Hey cansir...what do you think?

I've been seeing this cancer guy on/off for 3years....we go our separate ways and that's cool. I think its over and to my surprise he always seems to pop back up like nothing ever happened. He gets on my nerves so I act mean towards him but he comes back stronger than before. What's up with that? thanks!

i guess he is hoping you change your mind. have yall discussed not seeing each other anymore or is something that you believe is understood. plus you said you have been seeing this guy on/off for 3 years. you are obviously giving him signals that you want him around since to me 3 years is a long time and if you truly wanted to get rid of him i am sure you could so i think you are getting something out of this too..

Hey Cansir.... I do. We just seem to fade out at times and do our thing.
thanks!

libradiva, he will never leave you alone........i am in the same situation, the fact that you have "a go" at them and tell them you want to go separate ways is like a turn on for them as they always want what they cannot have and they love to chase!!!if you ignore him it will still not work, he will try everything in the book to get you...(i have been with one for 3 years too)it may seem that he will give you space to do your thing but you're always there(in his mind), he will only come out to you when he is 100% up for anything from your side so he is strong and he knows he can give you 100% of him....(sorry if i am not making sense but it is true)

Scorp978....i know exactly what you're talking about. thanks so much

i have to disagree since i believe yall must be giving these guys signs your still interested. if someone really wanted to get rid of someone they can...if a girl i liked didn't want anything to do with me anymore i would certainly not waste my time on them..but that is just me..

Cansir,

If you think he may still be interested and you definately are....how should you go about interesting him further....especially if there has been some tension previously.....should you be agressive...and ask if he wants to get to know you? or should you move slowly to try to not frighten the crab?

How do you like being approached?

Good Question....Cheeky.

approaching a cancer is quite simple. you approach us cool calm and in a fun manner. we can sense your mood and if you come at us aggressively we will retreat into our shell or bring out the pincers to defend ourselves and get out of the situation. remember cancers don't like confrontation..

"cancers don't like confrontation.."

Yeh, they really don't! And I hate that! Especially if you have lied, admit it dammit! and be sorry for it! arrrghhhh I hate how he keeps lying....and he says he lies about things that don't matter to me. I don't care! Just don't lie to me....and God forbid if I lied to him, urghhhhh😡😡😡😢😢😢

So, f***ing frustrated with this Cancerian dude!

It Seemed Important. Totally agree.