Ilovemyaqua
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Leo boyfriend has gone cold.
Any inputs will be great 🙂
He has simply lost interest in you, from what is sounds like. Leo's are very particular with who they shower their attention to. They kind of value and devalue people in relationships. When they value you, they treat you like gold. When they see something about you that they don't like, they devalue you, and treat you like dirt. Leo's are loyal, and when you displayed to him that he couldn't trust you that is a very quick way to make a Leo avoid you.
So if you want to know what he's thinking.. He's devalued you and has lost interest ):
Don't tease a Leo or play jokes on them. Leo's are the ones that play the jokes; not anyone else. They don't like it when people do mean things to them and it's very easy to lose a Leo for just being mean. If they're not laughing, being super serious, especially at your jokes, that's a major problem.
Hopefully this has helped--coming from a Leo, myself.
So if you want to know what he's thinking.. He's devalued you and has lost interest ):
Don't tease a Leo or play jokes on them. Leo's are the ones that play the jokes; not anyone else. They don't like it when people do mean things to them and it's very easy to lose a Leo for just being mean. If they're not laughing, being super serious, especially at your jokes, that's a major problem.
Hopefully this has helped--coming from a Leo, myself.
Posted by SatcornSo how will he proceed? He does text me back he loves me when I do.Today in the morning he messaged me he is missing me...so why be in between? Isn't it either this or that for the leos? Also,Leos have a thing about pride...he's still asking small little favours...maybe if he was planning to break up he wouldn't? I don't know,it's very strange.Should I ask him? Many a times when he is low,if I ask,he says it irritates him because not always his reason of being low is because he has some problem,which is why right now I'm skeptical if I should ask him the same.
He has simply lost interest in you, from what is sounds like. Leo's are very particular with who they shower their attention to. They kind of value and devalue people in relationships. When they value you, they treat you like gold. When they see something about you that they don't like, they devalue you, and treat you like dirt. Leo's are loyal, and when you displayed to him that he couldn't trust you that is a very quick way to make a Leo avoid you.
So if you want to know what he's thinking.. He's devalued you and has lost interest ):
Don't tease a Leo or play jokes on them. Leo's are the ones that play the jokes; not anyone else. They don't like it when people do mean things to them and it's very easy to lose a Leo for just being mean. If they're not laughing, being super serious, especially at your jokes, that's a major problem.
Hopefully this has helped--coming from a Leo, myself.
I think when we spend time in our heads, everything and everyone else gets short shrifted. If I have things going on that are unpleasant, EVERYTHING else gets put on the back burner until I've worked the issue out in my head.
Could be your relationship, could be something going on outside of that. We tend to "cuccoon" when under stress so just continue being youself and he'll come around. If it IS you or your relationship that's causing problems with him, he'll let you know as long as you don't push.
He may be feeling somewhat down about something he has no control ober so doesn't feel the need to bring it up to you, sincr you can't help with it.
Could be your relationship, could be something going on outside of that. We tend to "cuccoon" when under stress so just continue being youself and he'll come around. If it IS you or your relationship that's causing problems with him, he'll let you know as long as you don't push.
He may be feeling somewhat down about something he has no control ober so doesn't feel the need to bring it up to you, sincr you can't help with it.
Posted by IlovemyaquaHmm.. I don't know; it seems pretty complicated. When Leo's are over someone, they tend to just keep them around as backup or when they're bored, but they have pretty much stopped giving their all. If a Leo is not giving their all, then that's a bad sign, in my opinion. It should NOT be difficult to determine if a Leo really loves you or not. I guess you'll just have to wait and see.Posted by SatcornSo how will he proceed? He does text me back he loves me when I do.Today in the morning he messaged me he is missing me...so why be in between? Isn't it either this or that for the leos? Also,Leos have a thing about pride...he's still asking small little favours...maybe if he was planning to break up he wouldn't? I don't know,it's very strange.Should I ask him? Many a times when he is low,if I ask,he says it irritates him because not always his reason of being low is because he has some problem,which is why right now I'm skeptical if I should ask him the same.
