TO ALL MY GEMINI PEOPLE....

I need some help please! What have you done to help you get over someone? Not just anybody, but someone that you just can't seem to shake NO MATTER how hard you try! I'm stumped and need some help...

valium?

I asked the same question not too long ago here and was given some pretty good answers. First you want to keep your self respect, dignity and self worth.. so whatever you do don't beg, call ( if they tell you not to) or go Krazy!! You will look back on it and truly regret it. Besides that I was told to basically mourn, allow the hurt to run it's course, cry, take some time for yourself to get it out. You don't want to overwhelm yourself with work, or the Gym or anything else, because in the long run you are just running away and all those emotions will eventually catch up with you and your worse off. You want to allow the hurt & pain but don't DWELL on it. Get, get out, reconnect with friends you may not have had much time for while in a relationship. Start focusing on your finances, bills, career and improving yourself.

For me each day gets better and it doesn't hurt as much as it did the day before. I still think of her everyday, but that stabbing heartache shows up less and less each day. I have really been focusing on me, what makes me happy in a relationship, how I can be a better person for my family, myself and my job. I have been focused on my studies and I have even went out on a blind date. Use this time to search your soul and learn about who you are NOW. I realize that I evolved and matured in my relationship, and what I wanted out of a relationship 2 years ago, I no longer desire. I also wrote out a list, and the negative aspects of my former relationship outweighed the positive! I had 30 negative aspects I had wrote and only 5 positive aspects. Sometimes we as people just don't like to be rejected and it makes us automatically want to chase someone and makes it hard to move on.

But, good luck to you on your journey to self discovery

I'm a Gemini Moon also - pretty much everything TOC said.

I do find it easier to detach having a lot of air in my chart but as TOC said the key is to completely ice them out, remove everything associated with them from your life - for me I tell myself "they no longer exist" and keep busy with other things.

I'm sure I saw you post on the Scorp board though so I'm assuming that's who it is? Good luck with that lol I'm trying to ice out one as we speak.

I have pretty much wiped him from my life though - I even went as far as to delete a couple of his friends who had friended me on FB after I'd been on some nights out with them so that I don't have to see his name/pictures of him whatever.

@wineaux - you have just given me another good solid reason to purchase an iphone lol.

P.S.

The ignore part is spot on also. Because even if what you text/say back is negative you're still giving them a response which = tells them you still care. Ignoring them tells them loud and clear that you have no interest regardless of what they have to say. They'll eventually get the message. 🙂

out of sight...out of mind...works for me 🙂

I would say pulling the disappearing card (im a gemini) do arts, dance, look at hot guys without comparing them to the you know who, or you could stop yourself from even trying to talk to them and it works wonders, and also pray.

Posted by theekolorful1
I need some help please! What have you done to help you get over someone? Not just anybody, but someone that you just can't seem to shake NO MATTER how hard you try! I'm stumped and need some help...

Alright, here goes:

For ME, the relationship starts to end before it actually ends. If that makes any sense. Gemini's always know how things will end to be truthful. Some deal with it differently. I tend to start allowing the other person to set themselves up for failure, from there that person changes into a different person. I know, it's diabolical, but I don't give no fuck! Too much is at stake. Something had to happen for me to do this. If a woman doesn't practice what she preaches is a colossal thing for me. I'll take a bullet for the ones I love. But, man, that comes with a lot of testing. Yes, Gemini's test people, now you all know why. So, I get over people before they realize that it's over. In management it's called "running paper". Harsh? Stay with me.

Example:

I'll ask a person something to the effect of: "Are you sure?" Look them right in the eye, and if they say yes? The clock starts ticking. The minute that they break their OWN code of honor, makes them the weakest, most despicable human being on this here planet. Sounds extreme? Hmph. Think about it. If you can't be true to yourself, you for damn sure are not going to be true to me! One thing I hate more than anything is to waste my time when I could be doing something constructive. If you tell me that you don't like fried chicken, don't let me catch your ass down at the Popeye's drive thru!! Cuz, I'm gonna confront you and ask: "Thought yo ass said you didn't like fried chicken?! 'check'" Okay, that was over the top. But, you get my drift.

See, my love is true, and it gets into everything! Yes, EVERYTHING! All facets of that persons life. So yes, love is forever. I know that the other person will see that after the fact. Then I get that 3am phone call 8 years down the road. Aint dat a bitch? Never fails. They shoulda had their mind right.

There are over 7,000,000,000 people on this planet. I'm sure I can get over 1. I found that one, I'll find another one. Damn, that sounded cold.............SO! 😄

~GM

Posted by Mr Nice
Something else I did that also helped was writing a list about all the things I did not like about that person.

