MyLittleUniverse
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What would you do? (Gem only please)
As a Gemini myself I would be upset, but I would also see if he would correct the situation and then if he don't I would have to step in and do so, but if that doesn't work I would have to end things with him cause at that point my trust in him will be gone
Posted by theDominoHello Domino. Your answer the less bitchy I've ever received. Thank you for that, I appreciate it.
If he tells you he hates you because he loves you, then he is madly in love with you and you're causing a significant amount of stress and restrictions on him. Nothing is flowing naturally and he feels cornered, with no where to turn. That doesn't mean he is not in love with you, as he clearly is, he is just being bombarded in some form, being it a restriction, that is making him hurt, emotionally.
As a Gemini, I'll tell you what you need to do.
1. Go talk to this fucking bitch and mark your territory. Gems, we love that. We love to feel appreciated for our efforts. We don't need a fancy plack, we don't need suck-ups, we just need to feel appreciated. He doesn't sound like he is being appreciated in a way that matters.
2. A sure sign of affection is standing up for your Gem and supporting his views as much as you support yours. We like to be challenged in our thoughts, but if we feel alone, we start reacting.
3. Do something special for him; remember the things you love about yourself and what he loves and express your interests. Do things that go beyond your boundaries (nothing stupid).
4. Expand; remove a lot of fences around him. He sounds horrifically corners, emotionally, and it sounds like you are putting more emphasis on yourself as opposed to each. He clearly does not sound happy but is clearly madly in love with you.
5. Stop thinking that you aren't fun. We would ditch in a heartbeat the moment we have no interest.
I always knew his hate wasn't a real hate but more of emotional conflict in him. I always told him, I'd rather you hate me than feel nothing and didn't made a big deal of it. Even told him, that's ok, I love you too in respond.
As for something special. I do many things for him. We share a great connection and many likes. I push him towards his dreams, something he has a hard time doing on his own. I make him advance in life, something I know he appreciate.
As for feeling alone, he's never alone in life. I'm always by his side.
I know he's not happy, we discussed it. But his views are those of a selfish man who wants total freedom regardless of what I want sometimes. It can be hard to make someone like that happy while being happy myself. Even putting my foot down means we will argue until he wins or 'defy' me by doing whatever it is I asked him to respect.
Posted by GeminariescharmerHe did showed me everything. He let me go through his phone, he sent me the photo when I asked for it too. He's been open about everything, and I know trust was an issue for him for a long time so I know he trust me.Posted by MyLittleUniverseYes as a gemini if i really love my so i would forgive n forget
My Gemini fiance and I have been together for 4 years. We recently discussed our future, and we decided to work on goals. A house, travels, buy brand new cars. Just improve our life together and work on life as a couple who love each other.
We hit some rough patches over the last year. He treated me like shit, even admitted hating me. Only to recently tell me that he hated me because he loves me. Immature I know. Like being in recess and throwing rocks at a girl you like.
In an effort to improve himself, we decided on a plan for us. If I see that he's being bad again, I have to put my foot down to stay the course of our goals. He understands his fault, and we gonna work on them together.
Last night, we talked about a girl he met last week. She's a friend. She doesn't respect boundaries at all. She's a cheating Sag who already has a boyfriend who's in a different state for school. She cheated on him twice, yet don't wanna leave him cause she loves him. She's much younger than my fiance. But she's fun. They talk a lot. She made a pass at my fiance who tells me everything about her. He showed me the picture she sent. Lingerie ones too. He told me he would handle it. I told him that I would handle it myself if need be. He agreed, but also got mad. Begging me not to talk to her yet. Even went to say that there would be consequences if I talk to her. A side of me wanna talk to her anyways and show I'm a strong woman to make sure she won't cross the line again.
As a Gemini, if your SO didn't listen to what you say in order to show a strong side that will help your relationship, would you forgive or be mad enough to end it?
If your gemini guy would show you stuff like that means you trust you alot, and that sag girl is just his plaything probbaly wouldnt leave you for her but just let him have some fun he would come back to you if he really loves you, but i got a tip for you do what a scorpio does best - rage whenever he shares this kinda stuff to you and make sure he doesn't chat with others (i dont know how u are gonna do it lol) so he would be fearful and restricted there you go, you conditioned himclick to expand
Posted by theDominoThank you.
What is special to you may not necessarily be AS special to him. Take note of that. That does not mean what you have done is wrong, bad, or not beneficial, it just doesn't mean that it hit him in the right spot, or he doesn't recognize it as he should. However, don't push him towards feeling it as even that would restrict us emotionally.
