Accidentally confused the hell out of this Leo guy

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So this Leo and I who have been working together in two offices of the same company (countries apart - US and Australia) have been friends for years - we would always hang out if one of us was in the other persons town for work. We confessed we had feelings for each other in June. I had to return to Australia but we ended up spending one day and one night together before I did (he flew interstate for this). Best date ever both of us thought so. I knew I was relocating to the US in a few months so to make sure we didn't mess up I said it was best we wait till I got to the US. It seems I said this wrong - he thought I meant things weren't working out so let's just wait and see. Now I'm in the US wondering why he isn't making plans and he tells me he's confused cause he thought I said it was over before it began. Did I mess up? I know we really liked each other (I still do I think he still does too) but I think he has spent the last 3 months getting over m while I've spent it anticipating the start of something once I got here. Have I lost him or ??
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If he really liked you that much, you should be able to work it out. You'll just have to convince him that it was simply miscommunication and have your actions reflect that you're still interested in him. Maybe take some initiative with communication and setting up dates. Could also be that he's just saying that as an excuse and has lost interest or found someone else. A lot can change in 3 months, even if it's a seemingly short amount of time.
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I've been the Leo in that situation before. Your patience was totally reasonable, but from his view you came off as only partly interested which likely made him feel only partly worthy.

He's not making plans because he doesn't want to gamble another hit to his ego. Like Scenic said you need to convince him, be assertive to show you mean 100% . Even just a text saying "I want to see you". He may respond with a short answer like "ok", that's a good sign so stay confident and set the time. If you can, wait to explain once you're in front of him.

If he shurgs you off after you put yourself out there, just walk away. He's gotta be quick with his emotions to handle a Gemini.
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Tell him there was a miscommunication and that you are interested. Leos are scared of rejection. If he knows you're interested he will feel more comfortable expressing his feelings. I've stopped a lot of relationships from starting when I was younger because fear of rejection. I know it sounds stupid but that pride thing is a real bitch. If he still acts funny or wants to move too fast after you talk to him just move on he ain't worth it.
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I've been the Leo in that situation before. Your patience was totally reasonable, but from his view you came off as only partly interested which likely made him feel only partly worthy.

He's not making plans because he doesn't want to gamble another hit to his ego. Like Scenic said you need to convince him, be assertive to show you mean 100% . Even just a text saying "I want to see you". He may respond with a short answer like "ok", that's a good sign so stay confident and set the time. If you can, wait to explain once you're in front of him.

If he shrugs you off after you put yourself out there, just walk away. He's gotta be quick with his emotions to handle a Gemini.

That makes so much sense, thanks for responding with some much needed sanity. Its hard to be objective when its you. So, we are still meeting next Thursday (he mentioned without me asking that he wanted to continue with our plans to meet), but I'd like to clear the air, and texted him to let him know that I'd like to talk on the phone tonight if possible. Let's see. You are right, he is much slower with his emotions than me, but once he's in a comfort zone with his emotions, he's super quick with texts and fun back and forth.. I miss those days. This is all a bit heavy for me so I want it to blow over so we can go back to being fun, light hearted, and hopefully, together...
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Tell him there was a miscommunication and that you are interested. Leos are scared of rejection. If he knows you're interested he will feel more comfortable expressing his feelings. I've stopped a lot of relationships from starting when I was younger because fear of rejection. I know it sounds stupid but that pride thing is a real bitch. If he still acts funny or wants to move too fast after you talk to him just move on he ain't worth it.

Thank you - you sound a lot like him.. he's amazingly full on intense when he knows I'm interested (fond fond memories of him chasing me pre-me-saying-wait-till-im-in-usa). He can't move fast even if he wants to - we are still on two opposite ends of the US till next Thursday haha 🙂 I texted him to let him know that I too agree we should meet next week when I am in his town but I'd like to talk on the phone before that if possible to clear the air. I don't like leaving things messy, esp when its with people I care about. Want to clear the air, one way or the other, so we know where we stand. I will do my head in otherwise between now and next Thursday. My exact words were "you must have known I was still interested why would we still be talking so much!" So, he knows. Ball is in his court. If he knows I like him and he doesn't make the next move quickly (preferably today), my only conclusion will be that he has moved on or met someone else and doesn't know how to tell me. Which will suck.
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You're welcome! Sorry I just saw this. Have you heard anything from him?

