Aries Female TRYING to understand her Leo Man!!!

So I am a Aries and I have been involved with a leo man for about 2 years off and on. We do have history together since 2009.

In the years I have been with him he has never truly committed to me. We are in this spot where we connect well together but our relationship only consists of me and him alone at either his place or mine. I've never been on an official date with him nor has he asked me out anywhere either. However when we are alone he has opened up to me and he has told me that he loves me on several occasions. Although I know my Aries traits can be dominant I do cater to his Leo instincts. I'm careful to attend to him even though I may not get it in return (as an aries this annoys me). My question is after 2 years of being in the "me and you" phase will he ever really commit? I'm afraid to discuss this with him for fear of rubbing his ego the wrong way. Why would a leo male still be around after 2 years if he didn't see a future with me? As a Aries I find myself biting my tongue about my true feelings because I don't want any conflict or for him to just go silent.

Usually when a Leo man is in love he will give you everything he can. But there is a catch unfortunately especially if he has been hurt in the past it can make things hard especially if you have done anything to break his trust. I'm not saying you have done this but sometimes Leo's can be sensitive to things and a little indiscretion can seem like a huge blow to whatever trust we may have built up for you. As for the no dates thing that I couldn't explain as I tend to want to go out and show off the one I'm with. We like to have fun and we like the people who are closest to us to enjoy everything with us. As for wanting to talk about committing. When you present him with the idea that there is this grand future for the two of you he will see it and want to push for that ( he may be already thinking about it) Leos like to make sure that when something happens it is memorable and that you will remember that moment always like something out of a movie or a book. Its no secret we Leo's like to charm and go all out when it involves romance. My best advise is to be casually bring up some of the things on your mind but don't let it seem like they are bothering you. just keep it light and exciting and I would hope he will follow suit and start giving you what you want. hope this helps.

"I'm careful to attend to him even though I may not get it in return (as an aries this annoys me)."

Never ever do that! You have to demonstrate that you are a QUEEN and when you cater without reciprocation he will unfortunately see you as a doormat, so don't do that.

As an Aries you do have Queen like-Warrior like qualities, use them, don't be afraid to be yourself b/c Leo males can handle it in my honest opinion. Of course I can't speak for all Leo males but I know first hand b/c I grew up surrounded by Leo men.

Leo's in my opinion can be quite nurturing towards women so you doing all the relationship work is not allowing him to display that side of himself which can be one of the many reasons he's not interested in announcing you to the whole world.

Also this whole hiding you behind the scenes is not something a man will do unless he's just not that into being with you consistently.

Maybe check your boundaries, establish some firmer boundaries and you can start by not being his secret anymore.

Don't bite your tongue anymore. This is your life! Do you really believe you can stand in the background for another 2 or more years with this guy?

He'll respect you for speaking up and not allowing him to waste anymore of your time.

His ego is the reason why you're being hid in the background. His ego is why he's taking with little to no reciprocating. His ego is the main problem thus you continuing to not want to bruise his ego and continue on catering is a major problem as well.

If you want to be in a real relationship the only way that can happen is you get real, stop the desperate behavior--I don't want to rock the boat b/c I'll lose him is being desperate.

Unfortunate for you once a man gets into FWB mode it's really tricky to shift from FWB into being in a real relationship, there are exceptions to the rule but a lot of women are not the exception.

Actions speak louder than words.

After 2 years you have never been out on a date? Never been on holiday together? Never met each others friends and family? Oh dear. I don't like saying this but this "relationship" means nothing more than sex to him. You have wasted 2 years of your life with somebody who doesn't value you when you could have been with somebody else instead who makes you happy and gives you everything you need from a relationship. Don't waste anymore time or love on this man. Somebody better is out there for you xxx

Posted by lena325
So I am a Aries and I have been involved with a leo man for about 2 years off and on. We do have history together since 2009.

In the years I have been with him he has never truly committed to me.

I stopped reading here.

I don't need to read further.

You're dealing with a huge ego and someone who chooses not to commit, but will keep you around.

WHY are you bothering?

Stop bothering and be done with it. Women need to stop sticking around with guys like this and expecting something serious. If they truly were serious about you, they would have paired off asap.

It takes NOBODY that long to realize if they want to be with someone or not. The fact you allowed yourself to let this drag out says a lot about you and your own internal issues.

I say either speak up, or let it go

Like it has been said Leo's like to show off the person they are with, and that's a known fact here

And you seem to be a secret, which is not good, and as a Aries you need to put your foot down, tell him what you want

But from what it looks like, your a FWB like someone has mentioned

Remember Leo's put you in 3 categories 1 is the Queen or Queen to be, 2. Is the Booty Call, 3. Is the Ego Stroker only

Now you are not number 1, cause your a secret, and only you know why that is, IF you guys are having sex with no dating attached, then your the number 2. Booty Call girl, or some would say FWB cause you guys talk, NOW if there is NO SEX and you guys are just talking, and you there to cheer him up, then you number 3.

Which are you?

