Should I bail?

Okay, went on the Sag board for some advice and now taking it back to my peeps...

Long and short, dating a guy, very casual and happy with that. The only thing that really irks me is that his response rate to phone calls is slow and I am not taking it well. When we talk, it's great, when we are together, it's great but if we are talking on the phone and he has to go, he says he will call back and that is sometimes days later. The Sags say that I should attach no significance to that because they are really bad with phone calls, texts etc. But you Gems must know how I feel?! I feel like if he is not making the return call a priority then maybe he is not into me like I want him to be. Also courtesy, hello?

As Gems, we know we over process, over think everything and go six ways to Sunday. Should I just bail on this, only about 4 months so not so invested that I couldn't roll along. BUT I don't want to give up on something because I have this one little issue and my own damn ego needs to sit down.

So, throwing it out there to my fellow Gems! No one knows a Gem like another Gem so let me know your thoughts! I appreciate it!!

I have had relationships with two sags and have one on my case at the moment, I find them pretty full on demanding of attention pretty much straight away, once they are into you its hard to shake them off, they do like their freedom but ive found they want to be around you all the time.. try pulling back a bit and see what happens, you have nothing to lose, i would just tell him the once how it makes you feel this way you will know by his actions 🙂

i would just start to expect it. that way you're not so disappointed and be pleastantly surprised when he does call. lol! i agree with Gucci about discussing it with him. he won't know unless you tell him. 🙂

Posted by Lizuz
The Sags say that I should attach no significance to that because they are really bad with phone calls, texts etc. ..... I feel like if he is not making the return call a priority then maybe he is not into me like I want him to be.

the Sags are making light of his disinterests in you. I can tell you from experience with many Sags, that if they truly want something - they will be all over it.
He's not making you priority. Move on. You know this already, so stop hoping for "what if" - leave and you will see him run back to you, because Sags can't stand having someone slip away. Remover yourself completely, ignore at least 3 calls and 3 texts from him and you will see him hover over you, if he still has any interest. If not... you cut your loses and will be ahead of being dumped with by him while he wears white gloves and eases you into it.

I'd say... cut your loses. He is what he is, you will not change him, why want someone who is not making you priority and does not have to decency to answer in a simple way as in " sorry, hun, I'm tied up a bit, give me a couple days" kwim?

Thanks for all the responses but roamingfree, I think I agree most with yours. I will do the 3 thing ignoring and see what happens. The problem is I get bored and on some days, I don't really care and think of contacting him. But at the bottom of it all, your last paragraph made the most sense in my Gemini world. A simple text is not that hard to do and if he can't do that, I need to roll.

Thanks again!

Good advice!

Thanks girls!! I knew you guys would have my back... 🙂

Posted by Lizuz
The problem is I get bored and on some days, I don't really care and think of contacting him.

we all do this. we get bored, we call, not because we are needy but we are bored. so, next time, call/text all your friends first, then email the ones you email, then post stuff on all your fbook friends walls, by the time you are done, you will be ok and talked out 😉.
hang in there girlie, it's that darn fire sign that consumes us... take a deep breath and roam free, you are good at this as a gem for sure!

🙂

You know roamingfree, if I could learn to hold a damn grudge, I probably would be better off! LOL

My best girlfriend is a Scorpio and can be a mean mother#ucker, she just despairs over me! I am her exact opposite and with my air attitude, it seems like nothing sticks!! I have no enemies because I can always see the other side and forgiveness to me is like breathing. Odd thing is no-one has really ever treated me badly and yeah, in this case he could have been better but we could also be dead so why not just keep it moving and sit in gratitude? Like my girlfriend says, if I saw him I would give him a glare and then hug it out. Hopeless, just hopeless...haha!

Glad you get the calling thing, I wish more people understood that about Gems. We like to communicate and it is sometimes not even about the recipient! LOL Anyway, keeping busy and thanks again for the advice!

Exactly!

You know this is very interesting! Is the forgiveness thing a Gem thing? Not only that, I perceive it to be a strength position whatever the situation because I guess at the end of the day, whatever the person did really, deep down (c'mon Gems be honest) just does not affect us. And I am really not sure why because, I'm not a stone or anything...

I have to admit that I tend to enjoy to the shock when the person realizes that you are cool and there is no drama over what they did. I am very direct, which is shocking for some too so I just tell people and move on. So I totally get what DeeGee is saying, because it is duly noted even though I don't waste the time in the negative emotions.

Are we all like this??

yes and no.

wait till you get really., tremendously hurt - then you will remember and you will not not care, nor be as forgiving. it will be done and over with. no matter how understanding we can be.
I don't believe we forgive - we don't get to the part where we get knickers in the knot to forgive, we instinctively know that their truth is different then ours and that all can be viewed from all sides.

If you're not attached via love, kids, marriage, I'd personally run for the hills. Just saying.

Ok update time ladies! So cause you knew I was gonna, lol, I called him last Thursday. He answered and was really flat and sad sounding. I said that I was just calling cause he was ill. While talking the call failed. I texted I would call that aft and did. However got voicemail. I left a message saying that something's off with us and wondered what that was. I said if we are done, that's cool, but just let me know as I don't want to run into him and feel awkward. I said let keep our memories good. The final thing I said was we were all about honesty and friends at the end of the day. I felt so good about that! Whew! Load off of my mind. I don't know if he will come back, but I think he will because ladies, it wasn't really that serious and I really don't get how we got here, lol. But on the other hand, he is a Sag and they seem to be all about them. Yesterday was his birthday and I did not call because I did not want to crowd if that was the problem and secondly, I am kinda feeling all done. So that is that! Unfortunately, it's becoming a little game now and if he does come back all I will be thinking is , 'gotcha you little bastard'. Lololol what a pity cause it could have been a really good friendship!

Btw melindakane, we are both may 24! Hey twinnie!