He has simply lost interest in you, from what is sounds like. Leo's are very particular with who they shower their attention to. They kind of value and devalue people in relationships. When they value you, they treat you like gold. When they see something about you that they don't like, they devalue you, and treat you like dirt. Leo's are loyal, and when you displayed to him that he couldn't trust you that is a very quick way to make a Leo avoid you.
So if you want to know what he's thinking.. He's devalued you and has lost interest ):
Don't tease a Leo or play jokes on them. Leo's are the ones that play the jokes; not anyone else. They don't like it when people do mean things to them and it's very easy to lose a Leo for just being mean. If they're not laughing, being super serious, especially at your jokes, that's a major problem.
Hopefully this has helped--coming from a Leo, myself.click to expand
sultryKitty makes a good point. Leo's are dramatic so, if one thing in their life is annoying then everything is annoying--very black and white thinking. "Ugh God, my favorite TV show isn't on, now everything sucks. Why does this person keep asking if I don't love them? Can't they see my favorite TV isn't on, even though I didn't tell them!" Bad example, but you get the idea.
Posted by SatcornI'm going through this right now...over a squirrel. Feed him every day for years and he hasn't been around for a couple of days and I'm moping, hoping he's OK. Ugh.
sultryKitty makes a good point. Leo's are dramatic so, if one thing in their life is annoying then everything is annoying--very black and white thinking. "Ugh God, my favorite TV show isn't on, now everything sucks. Why does this person keep asking if I don't love them? Can't they see my favorite TV isn't on, even though I didn't tell them!" Bad example, but you get the idea.
^ See! Look at this @Ilovemyaqua. Your Leo man could be going through was sultrykitty is going through with his squirrel. When Leo's are sad, they get low energy, and when they get low energy, it's very difficult to "put on a show" and be joyful like how a typical Leo is. When they are not on stage, they're usually sad because the Leo always belongs on stage! And when they're not on stage, it would be too painful to tell you why.
And another thing that I recently learned. Signs tend to act like their opposites when they are in conflict with themselves and cannot embrace their inner nature. In this case, the opposite sign of Leo is Aquarius; Your Leo may be conflicted and is displaying the negative traits of Aquarius--being cold and detached.
And another thing that I recently learned. Signs tend to act like their opposites when they are in conflict with themselves and cannot embrace their inner nature. In this case, the opposite sign of Leo is Aquarius; Your Leo may be conflicted and is displaying the negative traits of Aquarius--being cold and detached.
Hey @sultrykitty! nice to see you! You've always helped! 🙂
Well,that maybe a case because he's planning to prepare for competitive examination for higher studies.But we did used to discuss about it in the past,why would he not now :/ but yes,as months are passing,he's becoming more anxious...but maybe he can discuss, idk.He's even asked me to ask my parents and relatives for tips for preparation, so he's very keen to get inputs from them.Um,I was thinking about something...I have noticed that recently,to show me how he felt for something that I have done,he would do the same to me...or do something as a punishment,like not talk that day or something like that.When we patched up last time and I called him that night,he said he was busy I should call him 10 mins later.10 mins later he said,he was preparing his bed,I shall call him 20 mins later.I immediately was able to connect it to what I do.But,it's not that I do it intentionally,Sometimes,genuinely things crop up and I have to postpone talking to him.So what I am feeling is,on 3rd,since I cannot talk much over the phone at home,I was unable to answer his calls and next day,I had to tell him I was abruptly disconnecting because my mom was calling me.Last time when I was home,I was able to reply to his msgs late.So is it possible that he's 'teaching me a lesson' and is hence sending mild replies,like instead of 'I love you and Ive been missing you so bad...I wish you were here...(and more in another 4-3 lines)" every 2 hrs,he's sending me a 'love you too' or 'miss you love' mostly after I text and just twice or thrice a day?
