Need advise from gemini ladies

may i ask why my post is not showing in the gemini forum?

Posted by WittyGem88
I was with an aqua who had leo moon and encountered the same issue when we were living together. We fought about everything plus the lack of space. We didnt take that long of a break though because we wanted to still be together. How we resolved it was we lived separately as we realized we probably moved in too soon. We lasted 3 more years after that.

A month long break just disconnects gemini women so much that we wouldnt want to go back to the cage we were previously trapped in. If she realized she loved her freedom more than she loves you during that break, it might be too late. And we all move on pretty fast. You also have to realize that the issues you had while living together... are those things you can resolve easily or are those things that will linger all throughout your relationship? For me and my ex, we didnt break up immediately but what we realized in the process is we can never live together so it was bound to wnd at some point. Either you are prolonging the agony (in case you get back together) or really giving something wonderful, a chance to renew itself.

you are absolutely right on that, she was disconnected. and spoke differently. she loved her freedom more than she loves me. im just surprised how rapid she changed. Its easier for me to move on because i know that's not what i deserved.

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@nano

I was already on it 😆

LooL! I knew it, cos' yours came in right after I press 911. I can't answer because I can't relate. I get attached easily once I have decided to move in together with my S/O. It's hard for me to let go once I am already at that stage. Haha...my Leo moon can be clingy. Ewwww

The only issue I have, it is hard for me to fall in love. Damn freaking hard! Urghh

It is hard to let go for any two people who decide to move in together.. I did it twice and it was so awful both times.

I mostly don't like that "I need a break for one month", that just looks like BS to me honestly. To me, that's a red flag.

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now that we've had a closure. i'll continue to move on, regain back my alpha, continue to grow in life. If 1 day i were to reconnect with her. what kind of approach should i use since im considered as her "ex" and not a stranger anymore.

I don't think she loved her freedom more than she loved you or that she was planning breaking up; I don't think this is about you specifically neither, to some people being close and emotionally attached causes them anxiety, moodiness etc. When you are in a relationship you don't want to break the bond but once is broken and you breathe again is hard to go back. Even if you love someone emotional health is more necessary.

Gemini Woman are always playing!! She should of told you she didn’t see a future with you but nope she wanted to string you along to make herself feel better since she was depressed. As a Leo people use you, i bet you payed for most of things and gave yourself off emotionally and she, nothing.

I see a lot of Gemini women on here asking for advice but they never use it and they self sabotage they are nuts. She did you a favor! Go be with a stable person now lol

thanks for all the advise. If that's how it is, it seems like right the chances of getting back together is close to 0 or even 0?

even with the phone call type of closure that we just had, her emphasis of wanting to be alone, being happy due to us apart giving her 0 anxiety.

should i even bother trying anymore? like popping by her place, even tho she said being alone is what she wanted?

will my grit and sincerity win a chance or actually irritate her and drawing her further. cuz at the back of my mind, i was thinking, since she's afraid of all the negativity and setbacks we had, she's afraid, being back together will only bring negativity and not positivity. what if i ensure her that won't be the case by showing up?

i know this sounds desperate, i see desperate myself but idk if im in denial neither.

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Gemini Woman are always playing!! She should of told you she didn’t see a future with you but nope she wanted to string you along to make herself feel better since she was depressed. As a Leo people use you, i bet you payed for most of things and gave yourself off emotionally and she, nothing.

I see a lot of Gemini women on here asking for advice but they never use it and they self sabotage they are nuts. She did you a favor! Go be with a stable person now lol

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we actually go on dutch on everything. she's a very mature woman. she forces to carry all our groceries all the time, forces to pay half, and never keep debts. be it $ 1, she always makes sure to pay back. so, sorry no she's not that kind of gemini :/

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Gemini Woman are always playing!! She should of told you she didn’t see a future with you but nope she wanted to string you along to make herself feel better since she was depressed. As a Leo people use you, i bet you payed for most of things and gave yourself off emotionally and she, nothing.

I see a lot of Gemini women on here asking for advice but they never use it and they self sabotage they are nuts. She did you a favor! Go be with a stable person now lol

we actually go on dutch on everything. she's a very mature woman. she forces to carry all our groceries all the time, forces to pay half, and never keep debts. be it $ 1, she always makes sure to pay back. so, sorry no she's not that kind of gemini :/

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She played you

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why can't I find a LEO like this

Ya he sounds pretty great.... they made the classic mistake of moving in after hardly knowing each other. Moving in with each other and especially too soon can kill a relationship. Happened with both of my LTR.