Do we need some boundaries, yes, and that is where you go into bitch-mode and crack down on this bitch that is going for your territory. Metaphorically, we need a hedge in our life. Something we can freely move through, gives us a sense of security but freedom. A fence, wall, etc. is detrimental to a Gemini.
Don't give up on the argument. Do what is needed with this bitch. Respect your stuff, your life, your self-worth. Kick this cunt to the curb.
We got in a fight today about the hedge. And it's something I try to do for him. Give him freedom as I know it's important, while being respected. I also know he likes when I say things clearly and I did. He told me he doesn't want a strong and aggressive woman, then told me that he wants to be able to do whatever he wants regardless if it's hurting me. (I know he's challenging me)
I told him I would never sacrifice what I believe in for our relationship and our goals just so he could be 100% free and leave me sad because of his selfishness. I explained that fighting for what I stand for isn't being aggressive, but rather expressing myself for the good of what we both want. He then got really upset, saying mean things. Only for him to change his tunes minutes after. Shifting his answers to more caring ones.
He said he wants to do things that makes him happy. Even if I'm hurt by his choices. Again, it's not about control. Rather about doing what is right for our relationship. Some of his choices are selfish. If he wants to sleep at a girls house because that will make him happy regardless of how I feel. That got nothing to do about control. He sees it as control, therefor causing a fight.
He again said that if I talk to this girl, he will break up with me. Knowing that this girl is very young, toxic, needy, and that he will pick her over me just to get his way. Which will lead to more fights and then him regretting hurting me.
Posted by MyLittleUniverseThis relationship doesn't sound very healthy...why would he even risk jeopardizing your future together? Just so he can have his own way? he is very immature indeed. I bet if tables were turned and you had an admirer he would be very upset and jealous. How old are you guys if you don't mind me asking?Posted by theDominoThank you.
What is special to you may not necessarily be AS special to him. Take note of that. That does not mean what you have done is wrong, bad, or not beneficial, it just doesn't mean that it hit him in the right spot, or he doesn't recognize it as he should. However, don't push him towards feeling it as even that would restrict us emotionally.
Do we need some boundaries, yes, and that is where you go into bitch-mode and crack down on this bitch that is going for your territory. Metaphorically, we need a hedge in our life. Something we can freely move through, gives us a sense of security but freedom. A fence, wall, etc. is detrimental to a Gemini.
Don't give up on the argument. Do what is needed with this bitch. Respect your stuff, your life, your self-worth. Kick this cunt to the curb.
We got in a fight today about the hedge. And it's something I try to do for him. Give him freedom as I know it's important, while being respected. I also know he likes when I say things clearly and I did. He told me he doesn't want a strong and aggressive woman, then told me that he wants to be able to do whatever he wants regardless if it's hurting me. (I know he's challenging me)
I told him I would never sacrifice what I believe in for our relationship and our goals just so he could be 100% free and leave me sad because of his selfishness. I explained that fighting for what I stand for isn't being aggressive, but rather expressing myself for the good of what we both want. He then got really upset, saying mean things. Only for him to change his tunes minutes after. Shifting his answers to more caring ones.
He said he wants to do things that makes him happy. Even if I'm hurt by his choices. Again, it's not about control. Rather about doing what is right for our relationship. Some of his choices are selfish. If he wants to sleep at a girls house because that will make him happy regardless of how I feel. That got nothing to do about control. He sees it as control, therefor causing a fight.
He again said that if I talk to this girl, he will break up with me. Knowing that this girl is very young, toxic, needy, and that he will pick her over me just to get his way. Which will lead to more fights and then him regretting hurting me.click to expand
Oh yeah, I am not a Gemini either, however I've had a lot Gemini friends and boyfriends. A hedge, lol or an invincible wall so you are there but it doesn't matter anyway.
I think he is trying to be more open towards you, checking your jealousy side but beware Gemini's can be manipulative as well. But as long as he is opening up towards you there is nothing to worry, I think he is trying to convince you to have a threesome with her I bet by showing you her naked pics lol otherwise he don't have to do that. These fuckers are experimental.
I understand that some of you will think of him an immature man and you're right. But maturity isn't something you get, it's something you develop. He's mid 20s, and social anxiety lead to him living like a recluse for years. He's just started having friends. This whole social thing is new to him and he doesn't know how to act and treat emotions. He's so bad with emotions, never learned how to communicate them.
Update: Last night he told me he'd go run errands and then meet with one of his buddy who happens to live in he same town as this girl.
I kissed him, said have fun and he left.