Maybe to assret his dominance? Leo like having control don't they? So maybe he felt I was steering the relationship at my convenience so now he's doing things at his convenience? Or is going a little too far with it?
Well,that maybe a case because he's planning to prepare for competitive examination for higher studies.But we did used to discuss about it in the past,why would he not now :/ but yes,as months are passing,he's becoming more anxious...but maybe he can discuss, idk.He's even asked me to ask my parents and relatives for tips for preparation, so he's very keen to get inputs from them.Um,I was thinking about something...I have noticed that recently,to show me how he felt for something that I have done,he would do the same to me...or do something as a punishment,like not talk that day or something like that.When we patched up last time and I called him that night,he said he was busy I should call him 10 mins later.10 mins later he said,he was preparing his bed,I shall call him 20 mins later.I immediately was able to connect it to what I do.But,it's not that I do it intentionally,Sometimes,genuinely things crop up and I have to postpone talking to him.So what I am feeling is,on 3rd,since I cannot talk much over the phone at home,I was unable to answer his calls and next day,I had to tell him I was abruptly disconnecting because my mom was calling me.Last time when I was home,I was able to reply to his msgs late.So is it possible that he's 'teaching me a lesson' and is hence sending mild replies,like instead of 'I love you and Ive been missing you so bad...I wish you were here...(and more in another 4-3 lines)" every 2 hrs,he's sending me a 'love you too' or 'miss you love' mostly after I text and just twice or thrice a day?
Maybe to assret his dominance? Leo like having control don't they? So maybe he felt I was steering the relationship at my convenience so now he's doing things at his convenience? Or is going a little too far with it?
Posted by SatcornInteresting point this.
^ See! Look at this @Ilovemyaqua. Your Leo man could be going through was sultrykitty is going through with his squirrel. When Leo's are sad, they get low energy, and when they get low energy, it's very difficult to "put on a show" and be joyful like how a typical Leo is. When they are not on stage, they're usually sad because the Leo always belongs on stage! And when they're not on stage, it would be too painful to tell you why.
And another thing that I recently learned. Signs tend to act like their opposites when they are in conflict with themselves and cannot embrace their inner nature. In this case, the opposite sign of Leo is Aquarius; Your Leo may be conflicted and is displaying the negative traits of Aquarius--being cold and detached.
Posted by SatcornYou know,it's actually very interesting! when I learnt he is a Leo and not an Aquarius,I was like 'phew! Leos are a lot less complicated,I understand them' because according to Vedic Astrology,I am a Leo myself and Leo Rising....
^ See! Look at this @Ilovemyaqua. Your Leo man could be going through was sultrykitty is going through with his squirrel. When Leo's are sad, they get low energy, and when they get low energy, it's very difficult to "put on a show" and be joyful like how a typical Leo is. When they are not on stage, they're usually sad because the Leo always belongs on stage! And when they're not on stage, it would be too painful to tell you why.
And another thing that I recently learned. Signs tend to act like their opposites when they are in conflict with themselves and cannot embrace their inner nature. In this case, the opposite sign of Leo is Aquarius; Your Leo may be conflicted and is displaying the negative traits of Aquarius--being cold and detached.
So this thing about them showing negatives of their opposite is actually pretty interesting because I had a hard time dealing with Aquarius' distancing.
No, that's his way of letting you know how much he wants to be with you. He can't now, and that mixed with the stress of the school thing is overwhelmingly stressful. So he's withdrawing into his cave.
Posted by sultrykittyI didn't get you after the first line.Please can you elaborate a little?
No, that's his way of letting you know how much he wants to be with you. He can't now, and that mixed with the stress of the school thing is overwhelmingly stressful. So he's withdrawing into his cave.
Since he can't be with you and he's stressing over the school thing, he's pouting. Probably triggered by you not responding when he wants you to. We can be babies when we don't get what we want, how and when we want it.
