Emotional well being, abusive parents

What should I do if I have abusive parents? For 19 years of my life, I'm 19 years old, I now realize that there's something wrong with my life. My parents have always been verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive. And on top of that I also have had sexual abuse at a daycare that they put me in when I was 8 months old to 10 years old. and on top of THAT I had a really abusive relationship last year also. I'm finally coming out of the dark and starting to open the wound but its really extremely painful. Starting around 5 years old and always getting worse my parents were really abusive. My dad always told me that I'm poison and I affect everybody around me both my parents always called me a bitch. My dad always got really mad at me when I was little and threw me around physically and even choked me once. My dad cheated on my mom and moved out in my senior year of high school. My best grandma died when I was a sophomore in high school.

Now I just live with my mom and its fucking horrible. I go to college and have a part time job and I'm getting straight A's and for the past 2 years ever since my dad moved out, my mom has constantly taken all her emotions out on me. She blames me for my dad leaving, she calls me a bitch more than 10 times every argument which happens maybe 3 times every month and 5 if the abuse is really intense at the time. She blames me for how she feels constantly. She can never talk to me like a normal person. She's immature and all she does now is go out late and talk to guys online. And so I made a plan with my great boyfriend who understands and I'm set to move on in January. i had also talked to a police officer in the city and he said the get therapy if i need it and move out make a plan and enjoy life but I feel so depressed and hurt I feel like there is a BIG ASS void in me! I miss my dad and I feel like he doesn't care. I feel like everything is my fault and I could've fixed everything a long time ago but I know somewhere that those are just all the feelings from abuse and nothing here is my fault. I feel so alone and neglected. I feel like I was robbed of my childhood. I NEVER had one and I'm extremely sad and mad about it. What do I do?! I don't even know if counseling will help I keep procrastinating on that.

I went through a very similar situation. You've got to be strong. And maybe talking to a therapist would help loads. The psychological damage is too big to "easily" fix yourself. A therapist could also help with techniques on handling stress, anxiety and depression. Think about it okay? I hope you have a better night/day.

You know what... Move the fuck out. And if you have some excuse like your in school and can't afford it. Than its really not that important to you.

You can't fix her, you can't fix him, but you can work on yourself and take yourself out of the situation and make it better.

The past has already been done , there is nothing you can do about it but to just let it go

save $ 2k - $ 6k and then move out. you won't be able to be better until you leave.

Please know that what your mom is doing will wear you down emotionally and it will effect in other areas of your life. It will effect how clearly you think, your decisions, and your relationships in only a negative way. It will beat down your self esteem to the point where you won't go after what your want because the negative talk has convinced you that you don't deserve better.

YOU DESERVE BETTER, A BETTER LIFE, BETTER PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE, AND HAPPINESS AND IT'S ALL WITHIN YOUR REACH ONCE YOU LEAVE THAT NEGATIVE ENVIRONMENT.

There is nothing you can do about your past and current situation. Accept it, know that it is not your fault and move forward. You cant change other people. As children, we have the visions of what we think our parents should be. In reality, they are human beings with issues, who brought children into the world. Maybe one day they will have remorse, maybe they wont, it doesn't matter because you need to forgive them and move on with your life. My mother was emotionally abusive and I have forgiven her, because she parented the best way she knew how, but at the end of the day, I had to distance myself from her. I love her very much and I know that she loves me very much, but there are times I still have to keep my distance for self preservation purposes.

Even though you are doing what is best for you, remember your mother is still your mother and she is the only mother you have. And you can still love her from a distance. Your father also.

You are doing very well in school, you should be proud of yourself and continue to focus on that. Make your dreams come true. Your life is just beginning and you have so much to look forward to. Life has so much to offer, don't let it pass you by!

And as you leave with your things to move out, tell your mother you love her and go on with your life.

Posted by Astrobyn
You know what... Move the fuck out. And if you have some excuse like your in school and can't afford it. Than its really not that important to you.

It is important to me and being in school isn't my excuse, I understand if you were one who didn't go to school and you're ok with getting paid minimum wage the rest of your life. I'm in school full time and I"m not wasting any time to finish school, so I can get out of here and do what I want with my life and be successful. I'm not going to compromise school just because I have an abusive crazy delusional mother. I wouldn't be able to afford moving out anyway if I weren't going to school and got a full time job. So you're implying that I quit school, get a full time job and move out then struggle to continue school and maybe never even finish because I have to keep working full time? Not very thought out of you.

Just realize there's a lot of typos in my post. Treetrunk is a typo and so is cookiemonster. Wtf. Cookiemonster is supposed to be 'bitch'.