Update! Getting Gemini Back - Story Ahead

***UPDATE: first of all thank you to everyone for their comments/thoughts on this topic which was posted seperately. This is a continuation to my other post which describes the story from the start.

I decided to take a 2 week trip around Europe for my birthday and went along with a buddy from college. Throughout my trip, I thought about her and our situation, so I shared my story with my friend who provided some insight. He could tell I loved her so he insisted if I really wanted her back, I should try, but first with a sincere apology about what was done and what could have been better.

Keep in mind that since she moved on, the only way shes communicated with me has been through a messaging app (so as to not reveal her number) since her BF changed her number. She contacted me through this app twice before a few weeks back. Anyways, since we last texted, she did tell me that would be the last time I would hear from her since she would be deleting the app and would no longer speak to me behind her boyfriend's back. Therefore, I wasn't sure if she would ever read my text.

The first message to her after some weeks of not communicating was a sincere apology. To my surprise, she responded after an hour in which she agreed that I did not do enough for her and that everything was about critizing her and how she felt I took her for granted. She went on to tell me that she had been dreaming about me lately and that that was the only reason she downloaded the app. She went on a rant, texting me 10 messages straight on how she did so much for me yet I never cared for her much. All I did this time was just be more sympathetic and agree that I could have done better. She admitted that she also did wrong by moving on quick but that she needed someone to love her the way she hoped I could love her.

She wished me a happy birthday and I thanked her for it and said our byes. 10 minutes later she texts me that I deserve someone who is a college graduate, with the same level of work experience as me, etc. I sent a really clear message that finding the right person to growth with and drive/motivate each other is key and everything we've accomplished together has been great. It's about finding the right person to share them is what makes the misery enjoyable. She agreed.

**The lines of communication were open.

A week later, I texted her in the afternoon (morning in the US due to the time difference) and to my surprise she texted me back immediately asking "why am I up so early". Before a response could be made she also asked if I was with anyone cause she dreamt of me being with someone. I told her I wasn't with anyone but that I was sick with a cold. She then of course proceeds to advise me to find someone like her who will take care of me like she used to, however, that it will be hard, she says.I agreed. She asked if I was talking to anyone but I said I didn't want to rush into anything so in other words, I wasn't. She proceeded to keep bringing up how she felt and how bad I treated her, so I apologized again. I didn't do much to text other than just read and confirm that i could have done better.

She mentioned that she was only speaking to me cause I was very special to her and her sons life so she wanted to remain friends, though her boyfriend is very afraid that she would leave him for me and therefore he's gone through her phone to delete the hundreds of pictures we've had together - however - confirming that she still has them in her computer. We kept texting bit and throughout the conversation she kept focusing on how I treated her.

3 hours later she calls me to see how I was with my cold. Since it's been some time we haven't spoke over the phone, I took the chance to tell her she was making a mistake and how she knows deep in her heart that she still loves me. She didn't say anything but just listened (even when I told her that i know she's settling). I promised to send her pics for her son (who I was very close to).

Upon sending her my most recent pictures in Paris, she immediately said that I looked very happy which she seemed to be surprised about. Seconds later, she asked who I was with, who took the pictures even to mention that she knows i must be having sex, considering how good i was in bed. Even though i said that i kept thinking about her and haven't been ready to move on, she stayed on this topic for a while, claiming that i was such a ladies man and therefore can't picture me alone. I expressed to her that she could think whatever she wanted but since i already lost her, what point was there to lie.

We went on to talk about the baby and I sent her pics which she was grateful for and told me that our times together we're some of the best times of her life. We left on a positive note.

**Everything seemed to be working.

I got back to the US and reached out to her with my an attempt to see if we can meet. She immediately texted me that she needed to tell me something...that she was getting married and will be moving in with him soon.

Not really a surprise after everything but still shocking considering they've only been dating a month and a half and everything else's mentioned before in my first post.

I didn't respond to her message which prompted her within minutes to text me a series of messages of how I was being immature for not responding. An hour later she called me to talk (which I wasn't available to pick up) texting me saying she hoped that we could remain friends and treat each other with the same "sweetness" we always had with one another.