Next time write while you're with them! 😛

Not sure if you're feeling better now theekolorful1, and I hope the moment you wrote this was a moment of weakness. Which is normal, best you get them out in any way that isn't calling/contacting them and sounding desperate.

For me, I'm in a Scorp-Gem (I'm the Gem..damn straight I am haha!) the bond is strong. Your body may ache, your soul may long for those lovely conversations that brightened up your days. BUT please remember all the reasons you walked away.

How do I know you walked away? Gems don't try and get over someone till *they* have decided they no longer want to be with the person. Till such time, they will fight a breakup in some way, try not to let it happen, try and fix what may be broken.

Good luck, chicki, be strong, be good, and have faith in your decision. And from my experience with Scorps, please stay away from the friend zone till you are truly sure you wont fall back into the abyss of square one.

Posted by Mr Nice
Something else I did that also helped was writing a list about all the things I did not like about that person.

I actually did this as well. It was a list of all the very horrible things he had done to me over the course of our doomed relationship. Any time I started to get nostalgic over his dumb butt, I would pull out my list and relive some of those delightful episodes of emotional torture. You get over the nostalgia pretty quickly!

Oh yeah...he was a Scorpio.

Posted by TasteOfChaos
I have a Gem Moon, can I play?

Yea?

Ok 😄

I like to try and remain friends, although sometimes thats just not possible...

So if the relationship ended badly or I'm just wanting SPACE and time away from him...

1. Delete them from my contact list. Email/Phone/Facebook... etc (kinda drastic, but sometimes its for the best)
2. Completely ignore ALL texts/calls/emails
3. Put all photos and gifts away in a box(I dont throw out the photos or gifts I once cherished - Although if I REALLY hated them, Id probably burn the shit) Out of sight, out of mind!

Basically I just go ice cold and "die" on the person...until they finally give up hope and leave me alone 😄

I find it quite easy to just *disappear* 🙂

and Im not really a drunk dialer either... usually when I get drunk, I pretty much forget I have a phone... until someone messages me, then its drunken text babbling ALL NITE BABY!!

It is possible to get rid of someone from your life, you just have to WANT them out of your life... I hear some chicks say "he wont leave me alone... yet they are still answering his calls/text.. etc!?

Just ignore ignore ignore!

Unless they are a Scorp, then you're FUCKED... so make sure you lock your windows and doors at nite...

Good luck!

same here...its still not easy. im trying to get over my scorp right now.

Posted by Sultanaa

Posted by Whimsy

Posted by Mr Nice
Something else I did that also helped was writing a list about all the things I did not like about that person.

I actually did this as well. It was a list of all the very horrible things he had done to me over the course of our doomed relationship. Any time I started to get nostalgic over his dumb butt, I would pull out my list and relive some of those delightful episodes of emotional torture. You get over the nostalgia pretty quickly!

Agree!!!!!!! Sometimes keeping lists helps a lottt!!!! the most hurtful ones, the ones that have a chance of re-occurring...

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sultanaa, thanks for answering on my thread...is it weird that all gems are finally mustering the courage to cleanse their lives of poison, be it people or other things...i know i am. this is the third gem/scorp relationship thsi month that i know of where the gem has FINALLY called it quits.

I wrote this email to a scorpio man 24 hours ago when I decided I'd had enough and wanted to get off the now you want me now you don't you say you love me then you forget to call me for days crap (and this was after trying a friends only breakup for a month - which ended up being FWB so now I'm doing no friends no nothing):
Cab't help wondering if there is something in the planets right now that is making Gem-Scorp combos break up?

(THis email is obviously edited a bit )

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You've had more second chances with me to get it right than you deserve. I'm sorry it had to end this way, but I was warning you I'd lose the love for months. You sucked me back in with words each time, but there were never actions to follow it up. I just can't believe I always fell for all that BS. You just want what you can't have, and once you have it, you have no idea what to do with it, how to keep those promises, so you just carry on with your life forgetting the person exists in your life...

No one is ever too busy or stressed to talk to someone they love for 5 min. Coz they are a part of their body and soul. You don't forget to take 5 min off for a bladder call do you? That's how much a person I love is part of my

system. I will make time above all the other crazy things to ensure I contribute to their happiness and that they feel supported and connected to me every single day. You obviously don't have the same idea of love.

Do you know the last time you and I went out off the house for dinner/movie was September?

You're not getting me back.
Not for a night, not as friends, not on messenger, not on the phone.
Not even to talk about getting back.
Never.

Just get out of my life, and stay out.

Stop calling me, and start getting over me. I'm going to do the same.

This is my last communication to you. Anything you send to my email from gmail or work will autodelete.

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I'm like you Gemini Mind! I agree & I see the end before they do! I know what I cannot accept & I take it from there.

Hey Fox! You got a little Stevie Nicks thing going on! 😉