Had sex with a Leo too soon?

Hey, guys..so..I have been best friends with this Leo guy for about 8 years. Never saw each other much in person but texted and talked on the phone all the time. Always there for each other..never judging each other. Great friends. So..my husband and I recently divorced and I started talking to this Leo man more....always heavy emphasis on sexual things as we're both very sexual...but we just danced around the topic. Nothing out of the ordinary for us. We ran into each other at a bar a few months back and flirted a lot. Nothing happened. Hung out at weekend and he ended up taking me home from the bar we were at. Instead of going in, we talked from 2 am until 7 am and decided to go back to his place. We ended up talking there and laying in his bed from then until 6pm....flirting, laughing, joking, talking about life. When I got home that night, he thanked me for being such a good friend and told me that he really enjoyed just talking to me ALL day and night. A couple nights ago, we met up again...well, I got too drunk..ended up back at his place and slept with him. I'm so embarrassed because I don't usually do that. He acted fine even until dropping me off at my house...but didn't text me all day. I sent him a quick thank you for the fun we had and he text back "Lol." No talking today either.

What in the world is going on? I figured our connection was awesome..idk what's happening? I really like him. 😢



Me:

Sun in Taurus/Gemini cusp
Moon: Pisces
Rising: Leo
Mars: Gemini
Venus: Taurus
Mercury: Gemini
Jupiter: Aries

With him I only know-

Sun in Leo
Moon in Sagittarius
Rising in Scorpio
Mars/Venus in Virgo

Help!

This is what happens when you throw around too much flirty, sexy talk with some guys.

All that anticipation, they get some from you, and now the thrill is gone.

...and it's only been a few days. I don't blame you for being alarmed by the sudden change, but give it a bit. If this exceeds a week or something, then yeah, it's kinda obvious what really happened.

Yeah, I've read that Leo's don't like it when you give in too soon but I thought we had been friends for so long that it had surpassed that point. He has a sag moon and heavy Virgo influence in his chart as well..so maybe he's doing the hot and cold thing that they tend to do. I'm hoping he takes his bit of space and comes back around because if anything, our friendship meant a lot to me. Don't want to lose that bond. Thank you, rockyroadicecream.

I'm sorry for what the obvious (as someone mentioned above) is taking place..(and you know most of time it takes someone with experience to know one).

Well thou i didn't went through exactly as yours, I also dealt with a immature Leo lately and since decided enough of it.
You could go read my ultra long post at the thread below yours: 'aqua leos roller coaster'. Figured i shouldn't type here to waste your space.

[ If you value yourself more ]
Nonethless, i would advice you to move on heads up. Don't give him the satisfaction of he even ever matter so much to you. Which probably he would just flake you off for good since he ald enjoyed what he only wanted from you. Hence don't give him any ego boost anymore.


[ If you values him more than yourself]
After reading alot many women with Leo exp says they like someone who is strong enough to go without him. So get on your life, he might be back. (Then again would you still feel treasured and want to treasure someone whom just treated you like flicking out a fly?)

Posted by brittagolds
Yeah, I've read that Leo's don't like it when you give in too soon but I thought we had been friends for so long that it had surpassed that point. He has a sag moon and heavy Virgo influence in his chart as well..so maybe he's doing the hot and cold thing that they tend to do. I'm hoping he takes his bit of space and comes back around because if anything, our friendship meant a lot to me. Don't want to lose that bond. Thank you, rockyroadicecream.

I mean flicking Off* a fly.


Oh well.. perhaps your Pisces moon..but for me i would say hope you won't get offended, get a backbone! Did you see how much a valued your 'friendship'/ 'relationship' or any sh1t as matter of fact?

Oh well.. perhaps your Pisces moon..but for me i would say hope you won't get offended (i definitely side you), get a backbone! Did you see how much He* valued your 'friendship'/ 'relationship' or any sh1t as matter of fact? Go figure!

AquaAngel, you're right. It seems all that I really can do is get on with my life. I don't chase people...my vedic moon is Aquarius and I can become very detached and tend to act out the way that I feel others think that I should. I know that he isn't emotional, so I've been very to the point and non emotional with him. If he comes back, then he comes back...if he doesnt, then he doesn't I suppose. I just wish I hadn't fallen for him. Thank you, AquaAngel.

Posted by brittagolds
AquaAngel, you're right. It seems all that I really can do is get on with my life. I don't chase people...my vedic moon is Aquarius and I can become very detached and tend to act out the way that I feel others think that I should. I know that he isn't emotional, so I've been very to the point and non emotional with him. If he comes back, then he comes back...if he doesnt, then he doesn't I suppose. I just wish I hadn't fallen for him. Thank you, AquaAngel.