We texted for a while, he told me what he was doing. Then, I called him, he didn't pick up and he texted me, asked me to wait a few minutes. I waited, he called me back. He said he was having battery issues.
He said he was going to his friend and said he'd be back later. I know him better than he knows himself. I knew that after an hour or two of not hearing from him, something else was going on. I know that if he had been to this friend, he would've charged his phone and text me but he didn't. So for 4-5 hours I didn't hear from him at all.
So while he was having "battery issues" I text him and said like, "I know you lied to me, faked having those problems so you can go see her"
He came home last night at 11 (This girl lives an hour and half away from our town, where the stores and malls are, we live in a remote area)
I looked at him and said You lied right? just so you can go see her right? He said I don't know what to say. I asked for the truth and he said yes. I asked him why, and he said that he likes the way she make him feel. Young, no responsibilities, they laugh and have fun. He also said they're similar, he said she's like him when he was 19. He told me he kissed her but doesn't wanna be with her at all. He replied to all my questions truthfully.
She doesn't wanna be with him, she loves her boyfriend. She's just lonely, using my fiance for affection and he's just using her to escape the problems we've been having. Been reading about Sag girls, it's their thing apparently.
Problems he's been causing for the most part by telling me he want goals with me but being a jerk because he's selfish and I wanna help him stay the course. Deflecting whenever it's time to take the blame for his actions.
So he wants to have goals and a future with me, have all those projects with me he's really into, things that means we gonna be together for years to come but right now, this girl is bringing something new away from our fights and it's killing us. Like an alcoholic who drinks to forget about his problems.
I asked him if he wants to lose me and he said no. He told me he loves me. She's just an escape.
Update: Last night he told me he'd go run errands and then meet with one of his buddy who happens to live in he same town as this girl.
I kissed him, said have fun and he left.
We texted for a while, he told me what he was doing. Then, I called him, he didn't pick up and he texted me, asked me to wait a few minutes. I waited, he called me back. He said he was having battery issues.
He said he was going to his friend and said he'd be back later. I know him better than he knows himself. I knew that after an hour or two of not hearing from him, something else was going on. I know that if he had been to this friend, he would've charged his phone and text me but he didn't. So for 4-5 hours I didn't hear from him at all.
So while he was having "battery issues" I text him and said like, "I know you lied to me, faked having those problems so you can go see her"
He came home last night at 11 (This girl lives an hour and half away from our town, where the stores and malls are, we live in a remote area)
I looked at him and said You lied right? just so you can go see her right? He said I don't know what to say. I asked for the truth and he said yes. I asked him why, and he said that he likes the way she make him feel. Young, no responsibilities, they laugh and have fun. He also said they're similar, he said she's like him when he was 19. He told me he kissed her but doesn't wanna be with her at all. He replied to all my questions truthfully.
She doesn't wanna be with him, she loves her boyfriend. She's just lonely, using my fiance for affection and he's just using her to escape the problems we've been having. Been reading about Sag girls, it's their thing apparently.
Problems he's been causing for the most part by telling me he want goals with me but being a jerk because he's selfish and I wanna help him stay the course. Deflecting whenever it's time to take the blame for his actions.
So he wants to have goals and a future with me, have all those projects with me he's really into, things that means we gonna be together for years to come but right now, this girl is bringing something new away from our fights and it's killing us. Like an alcoholic who drinks to forget about his problems.
I asked him if he wants to lose me and he said no. He told me he loves me. She's just an escape.
Posted by febyI'm looking for solutions. Just because someone is doing something bad doesn't mean you have to kick them out. What happened to being compassionate and wanting to work on things?
Off with his dick!
Posted by theDominoAnd if I go bitch-mode on this girl, I become a controlling woman. No?
Do we need some boundaries, yes, and that is where you go into bitch-mode and crack down on this bitch that is going for your territory. Metaphorically, we need a hedge in our life.
CapRidergirl, is that you...?
No matter what progress he makes towards what you think his life's goals are, relationship-wise is going from bad to worse.
No matter what progress he makes towards what you think his life's goals are, relationship-wise is going from bad to worse.
Posted by MyLittleUniverseSo basically, every time he goes through a rough patch, you're going to get cheated on.
Like an alcoholic who drinks to forget about his problems.
I asked him if he wants to lose me and he said no. He told me he loves me. She's just an escape.
" What happened to being compassionate and wanting to work on things?"
Ask Chris Brown's ex Taurus girl.
If at all you do this to your marriage partner. Definitely not to a fiance. If they do this before marriage, what are they doing after marriage?
Also the idea of nudes and 3some might have some truth in it.
Ask Chris Brown's ex Taurus girl.
