Gemini Needs Advice About A Leo

So much has happened in the past week, that I'm not even sure where to begin. There's no short version to my story, so bear with me. I'm a Gemini Female who has been attracted to a Leo Male co-worker for quite some time. I never acted on my feelings as I was dating someone with whom we share a child. Finally I decided that it wouldn't work out with the b/f, who is a Pisces. So I decided to tell the Leo that I was attracted to him.

It's a complicated situation. The Leo, My now ex b/f, The Leo's brother and father, and I all work at the same place. I've been drawn to the Leo and been unable to get him out of my head. I've read about 3-11 combinations and how there is a karmic tie between them. From the moment I met the Leo, I felt as if I already did know him.

I had suspected that the Leo already figured out that I was attracted to him. Even the b/f was suspicious that me and the Leo were having an affair. So I decided to call the Leo and asked him to meet me. He so readily agreed that I figured he knew my intentions. I was wrong. He never suspected anything. He was pretty much speechless. Then we talked about how it was over w/ the Pisces and that I was trying to find a place to move. He then said he would be willing to go out and see what would happen. Then he hugged me goodbye. I told him that only made me want to kiss him, and so we did. Then we made tentative plans to do something later in the week.

Then I told the b/f that it was over and he asked me who I wanted to date. I told him everything. I had previously been REPEATEDLY telling the Pisces that it was over. I think it had to take someone else for the Pisces to realize I was done. Me and the Pisces have been like roomates for the past 2 years. We haven't been intimate in ages and sleep in seperate beds. I told the Pisces that I wasn't going to take it further with the Leo until we were completely separated.

So then the Leo asked me if we still had plans for Friday, which was the 4th of July. I told him I was taking my daughter to see my friend who was staying at a campground nearby. My friend has a child that is my daughter's friend. That way they could play while him and I talked. I intended to tell him that I couldn't show anything past friendship with him around my daughter. So we agreed to meet and go together.

The Pisces encourages me to be honest and says he won't get upset if I just tell the truth. So he asks if me and the Leo are going to

The Pisces encourages me to be honest and says he won't get upset if I just tell the truth. So he asks if me and the Leo are going to the campground together and I said yes. I even told him that I wouldn't do anything w/ the Leo around our child. He was upset about me and the Leo going together. He threatened to have a "talk" with the Leo.

When the Leo and I arrived at the campground he said he wanted to talk to me about "our relationship." He said he didn't know how it could possibly work between us and that he wanted to be friends and "hang out" with me. He said he wasn't ruling anything out, but that he wanted to just be friends. I then found out that the Pisces did have a talk w/ the Leo. I asked if that was why he just wanted to be friends. He said he had already decided that before the Pisces talked to him. I appologized for how things went down and involving him w/ the Pisces and my drama. I told him that I would agree to the "just friends" thing, hoping that eventually my powers of persuation would win in the end.

This all made for a difficult situation at work. At first he wasn't even talking to me. Then he asked me if I still wanted him to go with him to look at a rental. I told him only if he wanted to, that I didn't want to push him into anything. I had a revelation after leaving the Leo on the 4th that gave me a new perspective and I told him I needed to tell him about it.

So the Leo met me at the rental. The Leo had previously told me that he sees unusual things. He sees dark shadows and shadows in places where they shouldn't be. When the Leo told me this it reminded me of an ex b/f who had told me the exact same thing. Then it came to me that the ex b/f, who is deceased, had an August birthday. I found his death certificate on the internet and turns out his birthday was August 14th. The Leo I'm interested in now is born on August 13th.
The Leo that passed was my first love. I had real love with that Leo and I threw him away. I've always regretted giving him up, but I was young and stupid.

I found it interesting the comparison between how I told the Leo I liked him and how the deceased Leo told me the same thing. Both of us came across strong and acted as if we were madly in love with the other person, even though we had barely knew each other. I remembered how when the deceased Leo first kissed me, that I didn't feel anything towards him. Eventually as time went on we ended up dating on and off f

found it interesting the comparison between how I told the Leo I liked him and how the deceased Leo told me the same thing. Both of us came across strong and acted as if we were madly in love with the other person, even though we had barely knew each other. I remembered how when the deceased Leo first kissed me, that I didn't feel anything towards him. Eventually as time went on we ended up dating on and off for several years.