Yeah that can be a problem.

but anyways Mr. LEO don't ever hide your feelings if you ever date a CRAB

we want to hear all about your desperation!

romantic swoon

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what's a crab? im not very good at horoscope, i've dated only geminis and aries. first was a gemini, second was aries and now just lost a gemini. i thought i could handle this but i think i really did some mistakes. i gave it all and didn't control the "give and take bar" now im the one losing it all.

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Posted by WittyGem88
I was with an aqua who had leo moon and encountered the same issue when we were living together. We fought about everything plus the lack of space. We didnt take that long of a break though because we wanted to still be together. How we resolved it was we lived separately as we realized we probably moved in too soon. We lasted 3 more years after that.

A month long break just disconnects gemini women so much that we wouldnt want to go back to the cage we were previously trapped in. If she realized she loved her freedom more than she loves you during that break, it might be too late. And we all move on pretty fast. You also have to realize that the issues you had while living together... are those things you can resolve easily or are those things that will linger all throughout your relationship? For me and my ex, we didnt break up immediately but what we realized in the process is we can never live together so it was bound to wnd at some point. Either you are prolonging the agony (in case you get back together) or really giving something wonderful, a chance to renew itself.

you are absolutely right on that, she was disconnected. and spoke differently. she loved her freedom more than she loves me. im just surprised how rapid she changed. Its easier for me to move on because i know that's not what i deserved.

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Don't be too hard on yourself.

As a Gemini who also struggles with depression it can be hard to even handle our own emotional ups and downs, let alone pampering and caring for another person. Depression makes one feel worthless, weak, tired, annoyed, restless and basically amplifies all of a Gems' "negative" traits.

She was probably dealing with a lot, silently, and blaming herself for the tension.

I hope she gets some help for her depression before it hinders her life even more... 😥

Posted by nano
I wish I could talk to her. I feel connected somehow to this stranger with my same placements. Every rship I have goes to shit because of MY depression and not appreciating the man I am with. Clouding my senses. And they have all been pretty great men too.

I snap out of it suddenly once I break up. No matter how much it hurts.

i wish you could too, she's a great woman but i didn't expect her to turn on me just like that. but in a way, i kinda understand because she has constantly been complaining to me how bad her anxiety are on a daily. this break means alot to her. Im like happy and sad at the same time. But i know for a fact, this happiness won't last, after awhile, she'll feel empty, it's just a cycle of life i feel. humans are never satisfied with things. don't you think?

we just have to balance all that out and everything will just work out fine. that is why i know we will both work out if she view the same as i do.

Posted by nano
It's just eye opening and upsetting because I have been in her place, and now I read the guy perspective on how this (and I) affects these men.

Then why wouldn't you try and reconnect w them?

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Posted by WittyGem88
I was with an aqua who had leo moon and encountered the same issue when we were living together. We fought about everything plus the lack of space. We didnt take that long of a break though because we wanted to still be together. How we resolved it was we lived separately as we realized we probably moved in too soon. We lasted 3 more years after that.

A month long break just disconnects gemini women so much that we wouldnt want to go back to the cage we were previously trapped in. If she realized she loved her freedom more than she loves you during that break, it might be too late. And we all move on pretty fast. You also have to realize that the issues you had while living together... are those things you can resolve easily or are those things that will linger all throughout your relationship? For me and my ex, we didnt break up immediately but what we realized in the process is we can never live together so it was bound to wnd at some point. Either you are prolonging the agony (in case you get back together) or really giving something wonderful, a chance to renew itself.

you are absolutely right on that, she was disconnected. and spoke differently. she loved her freedom more than she loves me. im just surprised how rapid she changed. Its easier for me to move on because i know that's not what i deserved.

Don't be too hard on yourself.

As a Gemini who also struggles with depression it can be hard to even handle our own emotional ups and downs, let alone pampering and caring for another person. Depression makes one feel worthless, weak, tired, annoyed, restless and basically amplifies all of a Gems' "negative" traits.

She was probably dealing with a lot, silently, and blaming herself for the tension.

