standing up to a gemini

oh i have a sweet libra moon and we hate conflict. but we also hate being taken advantage of. i am gem rising so i understand a little. so...how do i approach the gem man and let him know i am not pleased with his actions...without him running for the hills? i can definitely control my temper...just for some reason i feel he is testing me and it is pissing me off. a lot of manipulation and control/power plays going on. so whats a gal to do?

Honestly? Give him a B.J. Sounds crazy, I know. But, hey, I wouldn't run for the hills during that conversation. Just sayin. See, it worked on me already!! 😉

~GM

well actually gemini mind the sex is part of the problem. its always on his terms...in fact a lot is. trust me...i am up for a bj anyday! i love it! but he does the random drop a hint and flee. if i throw it out there...he will not respond. its so frustrating.

Well, to be honest, I used to get the same complaints. That's because we Gems tend to look for the "One". Everyone else is just a means to an end. To us our biggest erogenous zone is our mind. It's never, EVER about the physical first. To us, to make us stick around is to stimulate our minds. The bj will always be there. Pussy and Dick is abundant. "So, what else ya got?" is what I will always say.

Know this: For a Gemini man, it's always about value. Find out what his values are and see if you fit any of them. Once done, then you'll know exactly what to do. Start by asking him a question pertaining to his 'core' values. Not fluff talk, he'll see through it and be offended (speaking from experience).

What's your sun sign m'lady?

~GM

you know its funny bcuz thats how we really hit it off at first. we chatted a lot online and we had great conversations. i am gem rising, cancer sun, libra moon. and i am quirky and very intelligent...but i am super sweet too. i love deep conversations but now i can't even get anything started with him because he is always disappearing. that is one thing...if u dont give it a chance of course u will never know. i think the "one" is a cop-out. no one is perfect...so the "one" only lasts until they show their flaws and eventually they will. so i can text him a bunch...keep him engaged but then i am not giving him space. which i really do give him space...weeks even. so tell me how do i approach the core values? i don't want to pry...and how can i get him stick around long enough to really talk? you know i think he sold himself as something he isn't anyway...so i am not sure how many of those core values he really is willing to pursue. one thing i find about gems is they seem to be lacking depth. they want it but getting really deep is also intimate and emotional and they just end up fleeing from that.

This is why the Cancer/Gemini combo rarely works. The Cancer is just too rigid for the Gemini. Cancer people tend to be way to internalized and rigid for the extroverted and mutable Gemini. With what you just said spoke volumes why he disappears. There isn't a cop-out, no, not at all. The rigidity shows through when you say this because there is a "one". I mean aren't you looking for the "one" as well? Or, like most water signs, are you looking for someone based on how they make you feel about yourself? This is the most selfish trait in all of humanity. WE HATE THAT!!! I've posted something on another thread about this combination. I've dated a Cancer and she drove me nuts with her emotional, clingy, wanting to know everything about me persona. It's just not what we do sweets, sorry. Believe me when I tell you that the planets are so much more important than the signs. We are Mercurians, we always are at least 3 to 5 years ahead of most people. Which is why we tend to be in and out. Most Gems would admit this. We ALWAYS know how things will end. We don't always follow this rule. But, it is true.

Don't you think a Gemini knows that everyone has flaws? We do, we are just looking for the tallest midget is all. Some things we just cannot overcome. Overly emotional people is one.

One thing I've noticed about Cancer people is that they have this 'mystery' thing going. When I found out it's not mystery at all, and just fear-based, internalized emotions, with the scheming mentality, I bounced. I've dealt with many Cancers and they all have been unfaithful people to their spouses. Which is where some of that mystery comes in. Cancers and Pisces tend to look for connections via emotional and physical content. These times really suck for you guys because society is based on b.s. and falsehoods. You guys get hurt more than any other sign I know of. What's up is down, and vice-versa. Once you have to deal with the realities of the world, it hits you right in your sensitive, emotional hearts.

I think he might know that as well, and knows it's just a matter of time before you blow, right? You do have a lot of emotions deep in your heart as you read this, right?

One think I did notice, is that you didn't give him a label in your life. What is this Gemini man to you, princess?