I now know I need to back away from the Leo. If he is anything like my deceased Leo then he is worth patiently waiting for. I can only hope that he will eventually end up with me just as I did with the deceased Leo. I know I need to be in a new place before I can even think about dating anyone. I knew the odds were stacked against me with the Leo but I had to try. There is a major age difference between me and the Leo. I've had many relationships where there were, so it's not that big a deal to me. Luckily, I look much younger than my true age. The Leo guessed me as 10 years younger than I am. He even told me that he thought it was "pretty hot" that an older woman digs him.

Any advice with how to proceed with the Leo? I refuse to give up on him at this point, but am willing to try to patient with him.

I think he senses drama...which isn't your fault but maybe just relax with the intensity of everything. Him being called by your ex, your current affairs, which I'm sorry to say are baggage - and yes everyone has some baggage at one point in their lives, perhaps it's just all too much for him - and to top you guys work together. I don't like anything that equates to difficult in a relationship. At least not in the beginning...if I meet a man who's "getting divorced", or trying to get custody of his kids or whatever the case is, I'm already running out the front door.
Perhaps just be happy with friendship, accept his offers when he wants to look for rentals with you and just back off on the relationship aspect. In fact, go out and meet other people - men too. Don't obsess over this Leo either - it just isn't going to help. Make yourself a bit of a challenge.

LeoAqua, easier said than done. I've told myself all these things. I even told him that I would back off and we could be just friends. That would be easier to do if I didn't have to see him all the time. I live a block away from where we work. I can't avoid going past it to go for a walk or to drive somewhere. I saw the Leo this morning on my walk. He confuses me as he tells me one thing (wants to be just friends) then gives me looks like he is mentally undressing me.

I've been talking on and off with the Leo's dad. He also works where we do. He thinks the Leo is just scared as he's never had any serious relationships thus far. He told me he can't see the "just friends" thing lasting very long.

I know I need to have my own place before anything will go further with the Leo. He went with me to look at a rental, but the guy who has the rental stood me up. It almost seemed to upset the Leo more than myself about this guy not showing up.

I'm not going to give up hope. Thanks for the advice and I'd appreciate any tips on Leo seduction 😉

Ah Leo Seduction.....

The neck and shoulders - just keep touching them. Don't ever stop 😉

Neck and shoulders...I share the same errogenous zones. Now I just got to get him in the position to use that on him.

There is a chance that this guy is still a virgin. His father told me that there have not been ANY g/f's that he's known about. He is in his early twenties and I am in my 30's. I think he's scared to death, perhaps of his shortcomings 😉

Also, I think it's possible he doubts the sincerity of my feelings towards him. He may think I'm just after sex, or that I'm using him as revenge against the b/f. I have to convince him otherwise. Can you tell I've already fallen for him?

Yes you've fallen!!
Well you have the advantage of corrupting him 🙂

With this one I'd say just take it as it comes....take it day by day. If he is terrified you're going to have to be pretty damn patient. Leos are proud - they'd rather step down than be anything but 1st Class!

On one level it sounds like lust your lust combined with his Fixed hesitance since his Fire sign is not quite like Sagittarius, Leo is not so much interested in playing the "field" instead aquiring a suitable partner its that fixed vibration, between you two it should oridinarily be a sextile, but its your lust and his accomodation (he may have a nice place that you are attracted to) although if he's typical he's gonna be more reserved, less impulsive and besides your magnetism is somewhat jilted > you guys are coworkers!

You have fallen for him but no short commings his side that just sounds fanciful non sense > what rentals are you talking about? The chemistry between these two is mostly unrestricted so go have some sex let it off.

If you are hungry for some intimacy then ask him for it.

Ask him it won't hurt.

"On one level it sounds like lust your lust combined with his Fixed hesitance since his Fire sign is not quite like Sagittarius, Leo is not so much interested in playing the "field" instead aquiring a suitable partner its that fixed vibration, between you two it should oridinarily be a sextile"

I would not say this is just a question of lust. I've known him for 2 years now, and I've tried to fight off the feelings that I have for him. When I first met him, I was instantantly attracted to him. However, at first I was taken aback by the fact that his face is quite scarred from having had bad acne. It didn't take long before I didn't even see that anymore. Then there were many a times my now ex-b/f would make fun of this Leo for his problems. That led towards anger towards the b/f for saying such hurtful things about someone I started caring about.