Posted by TaurusNikki
I say either speak up, or let it go

Like it has been said Leo's like to show off the person they are with, and that's a known fact here

And you seem to be a secret, which is not good, and as a Aries you need to put your foot down, tell him what you want

But from what it looks like, your a FWB like someone has mentioned

Remember Leo's put you in 3 categories 1 is the Queen or Queen to be, 2. Is the Booty Call, 3. Is the Ego Stroker only

Now you are not number 1, cause your a secret, and only you know why that is, IF you guys are having sex with no dating attached, then your the number 2. Booty Call girl, or some would say FWB cause you guys talk, NOW if there is NO SEX and you guys are just talking, and you there to cheer him up, then you number 3.

Which are you?

I think this applies to men generally, tbh.

I've known guys of various signs who do this. It's pretty annoying because so much of it is self serving.

Posted by lena325


So I am a Aries

Although I know my Aries traits can be dominant I do cater to his Leo instincts.

I'm careful to attend to him even though I may not get it in return (as an aries this annoys me).

I'm afraid to discuss this with him for fear of rubbing his ego the wrong way.

As a Aries I find myself biting my tongue about my true feelings because I don't want any conflict or for him to just go silent.

Are you really an Aries? Really? I think there may be an Aries in there somewhere, but your words... God you don't sound like one.

You have sold yourself down the river for this guy and you have become a shadow of your former self. You have compromised yourself - for 2 years?

You are a doormat. I know this coz I was a doormat with my leo ex. But I realised this after about 2 months, woke up and smelt the coffee.

Don't do this to yourself for Gods sake. Find your confidence, find your voice and find the strength to change the dynamics of this arrangement or find someone else.

In all honesty I've been able to show that Aries with all the men I've dated but this Leo! I would of never stuck around with any of the other guys I've dated but this Leo truly had a hold on me 😢

It's so strange to me because I'm the opposite. I could barely tolerate half the bullshit from the arrogant, cheating Leos, and had to distance myself quickly with the clingy/more emo Leos.

The behavior makes me gag.

But my dad was a Leo and I think just growing up with that bs just turns me off to guys who exhibit those traits, tbh.

We've all done some pretty stupid shit for the sake of some guy, but good lord... Get your bearings in order. Get to that "fuck it" point and be done with this shit. I'm sorry, NO guy is worth sacrificing your happiness, no matter what kind of imaginary "hold" you think that they have on you. Women need to realize that they'll survive just fine on their own without some asshole creating more drama in their life.

What's your chart look like?

Posted by lena325
In all honesty I've been able to show that Aries with all the men I've dated but this Leo! I would of never stuck around with any of the other guys I've dated but this Leo truly had a hold on me 😢

I know how you feel lena, its because they are so good at feeding the lines that will hook us. no one made me feel like my leo ex did; when it was good it was great, but looking back I could kick my own ass for allowing myself to weaken for him coz I woke up when I realised that it was all one way.

You will get to that "fuck it" point, but its like you are afraid to lose him - but what are you gonna lose? Not a lot!

There are some people who can have a successful relationship with leo men, but I don't think aries can as they seem to be required to sacrifice a lot - in my opinion too much!

Like Rocky, I have a leo dad plus I have a leo boss, and I dont take shit from either of them, but the leo lover? Obviously a different dynamic lol

These leos are not gods, they are just guys, and the sooner we stop putting them on a fucking pedestal the better!

A relationship is a situation where you share your lives in one way or another and have some sort of mutual goals and interests. 2 years is a long time. If the only thing you do is hang out in someone's place and have sex then it is what it is. It is not a real relationship that will evolve unless one of you will take it to the next level. You have to decide for yourself what level you want it to be. It has nothing to do with an astrological sign but with people's dynamics. It has been 2 years of constant interaction. What do YOU want out of this situation? What do you have to loose if you approach him with what you want? Men can stay in relationships like that forever bec it's easy for them. Woman is there to provide temporary companionship without asking for commitment. Is that what you want?

Men can tell you whatever they know you want to hear. They will promise you things that they know you want. LOOK AT A MAN'S CONSISTENT ACTIONS TO KNOW WHETHER OR NOT HE'S SERIOUS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR NOT. It's as simple as that. If a man really wants you he'll do things to have you. We all, including me, hope and pray and rationalize what they do but the reality and truth is the old cliche that "actions speak louder than words".

See if you can relate to this scenario: My last relationship with a Scorpio was almost 3 years. And it never felt like a "real relationship" because even if at some point we ended up living together, we never traveled or did much things together. We both were working very long hours and all the time and it was just convenient to stay together. I wanted to break up a few times but then settled down bed it was convenient. For the last 1.5 year of the relationship it became long distance and i felt that it was not real. I was just holding to it bed i didn't want to be called "single" or deal with a "break up" and etc. I always said that being in relationship with him was like being single.

I'm a leo & was once in this SAME situation with a leo male. We spent tons of time together & cared for one another we even dated. However, he would never give me a title, bc he wasn't "ready".

I'll spare you tge details but long story short, I accepted that excuse bc I cared for him & thought he "had a hold on me", much like the one you describe. & you know what happend after 3 years of him saying he wasn't ready to commit? He started seeing another girl & COMMITTED to her within months. & left me with a broken heart & no excuse as to why.

It's been 2 years, please put your foot down & if he isn't willing to meet your demands (which I feel like he won't honestly) leave him. It is for your own good. & once you leave go into no contact immediately. If he truly loves you he will come back around and COMMIT TO U.