indiajones33
@indiajones33
11 Years
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Posted by Impulsv
Is it ur fault no it's not a blame thing it's just that u triger her fears? U could do everything right n if she was unhealed deep wounds, ull triger them.
If I'm correct didnt u say her exchanged on her?
Posted by TokerX
Yeah, that's Scorp & Gem alright. :p Don't let it get you down. Hang in there, be strong for yourself and her. And get that bond going again, Scorp & Gem are at best when they work as a team, it's then when they can achieve more than anyone else. But if they start to oppose each other, be prepared for world war 3.


Posted by slonce5
She literally blames me for everything and says I am self absorbed. She asked me to help her overcome any fears and be strong for us. I try my best, but every week she is griping about some sort of perceived problem. She is always saying she knows I will hurt her. It is all driving me crazy.
Posted by indiajones33
Okay. I've posted on here about troubles between me and my scorpio. Now I'd like to know if it's difficult for Scorpios to admit any wrong doing? Do they tend to shift blame for ALL relationship issues to their partner? Do they EVER accept any responsibility?
My Scorpio blames me for everything. Even her own actions. Her reasoning is that for every action there is a reaction and I make her be that way.
I was previously told to leave her alone to figure out her issues and work on healing. What really upsets me is that she actually believed that I am the main issue in our relationship and has said as much.
Any thoughts?


Posted by Impulsv
Is it ur fault no it's not a blame thing it's just that u triger her fears? U could do everything right n if she was unhealed deep wounds, ull triger them.
If I'm correct didnt u say her exchanged on her?
Posted by Stihl46
Kick the b*tch to the curb not worth dealing with it she will just make your life miserable. Things go sour in a Scorpio's life they blame you for it been there, tree trunk that, I don't need that tree trunking mess neither do you. Her ex husband probably put up with 20 years of hell. Get out while you can.
Posted by Hotbeefy
She literally blames me for everything and says I am self absorbed. She asked me to help her overcome any fears and be strong for us. I try my best, but every week she is griping about some sort of perceived problem. She is always saying she knows I will hurt her. It is all driving me crazy.
NO! First of, you are not her savior.
Second of all, she's using you as a punching bag emotions.
Third of all she's very unstable (& very insecure) that she should be herself figuring out, if she can't she should go find some help that has more professional job to do rather than others.
She's belittling you from her insecurity (& struggle what her emotions has come).
Run as fast as you can to stay away of that girl (she's not a woman).click to expand
Posted by slonce5
She literally blames me for everything and says I am self absorbed. She asked me to help her overcome any fears and be strong for us. I try my best, but every week she is griping about some sort of perceived problem. She is always saying she knows I will hurt her. It is all driving me crazy.
Posted by gemini64Posted by indiajones33
Okay. I've posted on here about troubles between me and my scorpio. Now I'd like to know if it's difficult for Scorpios to admit any wrong doing? Do they tend to shift blame for ALL relationship issues to their partner? Do they EVER accept any responsibility?
My Scorpio blames me for everything. Even her own actions. Her reasoning is that for every action there is a reaction and I make her be that way.
I was previously told to leave her alone to figure out her issues and work on healing. What really upsets me is that she actually believed that I am the main issue in our relationship and has said as much.
Any thoughts?click to expand
I've been married to a Scorpio Man for 17 years. As with all couples, we have our spats. And he knows how to push my buttons; most of the time it's out of affection to get a rise out of me so we end up laughing about the stupidest stuff.
One thing that amazes me about my husband is that even if we've had a knock down, drag out verbal conflict, once he's calmed down and thought things through; he always apologizes and is genuine.
I have NEVER in my life be around ANY man who had that emotional capacity and humility to tell me he was sorry.
Last Spring I was deeply hurt by a man who was a life long friend but for whatever reason, stabbed me in the back. He will never apologize because he simply does't have the fortitude and qualities of my husband to do that. He will carry his guilt and anger or whatever his issues are to his grave. And to me, that's sad. Life isn't about living it in pain and holding onto grudges or misconceptions. It's about loving those you care about and peace of mind.
If I were you, I'd see if your Scorpio lady would consider doing some couple's counseling together? It sounds as if she's either dealing with some underlying emotional issues from her past that are triggered when you bring up something, even if you don't know that she's touchy about certain things.
She may also simply lack the emotional capacity to see things from another person's perspective and instead, always stick with her own reality. It's often hard to put yourself in other people's shoes if you've never been forced to do it prior. It's also about compassion. Some people are so invested in their own emotio
Posted by Scenic
Do you ever feel that the way she treats or speaks to you is abusive? It sounds kind of like abuser tactics to me to bring another person down and to blame them for their own actions, essentially making the other sound and feel like a terrible person. Idk, that was one of the first things I thought of, but if you don't agree, then that's a good thing.
If you want to keep trying with her, you should get her into counseling. Or better yet, you go with her to couples counseling so she doesn't tell a one-sided story about her struggles and problems. It appears common that those coerced into therapy or counseling with simply say that nothing is wrong which leads to nothing being solved.
Maybe your actions do make her react negatively...not that you mean to, but certain people do work better with those who have certain qualities. For instance, I work best with people who are calm and can take my honesty. If I'm not with that type, I feel like I'm constantly angry even if I may care for them deeply. Although I think her issues run a lot deeper than this (and that it's not your fault regardless), perhaps this plays a small role here.
Tbh, I don't know how you can see all these issues with her and feel so unhappy with it and still stay with her. It's not your job to fix her. She needs to learn to stop relying on others (mainly to make them feel like shit so she doesn't have to) and focus on fixing herself. In fact, I don't think you could help her even if you wanted to. You posting here about it even after being in a relationship with her for however long is proof of that, imo. But, really, just do what makes YOU happy. If staying with her does that, then so be it




