Cancer men..better lovers or friends?

Hi all,

Im hoping you could help me with a Cancer man who Im friends with.I like him more than a friend and we have become extremely close over the past 6 months. It took him ages to trust and confide in me.

Thing is, he flirts with a lot of women. he loves having women around him. he doesnt sleep around or anything and he doesnt kiss them but flirts a lot. he doesnt flirt with me though. well he doesnt talk about sexy things to me.

this man used to have a gf and he sort of mildy flirted with other girls at that time. they have broke up now though.

Im not sure about him. he confuses me.

Cancer men - will you help? what do you think? Do Cancer men make better Friends than Lovers?

Not a cancer expert, but I will tell you that Cancer men can be big flirts with women they don't have any interest in romantically. If he's not interested no chance of rejection. However, if he likes someone he will not flirt with you. He will sloooooooooooooooowly get to know to you and try to gauge whether or not you have feelings for him. If he senses you do, then he will move forward. All you have to do is encourage him without being too direct. Directness scares cancers.

I can tell you that sexyscorp19 is so right. My cancer friend never flirted with me. He would always flirt with other women at work. I would sometimes get offend cause I thought maybe he doesn't find me physical attractive. Anyways, as our friendship grew, he started being more open with me. One night we started talking about relationships and then sex. The conversation got really heated. The next day he ignored me as if the conversation never happen. I was left feeling so confused. Later, on that week I checked my email and there was a poem from him. It was so so sweet. So...hang in there. It is going to be a slow roller coaster ride.

I would say BEST at both of them.......now i would like people to answer this one.......
Who's better:Friend of a cancer or Lover of a cancer——?

Hey everybody i am new to this web page. Anyway i have a friend thts a cancer and i just do not understand and cant figure him out for the life of me. He is the CEO of the company i work for. He admired and pursued me very slowly. We were friends for years never really close enough to open up to one another, i played hard to get bcse i just wanted to see if he wanted more of a friendship than just trying to sleep with me,he chased for awhile, but very cautiously, like if i stay with him one night (never slept with him) the next morn i leave i wont hear from him until the next week or so,and i only communicate with him threw text messaging bcse thts the way we started in the begining. Eventually he started to only contact once a month and this has been going on for two years. I feel like he is only doing just enough and not very much for me to feel safe enough to sleep with him. So i saw him a week ago and we began to talk again, i just finally told him my feelings and wat he needs to do, to get closer to me(since i thought he wanted that since he never stop contacting) he just didnt respond and hasnt contacted me since. This man seem really weird and i think he needs to give up, im not getting wat i need so he wont get wat he wants. He seems very weird if i told another man that blue print on how to get me they would have came running after all the time they waited around. Im a libra and we"re not aggressive person unless a man showed me its ok and makes me feel secure enough, i wont put my feelins out there until a man shows his first, that way i knos hes feeling me more than just casual sex and if a man dont show tht i thk hes full of it, i follow a man's lead, it wont work if a man wants me to take the initiative bcause i feel that its a mans job. I guess im just old school and hes use to something different. Im tired dont think im gonna answer his text anymore, not really worth it, we're not progressing at all. Hes really weird

I have a cancer rising and I don't flirt with people I'm interested in. I try to get to know them and be respectful. I see full on cancers do this too.

Well Kel19, I don't really think that sexyscorp is on the money. Maybe for you yes but for me, I flirt with the girls that I like and gauge things from how it goes. Unlike most cancers I don't really take things slow. I mean not necessarily slow as in the relationship but more along the lines of letting the girls I like known. I literally flirt with any girl whether it be that I'm interested in them romantically or not.

I don't think that people should categorize majority of the cancerians as slow approachers. Because me personally I'm a *cancer* who doesn't really fit in with the slow steady approach to a relationship. I'm a pursuer, and If I like the girl I'm interested; I'm down for the chase.

