Confused with Leo's intentions :(

Hey everybody! I would really appreciate some advice if possible.

I've had an online Leo friend for quite some time now. We always kept things really casual but we'd chat nearly everyday even if it was just to say hey. The last few months things got a lot more serious between us. My Leo works long hours and when she's not working she's usually busy doing something else. Anyway as we started to get closer I noticed the extra effort she would put in to communicate with me throughout the day. We had a disagreement which led to us both admitting our feelings for each other. It was nothing deep or complicated. It was rather straightforward and to the point. I told her that I did "love" her. Well as much as you can love someone you've never even met anyway. I didn't want to be a fool because we both live in different countries and I'm in no position at the moment to hop across the ocean and be with her. There are a lot of things I'm still working on in my life. She is working hard on her career so I doubt she's able to come here either right now. So we kinda just left it at that. Anyway we've been basically having this sorta online relationship I guess you could say. We never said we were together, but the I love you's the, time we spend to together. How we check in with each other everyday. The fact that she falls asleep texting me.

Everything was nice. I felt like we were in this mutual place. Then the other day she mentions her mother nagging her to go on a date so she said she would And how her mother was bugging her about details on the person. Well I thought she was talking figuratively but she dissapeared and returned about 5hrs later with an "I love you" I said it back of course and we picked up our usual chatty convo. Then she mentioned her date wanting to watch a horror movie earlier. So yeah it hit me hard and I thought I was gonna die. I played it cool and asked what they watched but I was finding it difficult to be around her. I felt like I'd been burnt and was afraid to go back, so I ended taking an hr between replies. I was tryna pull it together and make an effort with her. Not just drop get cold and dissapear as I thought that would make things obvious.

I really need some advice. I've been avoiding her but not completely. Every time she says she loves me I wanna throw up. She claims she has these strong feelings for me but I can't help but feel played. I know this is a really crazy situation. What I'd like to know is, does she care? Do Leos do this usually? I don't blame her as we never committed to each other. Im just not sure how to handle the situation.
I don't even wanna bring up the topic because I can't offer her a solution right now. Maybe in the future but right now I'm stuck in my current situation. I would never ask her to wait for me. I'm just having trouble understanding how you tell someone you love them but you date someone else. Does she just want me for the attention I give her maybe?

She's a Leo-cancer

Just throwing my 2 cents here.

*cough* she actually TOLD you about her having to go at this date supposedly being obligated by her mother. Trust me, if she had other "plans" she wouldn't have told you so that's a sign that he respects you enough to let you know.
Second of all, we are loyal mmmkay? we don't just hit and run. I wouldn't be spending/investing this much time doing the things you two are doing if I wasn't interested or if it was just something casual/a fling.

I think Leo's are either at one end either at the other, never (rare cases only) in between.

If it bothers you so much that you can't even talk to her like you did before, just be honest and tell her how you feel without sounding so defensive. We love when the other one shows some jealousy, it shows us that you care.
And speaking for myself, I would rather have you telling me what bothers you directly so we can sort it out rather than just keeping it in only to explode later.

Thanks Bloo, that's some excellent advice and I really appreciate it.

I never really considered the fact she told me about the date. I guess she could have kept it a secret, It just felt like a punch. I think being a Scorpio moon and being so all or nothing I couldn't even imagine being in that situation when I like her so much. I wondered if the fact she said her mother was bugging her to date was a sacpegoat for her wanting to date and not hurt my feeling. Good ol Scorp moon thinking lol.

I guess you're right though. She has invested a lot of time and I'm thinking if I feel this way she must feel this way too. To put that much effort in. But thanks I appreciate your perspective you have no idea 🙂

Care to elaborate Joseline?

Posted by PancakeFace
Thanks Bloo, that's some excellent advice and I really appreciate it.

I never really considered the fact she told me about the date. I guess she could have kept it a secret, It just felt like a punch. I think being a Scorpio moon and being so all or nothing I couldn't even imagine being in that situation when I like her so much. I wondered if the fact she said her mother was bugging her to date was a sacpegoat for her wanting to date and not hurt my feeling. Good ol Scorp moon thinking lol.

I guess you're right though. She has invested a lot of time and I'm thinking if I feel this way she must feel this way too. To put that much effort in. But thanks I appreciate your perspective you have no idea 🙂

You're most welcome. We don't invest if no feelings are there.
How are things by the way?

I friend zoned her without telling her at first. It was the only way I could manage to still communicate with her, without being upset. Then I got over it and went back to normal. Not that I got over her, just I'm a Mars in Aries and I can be quite reactionary. I told her I had to work through some issues and she said okay.

I decided to get my life in check and then when I'm confident I can put 100% into being with her and if she's still single. I'm gonna win her heart and make it happen. Lol.

I just don't want to put either of us in a hopeless situation right now. And her happiness means everything to me. I want her to be happy with or without me. I love Leos they are my biggest weakness. Her Venus is in Leo too, so she's really loving and yupppp. 🙂

op, what sign are u?

Posted by MoonshineLeo
op, what sign are u?

A Capricorn with a Scorpio moon and Leo rising.

Leo-Cancer loves Capricorn.

She must love you and is probably planning to suprise you with a plan to visit or meet. She's just making sure you are abreast with happenings. Its well meaning. And the date means nothing. She probably bores the other guy talking about you.

You'll have to try to meet soon though.

Posted by 037
Leo-Cancer loves Capricorn.

She must love you and is probably planning to suprise you with a plan to visit or meet. She's just making sure you are abreast with happenings. Its well meaning. And the date means nothing. She probably bores the other guy talking about you.

She does seem like the type that would do that actually. I've made a lot of mistakes in the past, especially with Leos so I've been tryna take my time with her and get it right. Why do you say it will have to be soon? Out of curiosity?

Posted by Koniucha
Cap with Scorp moon - sounds hot!

Why thank you. Glad someone thinks so, lol.

What are your placements?

Ohhhh like Drake. Damn that must be intense 🙂

Well, Cancer moon is about homemaking. Eventually, we liketo get to it. No matter if we need to cross the ocean. Once there is love, respect and encouragement as well as prospect, we will start to try to set up a secure home base.

I'm a Leo-Cancer with Venus in Leo too so....

Posted by 037
Well, Cancer moon is about homemaking. Eventually, we liketo get to it. No matter if we need to cross the ocean. Once there is love, respect and encouragement as well as prospect, we will start to try to set up a secure home base.

I'm a Leo-Cancer with Venus in Leo too so....

Oh well she's a Leo-Cancer cusp with a Taurus moon and Gemini rising. Her Mercury is in Leo and her Venus is in Leo. Mars in Taurs and a lot of Cancer in her chart too.

Wow you seem to have similar placements so I guess you're a good one for advice 🙂
Leo Venus really are excellent with displaying affection.

Ah, I thought you meant Leo with a Cancer moon. I have a Cancer moon, not on the cusp

Ah okay! I know a few Leos with cancer moons they are always really nice people 🙂