hard to let go

I am in love with a leo man that doesn't love me the same. I have known him for over 10 years. Every time I see him it kills me because I want more and he doesn't. I know I have to let go 😢 its so hard to really say goodbye

I know I have to leave... I love him. I love him so much. He knows this. He once told me that he rather have me as a close friend than lose me forever over a reltionship that may go bad. I took our relationship for whatever it is. I don't want him out my life. the only thing I don't like is that he sends me mixed messages. When we are together he acts like we are a couple and says things like he doesn't realize how much he misses me until I am right in front of him. He says one day we are going to be married. I usually don't take this seriously but this past weekend He looked me dead in the eye and was so serious, said he is sorry for staying away and that he loves me. He looked so sad as if he lost me or something. He just kept staring at me, it was almost creepy. He held me so tight and kissed me hard.. I just don't get it 😢

uh, I say you don't give up! I believe that if you hold on for a little while longer, what if you get what you want. I'm in a similar situation but we are only on month 2, lol (shut up) I believe in what you feel, not what they say. actions speaks louder than words and some people just can't say it. but don't listen to me I really don't have any advice but for me I can never give up on my guy. I hope you stay strong, put yourself first, work on you and be happy. life can change in the blink of an eye, if nothing else he knows how you feel and he may have a few things in his life that he has to go through or get through before he's ready. only you know if "it's" there. good luck.

Sweets..do yourself a favor and read this article and the many many comments after.


http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html?commentPage=13

Posted by seraph
Leos often hang on, even when they shouldn't. He loves you enough to miss your presence, but not enough to give you what you seem to want.

Leo males are fierce individualists. There's very little *need* going on with them in terms of needing a committed relationship. It's purely a desire function, and may come and go according to what is available. There are types that can and will sublimate their individuality in order to commit fully to a romantic relationship, and there are others that will not, or that will be willing to do it only rarely.

This one loves and craves your presence in his life, but feels, ultimately, that what you want is at cross-purposes with his individuality, which he will ultimately cleave to. There might be a woman out there for him, for whom he can and will sublimate his individuality. At this point, you aren't it. And if you push and pursue in return you'll only make it more difficult for yourself.

I'm sorry that this truth is so difficult to face, but CLARITY is a beautiful thing. The way ahead for you is clear

I understand what your saying.. I do not push or pursue this man. He comes looking for me. Prior to this I chose to physically stay away and I stood away for months. We did keep in touch.. just a hi how your doing thing nothing more. This past weekend that kiss took me by surprise. He did ask to see me to go to dinner with him this coming saturday. I havn't answered him yet. He is my friend and I know that I may not be the one, but I just can't completely remove him from my life. I love him too much to do that. I just have to deal with it.

sounds to me like he's trying. I would at least go to dinner with him. here's a thought and no it's not a good one but as a Gemini I believe at some point you accept being friends if that's all their capable of, but maybe as your friend you tell him about a new guy you met. I think jealously is an emotion and if you've done all you can do then try moving on but let him know your putting yourself back out there. most people say don't make them jealous, I say try it.

seraph you took the words right out of my mouth.. I am not looking for a quick fix or artifical feelings from him either. Besides he knows I date and I know he dates so neither of us gets jealous of one another. We are far beyond that.

your right I probably won't be able to handle it.

So I haven't talked to my leo since late July. I chose to stay away because I felt like I was giving too much and getting so little in return. I took the advice and distance myself to focuse on me. I must say it was refreshing after a while. That pain turned into a dull ache, that is until he reached out to me recently. On thanksgivinf he.called me (I let it go to voice mail) says he was thinking of me and wished me well. I ignored it. couple weeks later he txt me wished merry christmas. Ignored it. On new years eve he called me again. I got frustrated and picked up told him that u am trying to get over him and its hard to do that when he keeps popping back in my life. Told hum it was unfair that he does this, its unhealthy for me.because I love him so much and it hurts because he don't feel the same. I told him that in no way that I'm going to force him to do anything that he doesn't want to do. If he's happy being single then leave me alone. His response was this: you have no idea how good it.feels to hear your voice and he.didn't realize how bad I have ir for him. Says I'm much too good of a women for him. He never mentioned anything else. Wished me happy new year and said he was going to bed. Its been about 3 days with no contact and I can't stop thinking.about him now. I just don't understand any of this. If I'm such a good woman then why not move forward into something more? Im lost. I truly love this man and he kniws it and its killing me

Well then why dont you go get him then?

leo poeple in here, can you give me some advice?