I hope she gets some help for her depression before it hinders her life even more... 😥

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it was tiring, i tried my best. i can only provide her momentarily happiness but deep down, she is not happy with herself. she has to learn to love herself first because she can actually love me. there's alot to this break up. the energy around the house wasn't very nice on a daily basis, it was just draining.

someone mentioned, "she said i meant everything to her and i should just stick by her side" lol if it was that easy, i'm already with her. it's all that above condition, it was tiring for me, that's why i needed that break. however, it was a mistake to grant her a 1 month. now she has tasted freedom, she wouldn't wanna come back, fearing the nightmare will come back to haunt her. i don't blame her.

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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
why can't I find a LEO like this

The one who will walk out when you tell him he means everything to you?

She insisted on going on a break for 1 month. He wanted to honor that request

Okies and now he can honor her request for a breakup!

You sure this is how you would want it too?? We know how we behave when we have our mood swings or when we are hurt and how difficult it is for us to he vulnerable...

I know she was depressed and he must have went through a tough time with her... But idk I wouldn't walk out when the guy I love were to cry and tell me I mean everything to him!

Thats a difficult one. I've had both sides - an aqua who let go when I was not ready to let go. And my current scorp moon who does not allow me to breathe and give me space . I hate both of them LMAO

Yeah I know what you mean... My scorp ex didn't leave me when I struggled and asked him to leave me...he stayed and I remember I was so vulnerable then! This is the reason why I stayed with him through all that shitty stuff...

I think he shouldn't have left her then!

I would like to know her Venus Sign, I hope she isn't a Venus in Aries!

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how can i tell? from a calculator just by her birth date? i never knew there's a venus sign lol

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Posted by nano
I wish I could talk to her. I feel connected somehow to this stranger with my same placements. Every rship I have goes to shit because of MY depression and not appreciating the man I am with. Clouding my senses. And they have all been pretty great men too.

I snap out of it suddenly once I break up. No matter how much it hurts.

i wish you could too, she's a great woman but i didn't expect her to turn on me just like that. but in a way, i kinda understand because she has constantly been complaining to me how bad her anxiety are on a daily. this break means alot to her. Im like happy and sad at the same time. But i know for a fact, this happiness won't last, after awhile, she'll feel empty, it's just a cycle of life i feel. humans are never satisfied with things. don't you think?

we just have to balance all that out and everything will just work out fine. that is why i know we will both work out if she view the same as i do.

I would like to look at your synastry chart...

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how can i provide you with that lol

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Posted by nano
It's just eye opening and upsetting because I have been in her place, and now I read the guy perspective on how this (and I) affects these men.

Then why wouldn't you try and reconnect w them?

You know I am experiencing something very similar right now. I'm in a long term relationship with a man of 3 years and I am thinking of letting him go in much the same way as your gem did. I've tried to tell him that it's not working and I am depressed, but he stays no matter what. He won't give me space and I can't breathe.

As for the past reasons.... I didn't reconnect with the aqua who left because of pride... Cap moons have a lot of pride and ego too. My first bf... because I had genuinely moved on.

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overly attachment are common, not everyone understands the need of space. often they think the need of space will turn to losing someone, which is true and cant be blamed. try assuring him that it's just temporary space for yourself to clear your mind. but will you pull the stun my ex did, that i dont know :p

Posted by WittyGem88
Why dont you try to be her friend for now and be there to listen to her and show her you care but not be in the same house? Obviously you do love her. She probably thinks its all over. Shes depressed and all she wants to think of now is herself snd how to feel better. She csn tdo that when she knows your pushing to be together this soon. She will need a person to trust. Be that person and if youre lucky... she might see the man she loved before. This is very risky for you though. No guarantees that shes coming back. But it will be worth the try. She didnt want to see you. Dont tell her you were coming over. Just drop by with food and say you were nearby and thought she might want coffee or something so you got her a cup of coffee. Something like that.

i personally think, right now it's not the right time. but also after seeing the rate she change. im scared too. continue dragging, she might even feel better off with me.

maybe not. im not delusional. neither am i in denial. she agrees earlier on everything went past too quickly and as of now. being alone is all she wants. im 26 right now, and im doing part-time degree. she even offered help with my work. she said just approach her, she'll guide me along. i believe she cares in a way. but she's forcing hard to avoid me as much as she can because she tasted something she wanted to be free off for long.

going to buy food and coffee and all that, it's not really my style , i find it of a dog move with my pride and ego in play.

don't all women want a strong man and not a needy & desperate man, especially a gemini?

