I messed up, please help and advice

Hello Leos. I'm a 40 year old cancer male whose attracted to one fine lioness. We met through an online dating site last summer. We spoke on the phone a few times and I enjoyed talking to her. She's a little weird, but I like her anyway. What I mean by weird is that she's different. We planned on meeting in person in the fall, but something came up so we never met. I did not hear from her until January. I was wondering why I haven't heard from her so I emailed her and her response was that she's been busy. Sure, silence is golden but did she not want to speak to me again?

We planned to meet sometime in January, but there was a blizzard so it was cancelled again. We finally met in person for the first time in February and I really like her. We met at a bookstore and had lunch at a restaurant nearby. I was surprised that she wasn't nervous meeting me for the first time. Most women I meet usually get nervous and uneasy talking on the first meeting. She said there's no reason to be nervous because we're friends. I confessed to her that I had lied about my real age and profession. In my profile, my age was 5 years younger than my real age and that I work as an IT person. I should have told her early on, but I forgot so I told that day hoping that she wouldn't mind. The reason why I had lied about my age and profession is because good searches were limited. I really enjoyed being around her. Since I live with my grams, I invited her over to rent a movie. She was hesitant and did not like the idea of coming over our place for the first time (don't worry I didn't try do anything to scare her away), but since my grams was over (she has alzheimers), she agreed. We rented a couple of movies, had dinner and I introduced her to my grams. My grams was really excited and was teasing me. She thinks she is my girlfriend.

Back to this lioness. I admire her, love her long silky black hair, and the scent of her perfume. Makes me want to attack her but I have to control myself and be respectful. Don't want to scare her away. I really enjoyed my time with her. That night on her way back home she had a little accident with her car so I offered to help her fix whatever problems she may have since I work for an auto shop. Not for free ofcourse. The following week, I picked her up so she can pick up her car and I can get my money. That same day I accompanied her to the store because she wanted to take a look at some hard drives. She didn't have money with her at that time except for the car payment and she wasn't planning on buying anything that day, but I offered to help and she can just pay me when she has the money. She didn't want to accept my offer but I insisted until she finally agreed. She thanked me. We had an argument over the weekend when we first met because I wanted to spend more time with her but she was working and was too tired to go out. I had told her some mean things out of my frustrations, but she did not say anything. I really like this girl. She is smart, has her own opinions and she is goal oriented. She is strong, has many interests and she's cute. Unlike my evil scorpio ex who used me for my money. I supported her because she didn't have a job and she has no desire to go to school. My step brother is a leo, so I know that you leos are loyal people. I'm just not sure if leo male and females are alike. I met her family. Her family fed me. She said that her family always does that to visitors or friends who comes over. I told her that I should come over more often then. I got along with her uncle. We talked a lot ? man talk. She showed me some of her photo albums. Some old photos and a big photo album with her ex in it. She apologized. I asked if she was ok and she said yes. I asked her if she still loves him. She didn't say anything. All she said was that he's married now and haven't seen him for years, but they're still good friends. I told her that she better tell her family about me wanting to court her, but she said that she doesn't introduce someone to her family unless she is sure and serious about the guy she's with. I told her to stop seeing other people (just in case). She just laughed. I asked her to give me the map to what she is all about. I want her to be my partner.

I want to explore her and want to be with her. She gave me a weird look and said that we've only known each other ?in person? for less than a week. I guess she hasn't made up her mind about me yet. I just want her to down her guard. I want to try to have sex with her eventually, because what guy doesn't? I want to know if we're compatible in that department. Her response was she's not a fast food that I can try and she only has sex with the person she's inlove with and it takes her at least a year to fall inlove with someone. I don't want to wait that long. She talked about her future ? she wants to climb the corporate ladder. I joked for her to hurry up so she can support me. She gave me that look again with the raised eyebrow. I offered to add her on my cell phone plan so I can reach her easily, but she refused. I haven't heard from her after that. She emailed and said that she was sick with the bronchitis and was going to be busy for the next three weeks so she can't hang out. She said that she would leave a check with her family so I can pick it up, but I don't want that. I will wait for her to get well and pick up the money then. I know I kept bothering her with the money because yes I am paranoid and don't want to be used again. All the women I meet have used me. I didn't hear from her for a month. I know she has a life, but I don't care about that. I just want to spend my time with her as best as I can. I have her phone number but I want her to call me. She doesn't wantto call because she's not a phone person. Whatever.

I emailed her again to just mail me a check then we're good. She sent me the payment with a letter stating that she can't date me because we're not compatible, all I think about is money, that I'm insecure, paranoid and impatient. I am impatient. I have no patience to wait. I know I have issues with money ? too bad. You leo women are so complex and complicated. You all need to stop observing and analyzing a potential mate. You just have to take a risk. I don't worry about women's real intentions. I just go with the flow. Why make things so complicated with all these obstacles and walls. Let your guards down lionesses. What's worse to know is that she had gotten back together with an ex boyfriend of hers. From what I can remember this guy is also a cancer like me. Dig this, they are engaged now. Oh well. It's no big deal. I can move on. Too bad. I really liked her.

In your opinion, was I at fault? Where did I go wrong or what did I do wrong? Can you all give me some advice as to how to successfully approach and capture a liones? I want to know how to keep their interests? I read that leos love to be showered with attention and gifts. I thought this is the way to easily capture leo women. Don't you leo women like to go fast in a relationship or want to be in a relationship fast? Don't you want to be smothered? Why are you so complicated? What guy would waste time waiting?

you only knew her less than a week and your making plans,you have to act cool and if shes interested ,you will know about it,leo women hang to their memories ,they are sentimental even if they fall in love again they still hold onto photos etc of past loves,i will not sleep with someone just for the sake of it,i have to have feelings for this person and the chemistry has to be right etc,they do like to be chased and have attention but only if they feel something .
your best bet would have been to just treat her as a friend and kept it light too much chasing and communication can put me right off if im just not that into you.
also you are cancer,money and security means alot to you, are home lovers .

if i really am truly into someone i dont mess around i want to go fast ,i only knew my ex husband two months when i moved in with him also i moved in with someone i only knew a few weeks,she must have still been in love with her ex
if ever you meet another leo play it cool and light no talking abut the future or making plans ,believe me if shes into you ,you will certainly know about it.

Sounds like you were trying to push her into a relationship that she wasn't ready for. She was right, you are obsessed with money. You should not have offered to help her out with her car and then charge her. At least you could have given her a discount. What woman wants to go out with a guy who comes across as being cheap? This is a current problem I have with my own man, he's far from being generous. This pisces man used to give me 20% of all his real estate deals, as I helped him with flyers, pictures, etc. Now that we have a child and I am back working part time, I do not have the time to do as much work for his real estate. Therefore now he only gives me 10% . How can I marry a man who can not see the value in me working, taking care of a house and a child?

This woman was definitely not over her ex, as she ended back with him. I recommend next time you slow down the relationship and not obsess over money. If you love a woman and want to marry her, then you need to be prepared to give up your money to her. It's a biological instinct for women to look for a man who can provide for her and her children. This does not necessarily mean that the women are "using" you. They just want to know that you will indeed be willing to shell out money on them. If you are stingy with the woman, how can she think that you really do care for her? Remember ACTIONS speak louder than words.