Posted by sultrykittyCan't be with you right now? Okay. Yeah...he's a cute little baby.I've been showering him with love and affection since Ive come home,and am always available.Only ver rarely does it happen that I'm not.Yeah,small little things do hurt him.What shall I do now so he gets back to being normal?
Since he can't be with you and he's stressing over the school thing, he's pouting. Probably triggered by you not responding when he wants you to. We can be babies when we don't get what we want, how and when we want it.
Posted by NevermoreSo am I and I guess that is the biggest and only problem in a Taurus Leo relationship.Leos are easy to deal with otherwise,babies that need affection and give you double of that in return 🙂Posted by IlovemyaquaPosted by sultrykittyCan't be with you right now? Okay. Yeah...he's a cute little baby.I've been showering him with love and affection since Ive come home,and am always available.Only ver rarely does it happen that I'm not.Yeah,small little things do hurt him.What shall I do now so he gets back to being normal?
Since he can't be with you and he's stressing over the school thing, he's pouting. Probably triggered by you not responding when he wants you to. We can be babies when we don't get what we want, how and when we want it.
You're talking to a Fixed sign. 😐click to expand
lol@ misleading name for Ilovemyaqua. lmao 😆
Yesterday he didn't talk to me over the phone.
I called him but he didn't answer.
In the night he sent me a good night message befire going to sleep.
Today he sent me a good morning text and no contact since.
He's never been so distant.Never since we've got into a relationship.
I called him but he didn't answer.
In the night he sent me a good night message befire going to sleep.
Today he sent me a good morning text and no contact since.
He's never been so distant.Never since we've got into a relationship.
Posted by JohnnyRed007Do you guys shut down for around a week? Does your distancing last that long?I thought Leos were too much into their partners to distance themselves for several days. 😢Posted by IlovemyaquaDon't over exert yourself... If your having this much trouble with communication when he is having a hard time, it is a sign that its not going to be smooth sailing when things get harder down the line. (ex. life events )
Yesterday he didn't talk to me over the phone.
I called him but he didn't answer.
In the night he sent me a good night message befire going to sleep.
Today he sent me a good morning text and no contact since.
He's never been so distant.Never since we've got into a relationship.click to expand
Posted by JohnnyRed007The only thing which I feel went wrong on my part was my teasing him with this other girl.Maybe he us upset with that.But will he still say he loves me and stuff? I mean,if a leo is mad,they'll show you in your face and won't do all the affectionate stuff.whenever he gets mad,it's only for a day,not more than that,but see now.And,he has asked me to do stuff for him.I guess a Leo's pride won't allow that when upset?Posted by Ilovemyaquano and no, at least in my case..Posted by JohnnyRed007Do you guys shut down for around a week? Does your distancing last that long?I thought Leos were too much into their partners to distance themselves for several days. 😢Posted by IlovemyaquaDon't over exert yourself... If your having this much trouble with communication when he is having a hard time, it is a sign that its not going to be smooth sailing when things get harder down the line. (ex. life events )
Yesterday he didn't talk to me over the phone.
I called him but he didn't answer.
In the night he sent me a good night message befire going to sleep.
Today he sent me a good morning text and no contact since.
He's never been so distant.Never since we've got into a relationship.
My one ex said something really mean to me once about my little brother being half retarded because she found out he couldn't read properly till grade 3, then found out after i told her that he has dyslexia. I told her not to talk to me for two days cause i was pissed off (I was SUPER mad though), and i ignored her "sorry's" for those two days. I ended up talking to her again and things went on normally after that, i did forgive her. But if you haven't done anything wrong and you find yourself over exerting yourself to communicate, he is either conflicted on his love for you or isn't interested anymore and is keeping you around for a backup or ego boost. Let him go if i were you.... We are easy to read, trust your gutclick to expand
He asked about my co-passenger,she was a girl,I teased him a little but immediately realised I shouldn't have,so I stopped.Also,the day before this,I teased him but when he started getting serious,I stopped.