Yeah he replied, but something seems off. The words were to the effect of "Sorry for the delay, I was trying to figure out if I should tell you about all the stuff I have been going through this summer. I'm pissed - not with you, with myself - things are just complicated. Let talk on the weekend or when you are in town."

He told me in the past he had been seeing a therapist, but I didn't ask more and he didn't offer, except I know he was trying to spend more time with his parents, he went to his high school reunion - he wanted to just work on a lot of "cobwebs"as he called them. I think this is actually an amazingly healthy thing, so I didn't really question or probe, just offered support and a sounding board if he should need it.

I mean wow talk about Leos loving drama. Just tell me already! If he's going to tell me there is an ex or an ex he still likes or he isn't over someone or the worst Ã'm not ready for a relationship" - and that is what it sounds like - I am officially going to give myself the green signal to get out and get out quick. You are either into a girl or not - its not that complicated.

Am I wrong to start to suspect something fishy here? He isn't the cheating kind as far as I know or can tell, very much a monogamous type - I've seen him go through 2-3 relationships over the 5-6 years we have known each other.
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He definitely must be going through something. I would offer support and let him know he can talk to you. I would straight out ask him if he's seeing someone or if he needs to be alone. If you feel like he's just stringing you along and doesn't want to be direct just end it. Also, alot of Leos love grand love gestures and like you said "DRAMA" in love. Maybe he just wants to tell you his feelings in person. Do you think the "it's complicated" means he's seeing someone else?
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You're welcome! Sorry I just saw this. Have you heard anything from him?

Yeah he replied, but something seems off. The words were to the effect of "Sorry for the delay, I was trying to figure out if I should tell you about all the stuff I have been going through this summer. I'm pissed - not with you, with myself - things are just complicated. Let talk on the weekend or when you are in town."

He told me in the past he had been seeing a therapist, but I didn't ask more and he didn't offer, except I know he was trying to spend more time with his parents, he went to his high school reunion - he wanted to just work on a lot of "cobwebs"as he called them. I think this is actually an amazingly healthy thing, so I didn't really question or probe, just offered support and a sounding board if he should need it.

I mean wow talk about Leos loving drama. Just tell me already! If he's going to tell me there is an ex or an ex he still likes or he isn't over someone or the worst Ã'm not ready for a relationship" - and that is what it sounds like - I am officially going to give myself the green signal to get out and get out quick. You are either into a girl or not - its not that complicated.

Am I wrong to start to suspect something fishy here? He isn't the cheating kind as far as I know or can tell, very much a monogamous type - I've seen him go through 2-3 relationships over the 5-6 years we have known each other.
Wow, takes a lot to be this heartless. Dude was probably trying to spare you from being involved in his problems.

Then you take him and press him for a deadline to meet. So he lets you know it's not about you, just that he's dealing with something.

And your only concern is that he's not giving you a yes or no answer on your issue?

That's just cold blooded.
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Its not "my"issue - it takes two people to want to have a relationship. I am trying to figure out if he's trying to let me down easy. In my experience people find a way to be with the people they want to be with, irrespective of personal circumstances. Especially alpha male Leo men like Leos who prefer to take the lead, and take it fast. Whatever was going on, I would support him with it while in a relationship. Why would it get in the way of one?
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He definitely must be going through something. I would offer support and let him know he can talk to you. I would straight out ask him if he's seeing someone or if he needs to be alone. If you feel like he's just stringing you along and doesn't want to be direct just end it. Also, alot of Leos love grand love gestures and like you said "DRAMA" in love. Maybe he just wants to tell you his feelings in person. Do you think the "it's complicated" means he's seeing someone else?

LeoSunSagMoon, to be honest its not that I think he's seeing someone else, its that I'm trying not to think it (I have been stung before years ago). I am going to ask him outright if he is seeing someone else if he doesn't make it clear at the end of our meeting next week. I want to hear him out first. And as impatient as I am (Gemini gemini gemini!!) I do agree this is more of an in-person conversation. So I'll painfully do the waiting.. ugh. What is your experience as a Leo? Would you tell the person upfront or still meet them in person and then let them down gently?
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You're welcome! Sorry I just saw this. Have you heard anything from him?

Yeah he replied, but something seems off. The words were to the effect of "Sorry for the delay, I was trying to figure out if I should tell you about all the stuff I have been going through this summer. I'm pissed - not with you, with myself - things are just complicated. Let talk on the weekend or when you are in town."

