Should I set my Gemini free?

I have been dating a Gemini in secret. It is hard to keep him. He is too social and like 2 different people. Recently he said he loved me when I helped him look into housing. Pulling a Gemini out of a slump can help keep him loyal for a bit. Last week he texted me to get on the bus at our center to get on the bus with him, which he never does. I got on another bus late and had to meet him later at the store. He has been very freaky with me overall in texts mostly. We have sexual chemistry and have been intimate.

We also had a date this weekend that he cancelled at the last minute. On Friday he told me his landlord and another person was coming to help him in his place. I said maybe I could come by later. He called back on Saturday morning to cancel because he would rather hang with his drinking buddy than be intimate with me. He is such a freak as he says yet prefers his friends and some booze lol. I suspect females were involved. This guy is a social butterfly and ladies man. He is very handsome and has swag too.

We rescheduled the date for his birthday on May 31, 2016 Gemini man said he would call today or I can text or call. I told him how I felt in a humorous way today in a text and he doesn't reply. Recently I asked where I stand and said I wanted more. He went back to his old I'm terrified of commitment since he dumped his ex story. Recently he also said I got him and said he can't wait until the waiting list opens for housing by me so he can be by me. I asked about other women and he said he's got friends and that I'm in the past.

I did not dance at our center dance recently. I feel judged and my real boyfriend is around and might have said something. I sat and watched my lover dance with all the Spanish women. I talked to people. Gemini said recently I need to loosen up before disappearing on Saturday morning. He said we in reference to the center people, we like to have fun. It sounded cruel to me. I say everyone is different. Sometimes he is mean when he speaks. Usually he' s smiling with positivity..

I'm a Virgo in many ways and sensitive and feel conservative on the outside. Gemini man is outgoing and more into fun and games. I'm more responsible. He has a friend at our center I am jealous of. Gemini man says she welcomed him when he was new and he will not drop his friends. I only resent one he used to be with and he would gravitate to throughout the day. He says she is too old At the buffet they go off together in their own isolated spot and I'm envious. My Gemini says he will not deal with my securities and tries to ignore my remarks. I stopped going to the buffets. In the past he said he would work on not being with this friend of his so much. He looked like he liked her. He was outside more until she came in. Than he sat with her throughout the day or stood around with her. They both have happy carefree personalities. I am more detached and serious. Should I work on letting this man go?

Wait, you said you are dating him on the side and yet you have a real boyfriend? What the fuck?

Dating in secret?

Is this TaureanGal92?

As soon as opposed stated Gemini in secret red flags went flying.

My boyfriend is a lot older in my boyfriend has told me move on when he's angry. He is very disrespectful and he is in bad health. He is rarely around for me. I do not consider him a boyfriend lately. He is nursing home material and likely will be there soon because he is trying to get an operation procedure. How does one go about sweeping a Gemini off their feet? I am intellectual and Geminis are drawn to that. Geminis like this one I date are more into their friends. This Gemini has told me he likes everything about me. We both have a great sense of humor but I am reserved and he is more carefree and outgoing. I am going to work on being solo and dealing with this Gemini as a casual friend because it would be easier on me. This Gemini is so handsome though and he knows how to manipulate me with words. This is what sucks me in. I am a Virgo- Libra cusp and have been hooked on several Geminis. My Libra side wants the Gemini more than my Virgo side lol.

Men play round so women can too. I treat others how they treat me including boyfriends. People asked about my boyfriend and I gave my honest opinion. Don't ask if you do not want an answer🙂

Posted by exxtasyx
If a Gemini truly likes you, they will claim you as soon as they can, they will want to be around you 24/7, they will be infatuated with you. But you have to sweep them off their feet.

To me, it sounds like he's not that into you, but kind of is, so he's stringing you along to keep you as a side-dish option.

Ignore him, delete him from your life and move on. I'm a Gemini and I've met some Gemini's like this and they are horrific people.

how do you sweep a Gemini off his feet?

Posted by blackphase

Posted by VirgoLibraChris
Men play round so women can too. I treat others how they treat me including boyfriends. People asked about my boyfriend and I gave my honest opinion. Don't ask if you do not want an answer🙂

By the sounds of it your boyfriend isn't doing so well and is in need of care.. Sounds like a good time to go fishing for a new dick..

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Damn.

Questions:

1. this thread seems to be about "keeping" a person to you, to want loyally ..... In first paragraph, you state that to keep a man loyal to you, the partner (for lack of correct word, because you certainly aren't a partner to neither) can do so for short periods of time by providing services. In your example - you assisted in a slump.

So, my question is: By keeping a partner to you, what do you believe that entails in terms of giving/receiving to each other?

2. second paragraph, you describe to us a situation in where you seem to be ok (according to your chosen words), and even justify his careless attitude with you and your worth.

So, my question is: What do you believe your worth is to your boyfriend/lover (Gem)

3. this paragraph is you describing how you put him on spots to define your relationship with him, you keep telling him how you feel trying to get some clarity. You make the suggestion to him that you want more from him.

So, my question is, since it's already been established in second paragraph that you don't have worth to him, and the proof here is in his disrespectful attitude towards you and your feelings: What is it you want from him, or any man? You say you want of him. You mean more disrespectful treatment of you?

This one confuses me. His actions are loud and clear, and I'm baffled over why you want him to make a commitment in maintaining you in this position.

4. first sentence of 4th paragraph, you said you felt "judged". By who? for what? Please explain the situation that took place for you to have this resentment. Also, you said, "It sounded cruel to me." ... and I don't know what you were referring to, what sounds cruel to you?

I'm not clear what happened, in where his actions are being cruel to you. Do you mean because you were left to feel slighted (like your REAL boyfriend does)? ... and that's unfair to you, and your sensitivities? Do you mean it's cruel of him to be so careless with your feelings?

5. please explain this sentence, "in many ways sensitive". What are some of these many ways that you believe you are sensitive? In this paragraph, you proceed to talk about how you experience jealousy and envy - are those the sensitivities you are referring to?