Help me decipher a leo man

Hello board!

Last year, I made an attempt to date outside of my norm, and met a wonderful leo man. We hit it off instantaneously. Maybe 3-4 months into dating he began talking marriage, living together, and a future. I tried to stay away from those discussions, because I was trying to not have it go down the same path of all my previous relationships.

I think my anxiety got in the way, but I started getting uncomfortable, and overly paranoid, and we started fighting more. Even through all the fights he maintained that he wanted to live together and get married.

Fast forward to January, and one weekend we got into a huge fight. I can accept that I handled it very poorly, but I thought it was ok because we talked about it. We even still discussed wedding plans that weekend. That Tuesday, he said he wanted to break up. I asked him to think about it, and we both agreed to break up that Friday. I asked him if it was permanent, and he goes "yeeeeessss...." like he wasn't completely sure.

Ever since, I feel terrible. He basically took back all the nice things he has ever said about me or to me. We agreed to be friends, but last time I reached out, he lashed out at me, and I just told him have a nice day, and we haven't talked since.

So please help me. Do I have any hope? Or should I just count my losses.

Does being a cloth dinosaur affect anything? 🙂

So quick update - if it matters - we just spoke on the phone. I apologized for my previous actions, and took responsibility for my part in the huge blow up. He accepted my apology. I told him right now is too soon, but I hope one day in the future he will have an open mind towards me. He said possibly, time will tell. Good signs?

Posted by Jynja
and its cool you had a laugh at the dinosaur.

i have never met a cool aqua.

Thank you. 🙂 what's the point of not laughing? We all leave this world the same way we entered, naked and alone. 😉

Thank you kittyknitter.

When we spoke he acknowledged he was also at fault for some issues, but didn't apologize. I didn't press for it either because getting him to acknowledge is a huge step in itself. He used to not do that at all, so I figured the apology will come with time.

I'm trying to give him space. He acknowledged that he does see that I'm giving him space and being respectful of him. While we were together he spoke of so many things in the future, and then the day we broke up he took them all back.

Do Leo's do that when they are upset? I feel really insecure if he is just being nice, or if he is just that hurt.

So I've been giving him space. He reached out to me Saturday and today. Both times were very brief, just to tell me happy birthday and to check in on me. However when I respond, he will go Mia on me. I've not been messaging him more other than just to respond.

Good signs? Or is he just leading me on?

I don't think it was the marriage bit. We would talk about it, but we both agreed it wasn't right for now. We were in a long distance relationship, and he wanted to wait until I moved down there. He wanted me down there before Christmas, but work and school prevented that and is keeping me where I am until May.

However he knew all of that before we even began dating. He knew I wasn't going to be moving anytime soon, and still pursued it.

It's been a day of silence. I think he was just having a moment of weakness when he reached out to me.