deeZired
@deeZired
17 YearsGemini
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My Gem dumped me..n I dont know why...
its obviously this guy has serious relationship issues.....typical gem male...i think you should back off a little until he gets his priorities straight...because all he is going to do is blame you for everything....then you will be so drained from trying to figure it out...i was with a gem like that....we just fought all the time because he had issues.....not me....all the drama...he was not worth it...
although it depends on the individual because I am with a gem now and he is very compromising and knows what he wants...maybe because hes older.
although it depends on the individual because I am with a gem now and he is very compromising and knows what he wants...maybe because hes older.
i know a few gem males. they all have these tendencies, but the one who shows these characteristics the most is my father. he always seems to go into a relationship, already believing it will be doomed. it's deffinately his issue cuz some of the women he was with were really good ppl. some were not. i think his whole "woe is me!" and "i would rather choose misery than happiness" attitude are the problem. maybe there is a fear of happiness.
"then he got mad at somthing I said..n boom.. now im confused..."
what was said? it might make things alil clearer if we know what was said.
"then he got mad at somthing I said..n boom.. now im confused..."
what was said? it might make things alil clearer if we know what was said.
"When in my eyes I feel Im perfect for him.. and we are for eachother.. especially if he was able to start changing the cycle with me."
Especially if he was changing his cycle with you?
Like how? Don't delude yourself, simply because you ((((want)))) him to want you ... deluding yourself leads nowhere except for more, severe pain when reality hits.
He did with you exactly as you said he does with all.
"is telling himself I guess the same things he always does after a break up... to convince himself Im not right for him."
"when all he had to do was (.......) .... instead he ran! like he always does."
Especially if he was changing his cycle with you?
Like how? Don't delude yourself, simply because you ((((want)))) him to want you ... deluding yourself leads nowhere except for more, severe pain when reality hits.
He did with you exactly as you said he does with all.
"is telling himself I guess the same things he always does after a break up... to convince himself Im not right for him."
"when all he had to do was (.......) .... instead he ran! like he always does."
"he has issues and things that he was taught growing up affect the way he views himself and the women he dates"
That's ^^^^^^^ actually an excuse. When we realize a problem, when become aware of a problem ... denial of its presence stops. No matter what it is .. violence, addiction.
Step one: I am an alcoholic.
No, that is actually not his problem .... below is his problem, DeeZired .. one in which he isn't aware of, one in which you aren't aware of either .....
" .. do something to piss him off. Then he falls out of love with them .."
" .. he responds no I loved being with you.. and I found myself falling back in love with you."
He is falling in and out of lust, out of desire/want .... and thinks it's love.
A fine line here that most people miss ... love and lust is not the same thing, though it often feels the same.
Clue: Love doesn't wane/wax with the drop of a hat, it's developed.
Clue: Lust can change rapidly, with the rising/falling of each different emotion.
This boy isn't in love with you ... he is in lust with you ... but, cannot tell the differnce.
That's ^^^^^^^ actually an excuse. When we realize a problem, when become aware of a problem ... denial of its presence stops. No matter what it is .. violence, addiction.
Step one: I am an alcoholic.
No, that is actually not his problem .... below is his problem, DeeZired .. one in which he isn't aware of, one in which you aren't aware of either .....
" .. do something to piss him off. Then he falls out of love with them .."
" .. he responds no I loved being with you.. and I found myself falling back in love with you."
He is falling in and out of lust, out of desire/want .... and thinks it's love.
A fine line here that most people miss ... love and lust is not the same thing, though it often feels the same.
Clue: Love doesn't wane/wax with the drop of a hat, it's developed.
Clue: Lust can change rapidly, with the rising/falling of each different emotion.
This boy isn't in love with you ... he is in lust with you ... but, cannot tell the differnce.
I think you are all right..
lissa he would alwayz get mad when I asked questions, I mean like any little thing well to me it seemed. When he would ask where were you when I called..it would easily be answered and forgotten. But if I asked a question like that..it was why are you alwayz asking me these questions.. are you trying to check up on me etc etc. When in reality I just wanted a simple answer and was not checking up or accusing. So we would get into these fights I'd apologize sometimes he would and then after a big one (in his eyes of course) he said If I behave this way again.. he's done with me. So some chick bought him something..i asked questions..he got mad..for blew it up. N said he was done.
But i think it all stems from what P angel said.. he was in and out of lust not love. Because the things we fought over were so pitty. He does have a slight anger problem and always had to take like a day to cool off. So ionno I think I was dealing with someone with alot more issues then I thought.