~GM

I meant 'thing'. Sorry.

he is not my boyfriend, we are lovers is the best i can put it. we have had some very intimate moments of friendship and i feel like i could tell him anything and he knows i am here for him when and if he needs me.

i am not looking for someone based on how they make me feel about myself. i truly respect him, value him and care about him. he is the smartest person i've ever met and i think that is amazing and i would love to learn from him. because i will never stop learning and growing. i will learn to be stronger emotionally...and that is where my true self will shine. i strive for that and i will until i have it mastered. and this actually has a lot to do with the people i am choosing to be in my life right now. i have eliminated those that are weak in spirit and aligning myself with those of strength and character. i can only hope that i would bring something positive to the table in terms of value to him. i would love a relationship in which we were both growing and striving for a better life. that is my ultimate goal. a true partnership. if i am not moving ahead...i am not living. all i can do is make that happen for myself and i if i have someone to share it with...even better!

sure i am looking for an emotional, spiritual, intellectual combination in the "one". and i thought i found the "one" before but it was not meant to be. and i think you are right that i based it on feeling and not on truth. i had to learn the hard way. maturity does that. i think he is the "one" but i would never push that on him...things should unfold as they will.

i am flexible...very open-minded...adventurous...not clingy...i am independent...but also down-to-earth. yes i read this and i am emotional...but i am rationalizing it. i would not say i am overly emotional. i have had some extremely challenging things in my life and always stood strong. i will just move on...never the type to blow. but...i would like to do it in the right way. if we both know it will end...i should just end it before i get even more involved. you are probably right. in fact you are very right about a lot of it and i love reading it because it reminds me so much of him and the way he would say things. really opens up my mind...instead of looking at things from my heart. so if i end it...i would like to know that i left maybe a sprinkle or glimmer of hope that he will see my worth in his life 😉 ...how should i go about doing that? thank you sooo much!

Rationalizing whilst crying no doubt! LOL! If you move on, he'll wonder why and chase you. If you don't you will always feel insecure. Quite the pickle, pickle. Hmmmmmm.......Eureka! I've got it! Tell him the truth! Tell him how you feel, yet you have to end whatever it is that you're ending. Are you as you say...in love with him— Or do you just love his mind and how he makes you feel sexually? Oh wait, that's an oxymoron isn't it?

Did you know that Gemini's love deeper than any other sign that I've come across? It seems that we know what true love actually is. The people that we encounter feel this almost immediately. It's got to be hard for those people since we can be in and out of their lives sometimes. Trust me when I tell you that just because we aren't around does not mean that we are not "around". Can you dig it? Gemini's (especially the men) are harvesters. When you don't see us, we aren't banging anything that comes along (although we could). We are gathering much needed information that the masses truly need (messengers) I would bet almost anything that whenever he comes around you he has something 'new' to share with you, right? Believe me, this is the greatest gift that you can receive, because we have a DIRECT connection with the divine since we are the messenger/warriors of the divine, being Mercurians and all. Virgos too, but most of them are idiots because they have too many stupid standards. Which is why they tend to have stomach problems and they dwinky a bit too muchy! When a Mecurian tells you something, stop what you're doing and pay close attention. We don't know why we know what we know. We just friggin know. *shrugs* It's a burden, believe me. When he comes back around just TALK to him! Don't go trying to be all touchy feely. Just have a conversation, and I bet that will be the best sex your ass have ever had. I'm speaking from experience here, missy.

Because of the dumbing down of society people don't exercise their minds the way they are meant to. Thus, people tend to think with that emotional content as apposed to thinking with their brains. Sigh.....it sucks I know. Marketing people should all be killed. No, seriously.

Now, don't get me wrong. I love all sun signs. It's the individual that's isn't developed that I can't stand. Some people are just stuck on stupid. Away with them! You are quite blessed m'lady. You found a Gemini. You can have everything you want in that one person that 8 can't equate to. Yay for yo

I meant Yay for you!!

~GM

Are you a Libra LibraLuv, or just loving Libra's? If the former, then you already know what to do my elemental sibling. 😉

~GM

AAAAWWWWW Shucks!!! Yeah, Virgos are like are my Mercurian siblings but they are stooooopid!!!!

~GM

Libra's and Cancers have much in common you know? 😉 MUCH in common!

~GM

Posted by LibraLuv
Please enlighten me on this commonality that you are speaking of GM——?

The hermit nature and the fact that you guys internalize your emotions until you snap. Also, you both then to try to be a friend to everyone for fear that you will be exposed as being scheming and conniving. 😉

~GM

I'm so proud of you, baby!!! Outstanding!!! You get a gold star for the day!!! Now, you must practice grasshoppa!!

~GM

Unfortunately the Cancerians have a hard time with that. You are one of the few signs that believes in reason. Why don't you educate them? Especially those weak, scurrdy Cancer men. Really, they could use your calm rational to teach them that their epitaph will read: "They died because they didn't learn the art of communication". Help them, Scales!!!! You can do it!!!

~GM

Oh m'lady I think you know that we Gems are far from sarcastic. Everything I said, I truly meant. Now that you know that, how does that make you feel? You've been around rigid earth for way too long sweets. Come home, to reality!!! See, when a Gem tells the truth, we tell in all of its splendor. Thus, the weak will 'react' with anger, resentment, and hostility. You, my balanced friend knew to ponder, let swirl around a bit. Which is why we have this beautiful dialog.

~GM

Anytime sweets! Dream lightly!

~GM