Posted by WittyGem88
My aqua ex with leo moon was pushyAF lol whenever i was done with him he would show up and hug me and not let me go. Then we would reconnect again and im reminded why i loved the mofo in the first place lol i wasnt depressed though but i have relationship anxiety even until now and im with a dofferent man!

then why would u suggest me to do all that above, showing up with food, that's kinda pushy and obvious of my intentions 😄

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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
why can't I find a LEO like this

The one who will walk out when you tell him he means everything to you?

She insisted on going on a break for 1 month. He wanted to honor that request

Okies and now he can honor her request for a breakup!

You sure this is how you would want it too?? We know how we behave when we have our mood swings or when we are hurt and how difficult it is for us to he vulnerable...

I know she was depressed and he must have went through a tough time with her... But idk I wouldn't walk out when the guy I love were to cry and tell me I mean everything to him!

Thats a difficult one. I've had both sides - an aqua who let go when I was not ready to let go. And my current scorp moon who does not allow me to breathe and give me space . I hate both of them LMAO

Yeah I know what you mean... My scorp ex didn't leave me when I struggled and asked him to leave me...he stayed and I remember I was so vulnerable then! This is the reason why I stayed with him through all that shitty stuff...

I think he shouldn't have left her then!

I would like to know her Venus Sign, I hope she isn't a Venus in Aries!

how can i tell? from a calculator just by her birth date? i never knew there's a venus sign lol

You can share the birth details... Date of birth, time of birth and place of birth for you and the Gemini

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im 15/08/1992 born in singapore and she is 08/06/1993, born in england

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Posted by WittyGem88
I was with an aqua who had leo moon and encountered the same issue when we were living together. We fought about everything plus the lack of space. We didnt take that long of a break though because we wanted to still be together. How we resolved it was we lived separately as we realized we probably moved in too soon. We lasted 3 more years after that.

A month long break just disconnects gemini women so much that we wouldnt want to go back to the cage we were previously trapped in. If she realized she loved her freedom more than she loves you during that break, it might be too late. And we all move on pretty fast. You also have to realize that the issues you had while living together... are those things you can resolve easily or are those things that will linger all throughout your relationship? For me and my ex, we didnt break up immediately but what we realized in the process is we can never live together so it was bound to wnd at some point. Either you are prolonging the agony (in case you get back together) or really giving something wonderful, a chance to renew itself.

you are absolutely right on that, she was disconnected. and spoke differently. she loved her freedom more than she loves me. im just surprised how rapid she changed. Its easier for me to move on because i know that's not what i deserved.

Don't be too hard on yourself.

As a Gemini who also struggles with depression it can be hard to even handle our own emotional ups and downs, let alone pampering and caring for another person. Depression makes one feel worthless, weak, tired, annoyed, restless and basically amplifies all of a Gems' "negative" traits.

She was probably dealing with a lot, silently, and blaming herself for the tension.

I hope she gets some help for her depression before it hinders her life even more... 😥

it was tiring, i tried my best. i can only provide her momentarily happiness but deep down, she is not happy with herself. she has to learn to love herself first because she can actually love me. there's alot to this break up. the energy around the house wasn't very nice on a daily basis, it was just draining.

someone mentioned, "she said i meant everything to her and i should just stick by her side" lol if it was that easy, i'm already with her. it's all that above condition, it was tiring for me, that's why i needed that break. however, it was a mistake to grant her a 1 month. now she has tasted freedom, she wouldn't wanna come back, fearing the nightmare will come back to haunt her. i don't blame her.

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Exactly!

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It's just eye opening and upsetting because I have been in her place, and now I read the guy perspective on how this (and I) affects these men.

Then why wouldn't you try and reconnect w them?

You know I am experiencing something very similar right now. I'm in a long term relationship with a man of 3 years and I am thinking of letting him go in much the same way as your gem did. I've tried to tell him that it's not working and I am depressed, but he stays no matter what. He won't give me space and I can't breathe.

As for the past reasons.... I didn't reconnect with the aqua who left because of pride... Cap moons have a lot of pride and ego too. My first bf... because I had genuinely moved on.

overly attachment are common, not everyone understands the need of space. often they think the need of space will turn to losing someone, which is true and cant be blamed. try assuring him that it's just temporary space for yourself to clear your mind. but will you pull the stun my ex did, that i dont know :p

You are right... I guess it depends on what we make of the time apart. I feel like almost every Gemini would flee after taking a month off from such a bad situation where she was mentally a prisoner inside her own mind.