My problem with all of this..is how could he just move on and drop me so fast.. no second chances just cut me off..why?
lissa he would alwayz get mad when I asked questions, I mean like any little thing well to me it seemed. When he would ask where were you when I called..it would easily be answered and forgotten. But if I asked a question like that..it was why are you alwayz asking me these questions.. are you trying to check up on me etc etc. When in reality I just wanted a simple answer and was not checking up or accusing. So we would get into these fights I'd apologize sometimes he would and then after a big one (in his eyes of course) he said If I behave this way again.. he's done with me. So some chick bought him something..i asked questions..he got mad..for blew it up. N said he was done.
But i think it all stems from what P angel said.. he was in and out of lust not love. Because the things we fought over were so pitty. He does have a slight anger problem and always had to take like a day to cool off. So ionno I think I was dealing with someone with alot more issues then I thought.
My problem with all of this..is how could he just move on and drop me so fast.. no second chances just cut me off..why?
"lissa he would alwayz get mad when I asked questions, I mean like any little thing well to me it seemed. When he would ask where were you when I called..it would easily be answered and forgotten. But if I asked a question like that..it was why are you alwayz asking me these questions.. are you trying to check up on me etc etc. When in reality I just wanted a simple answer and was not checking up or accusing. So we would get into these fights I'd apologize sometimes he would and then after a big one (in his eyes of course)"
wow, this is an oldie but goodie. it's a double standard. he can ask all he wants, but you can't ask him. i know this one well with my father. he asks you the questions cuz, simply, he can't trust you. when you ask him the questions, he gets angry cuz of the same reason. he thinks you can't trust him.
"he said If I behave this way again.. he's done with me."
this, imo, is a control issue. your not a child.
"My problem with all of this..is how could he just move on and drop me so fast.. no second chances just cut me off..why?"
i agree with P-Angel. he's not in love with you. when you love someone, you don't just drop them. you hang on, through think and thin! just cuz your mad at someone, doesn't mean you don't love them anymore. i think, with lust, there's no true emotional ties involved. when there's no true emotional ties involved, it's much easier to drop someone.
wow, this is an oldie but goodie. it's a double standard. he can ask all he wants, but you can't ask him. i know this one well with my father. he asks you the questions cuz, simply, he can't trust you. when you ask him the questions, he gets angry cuz of the same reason. he thinks you can't trust him.
"he said If I behave this way again.. he's done with me."
this, imo, is a control issue. your not a child.
"My problem with all of this..is how could he just move on and drop me so fast.. no second chances just cut me off..why?"
i agree with P-Angel. he's not in love with you. when you love someone, you don't just drop them. you hang on, through think and thin! just cuz your mad at someone, doesn't mean you don't love them anymore. i think, with lust, there's no true emotional ties involved. when there's no true emotional ties involved, it's much easier to drop someone.
think=thick
your right .. who dates someone for 6 months based off of lust thats just cruel.. I mean i know im sexy..but i would have been let it go if it was just lust.. ugh!
It sucks cause now.. Im expecting him to feel the same way..but I have to remind myself it was never love so of course he wouldnt react accordingly.
*im sad
thanx for advice..
It sucks cause now.. Im expecting him to feel the same way..but I have to remind myself it was never love so of course he wouldnt react accordingly.
*im sad
thanx for advice..
Posted by dward417
its obviously this guy has serious relationship issues.....typical gem male...i think you should back off a little until he gets his priorities straight...because all he is going to do is blame you for everything....then you will be so drained from trying to figure it out...i was with a gem like that....we just fought all the time because he had issues.....not me....all the drama...he was not worth it...
although it depends on the individual because I am with a gem now and he is very compromising and knows what he wants...maybe because hes older.
You mean typical male with relationship issues. Not just Gem males. That's assinine and irresponsible. If you come from and environment that's stable. That will usually effect your outlook on relationships. So, come on. This guy just sounds young, dumb, and full of...
whatever geminimind......
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Supposobly he goes through the same cycle with all his girlfriends.. dates them for 5 months ..they do something to piss him off. Then he falls out of love with them but trys to make it work, or atleast that what he tells himself he's doing when in reality he is acting nothing like he did in the begining and slowly shutting the other person out. He admitted all of this to me a day after we broke up.. saying he has issues and things that he was taught growing up affect the way he views himself and the women he dates etc.
So when I ask him so you just dont want a relationship.. he responds no I loved being with you.. and I found myself falling back in love with you. Sooo .. Wth happened? I feel he knows Im good for him but is telling himself I guess the same things he always does after a break up... to convince himself Im not right for him. When in my eyes I feel Im perfect for him.. and we are for eachother.. especially if he was able to start changing the cycle with me.
Im just so confused why did gemini just give up.. when all he had to do was communicate and work out our little issues... instead he ran! like he always does.