So hopefully *faceinthecrowd* you don't categorize all cancers from what you read because not all cancers are confusing, manipulating, or whatever negative thing you hear. One thing I can vouch for is sometimes I specifically can be hot and cold at times. And if there's a girl who PUTS me in check than i've found a winner! So hopefully you find out what your cancer man's deal.

Just confront him directly and see what he wants! If it's something you want to hear, by all means stick it out with your cancer man. But if it's something you don't want to hear just dump the poor piece of shit.

I know my answer isn't your usual *cancer* response but I'm one of the most upfront people that you'd meet. I Don't retreat into a shell or any of that pansy shit. LOL.

I dont really like hearing "cancer males/females" complaining about there bitchy and pathetic sad life! OH fudging well! Those *cancers* that bitch about there problems all have issues. And majority of the time, it makes me sick to be a cancer!

But I'm starting to rant.

But even with all the negativity i've said I still wish you the best!

But than again I'm not a full blown cancer so..

Kel19, here's a saying you should live by "variety is the spice of life" live it, love it, LEARN IT!

When I was married... my wife (@ the time) told me that it pissed her off that I was always flirting with everyone... and right in front of her (why hide doing something I feel is wrong?). I never thought that being friendly and making jokes with strangers (because I didn't just act this way ['flirtatious'] with women) was considered flirting. So I guess we (cancers) just flirt incessantly... that's why you love us. LOL
If we like you there probably is less, of what you consider, flirting with you... and probably a little more seriousness. Fear of rejection is probably the one of the more heavily weighted stereotypical traits of cancers.

Tejas... Friend of a cancer is better because your partner could flip... or leave... or do some other crazy shit you never saw coming.

Insert "don't" in between 'something I' and 'feel is wrong'...
sorry about that.

I don't necessarily think it's really a characterisic of a cancer specifically, but a cahracteristic in the male genes! I mean we do have the male organ right? And most primal instinct is to spread his seed with many women. So maybe a male flirting could be some gateway of seeing if this woman has what it takes to have my child?

FIC if your wondering if cancers are better as lovers or friends, generally speaking for all cancers we are THE LOVER and the FRIEND! We'd be there for you like a true friend whenever something is on your mind and we're always loyal and loving to you as lovers.

So I would say it's safe to say cancerians are on dead even on the lovers and friends deal. 😄

Smiles24 ... you're cute 🙂

"..besides not being able to find a job..so i guess im doing something right..."

No job? And that's doing something right? I bet you either still live with your parents and live off their wealth or live off your friends haha.

But whatever floats your boat man.

Thank you cappysweetie, I appreciate the compliment. 😄

Well yes I do go to college and I do have a job as well. Cuz you see, the reason as to how I don't pay for college and still have a job is the military my friend.

And yes I was talking about all the negative things about cancers but it was a generalization. Not towards the person I was wishing luck too. Shit man, your a real touchy person!

This thread should be abot wether cancers are big flirts or approach the oppositions subtlely! Lol.

Posted by Smiles24
This thread should be abot wether cancers are big flirts or approach the oppositions subtlely! Lol.

The answer would still be "YES..."
ROFL

...then the question would be "WHY?"
so... how do we answer that?
Or do we just make references back to previous posts where we (or someone else) have already covered this...

I agree 100 percent with the whole cancers are natural flirts. It's who we are! 😛

Posted by Smiles24
Thank you cappysweetie, I appreciate the compliment. 😄

😉

You remind me of my Taurus-Gemini buddy ^_^. He's cute, his problem is that he KNOWS how cute he is. My goodness ... lol

Well sorta, he wears different hats than you lol.

Yes smiles is my new fav person too ^_^.

Oh right on! I'm a new favorite of 2 people. I need to do a victory dance...*go smiles* *go smiles* 😉

Posted by Smiles24
Oh right on! I'm a new favorite of 2 people. I need to do a victory dance...*go smiles* *go smiles* 😉

LOL!