I'm a very Aquarius woman with cancer moon.
Detaching people like they don't exist is my very natural 'power'.
Some people just don't appreciate what was being different specially for them. Me too also never wanted to hang him just like that, among most contacts i have, he was privilegely never had me not replying. They just didn't know what they had. Lol.


Let us do this together, why would they matter when even a dog is better!?

Haha...I agree. I pride myself in being unique...with my traits altogether...I can be very grounded, sensual and stubborn (Taurus) very communicative and charismatic (gem), compassionate, detatched, intelligent and mysterious (aqua and Pisces) yet very full of pride and self confidence (leo).

Some guys really are oblivious. I only give my heart over when I feel someone is worth it and if that happens...consider yourself lucky because I love hard and freely. Walking contradiction but, hey.

Yes, we can do this together. 🙂

Great quote. Do you think that I should ignore him and give him his space until he comes to me?

Well..not ignore..but just distance myself. I wouldn't want to be ignored..and I know Leo's love their attention.

True. Well I guess there's my answer.

Great..I guess that means I wasn't worth keeping. But thank you for the insight, I really appreciate it. I think I ruined it by getting drunk and rushing in. A week before, he was resting his head on mine...playing with my hair..falling asleep next to me.

Time to move on I suppose.

And thank you as well, busy eyes. If anything, I'd really like to maintain the friendship. I respect and love him as a friend more than anything. Don't want to lose that. Maybe down the line I will be able to redeem myself but in the meantime, I'll be living mylife.

And I know the sex couldn't have been horrible seeing as how there are hickeys all over my neck like he ravaged me lol...oh well.

I am one that doesn't go with the social norms and female expectation of suppression of one self. I am confident in my sexuality and I will sleep with someone if and when I feel like it. If you look down on me...then thanks for the time, keep it moving. I don't build my confidence on others prescription of me. With that being said, I think it rings true with us Leo Females and males, if we are into you we are into you. Ssupes has pretty much summed it up in a males perspective in my opinion on the Leos.

Both my exhusband (Leo) and my current husband (Leo) I slept with on the first night. I know for a fact my ex contacted me first the next day (this was back in 99 before cell phones and text messaging). My current husband.....I may have dropped him a line before he contacted me, but he admits, me seeing him the next day was a test for me.

You what, slept with him Saturday night? Today is Monday. Throw a bone out there. Text him in such: Haven't heard from you, hope all is well or Just wanted to say Hi. You guys have been friends for 8 years, I doubt he will be throwing it away from one night or change his perspective on you. If he is a true friend he could be giving YOU space and letting YOU come around in your time. Contact him. That "let them contact you" is hog wash and puts to much pressure on men. You know they get unsure and nervous too. Plus, we Leo's like to see strength in our mate and one who does fall to what everyone else does.

Though...those Venus/Mars Virgo Placements......

The Lioness...what do you think of those Virgo placements? They have me wondering if he's doing the Virgo hot and cold ordeal.

I honestly don't feel bad about sleeping with him so soon..I just wish that it was sober on my end. I'm a very sexual being and I feel very free about how sexual I am. He knows.

Kind of want a chance to go at it sober and feel present LOL.

Ssupes...if you were in this situation, what do you feel could redeem the female in your eyes? If at all? Im not over here crying...I have to much pride for that..but I would like another shot. If it's a no go..I'll be on my way. No one is worth chasing to that extent.

I went ahead and commented something funny on one of his posts on Facebook about jurassic world since he saw it last night. The day after, on the ride home we were legit dancing and singing in the car...everything was cool. Joking about Taylor Swift and all kinds of other crap. I feel like he's the one making it awkward when all I wanted was to continue the awesome vibe we had whilst possibly getting it on from time to time. I do like him but I know he doesn't want any relationship.

Annnnd he signed on..and no response. Screw it. I give up. I reached out.

I'm confused. So do you want a relationship? Or do you want to keep a friendship?

I don't understand all the flirting and subtle messaging business.

If I was in your shoes, I would have messaged him and straight out said that night you got drunk was a mistake, it usually doesn't happen but now that it did you're trying to find some solid ground and that you don't want to make him feel awkward but that you'd appreciate it if we could still be friends and you both get over it. If not, you're moving on with your life and when he's ready, he can come back and if he can't, stay out. And that he won't throw away a good 8 year friendship unless it really meant nothing to him at all - if he needs space or whatever, just say so. I would've left it at that and moved on with my life after that. :\

Wooosah.

I really needed to chill the fuck out. Thank you. Lol

And to the earlier post...im.not sure if I'd like a relationship or not..he's someone that I could see myself with for sure..I'm just trying to go with the flow for now and not rush. My kind of flow is hanging out, having fun...whatever that entails. I'm pretty chill...except for today, obviously. Idk what's gotten into me.