Update on my Gemini guy situation...

Background: I reconnected with my Gemini ex (I'm an Aquarius) during January of this year and I was the reason why our relationship ended. So I basically sent him a message about how I want to start over to be just friend to which he agreed on. Several weeks later he starts flirting with me basically admitting he still finds me physically attractive after all these years. Now me still having strong feelings for him I was happy and I tried to seek the truth because in the past he resented me for lying to him. Eventually in March he admits that if we lived closer together( He lives in California and I live in Virginia) that he would date me with no second thoughts because he enjoys my company, he thinks I'm smart, he thinks I'm attractive, he likes me, and just thinks I'm overall awesome. He gives me with compliments whenever he possibly can too. However, he also has feelings for his ex gf who lives closer to him too. Also around that time I told him my true feelings and I told him that I love him pretty much always have. Which was super hard for me because I didn't want to be vulnerable and also I don't just have strong feelings for anyone.

Update: Now recently I sent him a photo of my newly pierced nipples and that got him wild, so I asked if I could get something in return because I was feeling frisky and before he sent me a picture, he said "I'm feeling frisky since I got laid for the first time in forever yesterday lol." I called him out on it and I told him that I'm glad he got laid, but did he really have to tell me that knowing that I have strong feelings for him. He then quickly said he was sorry that it slipped out and that it wasn't cool. So I asked him what am I too him and he replied that he was confused too but I'm a dear friend who he has known for a long time. So then I asked him what exactly is he confused about and this is what he said "Everything so I'm not sure how to answer your question and I'm not quite sure what you want me to say. Everyone wants something from me and I'm just like .///."

This is the first time he has ever done this to me so I'm not completely mad at him but I am confused as to why he would do that then claim that it just slipped out. Especially since we were over Facebook chat! I feel like regardless of his reason, he did want some sort of reaction from me because even though he didn't "think" before he typed it....he knows of my feelings towards him. Also I feel like I am always initiating conversations which isn't exactly a problem except for me it's just the fact I always feel like I am bothering him. I mean I don't contact him everyday but I just feel like I'm annoying him. He told me that's not the case but it's just that he is going through somethings and doesn't feel social because he doesn't want rely on others for his own issues.
So in the end of it all I don't know what to do a part of me wants to pull away but a part of me still wants to be in his friend. I think though right now the best thing is to keep my distance.

Posted by duchessedenemours
He told you because he wants you to give up on him.

I agree and that's the point blank of it all.

I think he is treating you as a friend. The flirting, the compliments etc. that is how i am will my friends, because its fun and i love them and want them to feel good about themselves and to see how awesome they are but it doesn't mean i want a relationship with them.

I think once the 'just friends' was established when you guys reconnected he treated you like a friend.

He mentions other women and getting laid because he wants to remind you that you are friends and nothing more.

My advice is distance yourself but still be friendly. You have to give yourself the chance to get over him.

*with not will, typo

I agree with what everyone else said. I also want to add that most Gems don't want to hurt people's feelings. We often give you hints that encourage you to move on so that we don't have to come right out and say we aren't interested, hurt you, and cause you to stop being our friend. He's giving you "The Hint" (although it should be much more than a mere hint when he tells you he's bedding another woman).

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I've noticed that maybe Aquarians don't realize what they have until it is gone...I wish it weren't that way because we Gems really live you and want you to be open and vulnerable because not everyone is going to take advantage of it

Some will...but heartbreak is just another painful lesson in life until we find the one who loves our heart the way it is