CuspyGem
@CuspyGem
13 Years
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New here...need advice?!
When I was a young Gem I'd get involved with inappropriate men to avoid the risk of being hurt from a man I really liked. Living your life from the angle of avoiding pain is no way to live.
oops im a girl too
I'm not sure if I should tell him im running because I'm feel comfortable which makes me uncomfortable. Plus, that might make him run...Oh lordy I hope this moment of weakness passes and I can just get back to my usual relaxed state of being. I think I realized I just want to get closer as in physically and not talk about it...sexy time,take some naps, hang out and cuddle, all scary things that make me feel vunerable!
Everyone probably thinks you're 23 because you act like it (which might also add to youthful looks). So, face your inner demons and that'll surely put a healthy wrinkle in your image. Without even looking at you, people are assuming you're pretty young just by the context of what you wrote. Time to grow up... but just a little 😉
In my past I'd seek out relationships based on a mental rather than an emotional foundation. It was safer that way, and it was my comfort zone. I was always suspicious of emotions and had a disgust for people who let their emotions over rule common sense.
This led to my LTR's that were comfortable, but ultimately dissatisfying. It's happened mostly with the Aquas I've dated. They were fun, kind and mentally stimulating, but there was always something missing. The emotional connection was not there. That's not to say that there was an absence of emotion. I was and still am genuinely fond of them and the friendships have lasted to this day. But they never tapped into my emotions (nor did I tap into theirs, I'd guess), nor did they try. I know I didn't.
In relation to another thread, which asks about the amount of time it takes a Gem to get over a failed relationship, in these cases, I got over it very quickly, because those deep feelings were not touched, left intact. Was it less painful? Certainly. But it also yielded little reward. Except as a learning experience.
This led to my LTR's that were comfortable, but ultimately dissatisfying. It's happened mostly with the Aquas I've dated. They were fun, kind and mentally stimulating, but there was always something missing. The emotional connection was not there. That's not to say that there was an absence of emotion. I was and still am genuinely fond of them and the friendships have lasted to this day. But they never tapped into my emotions (nor did I tap into theirs, I'd guess), nor did they try. I know I didn't.
In relation to another thread, which asks about the amount of time it takes a Gem to get over a failed relationship, in these cases, I got over it very quickly, because those deep feelings were not touched, left intact. Was it less painful? Certainly. But it also yielded little reward. Except as a learning experience.
Attention garden-hoe
you overthink things and are probably more attuned to feelings of guilt and shame within yourself that others won't even perceive. nevertheless, you feel it and take yourself to task, self-sabotaging the relationship.
not just relationships. because you think so much, when you talk your brain goes off on it's own adventure, leaving your mouth to do its own thing. they go off in two different directions. it's only later, when you have time to think again, that your tendancy to think that you said something wrong emerges and you beat yourself up over it.
of course, i'm talking about me here, what was your question again?!
you run because your discomfort with the situation makes you squirm and you feel crushing embarrassment. your thoughts then tell you it's better no one sees that, so you either run and hide or you start babbling uncontrollably while trying to change the subject.
this is not necessary because they may not have seen it in the first place - not many signs can keep up with a gemini on that level. surprisingly, not even other gemini's - we can be so caught up in our own head conversations that we fail to recognise the gemini self-destructing right next to us.
but still, you'll know it's there, so what do you do about it? i can't believe i'm actually going to use a portmanteau here, but ... chillax.
don't sweat it. que sera sera. you only live once and all. the world's not going to end, that's for sure. well ... it might. it is 2012 after all!!!
but seriously, i do find people have a tendancy to worry too much. i used to myself. and about trivialities. it's best not to do that - because when life sees you've got nothing better to do, it has an uncanny knack of really giving you something to really worry about. and after you've had that in your life, you grow up. it's a hard lesson.
you say you're only 30. ten years from now, when you're alone and everything is ticking, you'll wonder why you were ever so picky. people are just people. there is no dream. relationships take effort. and there's no way to pick a winner. you just have to roll the dice.
this isn't about you, by the way. this is about me. i guess my thoughts just went off on a tangent and my fingers tried to keep up.
not just relationships. because you think so much, when you talk your brain goes off on it's own adventure, leaving your mouth to do its own thing. they go off in two different directions. it's only later, when you have time to think again, that your tendancy to think that you said something wrong emerges and you beat yourself up over it.
of course, i'm talking about me here, what was your question again?!
you run because your discomfort with the situation makes you squirm and you feel crushing embarrassment. your thoughts then tell you it's better no one sees that, so you either run and hide or you start babbling uncontrollably while trying to change the subject.
this is not necessary because they may not have seen it in the first place - not many signs can keep up with a gemini on that level. surprisingly, not even other gemini's - we can be so caught up in our own head conversations that we fail to recognise the gemini self-destructing right next to us.
but still, you'll know it's there, so what do you do about it? i can't believe i'm actually going to use a portmanteau here, but ... chillax.
don't sweat it. que sera sera. you only live once and all. the world's not going to end, that's for sure. well ... it might. it is 2012 after all!!!
but seriously, i do find people have a tendancy to worry too much. i used to myself. and about trivialities. it's best not to do that - because when life sees you've got nothing better to do, it has an uncanny knack of really giving you something to really worry about. and after you've had that in your life, you grow up. it's a hard lesson.
you say you're only 30. ten years from now, when you're alone and everything is ticking, you'll wonder why you were ever so picky. people are just people. there is no dream. relationships take effort. and there's no way to pick a winner. you just have to roll the dice.
this isn't about you, by the way. this is about me. i guess my thoughts just went off on a tangent and my fingers tried to keep up.
Damn things are going well but I'm trying not to delete my facebook and change my phone #. I'm going to hide under my blankets and hug my pillows for half the year. Feelings are scary to me especially when someone encourages me to be myself. I guess because every guy I've been with has been controlling. Escaping now
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