Lonely much?

Hey fellow twins - What do you do when you are feeling lonely?

Hey GemsRa,

If I'm feeling lonely you'll definitely see me texting, bbming, skyping, facebooking, all the while on the phone with a friend. If I'm feeling reaaaallllyyyy lonely, I will be out partying. If all else fails, I'd find a arts/crafts project I'd keep myself busy with.

What about you?

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Harass Libras? 😄

Absofuckinglutely. Besides, you started it. ;~) Kiss, kiss KOL.

Medulla - I don't know that I've ever really been like this before, but the more I look around I notice people kinda suck in general. I have a couple friends that are worth more than gold to me, but other than that I don't really feel like reaching out to anyone. I think I am becoming more calloused.

I don't want to drink it away because I tend to dance on tables and do things like speak in British accents just because it's fun. I love to paint, but I'm just not feeling like it lately. I'm kinda sulky and ridic, but also super overwhelmed with life and work stuff so I am actually really insanely busy (as always). It's just that when I slow down I realize I'm kinda unhappily lonely and I am not reaching out or starting anything with anyone because I don't want to jack anyone else up, lol.

Just me, being honest. I'm sure it's only a matter of time til the rat shows up and tells me I'm feeling this way because I am a Gem and I deserve it and she still hopes my whole life is fucked, but I've never let that stop me before.

So fellow Gems - from a real and honest place.... Do you ever feel lonely and when you do, what do you do about it? Stuff it away? Use another person to fill the void? Find a psychic right away to tell you how to make it better? Call the therapist you have on speed dial? Eat a gallon of ice cream?

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Harass Libras? 😄

Absofuckinglutely. Besides, you started it. ;~) Kiss, kiss KOL.

Can you do that from a kneeling position?

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Isn't one always supposed to kneel before their king? I have manners and stuff and things.

Mmmm when im feeling lonely.. i'll either get REALLLLLYYYYY high to the point where I just cant function and watch a movie lol OR I go through my phonebook and see who wants to do something or even just send someone a text as long as I receive a reply it makes me feel less lonely or i'll get on facebook chat see who is online to talk to and kill some time or, i'll go and visit my brother or visit my dad...

I never drink when I am lonely because it makes me more depressed and lonely and i'll prob end up crying so I dont drink.. getting high is different story though.. even though its still a depresant.. it makes me forget my worries for the time im off my face 😄

If theres nothing else to do and there isnt any green.. I just suck it up and TRY to keep my head up. If the lonliness is really killing me then i'll try and force myself to cry.. feel better and suck it up.

Most times I just suck it up.. minus the crying.

I go through BIG depression episodes where I'll be COMPLETELY DOWN IN THE DUMPS/SUICIDAL for a few days to about a week and its just the WORST time EVER and I hibernate, dont talk to anyone etc because im just not good to be around at that time and I dont want to see/speak to ANYONE and then I swing back into my normal self and act like nothing happened. I dont know why it happens it just does.. I think I get overwhelmed by everything all at once and I get depressed?.. it happens every few months lol.

Why are YOU feeling lonely?.. oh yea just read it. Well.. i've been single for 2 years since my pisces ex and honestly im happy im single when I see people in relationships im a bit "ew" because they are restrained in some senses and I have all the freedom in the world... i LOVE being single and its going to take a really special/interesting person to change that. Lets just say im scared of comitment but i do get lonely sometimes I will admit it but thats why I keep a list of people (guys) for entertainment and I dont mean sexual.

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Harass Libras? 😄

Absofuckinglutely. Besides, you started it. ;~) Kiss, kiss KOL.

Can you do that from a kneeling position?

Isn't one always supposed to kneel before their king? I have manners and stuff and things.

Hmm.. I suppose not when you are the queen. It gets political and EEO'ish

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Truth. I'll have our loving subjects lift your throne slghtly higher so that you are still above me when I kiss you.