He told me in the past he had been seeing a therapist, but I didn't ask more and he didn't offer, except I know he was trying to spend more time with his parents, he went to his high school reunion - he wanted to just work on a lot of "cobwebs"as he called them. I think this is actually an amazingly healthy thing, so I didn't really question or probe, just offered support and a sounding board if he should need it.

I mean wow talk about Leos loving drama. Just tell me already! If he's going to tell me there is an ex or an ex he still likes or he isn't over someone or the worst Ã'm not ready for a relationship" - and that is what it sounds like - I am officially going to give myself the green signal to get out and get out quick. You are either into a girl or not - its not that complicated.

Am I wrong to start to suspect something fishy here? He isn't the cheating kind as far as I know or can tell, very much a monogamous type - I've seen him go through 2-3 relationships over the 5-6 years we have known each other.
Wow, takes a lot to be this heartless. Dude was probably trying to spare you from being involved in his problems.

Then you take him and press him for a deadline to meet. So he lets you know it's not about you, just that he's dealing with something.

And your only concern is that he's not giving you a yes or no answer on your issue?

That's just cold blooded.
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His problem has a name, I imagine... like Jessica.

Sounds like he grabbed a rebound in this miscommunication.

Just a guess...


I'm pissed - not with you, with myself -

things are just complicated.


That made my eyebrow arch involuntarily.

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You're welcome! Sorry I just saw this. Have you heard anything from him?

Yeah he replied, but something seems off. The words were to the effect of "Sorry for the delay, I was trying to figure out if I should tell you about all the stuff I have been going through this summer. I'm pissed - not with you, with myself - things are just complicated. Let talk on the weekend or when you are in town."

He told me in the past he had been seeing a therapist, but I didn't ask more and he didn't offer, except I know he was trying to spend more time with his parents, he went to his high school reunion - he wanted to just work on a lot of "cobwebs"as he called them. I think this is actually an amazingly healthy thing, so I didn't really question or probe, just offered support and a sounding board if he should need it.

I mean wow talk about Leos loving drama. Just tell me already! If he's going to tell me there is an ex or an ex he still likes or he isn't over someone or the worst Ã'm not ready for a relationship" - and that is what it sounds like - I am officially going to give myself the green signal to get out and get out quick. You are either into a girl or not - its not that complicated.

Am I wrong to start to suspect something fishy here? He isn't the cheating kind as far as I know or can tell, very much a monogamous type - I've seen him go through 2-3 relationships over the 5-6 years we have known each other.
Wow, takes a lot to be this heartless. Dude was probably trying to spare you from being involved in his problems.

Then you take him and press him for a deadline to meet. So he lets you know it's not about you, just that he's dealing with something.

And your only concern is that he's not giving you a yes or no answer on your issue?

That's just cold blooded.
His problem has a name, I imagine... like Jessica.

Sounds like he grabbed a rebound in this miscommunication.

Just a guess...


I'm pissed - not with you, with myself -

things are just complicated.


That made my eyebrow arch involuntarily.

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EXACTLY! Thank you! I'm really not being judgmental but I also don't want to be the sweet naive idiot here..
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He definitely must be going through something. I would offer support and let him know he can talk to you. I would straight out ask him if he's seeing someone or if he needs to be alone. If you feel like he's just stringing you along and doesn't want to be direct just end it. Also, alot of Leos love grand love gestures and like you said "DRAMA" in love. Maybe he just wants to tell you his feelings in person. Do you think the "it's complicated" means he's seeing someone else?

LeoSunSagMoon, to be honest its not that I think he's seeing someone else, its that I'm trying not to think it (I have been stung before years ago). I am going to ask him outright if he is seeing someone else if he doesn't make it clear at the end of our meeting next week. I want to hear him out first. And as impatient as I am (Gemini gemini gemini!!) I do agree this is more of an in-person conversation. So I'll painfully do the waiting.. ugh. What is your experience as a Leo? Would you tell the person upfront or still meet them in person and then let them down gently?
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Well It's not really similar to something I've experienced, but I definitely could not break up with someone over phone or text. That doesn't mean he's not interested. You were never officially exclusive right? Maybe he's just making you sweat it out because you hurt his pride and now he knows you're interested again. He also could just be going through some heavy personal stuff and needs to know you can handle it. Either way good luck! I probably should have asked before, but do you know his moon sign?
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He definitely must be going through something. I would offer support and let him know he can talk to you. I would straight out ask him if he's seeing someone or if he needs to be alone. If you feel like he's just stringing you along and doesn't want to be direct just end it. Also, alot of Leos love grand love gestures and like you said "DRAMA" in love. Maybe he just wants to tell you his feelings in person. Do you think the "it's complicated" means he's seeing someone else?