I just want you to know that she is probably hurt and feeling a lot of guilt on some level. She probably thinks she is doing what is best for you, by removing herself from your life. Sometimes I feel that way.

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I felt that she wasnt feeling any much of a guilt. When i was speaking to her over phone. She was just emphasizing how happy she have became. And gotten slightly irritated when i tried persuading her to be back together.

Im like 50-50 now. I really dont know if i should just drop by her place to express my love or just leave her be for good. Im totally un-sure and feeling pretty helpless.

She doesnt hate me. Thats 1 thing i know for sure. We did not have a toxic relationship.

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Posted by WittyGem88
Why dont you try to be her friend for now and be there to listen to her and show her you care but not be in the same house? Obviously you do love her. She probably thinks its all over. Shes depressed and all she wants to think of now is herself snd how to feel better. She csn tdo that when she knows your pushing to be together this soon. She will need a person to trust. Be that person and if youre lucky... she might see the man she loved before. This is very risky for you though. No guarantees that shes coming back. But it will be worth the try. She didnt want to see you. Dont tell her you were coming over. Just drop by with food and say you were nearby and thought she might want coffee or something so you got her a cup of coffee. Something like that.

i personally think, right now it's not the right time. but also after seeing the rate she change. im scared too. continue dragging, she might even feel better off with me.

maybe not. im not delusional. neither am i in denial. she agrees earlier on everything went past too quickly and as of now. being alone is all she wants. im 26 right now, and im doing part-time degree. she even offered help with my work. she said just approach her, she'll guide me along. i believe she cares in a way. but she's forcing hard to avoid me as much as she can because she tasted something she wanted to be free off for long.

going to buy food and coffee and all that, it's not really my style , i find it of a dog move with my pride and ego in play.

don't all women want a strong man and not a needy & desperate man, especially a gemini?

I find men to be strong when they go after what and who they want. They can get rejected but they just go for it anyway.i dunno. It depends on your impact in her life. Youre the only one who can tell.

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latest update of my failed relationship.

Things didn't go well. It was 410pm when i reached her place. knocked on the door, she's in shock and asked what i was doing here. I could tell straight from her face that anxiety was building up. It was sad to witness that face. I told her i just had to do this and see it for myself. A phone call was not enough for me, thing just happened too quickly. she told me that she has no time for this and she has an appointment at 5 with her bestfriend. ( not trying to push me away kinda excuse) so i said ill be quick with this one. and ask her for 5 mins.

i laid my cards on the table by expressing myself to her. telling her when i signed up for this relationship, i was planning to go all the way with her. she is what i want. i told her that the past month, i've grew and learnt alot. Assuring her that how she feels about being back together will only bring her negativity is not what it will be.

letting her know that i still look forward to all the holidays that we had planned. emphasized on me wanting her and not needing her. telling her that i've did things by myself, but it's just empty without her. I told her that she is the one i want to grow old with, and i would climb mountains and dive the deepest sea with her. However, all she says was, right now, she just want to do it all alone.

Things got slightly irritated for her. she says she wants me out of the house as time was on my tail, she needed to get ready. i asked if the chances of getting back together is 0 in her eyes, she said yes. I told her i will make it a 1 and work from there.

She just said no no and no. constant rejection and irritation was what i got from her.

I mentioned about her feeling guilty of putting me through her pain in the house, she said she does and i told her i don't care about that, what matters is us going through this together as one. then again, she said, she wants to go through this alone.

her face was cold, ice cold, it was my first time seeing her looking like that, but i guess that was what i've been looking for. A closure.

With my pride and ego in play as a leo, this is the furthest i can go. I did picture myself sticking around, playing the "friend" card but i honestly think it is not worth trying. Everything happens for a reason and this is definitely a lesson learnt.

I'm a gemini and dated a leo. All I can say is that if you love her just don't give up. Keep blowing up her phone and keep proffing to her that she is special and important. In my opinion as a gemini I would want to see proof and consistency. I believe that when a gemini loves they will love for life one and only. Don't give up ever fighting for this special gemini female if u truly love her and want only her. She is pretending by going cold and silent because she probably wants you to fight harder.

You can’t love another if you don’t love your self.