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Why would you cry? Whats with all the emo Geminis??

lol because after crying you always feel SO much better (even though during the crying I feel so stupid)! Its just a release of all the emotions I DONT release normally.

Hmmn, interesting nats. I have similar depression espiodes. I also am kinda dealing with it on all fronts.... girlfriends, family and those with outies not innies.

I wonder is the bous of depression a Gem thing? We use so much energy in our lives maybe we need that downtime to recharge? Suck.

Correction - I wonder if the bouts of depression are a Gem thing?

**time for an edit button**

Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
Hmmn, interesting nats. I have similar depression espiodes. I also am kinda dealing with it on all fronts.... girlfriends, family and those with outies not innies.

I wonder is the bous of depression a Gem thing? We use so much energy in our lives maybe we need that downtime to recharge? Suck.

Could be.. you might be onto something!. But I notice when i get depressed I act and feel like its the END OF THE WORLD and there is just no hope left lol im telling you its terrible but then when I get over it its like nothing happened and im totally normaly and happy again.

Yea when I get depressed its everything togeher like you. Work, friends, men, family, myself, my home life etc etc everything just hits me at once and BOOM! DEPRESSED.

In a few days you will be back to normal! Just wait it out, sulk and feel sorry for yourself for these few days. ALL WILL BE FINE! 😄

*normal

Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
Medulla - I don't know that I've ever really been like this before, but the more I look around I notice people kinda suck in general. I have a couple friends that are worth more than gold to me, but other than that I don't really feel like reaching out to anyone. I think I am becoming more calloused.

I don't want to drink it away because I tend to dance on tables and do things like speak in British accents just because it's fun. I love to paint, but I'm just not feeling like it lately. I'm kinda sulky and ridic, but also super overwhelmed with life and work stuff so I am actually really insanely busy (as always). It's just that when I slow down I realize I'm kinda unhappily lonely and I am not reaching out or starting anything with anyone because I don't want to jack anyone else up, lol.

Just me, being honest. I'm sure it's only a matter of time til the rat shows up and tells me I'm feeling this way because I am a Gem and I deserve it and she still hopes my whole life is fucked, but I've never let that stop me before.

So fellow Gems - from a real and honest place.... Do you ever feel lonely and when you do, what do you do about it? Stuff it away? Use another person to fill the void? Find a psychic right away to tell you how to make it better? Call the therapist you have on speed dial? Eat a gallon of ice cream?

Oh wow, Gemsra... hmmm. The only times I've ever felt like that is when I've buried myself into SUCH a consuming schedule (like you) that I've neglected all social interaction with everyone. Then when I've got time and mood for some mingling, I realize, WOW... I haven't spoken to anyone for a whole month. WHAT are my friends doing right now? I don't know! When I am no longer busy is when I realize I've fallen completely behind on current events with my friends, then I feel lonely because I feel left out. What do you think? Can you relate?

If so, I've learned to balance this. Even when I'm really busy and I absolutely can care less about fraternizing, I will still save some time to catch up with them, no excuses. Whether it be a phone call, lunch/dinner, game night... whichever. Instead of pushing back missed calls, I will at least text back or something. If I see something funny, I'll take a picture and forward it to them to let them know they're on my mind because god knows, I love my friends. This has made my life a lot l

less stressful as a result because I don't feel like I have to play "catch up" when I'm no longer in my hermit mode (I can become very focused and lose track of time, among that, I can be a very very big homebody).

It's okay to be so busy that you don't have time or is too tired to socialize; but, your friends need to understand too that is. If they weren't told or assured of what's going on in your life how can they sympathize when you reappear or relate? It just makes things more difficult and awkward for both parties. I guess I just try to be fair. Your job is important, but you also have a job to do as a friend and that is to be a friend. Social well-being is just as important as daily responsibilities. If you don't have that kind of outlet, I think it would make anyone feel miserable. Think about this, WHAT are you living for after all that work when you're home? More importantly, WHO are you living for? Knowing that you are needed and missed definitely makes you feel less lonely and happier as a person; otherwise, life is pretty pointless if all you have is yourself.

