flirt, I even went to a strippers party last week & had a ball! 😛
BUT...it gets harder at night. I can't seem to keep my mind off of him. I always seem to hear his name on TV & I turn the freaking channel. It's so weird though. If I turn to something or I happen to be watching something, there his freakin' name goes. I'm like, what the hell is this? Universe, what are you trying to tell me?
Well I do want to meet someone new but I'm just so damn picky. I know me. I need to be attracted to someone right away & if I'm not upon meeting someone, it's only going to be about sex & I'm not going there. I have faith that this will pass. I just hope it's not like this one Scorpio guy that I loved for 10 years. TEN YEARS!!!!!!! I dated him in 2001 & I loved him every since...well until I met the gem. I was able to move on & be in love with others, but the scorp always lied dormant in my heart. We had
Here we go again DXP!!!! >.< Aaaarrrrrgggghhhhh!!!
We had a very intense relationship like me & the gem. Sometimes I get deja vu. I hope I don't "love him long time". *sigh*. I remember you discussing your relationship with the sag. I can't even imagine how rough that was & still is. I hope that you find peace with it because it's hell to go through that pain. It really sucks. But, nothing you can't handle I'm sure. 🙂
I remember you saying something about you guys were twin souls. Do you really believe in that stuff? Is that like past life relationships? Soul mates? I get lost with that stuff. I researched it a bit but to no avail. Everyone has different perspectives on the topic so I'm still confused. What's your view?
We had a very intense relationship like me & the gem. Sometimes I get deja vu. I hope I don't "love him long time". *sigh*. I remember you discussing your relationship with the sag. I can't even imagine how rough that was & still is. I hope that you find peace with it because it's hell to go through that pain. It really sucks. But, nothing you can't handle I'm sure. 🙂
I remember you saying something about you guys were twin souls. Do you really believe in that stuff? Is that like past life relationships? Soul mates? I get lost with that stuff. I researched it a bit but to no avail. Everyone has different perspectives on the topic so I'm still confused. What's your view?
Posted by anearthygeminiPosted by RealTalk
I didn't take it personal. I know you meant no harm. 🙂 Just voicing the fact that I understood what you were saying by mothering & explaining my perspective. Hahahahaha, I thought you didn't get the guillotine joke. I would never take my frustrations out that way...sheeeeesh!!
I got it! I knew you never would... sheeeeeesh! 🙂
Just trying to cheer you up with a playful ribbing. Sorry if I hurt you... 😢
Been in your shoes a few times... sighsclick to expand
Awwwww Earthy! Thank you I appreciate that. No harm done. I'm sorry if I came off abrasive, I certainly didn't mean it that way. 😢 That's just how I express myself. I can be brutally honest, didn't want to sound like a kiljoy. You didn't have to hide your posts.
You have been a big help to me in understanding my situation better. I appreciate all of the advice & kind words of wisdom you've given me. *e-hugs* 🙂
Posted by bubblyaquarius
Wow. 10 years. What happened? Why weren't you guys married? Were you? Do you have kids with him?
We weren't together for 10 years. I loved him for 10 years. We were young & he moved away but he never left my heart in all of that time. I've cared for others but nothing compared to the passionate connection we shared...until the gem. It's like the same relationship almost. It's uncanny.
Posted by bubblyaquariusPosted by anearthygeminiPosted by bubblyaquarius
I don't even do that well with kids. You know how some women are just gifted with kids, I feel awkward and frigid around them. Haha, I'm so weird. I don't know if that's the Aquarius in me or what. =pclick to expand
Hahahaha. No it's not the Aqua in you. Same here. I do want children but I'm not gaga over them. I feel awkward around them too. When I see a baby I don't get all mushy & crap. While I think they are adorable, I don't hold them. Especially when they're really tiny. No way! IDK, I'm weird that way as well, lol.
Posted by bubblyaquariusPosted by RealTalkPosted by bubblyaquarius
Wow. 10 years. What happened? Why weren't you guys married? Were you? Do you have kids with him?
We weren't together for 10 years. I loved him for 10 years. We were young & he moved away but he never left my heart in all of that time. I've cared for others but nothing compared to the passionate connection we shared...until the gem. It's like the same relationship almost. It's uncanny.
Been there. 😭 I don't know if I think its a good thing or a bad thing you found someone after him who is so much like him, but I find myself wanting to be with someone who is similar to my ex...even though I know it sounds weird. I keep trying to find a replacement, well not find, as I don't do the hunting, but nobody seems to compare. Ever. -_- I got time though.click to expand
Tell me about it...I've never felt so much intensity with anyone else until the gem. After the scorp & before the gem I was with sag for 5 years. Our relationship wasn't as intense, but I loved him (I think). I believe the relationship was more sexually charged & financially driven. I say I think because I analyze it now & think to myself was I really ever in love with him? Or was that just lust, because I feel absolutely nothing for him now. Nothing. Not even a little. When I was with him, I'd think about the scorp from time to time, but eventually it would fade into the dust.