LeoSunSagMoon, to be honest its not that I think he's seeing someone else, its that I'm trying not to think it (I have been stung before years ago). I am going to ask him outright if he is seeing someone else if he doesn't make it clear at the end of our meeting next week. I want to hear him out first. And as impatient as I am (Gemini gemini gemini!!) I do agree this is more of an in-person conversation. So I'll painfully do the waiting.. ugh. What is your experience as a Leo? Would you tell the person upfront or still meet them in person and then let them down gently?
Well It's not really similar to something I've experienced, but I definitely could not break up with someone over phone or text. That doesn't mean he's not interested. You were never officially exclusive right? Maybe he's just making you sweat it out because you hurt his pride and now he knows you're interested again. He also could just be going through some heavy personal stuff and needs to know you can handle it. Either way good luck! I probably should have asked before, but do you know his moon sign?
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Moon sign is Virgo.
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When I said your issue, I was referring to self-interest.


You don't want to be taken for a fool, I get that - but 5-6 years you claim to be friends... and you can't just wait till the weekend to get his word on what's going on? That's what I mean by cold blooded. You're out for your own interests.

That's the thing about the dating game. Everyone's out for their own.

Um.. friendship is a two way street. He knows its bothering the hell out of me since I've put my cards on the table and admitted I still am interested, while I still haven't got a confirmation from him that he is. I'm also giving him the space, support and time he needs, but I'm not going to lie and be all chill about it while doing so when I'm really not...
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I'm also a little drunk so (thumbs up) no hard feelings. If I'd said "just let me sort things out and level with you at the weekend" and a 6 year friend goes "but what about ME" I'm going to be taken aback

Haha its friday night, enjoy your drink! I do love that Leos never hold hard feelings - works with the Gemini forgive and forget very well 🙂 You make a good point, he did actually say "this weekend or when you are in town". I chose next week as I didn't want to do this over the phone..
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If he is over you, just let go.

Even if not, let go.

Unless he chases after you, don't touch him with a pole.
Maybe, if I bring this back a second time, you'll give it thought.

The man is making excuses. He's saying things you can understand without offering that smidge more you need to know more and so get close. Don't even call him on the weekend. Don't get closer by his definition, but probably by yours. If he is friendly, be friendly too.

From the start, I told you don't even touch him with a barge pole. Why? Because now you're on his turf. This is his playing field, he has peed around it to mark his space.... Once you become a part of this space, you are no longer novelty or exotic. There's nothing new to arouse his interest.

So, don't be a part of his turf. Stand out like a well fattened gazelle and let him come to you.
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He definitely must be going through something. I would offer support and let him know he can talk to you. I would straight out ask him if he's seeing someone or if he needs to be alone. If you feel like he's just stringing you along and doesn't want to be direct just end it. Also, alot of Leos love grand love gestures and like you said "DRAMA" in love. Maybe he just wants to tell you his feelings in person. Do you think the "it's complicated" means he's seeing someone else?

LeoSunSagMoon, to be honest its not that I think he's seeing someone else, its that I'm trying not to think it (I have been stung before years ago). I am going to ask him outright if he is seeing someone else if he doesn't make it clear at the end of our meeting next week. I want to hear him out first. And as impatient as I am (Gemini gemini gemini!!) I do agree this is more of an in-person conversation. So I'll painfully do the waiting.. ugh. What is your experience as a Leo? Would you tell the person upfront or still meet them in person and then let them down gently?
Well It's not really similar to something I've experienced, but I definitely could not break up with someone over phone or text. That doesn't mean he's not interested. You were never officially exclusive right? Maybe he's just making you sweat it out because you hurt his pride and now he knows you're interested again. He also could just be going through some heavy personal stuff and needs to know you can handle it. Either way good luck! I probably should have asked before, but do you know his moon sign?

Moon sign is Virgo.
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Hmm I really only know one Virgo moon and she is super hard on herself. She usually isn't very open with her emotions because she doesn't like to burden anyone. She keeps so much bottled up! She is definitely forward though and would not lead anyone on.(I think) Hope he's like that and not just playing games! That's the only personal experience I have with a Virgo moon sorry wish I knew more 🙂 kind of an interesting pair though. The signs couldn't be more different lol
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If he is over you, just let go.