Since i never did respond, she then texted again stating that she understands and respects my decision to not respond but that "we" would have never worked out but that she had hoped that i wouldnt hold a grudge as she has indeed suffered a lot throughout our relationship and was "very committed in us, body and soul, to make me happy and love me forever".

I never responded to her. My friend is confident that she's settling with this other guy and she still must have feelings for me but at this point has made her decision and is hoping to remain friends in case her plan to marry doesn't work out.



My dear Geminis in this site: what is she doing exactly??

Hey man! She is either a compulsive liar or mentally unstable. And a very silly manipulator, anyone can see what she is doing. Unreliable as fuck as well.

You, however, appear to be an intelligent, articulate man.

My question would be: Why are you wasting your time with your low-life ex? She beats any idiotic acting female I ever met in my life. What are you...pussy whipped? Thousand better pussy out there. Or can your ego not get over being dumped? Do you realize you are starting to act even more pathetic than she does?

Get out there and fell in love with someone better, like any of the remaining 99.9999999999% of females in your town.

Posted by Undine
Hey man! She is either a compulsive liar or mentally unstable. And a very silly manipulator, anyone can see what she is doing. Unreliable as fuck as well.

You, however, appear to be an intelligent, articulate man.

My question would be: Why are you wasting your time with your low-life ex? She beats any idiotic acting female I ever met in my life. What are you...pussy whipped? Thousand better pussy out there. Or can your ego not get over being dumped? Do you realize you are starting to act even more pathetic than she does?

Get out there and fell in love with someone better, like any of the remaining 99.9999999999% of females in your town.

Hey Undine!

You're so right. My friend tells me the same thing and is confident it's more of an ego thing. Previously, I've never been dumped before - especially like that - and have someone move on so quickly. Also, there's a couple of things I've been thinking that could have also made me realize why I'm acting like this:

- I really got close with her kid (who's about to turn 2 in a week)

- We both had amazing chemistry and we were very passionate (the best in any relationship I've ever been in)

- I've dated some pretty attractive girls before but they've all seemed very blah after a while. They would just let me do anything (which is ok, I guess) but this girl was not just beautiful but she wouldnt be afraid to challenge me sometimes. I liked that. Despite the fights, we always had that passion. She even knew it cause one of the texts she messaged me just recently (whether true or not) said that our passion was so unique, it was fire.

Then again you might call this love.

I just got to get over it! 🙂

Posted by Schenker87

Posted by Undine
Hey man! She is either a compulsive liar or mentally unstable. And a very silly manipulator, anyone can see what she is doing. Unreliable as fuck as well.

You, however, appear to be an intelligent, articulate man.

My question would be: Why are you wasting your time with your low-life ex? She beats any idiotic acting female I ever met in my life. What are you...pussy whipped? Thousand better pussy out there. Or can your ego not get over being dumped? Do you realize you are starting to act even more pathetic than she does?

Get out there and fell in love with someone better, like any of the remaining 99.9999999999% of females in your town.

Hey Undine!

You're so right. My friend tells me the same thing and is confident it's more of an ego thing. Previously, I've never been dumped before - especially like that - and have someone move on so quickly. Also, there's a couple of things I've been thinking that could have also made me realize why I'm acting like this:

- I really got close with her kid (who's about to turn 2 in a week)

- We both had amazing chemistry and we were very passionate (the best in any relationship I've ever been in)

- I've dated some pretty attractive girls before but they've all seemed very blah after a while. They would just let me do anything (which is ok, I guess) but this girl was not just beautiful but she wouldnt be afraid to challenge me sometimes. I liked that. Despite the fights, we always had that passion. She even knew it cause one of the texts she messaged me just recently (whether true or not) said that our passion was so unique, it was fire.

Then again you might call this love.

I just got to get over it! 🙂

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I'm in the same boat, trying to get over a Gem ex who dumped me. It's an ego thing, previously it took me 6 months of dating to even like him as a man! I am annoyed with myself. Must be my fixed Aqua Venus in Taurus house that won't let go without a fight. Probably if I get him back I would be :"whoa...I'm looking at him with fresh eyes and remember why it took me so long to like him!"

There is no going back from something as disturbing as he (and especially your ex) has done. The relationship will be a nightmare afterwards. I feel sorry for you in the case she comes back.