Posted by Gemi9Posted by Scenic
I suppose also, I could include that I was in a relationship with a scorpio once. I loved him more than anything but he had lots of emotional issues and I wasn't happy, so I left although it was hard. He threatened to kill himself if we ever broke up, and he in fact did try. I didn't realize this while I was in the relationship, but that's a tactic used by abusers to make sure you stay with them. I also found out after the relationship that the stories he told about his relationships were different than what he told me. So, there was a lot I didn't realize about him I guess and I'm happy that I left. It gave me the opportunity to meet other wonderful people who are a lot mentally healthier. I'm less frustrated, angry, stressed, etc, now.
There's a point when trying to stick with a relationship isn't healthy and is just not worth it. I was stupid for giving my scorpio as many tries as I did and spending that much time in an unhealthy relationship. I wanted it to work out so bad, but I knew he wasn't going to change. I'd either have to accept him how he was as well as my unhappiness or leave. I made the right choice. Funny enough, he's with a gemini now so I wonder if that's working any better for him. Anyway, maybe you can get something out of this post. If not, oh well.
May I ask you what was so great about him that made you to be so attached?
I am in love with a Scorpio and I think I am going mental.
But if someone threatened me with killing themselves - there would he go.
But I am a Gemini, so it maybe different for me.
I just want to know if it was sex or personality that you were taken by?
I just can not imagine person who acts like this to have any good qualities in him.
What were those?click to expand

Posted by Geminems
the types I am drawn to are generally terrible for me in the end, as seems to be the case for many other fellow gems. I like the quick and passionate start, middle and end that these emotional signs give. I hate waiting for the occasionally perfect Sagittarius that swings my way to get serious.
My point is that scorpios are a stress sign for us. If you are willing to be the calming force they need your entire life, then the passion Is worth it. But if you want to live in the moment and bE your true self, carry on and drop the dreadful scorpio.

Posted by indiajones33
Okay. I've posted on here about troubles between me and my scorpio. Now I'd like to know if it's difficult for Scorpios to admit any wrong doing? Do they tend to shift blame for ALL relationship issues to their partner? Do they EVER accept any responsibility?
My Scorpio blames me for everything. Even her own actions. Her reasoning is that for every action there is a reaction and I make her be that way.
I was previously told to leave her alone to figure out her issues and work on healing. What really upsets me is that she actually believed that I am the main issue in our relationship and has said as much.
Any thoughts?

Posted by indiajones33
@gemineyevixen I have my sun, merc, venus in Gemini and my moon in pisces. She has her sun, mer, venus in Scorpio and moon in Taurus. She is stubborn as hell and drives me up a wall. I guess intense translates to super jealous and insecure with a need of constant reassurance. I am really drawn to her. She gets me in a emotional way and I can be emotionally open and not worry about coming across as "extra". When things are good they are good but when bad all hell breaks loose!
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My Scorpio blames me for everything. Even her own actions. Her reasoning is that for every action there is a reaction and I make her be that way.
I was previously told to leave her alone to figure out her issues and work on healing. What really upsets me is that she actually believed that I am the main issue in our relationship and has said as much.
Any thoughts?