And another thing, you would only be using someone to fill that void if you've only contacted them to benefit your loneliness but ignore them when you're too busy for them. But when you meet in the middle ground, what you have is a friendship who are there for each other in moments of need.

I hope this helps. 😢 I definitely do not wish this upon anyone because many many mental disorders have stemmed from loneliness, including my brother and one of my really good friends. If someone doesn't have your best interest at hand, I say you just ignore the sucker. Only lonely people go bash other people anyways (this is when you've reached the point of no return). XP

Wow and you even have the red hair to boot. I'd give a body part to be a Libra!! I so wish I was naturally the match..

I am going to do something I hope you aren't offended by. My GF of 4 years is a red-headed Gemini and you are almost a carbon copy! It's really scary, so I am going to play BF here. If you are lonely and the walls are closing in, you are going to be your own worst enemy if you choose to handle it your way or by yourself. You have alone time (which is a MAJOR necessity) and now is not that time. I've noticed with her that her alone time is more stress induced or a person caused her to recoil into solitude... in her major depressive bouts where she schedules extra days at the therapist, her and I talk a lot and I "talk her down" She's highly emotional from time to time and it really gets the best of her. I wish I could help you in here but it would require a lot of back and forth and for us to be in love... 😢

I so wish you had that man.... I think that KOL needs to step up and back up the playful flirting and be "King for a Day"
Clearly he qualifies and is up for the challenge. And what's really cool is that the main pillar of our lust affair turned 4 year pre-engagement love fest... is friendship... If I can offer anything at all it's that you should call up the closest FRIEND man to you... that's someone you can invest heart and time in and will get major dividends in return.

If you want to have fun (your way, flirting and being your free self) you can make a good distraction out of an experiment I have in mind. Try fabricating your perfect man... here's how.
Find a man you are slightly attracted to that you know or have some regular access to. (co-worker,etc although I frown on work romance, you may add unwanted drama)

If you're about to quit your job then no worries there.. anyhow..

Make it a point to get "friendly" in your perfect way you Gems do.. but don't lay it on too thick. Just enough to get a commitment for some social engagement. Then totally friend the crap out of him. Let him know that the possibility of seeing what you are wearing underneath is only that.. a possibility but it's there..
drag this on for a long time... then... come to him with a crisis. (maybe even this thread's crisis) and see how he handles it. If he truly helps you in a selfless manner, knowing that there is nothing in return for it, do this again later down the road.. then share your feelings on romance and maybe share a breaku

Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
Hey fellow twins - What do you do when you are feeling lonely?

I channel people like you.

a breakup or heartbreak tale (AGREED EDIT IS MUCH NEEDED!!!) and spark his romantic interests. Maybe one more time, bend him for a time of need... if he doesn't flinch, then initiate a romantic date, etc..
I know it sounds like you're doing most of the work but you want to KNOW this person is going to be there for you and this person is worth your dedication. This is almost exactly how her and I hooked up and she realized that I truly wanted her to be happy and w/o stress, etc. Once we crossed that line, KA-----BOOM... and it's been full throttle since.
I am totally her go-to when the big stuff hits.. You guys can handle the most sensative parts of being human better than most of the other 11.. Love, romance, social engagements, people in general.. it's like play-doh to you... but tornados and earthquakes, leave to your solid go-to....

This is probably such a hard and trying time for you because I got the impression you lost/don't have a go-to...
I wish you well and know that anything is temporary nothing is permanent and no matter how large or how painful the troubles are that brought you to post this thread... someone is there and wants to put a smile on your face for more than just a moment.. the only work you have to do is find them... 😄 they will do the rest...


caio.