Passion? It is not love, but lust. It fades after about 1-2 years, or even much earlier if you are with someone as irrational as your ex. Feeling "at home" with someone is love. The feeling that you are lucky and content. I described it better in a recent thread about soul mates. Not tormented and bewildered like you are now.

Anyway, good luck to you. Don't start behaving as irrational as your ex. It's not her that makes you feel this way, it's you who does. They are YOUR feelings. Learn to control them. She was just a trigger at the right place and the right time.

Posted by NotSoInstant

Posted by Schenker87
***UPDATE: first of all thank you to everyone for their comments/thoughts on this topic which was posted seperately. This is a continuation to my other post which describes the story from the start.

I decided to take a 2 week trip around Europe for my birthday and went along with a buddy from college. Throughout my trip, I thought about her and our situation, so I shared my story with my friend who provided some insight. He could tell I loved her so he insisted if I really wanted her back, I should try, but first with a sincere apology about what was done and what could have been better.

Keep in mind that since she moved on, the only way shes communicated with me has been through a messaging app (so as to not reveal her number) since her BF changed her number. She contacted me through this app twice before a few weeks back. Anyways, since we last texted, she did tell me that would be the last time I would hear from her since she would be deleting the app and would no longer speak to me behind her boyfriend's back. Therefore, I wasn't sure if she would ever read my text.

The first message to her after some weeks of not communicating was a sincere apology. To my surprise, she responded after an hour in which she agreed that I did not do enough for her and that everything was about critizing her and how she felt I took her for granted. She went on to tell me that she had been dreaming about me lately and that that was the only reason she downloaded the app. She went on a rant, texting me 10 messages straight on how she did so much for me yet I never cared for her much. All I did this time was just be more sympathetic and agree that I could have done better. She admitted that she also did wrong by moving on quick but that she needed someone to love her the way she hoped I could love her.

She wished me a happy birthday and I thanked her for it and said our byes. 10 minutes later she texts me that I deserve someone who is a college graduate, with the same level of work experience as me, etc. I sent a really clear message that finding the right person to growth with and drive/motivate each other is key and everything we've accomplished together has been great. It's about finding the right person to share them is what makes the misery enjoyable. She agreed.

**The lines of communication were open.

A week later, I texted her in the afternoon (morning in the US due to the time difference) and to my surprise she texted me back immediately asking "why am I up so early". Before a response could be made she also asked if I was with anyone cause she dreamt of me being with someone. I told her I wasn't with anyone but that I was sick with a cold. She then of course proceeds to advise me to find someone like her who will take care of me like she used to, however, that it will be hard, she says.I agreed. She asked if I was talking to anyone but I said I didn't want to rush into anything so in other words, I wasn't. She proceeded to keep bringing up how she felt and how bad I treated her, so I apologized again. I didn't do much to text other than just read and confirm that i could have done better.

She mentioned that she was only speaking to me cause I was very special to her and her sons life so she wanted to remain friends, though her boyfriend is very afraid that she would leave him for me and therefore he's gone through her phone to delete the hundreds of pictures we've had together - however - confirming that she still has them in her computer. We kept texting bit and throughout the conversation she kept focusing on how I treated her.

3 hours later she calls me to see how I was with my cold. Since it's been some time we haven't spoke over the phone, I took the chance to tell her she was making a mistake and how she knows deep in her heart that she still loves me. She didn't say anything but just listened (even when I told her that i know she's settling). I promised to send her pics for her son (who I was very close to).

Upon sending her my most recent pictures in Paris, she immediately said that I looked very happy which she seemed to be surprised about. Seconds later, she asked who I was with, who took the pictures even to mention that she knows i must be having sex, considering how good i was in bed. Even though i said that i kept thinking about her and haven't been ready to move on, she stayed on this topic for a while, claiming that i was such a ladies man and therefore can't picture me alone. I expressed to her that she could think whatever she wanted but since i already lost her, what point was there to lie.

We went on to talk about the baby and I sent her pics which she was grateful for and told me that our times together we're some of the best times of her life. We left on a positive note.