There were things I said to the Leo that I think made him believe that my b/f was a rebound over someone else. Which is true. I had very intense feelings for someone much younger than myself before this b/f (both of whom were Pisces.) Then he broke my heart and it tooks years to deal with it, meanwhile living on with the b/f and child. The feelings I have for the Leo are almost equivalent to the ones for the first younger Pisces. Except the Pisces was not only mentally unstable, but got into drug usage. Both Pisces tended to bring out the evil twin, the Leo brings out the good one. I like the way I feel when I'm around him. The many hours of talking with the Leo have shown me that I was right about his character. He also shares many of my same core beliefs on religion and we have many other similar interests.

So now this has made for a very difficult situation at work. He doesn't really talk to me when anyone else is around. We all work at an RV resort. I work in the store, the Leo works in maintenance. The Leo's brother works in maintenance and the Leo's father works security with my ex b/f.

However, the Leo came into the store I work at on Sunday (one of his days off.) He said he wanted to know why this other co-worker blew me off when he was supposed to be showing me a rental of his. He had seemed more upset at this co-worker than I was about him not showing me the place.

If I haven't created some interest from him, then why come into work on your day off to talk to me? He's torturing me. But I think it all comes down to the fact that he is scared to death. He's not had any serious relationships and may be a virgin. I think he believes I could be using him as a rebound or revenge on the b/f. I also think he believes I'm just after sex. While of course I want to do him 😉I'm more interested in being with him, than just the sex.

"Wow, your situation sounds very complicated, especially with that jealous ex. I think you and the Leo should start out as friends first. Let all the drama with the Pisces ex subside if possible. It's difficult because he is your child's father and it seems he will always be in your business - being in the way controlling you. How can you begin to have a new relationship with someone that way? If I were on the Leo's shoes, I don't think I would pursue this relationship. I would be extra cautious. I have the same bday as your new Leo."

The drama has subsided with the Pisces. He is now accepting that I'm going to leave him. He knows now that I'm serious. He's also been trying to be as nice as possible to me. I told him it's too bad he didn't behave that way all along. He said "what else can I do but be as nice as I can be, now that I'm afraid I've lost you for good." The Pisces has also said he would be up for us living together for a while and dating others. He even said he would tell the Leo that he would not be against us seeing each other. I told him that I do not want him talking to the Leo about anything. I told the Pisces that would not work out and that I need to find my own place.

I know it's complicated. That's why it took me 2 years to come to this decision. I didn't take it lightly. I tried to work it out with the Pisces first. But then I couldn't get the Leo out of my thoughts. When I tried, I'd end up dreaming about him. Once I dreamt about him every night for a week straight. I really had a feeling of already knowing the Leo when I met him. Since we are a 3-11 combination, that is supposed to be a relationship based on karmic debt.

As Linda Goodman says about 3-11 vibrations:

"there's often sacrifice required in the relationship, some great benefit gained, due to the karmic tie between them - memories of past lives. Like all such 3-11 vibrations, the association is usually a fated one, an involvement difficult to resist, in family or business ties, as well as in friendship and romance. The Leo man feels compelled to teach the Gemini girl things which may truly change her life even more than he feels compelled to instruct others, and that's saying a lot."

"It's always an interesting encounter, and a fated one, planned on a higher level, long before both of them were born."

"The good or evil these two Sun Signs bring to each other is seldom minor. Yet if they will meditate on the laws of Karma, or reincarnation, they'll understand why one of them is so willing to aid the other, and learn to accept the favor gracefully. Or, they'll comprehend the reverse situation - why the two of them continue to senselessly hurt one another and through understanding, be able to end the karmic pattern by the simple Karma-canceling act of forgiving and forgetting. Otherwise, they're only stacking up additional obligations for future lives, wherein their two souls will be chained together, in an endless succession of close relationships, through the inevitable law of magnetic attraction and repulsion, action and reaction."

I've decided to invite him to come out with me on Saturday night, as friends. I already planned to go to a local casino w/ a friend. I want to tell him that my feelings for him go beyond just wanting to get in his pants. I'm just not sure how much I should tell him. I don't want to scare him off even more.

I've been making a cd for him of songs that make me think of him. I haven't decided whether I'll give it to him or not though. I've also been thinking of telling him that he was part of the inspiration (although not the only reason) that I've took this last year to get back into shape. I've now lost 40 lbs and am close to my goal. Now I get hit on like crazy from all the young maintenance men, who all think I'm in my late 20's. The attention is nice, but I only have eyes for the Leo 😉

You sound a little obsessed with him quite frankly.