*UNTIL THE FREAKING GEM!!!!✨
I don't feel anything for the scorp anymore either. I loved him for that long, only for it to diminish into air. When I was with him though we never professed our love for each other, but I always knew. He showed it tremendously & he finally told me this year. He actually just called me last week, but I didn't respond. *sigh*
Maybe that saying is true...you only get 2 great loves in life. Dafuq? I saw that on sex in the city once, hahahaha. I hope that is wrong. *shrugs*
Posted by RealTalkPosted by bubblyaquariusPosted by RealTalkPosted by bubblyaquarius
Wow. 10 years. What happened? Why weren't you guys married? Were you? Do you have kids with him?
We weren't together for 10 years. I loved him for 10 years. We were young & he moved away but he never left my heart in all of that time. I've cared for others but nothing compared to the passionate connection we shared...until the gem. It's like the same relationship almost. It's uncanny.
Been there. 😭 I don't know if I think its a good thing or a bad thing you found someone after him who is so much like him, but I find myself wanting to be with someone who is similar to my ex...even though I know it sounds weird. I keep trying to find a replacement, well not find, as I don't do the hunting, but nobody seems to compare. Ever. -_- I got time though.
to diminish into air.click to expand
I just realized what I wrote, lol. It diminished into air alright. Literally, & it landed right on the gem. Hahaha.
Could be worse, right? MUCH worse..
I mean, you could have a kookoo Venus in Scorpio, yeah?😛
I mean, you could have a kookoo Venus in Scorpio, yeah?😛
Posted by Theultra79
Wow. This so reminds me of a my gem x and me. They have a way of really getting under your skin.
Mine was so fun loving and communicative, when it ended there was a huge void left. But, we fought like cats and dogs. I would say the meanest things to him and yell at the top of my lungs. We had some epic showdowns and didn't give a damn who was watching. Lol. Constantly breaking up to make up.
Me and my sister called him drama king. Lol... I really do think he got off on the constant bickering. I finally left when like you, I let myself get so carried away I got violent with him. Never saw him again after that. He begged me to come back! He even was thinking we should get married. I said yea right! We'd kill each other! But 7 yrs later I still think of him from time to time and remember the good times. He was really hard to stay mad at! Lol
I guess if you really think it's toxic, you should stay away. Its tough but hang in there! And be prepared when he contacts you again. He definitely will.
Tell me about it. IDK what the hell his stupid problem was but he can kiss my ass. At least that's how I'm feeling today. 😛. If/whenever he does contact, I have no idea what will happen, what mood I'll be in or what. Good day I'll talk to him, bad day I'll ignore him, terrible day I'll tell him to fuck off.
I honestly doubt he'll contact me because he did some bullshit to me on fb & I got right back at him. Worse, than him though. I know it was childish but he really pissed me off. I did something awful in retaliation. That was back in July after we'd broken up so. Whatevs...He met his match effing with me. I don't play those games. 🙂
Posted by anearthygeminiPosted by RealTalkPosted by anearthygeminiPosted by RealTalk
I didn't take it personal. I know you meant no harm. 🙂 Just voicing the fact that I understood what you were saying by mothering & explaining my perspective. Hahahahaha, I thought you didn't get the guillotine joke. I would never take my frustrations out that way...sheeeeesh!!
I got it! I knew you never would... sheeeeeesh! 🙂
Just trying to cheer you up with a playful ribbing. Sorry if I hurt you... 😢
Been in your shoes a few times... sighs
Awwwww Earthy! Thank you I appreciate that. No harm done. I'm sorry if I came off abrasive, I certainly didn't mean it that way. 😢 That's just how I express myself. I can be brutally honest, didn't want to sound like a kiljoy. You didn't have to hide your posts.
You have been a big help to me in understanding my situation better. I appreciate all of the advice & kind words of wisdom you've given me. *e-hugs* 🙂
Hey sweetie,
I was just concerned about hurting your feelings??_ 😢
All??s good. No harm done in any way to me. 🙂
Hope you having a nice holiday weekend! Hugs! 🙂click to expand
Hope you did too Earthy!!! 🙂
Posted by SkiesAfire
Could be worse, right? MUCH worse..
I mean, you could have a kookoo Venus in Scorpio, yeah?😛
Instead I got a cuckcoo Venus in Libra. 😄
Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
How's that working for ya?^^^Does it effect you women differently then men with this placement?
Eh...it's closed for repairs! 😛 do you have the same placement?
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