**Everything seemed to be working.

I got back to the US and reached out to her with my an attempt to see if we can meet. She immediately texted me that she needed to tell me something...that she was getting married and will be moving in with him soon.

Not really a surprise after everything but still shocking considering they've only been dating a month and a half and everything else's mentioned before in my first post.

I didn't respond to her message which prompted her within minutes to text me a series of messages of how I was being immature for not responding. An hour later she called me to talk (which I wasn't available to pick up) texting me saying she hoped that we could remain friends and treat each other with the same "sweetness" we always had with one another.

Since i never did respond, she then texted again stating that she understands and respects my decision to not respond but that "we" would have never worked out but that she had hoped that i wouldnt hold a grudge as she has indeed suffered a lot throughout our relationship and was "very committed in us, body and soul, to make me happy and love me forever".

I never responded to her. My friend is confident that she's settling with this other guy and she still must have feelings for me but at this point has made her decision and is hoping to remain friends in case her plan to marry doesn't work out.



My dear Geminis in this site: what is she doing exactly??

I think it's time to block her. She has lost it. 😢

Was she this unstable when you guys were dating?

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Surprisingly, not at all. She was very committed to us. Even her younger sister (18) was surprised by her actions and apologized to me for everything.

Posted by aquarius_beauty
I have Gemini moon and she's just playing both sides of the fence. If she wanted you she'd be with you. But she's keeping you around as a blanket. I've done that.

She probably knows you are good for her but she has feelings for the other guy.

Either way OP you need to move on. This is becoming increasingly obsessive. I know us Aquarians can become obsessive about it but you have to let her go. She's just going to keep hurting you in the long run.

You're right and I appreciate your thoughts on this. Time to move on.

Posted by NotSoInstant

Posted by Schenker87

Posted by NotSoInstant

Posted by Schenker87
***UPDATE: first of all thank you to everyone for their comments/thoughts on this topic which was posted seperately. This is a continuation to my other post which describes the story from the start.

I decided to take a 2 week trip around Europe for my birthday and went along with a buddy from college. Throughout my trip, I thought about her and our situation, so I shared my story with my friend who provided some insight. He could tell I loved her so he insisted if I really wanted her back, I should try, but first with a sincere apology about what was done and what could have been better.

Keep in mind that since she moved on, the only way shes communicated with me has been through a messaging app (so as to not reveal her number) since her BF changed her number. She contacted me through this app twice before a few weeks back. Anyways, since we last texted, she did tell me that would be the last time I would hear from her since she would be deleting the app and would no longer speak to me behind her boyfriend's back. Therefore, I wasn't sure if she would ever read my text.

The first message to her after some weeks of not communicating was a sincere apology. To my surprise, she responded after an hour in which she agreed that I did not do enough for her and that everything was about critizing her and how she felt I took her for granted. She went on to tell me that she had been dreaming about me lately and that that was the only reason she downloaded the app. She went on a rant, texting me 10 messages straight on how she did so much for me yet I never cared for her much. All I did this time was just be more sympathetic and agree that I could have done better. She admitted that she also did wrong by moving on quick but that she needed someone to love her the way she hoped I could love her.

She wished me a happy birthday and I thanked her for it and said our byes. 10 minutes later she texts me that I deserve someone who is a college graduate, with the same level of work experience as me, etc. I sent a really clear message that finding the right person to growth with and drive/motivate each other is key and everything we've accomplished together has been great. It's about finding the right person to share them is what makes the misery enjoyable. She agreed.

**The lines of communication were open.

A week later, I texted her in the afternoon (morning in the US due to the time difference) and to my surprise she texted me back immediately asking "why am I up so early". Before a response could be made she also asked if I was with anyone cause she dreamt of me being with someone. I told her I wasn't with anyone but that I was sick with a cold. She then of course proceeds to advise me to find someone like her who will take care of me like she used to, however, that it will be hard, she says.I agreed. She asked if I was talking to anyone but I said I didn't want to rush into anything so in other words, I wasn't. She proceeded to keep bringing up how she felt and how bad I treated her, so I apologized again. I didn't do much to text other than just read and confirm that i could have done better.