Posted by mfwb55
Well then why dont you go get him then?

Pffft.

Posted by mfwb55
Well then why dont you go get him then?

Easier said than done. I've already tried that a long time ago when I first told him how I really felt. He won't budge. Besides I'm not going to go physcho on him. That will push him away further.

HEY HUNI, i have been on the same roller coaster ride for three yrs this month, i love this man, and he knows it, i have learned when i do go off on one on how he treats me, he freakin loves it, leo men love attention ! any type as far as i can see, i have just decided to try the rubber band i actually read about it awhile back, but hey new yr new start lol, lets c how the big pussy deals with this lol, rubbing hands !!

Posted by SensualCancerChika

Posted by mfwb55
Well then why dont you go get him then?

Easier said than done. I've already tried that a long time ago when I first told him how I really felt. He won't budge. Besides I'm not going to go physcho on him. That will push him away further.

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Maybe-- maybe not.

He's probably surprised you haven't-- either way, I wouldn't contact him.

You have to give him a chance to miss you (and he will, as you've shown).. and to work for it-- accept nothing less that what YOU are looking for.

It's the only way-- LEOs (despite what they say, at times) don't want it handed to them-- and even if he won't give it to you, you WILL have his respect.

That goes a long way.

Otherwise, you'll have nothing, where he is concerned.

Best of luck. 🙂

He's popped back into my life again! Around March we hung out a few times with mutual friends.. He disappeared AGAIN. I haven't heard from him since. Just out of the blue poof gone, up until this past weekend he sends me a little text. Why does this keep happening to me. Why does he keep coming back? I still love him, but my feelings are not as strong as they once were. I'm interested in another Leo who's starting to act the same way and he's older. I don't think I can handle this. I've always thought that in the beginning you put all your cards on the table and be straight up about what you want. Why can't they be straight up with me. Why the push-pull? I'm starting to think that maybe I'm the problem. I give attention he pulls away, I don't give attention he comes back. what gives?

Posted by SensualCancerChika
He's popped back into my life again! Around March we hung out a few times with mutual friends.. He disappeared AGAIN. I haven't heard from him since. Just out of the blue poof gone, up until this past weekend he sends me a little text. Why does this keep happening to me. Why does he keep coming back? I still love him, but my feelings are not as strong as they once were. I'm interested in another Leo who's starting to act the same way and he's older. I don't think I can handle this. I've always thought that in the beginning you put all your cards on the table and be straight up about what you want. Why can't they be straight up with me. Why the push-pull? I'm starting to think that maybe I'm the problem. I give attention he pulls away, I don't give attention he comes back. what gives?

Why does this keep happening?

Because you LET IT!!!

Listen to Montgomery, she talks a lot of sense.

It's a pattern..cause and effect. He contacts, you jump.

You talk about mixed signals but it is you who is giving them off. You cut him off, then when he contacts you get whine-y and say words to the effect of "why are u doing this to me" then you come back saying you have been spending time with him.

Either accept the situation or cut him off. Not being rude, I've been there like this with a leo. Mine cant give necessarily what I fully want but I accept what he can give me and I've had to learn that if I want him in my life I can have him, but I cannot emotionally invest.

As soon as I accepted that, it took the pressure off, and we actually have more fun, and less angst. I accept who he is, and I don't try to change him.
However...I'm not after marrying mine and living happily ever after lol