Even if not, let go.

Unless he chases after you, don't touch him with a pole.
Maybe, if I bring this back a second time, you'll give it thought.

The man is making excuses. He's saying things you can understand without offering that smidge more you need to know more and so get close. Don't even call him on the weekend. Don't get closer by his definition, but probably by yours. If he is friendly, be friendly too.

From the start, I told you don't even touch him with a barge pole. Why? Because now you're on his turf. This is his playing field, he has peed around it to mark his space.... Once you become a part of this space, you are no longer novelty or exotic. There's nothing new to arouse his interest.

So, don't be a part of his turf. Stand out like a well fattened gazelle and let him come to you.
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I do understand what you are saying but it is not natural for me. On the other hand my instinct is telling me something is off. Will let you guys know what happens next week.
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He definitely must be going through something. I would offer support and let him know he can talk to you. I would straight out ask him if he's seeing someone or if he needs to be alone. If you feel like he's just stringing you along and doesn't want to be direct just end it. Also, alot of Leos love grand love gestures and like you said "DRAMA" in love. Maybe he just wants to tell you his feelings in person. Do you think the "it's complicated" means he's seeing someone else?

LeoSunSagMoon, to be honest its not that I think he's seeing someone else, its that I'm trying not to think it (I have been stung before years ago). I am going to ask him outright if he is seeing someone else if he doesn't make it clear at the end of our meeting next week. I want to hear him out first. And as impatient as I am (Gemini gemini gemini!!) I do agree this is more of an in-person conversation. So I'll painfully do the waiting.. ugh. What is your experience as a Leo? Would you tell the person upfront or still meet them in person and then let them down gently?
Well It's not really similar to something I've experienced, but I definitely could not break up with someone over phone or text. That doesn't mean he's not interested. You were never officially exclusive right? Maybe he's just making you sweat it out because you hurt his pride and now he knows you're interested again. He also could just be going through some heavy personal stuff and needs to know you can handle it. Either way good luck! I probably should have asked before, but do you know his moon sign?

Moon sign is Virgo.
Hmm I really only know one Virgo moon and she is super hard on herself. She usually isn't very open with her emotions because she doesn't like to burden anyone. She keeps so much bottled up! She is definitely forward though and would not lead anyone on.(I think) Hope he's like that and not just playing games! That's the only personal experience I have with a Virgo moon sorry wish I knew more 🙂 kind of an interesting pair though. The signs couldn't be more different lol
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Hope you are right - I want to believe there isn't someone else. I don't think a fling would bother me, we weren't exclusive, but an ex or a girlfriend..yeah that will be an end to this pretty damn quickly. Well not that different, he and I, my Moon/Mercury/Venus are all in Cancer and my Asc is Capri so I think thats what makes us get along.
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What is not natural to you? I don't understand.

When I'm curious, I have to know. I don't like to leave things unresolved. If there is a way to clear the air, I will want to do it asap so I can put the matter to rest one way or another otherwise it plays on my mind.
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lol I understand

But I imagine its about priorities. Clear the asap and lose or wait, watch and regain a friend that could lead to more.

Hey, your call *shrugs*
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What is not natural to you? I don't understand.

When I'm curious, I have to know. I don't like to leave things unresolved. If there is a way to clear the air, I will want to do it asap so I can put the matter to rest one way or another otherwise it plays on my mind.
lol I understand

But I imagine its about priorities. Clear the asap and lose or wait, watch and regain a friend that could lead to more.

Hey, your call *shrugs*
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Its so annoying when people are being logical and I want to be emotional even though I know they are right *throws tantrum*
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He definitely must be going through something. I would offer support and let him know he can talk to you. I would straight out ask him if he's seeing someone or if he needs to be alone. If you feel like he's just stringing you along and doesn't want to be direct just end it. Also, alot of Leos love grand love gestures and like you said "DRAMA" in love. Maybe he just wants to tell you his feelings in person. Do you think the "it's complicated" means he's seeing someone else?