She mentioned that she was only speaking to me cause I was very special to her and her sons life so she wanted to remain friends, though her boyfriend is very afraid that she would leave him for me and therefore he's gone through her phone to delete the hundreds of pictures we've had together - however - confirming that she still has them in her computer. We kept texting bit and throughout the conversation she kept focusing on how I treated her.

3 hours later she calls me to see how I was with my cold. Since it's been some time we haven't spoke over the phone, I took the chance to tell her she was making a mistake and how she knows deep in her heart that she still loves me. She didn't say anything but just listened (even when I told her that i know she's settling). I promised to send her pics for her son (who I was very close to).

Upon sending her my most recent pictures in Paris, she immediately said that I looked very happy which she seemed to be surprised about. Seconds later, she asked who I was with, who took the pictures even to mention that she knows i must be having sex, considering how good i was in bed. Even though i said that i kept thinking about her and haven't been ready to move on, she stayed on this topic for a while, claiming that i was such a ladies man and therefore can't picture me alone. I expressed to her that she could think whatever she wanted but since i already lost her, what point was there to lie.

We went on to talk about the baby and I sent her pics which she was grateful for and told me that our times together we're some of the best times of her life. We left on a positive note.

**Everything seemed to be working.

I got back to the US and reached out to her with my an attempt to see if we can meet. She immediately texted me that she needed to tell me something...that she was getting married and will be moving in with him soon.

Not really a surprise after everything but still shocking considering they've only been dating a month and a half and everything else's mentioned before in my first post.

I didn't respond to her message which prompted her within minutes to text me a series of messages of how I was being immature for not responding. An hour later she called me to talk (which I wasn't available to pick up) texting me saying she hoped that we could remain friends and treat each other with the same "sweetness" we always had with one another.

Since i never did respond, she then texted again stating that she understands and respects my decision to not respond but that "we" would have never worked out but that she had hoped that i wouldnt hold a grudge as she has indeed suffered a lot throughout our relationship and was "very committed in us, body and soul, to make me happy and love me forever".

I never responded to her. My friend is confident that she's settling with this other guy and she still must have feelings for me but at this point has made her decision and is hoping to remain friends in case her plan to marry doesn't work out.



My dear Geminis in this site: what is she doing exactly??

I think it's time to block her. She has lost it. 😢

Was she this unstable when you guys were dating?

Surprisingly, not at all. She was very committed to us. Even her younger sister (18) was surprised by her actions and apologized to me for everything.

I feel she loved you a lot, when I read your first thread I felt very sure about it. See, you gave us everything from your POV. As to why she couldn't meet your parents , etc,... I feel she was insecure about this relationship on few levels. Was there a disparity between you guys?

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Yea and it seemed to bother her a lot (she would always bring it up and insisted she wasn't good enough for me)

- Age (29 and she was 23)

- Education (I'm a college graduate and she's a high school graduate however she was keen on going back to school to pursue her bachelors and I was happy to help her and go back - which she did)

- Career (I'm an HR Business Partner and at the time I met her she was a cashier in my company - which never bothered me - however I did help her find a better job at a bank as she wanted to pursue something better)

All this should would always bring up (even in recent texts) that I should have always been with someone in my same level. I truly never cared for it though.

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Reply for the title: you can't get Gemini back!

You just don't lose us! If you did - get a life with whomever..

Update! This just happened now.

I just posted a picture of me and a couple of friends on a birthday dinner I had when traveling to Europe as my WhatsApp Profile Pic (this includes a friend who's a girl who next to me in the picture). Keep in mind that she's changed her number so I had no idea she would still be looking at my profile.

Literally two minutes after I changed my profile pic - she texted me a long message saying how fake I was about everything in the last couple of weeks, claiming that she's happy I've moved on cause it only proves her that she made the right decision to forget me (—)

I didn't respond and within minutes she texts me that she's expecting and is extremely happy. Saying "Another reason to be loyal and more committed than ever to my husband and family".

She went on to say that we weren't ever meant to be and what we had "just happened" wishing me and my new gf a happy life and warned me to stay away from fake people.

I didn't respond so again within minutes she texts me "be loyal to your new woman, there's nothing better than loyalty".



All this based on a group picture.

Very different from the pictures she's posted of her and her bf kissing.

What the hell?!!