Confused Scorpio woma on my next move with Leo guy

I recently broke up with a boyfriend and I have had other guys recently ask me out and I told them no because I had someone. So when the guy and I broke up I decided to go out with a guy that had been asking me out for a few months. He is actually a guy that I met back in high school 19 years ago, back then we used to make out on the golf course at night and hang out with our friends, so in a way I feel like I've known him my whole life. Ok so the rest of the story we went out with some mutual friends and had a few drinks. I was very upfront with him that I wasn't gonna jump in the sack with him. Well needless to say we went back to my house and one thing led to another. It was fantastic and he ended up staying the night. It was like old "home week" plus the bonuses...used to just be kissing way back when. Well I felt like we really hit it off and he has text me quite a bit since then and we have talked on the phone a lot. I just am concerned he will have lost respect for me because of how fast things happened. Is there anyway that I can keep him around after feeling like we jumped to far too fast. He was making plans to see me again that very night but hasn't mentioned it again. We both have children and we made a 6 month rule to not introduce them to one another until later at least 6 months later. I would like any feedback please, negative and positive please. I'm not usually this eager to jump but it had been a while for both of us....I am hopeful. 🙂

Ok thanks dimplez...I really don't know what to do. The plans won't be until we have our kids are gone again for the weekend. I understand your thinking. In a way I was comfortable because of our past but I can't really make that justify anything. I don't know what to do from here do I just leave him alone or what?

Thanks LeoLiza, you are as well!! Thanks for the advise... I always love Leos my son is one too and my mother. Usually female leo's drive me batty but male Leo's vavavoom!! Nothing to do with you girls but my mom drives me crazy!! Thanks for the love girls!!

Rule number one about a real Leo guy, he isn't complicated. & he understands passion, just because you got together after you said you wouldn't, means nothing other than he is Leo, and it is good to be King, so you could hardly be blamed for your moment of weakness. He is without pretense if he likes you, probably misplaced his cell. We can be forgetful and lazy.

Leoliza you got that right. When it all comes down to a boil me and my leo friend she and I can defeat just about anything.

Posted by jessejames
I was very upfront with him that I wasn't gonna jump in the sack with him. Well needless to say we went back to my house and one thing led to another. It was fantastic...

That's what you all say... but it always ends up with "one thing leading to another" ! 😛

No, just kidding..... Congratulations, Leo dudes and Scorp chicks radiate towards eachother like magnets! And what do you mean "too fast"? It took you 19 years let the poor guy in!

I'm not sure I understand what exactly you're worried about. Why would he LOSE respect for you when you obviousely had his respect even AFTER you slept with him? I mean he is calling and texting you, right? 🙂

Thank you Enfant_Terrible... You have a good point and you are a guy, I respect your opinion!! Thanks!!!

Dear JJ,

There is something that you are not telling us and Enfant kind of touched on it. The Leo did or said something to make you think that he is losing respect for you. He probably didn't even realize what he did or said.

The problem you have created for yourself is this: Lions like to hunt and/or chase. The harder you are to get the more intrigued we are. You see, we all think we are the cat's meow and therefore, we want a partner who is our equal. We want someone who is attractive, well mannered, well groomed, fun and slightly elusive.

What's done is done and the pickle will never become a cucumber again.

So now what you ask? Well you could keep doing what you are doing knowing that it is going to end sooner than later and enjoy the ride. You could pump your brakes and allow him to chase this might preserve things a little longer. The fact of the matter is you have little control over what happens next.

Leos and Scorpios generally do not do well together. There may be other chart placements to help counteract this but 2 fixed signs equal a whole lot of unyieldingness (yes I made that word up).

I truly hope this turns out the way you want it to but if it does not, know that it turned out the way it was supposed to.

Good Luck

JJ

When you talked about this six month thing with the kids, now this is important. Did he agree with the concept, or did he enter into a formal agreement. His exact verbiage is key, make sure you pin him down, his words will be precise but he might use your tendency to run with ideas to avoid direct conflict. If he agrees, it meant a lot.

He might be creating a chase by being silent, once he caught you, or you him, the next rule in the chase is the element of surprise.

Ok Mountain Leo, he is the one who made up the 6 month rule about the kids. I agreed nothing more was said. We both seemed eager to see each other again but it hasn't happened and mostly because we both have children and are busy with life in general. He supervises a big crew of guys and has several projects going. So no the agreement was unofficially agreed on. I hope this makes sense. Last night when texting him he and I both said a couple of blunt things...then when i didn't say much he told me I was awesome and smokin' whatever that means...I'm pretty direct but I don't want a guy that is telling everyone this. I just have a hard time knowing that he could be seeing others while I'm shunning others in order to respect him to see if we are gonna hit it off further. For those of you who understand this part (which I hope to someday) he and I both have Gemini moon. Please any feedback is great for me. Yes we scorpios over analyze the heck out of things and I want to enjoy him but I want to know we are on the same page. He told me that I'm gonna be the death of him last night because he thinks about me entirely too much. I am so confused.....

Mountain Leo how can I surprise him....—??

Posted by leoliza
But personal relationships are challenging because Leos won't stand for being dominated and stuff gets ugly from there...

I will definitely "stand being dominated" in the sense that I usually pick my battles. I don't ALWAYS feel like I need to be on top of everything, in fact I'm too lazy and indifferent about most things. So I'd gladly "submit" to a woman whose opinions, boundaries and principles I can respect and relate to. The best girlfriends are those who I look up to and who make be want to be a better man. How could I possibly aspire to do anything but peacefully "submit" to a woman like that? There are many others ways one can be challanging in a productive sense, than to constantly have to argue just to stay on top.

enfant_terrible...I'm extremely submissive. Not a pushover but I let the man be King. It's just who I am which is weird for a scorp.... 🙂

JJ

Your Lion is smitten with you 😉. No way in Hell is he seeing other people. He has a lot on his plate, when we are overwhelmed our hearts shrink, best as I can describe it. Not a good situation. If he made this agreement with you, you are in a relationship with him. Be patient, he might be overwhelmed.

And he surprises you 😉

Mountain Leo, you never cease to amaze me much like my guy. I am excited for the surprises he has in store for me, thanks for your vote of confidence. You're a fun fella!!! You made my day!! Grrrrrr