If at all you do this to your marriage partner. Definitely not to a fiance. If they do this before marriage, what are they doing after marriage?
Also the idea of nudes and 3some might have some truth in it.
does he want to leave his mom's house?
Posted by littlemegabyteThank you littlemegabyte...just superb lighting 😄Posted by MoonbutterMoonbutter, your new photo is really pretty
Oh yeah, I am not a Gemini either, however I've had a lot Gemini friends and boyfriends. A hedge, lol or an invincible wall so you are there but it doesn't matter anyway.click to expand
Good girl, a Gemini here speaking. This guy is not only immature but manipulating you big time. You know it and you feel it, right. I believe you have principles and i advise to stand by it. If you don't, you would only appear to be a doormat. You're right, he's being selfish. He's turning the tables to you making you feel that somehow you cause his unhappiness. The fact that he is unhappy with you and being happy with someone else, regardless of the reasons, is a cue for you to take a hard look with your relationship. Do you really feel like you deserve to be treated this way? He may love you but he love himself more. Listen to what you feel. He is choosing himself and emotionally blackmailing you if you make him feel bad about it. It doesn't matter what his reasons are (or the girl's). Look at the action and the behaviour. It's what matters, what is telling you. I'd say choose yourself and leave this boy. Give yourself some space. Let him learn his lessons but don't wait for him to change. It's not your job anymore to support him to his betterment the moment he chose to be selfish and disregard your feelings. Don't believe that you're being a controlling woman. Your reactions are sensible and reasonable. This is his way of manipulating the situations, the word wars, to make you feel bad and turn the tables on you for not giving in his whims. Reconsider about having this boy as your husband. You deserve better.
Posted by MyLittleUniverseIt sounds like he is immature and trying to stir things up like a typical Gemini. There's a fine line between being open and honest and giving too much information.
My Gemini fiance and I have been together for 4 years. We recently discussed our future, and we decided to work on goals. A house, travels, buy brand new cars. Just improve our life together and work on life as a couple who love each other.
We hit some rough patches over the last year. He treated me like shit, even admitted hating me. Only to recently tell me that he hated me because he loves me. Immature I know. Like being in recess and throwing rocks at a girl you like.
In an effort to improve himself, we decided on a plan for us. If I see that he's being bad again, I have to put my foot down to stay the course of our goals. He understands his fault, and we gonna work on them together.
Last night, we talked about a girl he met last week. She's a friend. She doesn't respect boundaries at all. She's a cheating Sag who already has a boyfriend who's in a different state for school. She cheated on him twice, yet don't wanna leave him cause she loves him. She's much younger than my fiance. But she's fun. They talk a lot. She made a pass at my fiance who tells me everything about her. He showed me the picture she sent. Lingerie ones too. He told me he would handle it. I told him that I would handle it myself if need be. He agreed, but also got mad. Begging me not to talk to her yet. Even went to say that there would be consequences if I talk to her. A side of me wanna talk to her anyways and show I'm a strong woman to make sure she won't cross the line again.
As a Gemini, if your SO didn't listen to what you say in order to show a strong side that will help your relationship, would you forgive or be mad enough to end it?
If I were in a relationship and another guy was sending me inappropriate things I would set the dude straight like "yo I have a man already, put your dick pics away" and I would delete him, block him, whatever I needed to do. If it were a male friend that was flirting and maybe not understanding the boundaries but I still wanted to keep him as a friend, I would treat it similarly, but maybe a little more gently. If my guy KNEW another man was flirting, expressed his distaste for it and I continued to do it and even showed my guy the pictures or texts, well then I don't really care about my man very much and I'm just playing shitty games.
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In an effort to improve himself, we decided on a plan for us. If I see that he's being bad again, I have to put my foot down to stay the course of our goals. He understands his fault, and we gonna work on them together.
Last night, we talked about a girl he met last week. She's a friend. She doesn't respect boundaries at all. She's a cheating Sag who already has a boyfriend who's in a different state for school. She cheated on him twice, yet don't wanna leave him cause she loves him. She's much younger than my fiance. But she's fun. They talk a lot. She made a pass at my fiance who tells me everything about her. He showed me the picture she sent. Lingerie ones too. He told me he would handle it. I told him that I would handle it myself if need be. He agreed, but also got mad. Begging me not to talk to her yet. Even went to say that there would be consequences if I talk to her. A side of me wanna talk to her anyways and show I'm a strong woman to make sure she won't cross the line again.
As a Gemini, if your SO didn't listen to what you say in order to show a strong side that will help your relationship, would you forgive or be mad enough to end it?