LeoSunSagMoon, to be honest its not that I think he's seeing someone else, its that I'm trying not to think it (I have been stung before years ago). I am going to ask him outright if he is seeing someone else if he doesn't make it clear at the end of our meeting next week. I want to hear him out first. And as impatient as I am (Gemini gemini gemini!!) I do agree this is more of an in-person conversation. So I'll painfully do the waiting.. ugh. What is your experience as a Leo? Would you tell the person upfront or still meet them in person and then let them down gently?
Well It's not really similar to something I've experienced, but I definitely could not break up with someone over phone or text. That doesn't mean he's not interested. You were never officially exclusive right? Maybe he's just making you sweat it out because you hurt his pride and now he knows you're interested again. He also could just be going through some heavy personal stuff and needs to know you can handle it. Either way good luck! I probably should have asked before, but do you know his moon sign?

Moon sign is Virgo.
Hmm I really only know one Virgo moon and she is super hard on herself. She usually isn't very open with her emotions because she doesn't like to burden anyone. She keeps so much bottled up! She is definitely forward though and would not lead anyone on.(I think) Hope he's like that and not just playing games! That's the only personal experience I have with a Virgo moon sorry wish I knew more 🙂 kind of an interesting pair though. The signs couldn't be more different lol
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Hope you are right - I want to believe there isn't someone else. I don't think a fling would bother me, we weren't exclusive, but an ex or a girlfriend..yeah that will be an end to this pretty damn quickly. Well not that different, he and I, my Moon/Mer
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If he is over you, just let go.

Even if not, let go.

Unless he chases after you, don't touch him with a pole.
Maybe, if I bring this back a second time, you'll give it thought.

The man is making excuses. He's saying things you can understand without offering that smidge more you need to know more and so get close. Don't even call him on the weekend. Don't get closer by his definition, but probably by yours. If he is friendly, be friendly too.

From the start, I told you don't even touch him with a barge pole. Why? Because now you're on his turf. This is his playing field, he has peed around it to mark his space.... Once you become a part of this space, you are no longer novelty or exotic. There's nothing new to arouse his interest.

So, don't be a part of his turf. Stand out like a well fattened gazelle and let him come to you.
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You were right. There was another girl. After he assumed I called it, he met someone else. He wanted to still be friends. I said no because it would be unfair to me and to the girl he is dating, but I promised to still be professional and wished him the best. So, yeah, what a lot of waste of emotion ;/ Still I handled myself with dignity and was true to myself, so that helps me feel a bit better about having my heart broken.
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If he is over you, just let go.

Even if not, let go.

Unless he chases after you, don't touch him with a pole.
Maybe, if I bring this back a second time, you'll give it thought.

The man is making excuses. He's saying things you can understand without offering that smidge more you need to know more and so get close. Don't even call him on the weekend. Don't get closer by his definition, but probably by yours. If he is friendly, be friendly too.

From the start, I told you don't even touch him with a barge pole. Why? Because now you're on his turf. This is his playing field, he has peed around it to mark his space.... Once you become a part of this space, you are no longer novelty or exotic. There's nothing new to arouse his interest.

So, don't be a part of his turf. Stand out like a well fattened gazelle and let him come to you.

You were right. There was another girl. After he assumed I called it, he met someone else. He wanted to still be friends. I said no because it would be unfair to me and to the girl he is dating, but I promised to still be professional and wished him the best. So, yeah, what a lot of waste of emotion ;/ Still I handled myself with dignity and was true to myself, so that helps me feel a bit better about having my heart broken.
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I'm not happy to be right.

I hope you feel better soon. *hugs*
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Posted by 037
Posted by sunnygirl
Posted by 037
Posted by 037
If he is over you, just let go.

Even if not, let go.

Unless he chases after you, don't touch him with a pole.
Maybe, if I bring this back a second time, you'll give it thought.

The man is making excuses. He's saying things you can understand without offering that smidge more you need to know more and so get close. Don't even call him on the weekend. Don't get closer by his definition, but probably by yours. If he is friendly, be friendly too.

From the start, I told you don't even touch him with a barge pole. Why? Because now you're on his turf. This is his playing field, he has peed around it to mark his space.... Once you become a part of this space, you are no longer novelty or exotic. There's nothing new to arouse his interest.

So, don't be a part of his turf. Stand out like a well fattened gazelle and let him come to you.

You were right. There was another girl. After he assumed I called it, he met someone else. He wanted to still be friends. I said no because it would be unfair to me and to the girl he is dating, but I promised to still be professional and wished him the best. So, yeah, what a lot of waste of emotion ;/ Still I handled myself with dignity and was true to myself, so that helps me feel a bit better about having my heart broken.
I'm not happy to be right.

I hope you feel better soon. *hugs*
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Thank you.