Unfortunately when I get lonely like that I tend to turn to someone else to excite me. Nothing physical though. But I am in the process of breaking that habit, been 2 weeks now and while I miss being able to turn to that person I am determined to not do it again. Zero contact in 2 weeks, cold turkey.

So I planned a girls trip for this weekend with my 2 best friends in the world. We are meeting in another city and will just go have fun. Gotta keep myself occupied.

And KoL was right for me at least. The guy I turned to was a Libra : )

KevinFlynn - Are you sure we haven't met? Are you sure I'm not your girlfriend? Sheesh.... it's like you're inside my head fidling through my brain.

Great thread guys.

Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
Hey fellow twins - What do you do when you are feeling lonely?

read, sleep, read, read...watch tv, do my nails, read, and I definitely call friends to come over or go out to see them. But..there are days when I really like being alone. I actually enjoy it.

Posted by Norcalman67
Depression verses Bored.

Bored: I'll go out and do 'something'.

Depression:
I won't tell you.
You'll never know.
I'll deny it.
I'll get myself out of it.

Was depressed for close to two years. Everything sucked. My closest friends and parents,...had no clue I was depressed. Went to work everyday, everyone saw me as normal. Went to diner with friends/parent, you got the same GEM (the one they know). But alone at home, I was a different person.

So, is depression a GEM thing. Doubt it, but we are better at hiding it from others. You don't get to see that side of us unless we 'trust' you implicitly. Did not have anyone I trusted on that level during this time in my life. (Thank God I do now!)

I've talked about this phenomenon with a couple other Gems, and they had the same experience as me. One was less so depressed another was close to suicidal.

Of course, reaching out on the net, where you do not really expose yourself...never tried that before. Maybe I should have.

errr....are you pulling this out of my head now— kiddin. but I was in the same boat.
Some of my closest friends recognize my pattern - if I'm AWOL - means I'm hiding things or going through things. They seem to come knocking on my door. Good friends.

And I agree - I would never tell or show it outside. The harder it is - the bigger my grin gets. I went through a separation while helping others deal with their troubles, just pushing mine away and riding the wave out. Sometimes you just have to ride it out...

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Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
Hmmn, interesting nats. I have similar depression espiodes. I also am kinda dealing with it on all fronts.... girlfriends, family and those with outies not innies.

I wonder is the bous of depression a Gem thing? We use so much energy in our lives maybe we need that downtime to recharge? Suck.

Could be.. you might be onto something!. But I notice when i get depressed I act and feel like its the END OF THE WORLD and there is just no hope left lol im telling you its terrible but then when I get over it its like nothing happened and im totally normaly and happy again.

Yea when I get depressed its everything togeher like you. Work, friends, men, family, myself, my home life etc etc everything just hits me at once and BOOM! DEPRESSED.

In a few days you will be back to normal! Just wait it out, sulk and feel sorry for yourself for these few days. ALL WILL BE FINE! 😄

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I don't know if it's strictly depression per se. I think it's more of unwinding, decompressing, finding the inner balance after storming the days at the speed and overwhel'ming gusto we tend to go through life with. I find myself often seeking solitude to recharge, and than I start thinking: wth? this sucks and this sucks and this sucks..." and than, I end up putting the pieces together and getting out of that funk. Not enough patience for it and staying low for ever. I went through a period of life where everything fell apart and nothing made sense for a while, I found solitude and embraced it. I think we need it to recharge very much.

Posted by wineaux
god, are we all the same! 😉

WUB EWE! You crack me the hell up.

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god, are we all the same! 😉

WUB EWE! You crack me the hell up.

iamsoluckytohaveyouinmylifeyouaremysunshineandmoonlightwubewe2!

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K, nuff of that. Now go make me a sandwich.

Hahah.. If that picture is YOU then no... but reeeeal darned close...
Anyone know a site that is allowed for free pic hosting that I can put a pic in here? OR does this board interally host pic posts in threads??

You can use photobucket.com 🙂