question for geminis....

story begins...lol..i knew my gemini guy for 5 yrs we liked eachother 5 yrs ago...at the time i was dating some douchbag for 2 yrs so the gemini guy and myself couldnt get together because of that...we kept in touch for 5 yrs...after 5 yrs of not seein eachother we hang out nd end up falling for eachother we were REALLY good friends at first like id be there for him hed be there for me like hed go out of his way to see me etc...we ended up being together..annd together for half a yr...we werent fighting that much really it would be small minor things..nothin major..we would hav fun nd nothin but laughter when we were together...i never "bothered" him naaged him harassed his phone..begged for his attention..NONE of that nd he liked that ALOT about me..he had all the space he needed etc...about a month and a half ago he got a new job..he works about 6 sometimes 7 days a week from 11am to about...8pm ..and after the gym was a must for him..so basically he'd leave the house at 10 nd come home at 1030..about 2 days ago..he broke up w me he was CRYING i swear never seen such a big guy cryin he was worse then me LOl...he broke up w me telling me im the best thing thats ever happened to him nd he feels that he doesnt put enough effort into the relationship nd he felt it was unfair to me...he was really hurt about it...he said things are jus hard for him w work school makin time for frineds, dad (parents are divorced), and he was BEGGING me to stay friends nd see wut happens in the future...oh and im an aquarius girl....lol...wut would anyone recommend to eme nd is there a chance we'll get back together?

lol .. what do you mean by recommend?

1) Force him to stay with you .. refuse just friendship
2) Respect his decision .. remain friends until he finds himself
3) Let him go under protest and screw friendship, it's either love or nothing


You're Aqua, really?

recommend..as in ..should i stay friends with him, should i ignore him, should i try talkin to him...wut would anyone as a gemini or who knows of gemini men..would recommend..and YES im really an aqua lol

i dont understand what the big deal is...i figured id ask REAL GEMINIS because they would know better..why the hell would i go on the aqua board and ask aquarians the question..tht doesnt make sense...this is ridiculously childish..im having an issue with my gemini and i would think a real gemini would be able to give me advice and help me out ..guess i was wrong...

scandal2ny .. I was married to a Gemini for a little over 2 years, though, we were together for a total of 8 years. What you are experiencing isn't much different than myself .. such as, when he got his panties in a wad about something (like work, other people, hardships, emotional distress) .. he would become irrational and behave irratically .. shifting between spewing love sonnets, to hatefulness, to crying, to violence, to remorse, and all emotional behaviours along the human spectrum. At times, he became extremely violent, both verbally and physically .. then later, apologize and cry.

During this time, I tried to comprehend that it wasn't anything I did, necessarily (though sometimes it was, normal partnership disputes) .. at the time, I was young and didn't have the self-worth I have now, so it didn't dawn on me until after the marriage (unfortunately) that his unstable emotions could and often did, get triggered by his insecurity about feeling inferiour. I began to notice that when he went "down" it was all the way to the pits of hell, with little control. When he was up, it was extreme euphoria with no stimulation to bring him to such hieghts. The jealous rages, the possessiveness, the unfounded fear of thinking he couldn't provide or make me happy .. was all within himself and apparantly inherent. Maybe the dual personality? I don't know.

What I do know is that not every person is the same, and there's no way for me to know about your man .. only that, mine would exhibit similiar symptoms of total confusion about who he was, or what he wanted in life .. which when he got in one of his states, it became out of his control and could last months at a time.

So, to your original question .. only you know your man and what you should or should not do. I can only tell you about my experiences with a Gemini. I can also tell you, I divorced him in 1980 .. to this day, he is still unstable with his emotions.

Good Luck

thank u for ur help i mean i kno 6 months isnt much to anyone but it was a while to me being that im not used to long relationships lol and it hurt alot and left me confused...

You're welcome .. what made me think the way I did, was because you said that every was fine .. getting along, you weren't being a wench, giving him plenty of space .. and then within a short time of his job change, he become irratic with his feelings. That's how mine was too. Unfortunately, because I was so young and didn't have enough life experiences, I kept thinking I could fix him .. that love conquers all.

I know it's confusing, but, tht doesn't mean he's like mine completely and that doesn't mean he can't find his way back to where he used to be.

A different Gemini I know (female) has done to her man something similiar also. Her life went to hell quick and he just walked out on her over this past weekend, which put her in an extreme manic depression .. feeling anger, dispondency, fear (well, her husband walked out, of course she was feeling these things). Anyway, my point is, it's not until her husband stood up, put his foot down and walked out, that she was able to start to get a grip. Within just a weekend's time, she was able to get her shit together emotionally. The other problems still exist, but, at least she isn't an emotional distaster anylonger. She's now thinking rationally again, about her obligations.

So, I'm thinking that maybe if you tell him point blank: I need more security than that, I can't make my life dependent on 'maybes', I need assurances that you're going to be there. Again, I don't know him, maybe this would back-fire and make him sink lower. With my girlfriend, when her husband left her .. she rose back up.

i mean i was upset and offcourse cried lol...he was begging me to remain friends with him he told me...he said lets be freinds and see how things end up in the long right but RIGHT NOW im going through alot and its hard for me to put effort into a relationship when im not fully there...i mean we left off on ok terms i guess like we kinda talk but nothing more ... i mean do u think it would be a smart decision to just hang out with him as firends and nothing more..i mean whats your opinion

2NY
I told a guy early this year that i needed sometime to clear my head and if we could be friends. Deep inside i knew i didn't se him in my future but at that time it seemed convinient to keep him around as friend.
I would suggest you completely cut of ties with him (even though i know it will be difficult.) and i can bet not speaking to you will make him think about a alot of things and it could help him speed up his thought process and decide if he wants to be with you or not. The problem is if you are still available to him he might take advantage of you and eventually hurt you even further by sending you mixed signals.

Can i pariticipate? BTW P-Angle well written.