Posted by JohnnyRed007Nope.Nothing.He said,how's that girl? I was like...oooo...someone's interested.period.I realised I shouldn't have.He said...you think I'm interested? I said,I'm joking.I love you.Posted by IlovemyaquaWhat kind of teasing? What did he ask about your co worker that warranted the teasing?
He asked about my co-passenger,she was a girl,I teased him a little but immediately realised I shouldn't have,so I stopped.Also,the day before this,I teased him but when he started getting serious,I stopped.click to expand
On the day before this,we were at a food joint and he bumped into a girl over the counter.He returns and says,she was cute.I smiled at him.Then I kept smiling.I would just look and smile.He was getting conscious,but I continued.Someone called him,I smiled again.Then that girl returned,I pointed at her and said in a hushed tone,she's here.He said she's a kid.I realised she was a teenager.Shit! He then asked me why I was smiling,I said,just like thet.He said I should tell him or he'll feel I'm making fun of him.I said I was teasing him.Then we were normal.That night he called me once,my phone was out of coverage area.When I called him back,his phone was busy,for one hour.Then he spoke to me for 10mins,then hung up.Next morning he texts me he was missing me alot and loves me and is sorry for hanging up abruptly.Then we hung out that day and at the airport the co passenger thing happened.
@JohnnyRed007 Di d I tell you also that last time we broke up because I was being insecure about his gal pals? He said,trust is very important for him,if I can't trust him,he can't trust me and may stray.Can it be that he's seeing it as a chance gone in vain,I mean,we patched up and I'm still doubting him? What else can be the reason? This sudden loss of passion and interest? And it has never happened and it has been a week.Also,I'm afraid of asking him if something's not okay because last time when I asked if he was upset,he said whenever he's low doesn't mean something's wrong and I shouldn't irritate him with that question.So I'm even scared of asking if something is wrong.
Why would a Leo go distancing for so long?
Why would a Leo go distancing for so long?
Posted by Satcorn^^^This.
^ See! Look at this @Ilovemyaqua. Your Leo man could be going through was sultrykitty is going through with his squirrel. When Leo's are sad, they get low energy, and when they get low energy, it's very difficult to "put on a show" and be joyful like how a typical Leo is. When they are not on stage, they're usually sad because the Leo always belongs on stage! And when they're not on stage, it would be too painful to tell you why.
And another thing that I recently learned. Signs tend to act like their opposites when they are in conflict with themselves and cannot embrace their inner nature. In this case, the opposite sign of Leo is Aquarius; Your Leo may be conflicted and is displaying the negative traits of Aquarius--being cold and detached.
Posted by IlovemyaquaFeeling sad and hurt, for whatever reason, causes us to slow down and often to shut down. It can last quite a while.
Why would a Leo go distancing for so long?
You always know when a Leo loves you & is into you without questioning it. He sounds like he ha either fallen out of love with u but loves u & still cares. Or he has something really bothering him in his personal life & will tell u shortly without u nagging.
He has*
I called him up today, he didn't answer. so I texted him to call me back soon as it was urgent.He called back immediately and I asked him why he was so busy.He was just giggling and changed the topic.I said I was sorry about the teasing and at first he said he doesn't even remember and then recalled what happened and said I shouldn't be,it's okay.I asked him why he's not been talking so he said yesterday, soon after he came online to talk,his data got exhausted and he has not recharged it yet.He said he uses Internet from his laptop and isn't feeling like getting a data pack.I asked if everything is okay and if he has some problem he can share,he said everything is fine it's just that it's not necessary that he's connected via phone everytime.He asked me when I was going back to college and was a bit concerned that I may get bored since he'll be going back to college 3 days after me.I asked him if we can talk over hangouts in the coming days,he said he's not sure.When we were hanging up,he said he loves me and kissed me over the phone :-P (yeah he does that) So,maybe he's just having his alone time and this distancing is temporary? Or is this called falling out of love?
He's juggling too much in other areas and the teasing may be getting annoying...
But he cares about you regardless, so he's letting it slide.
For now.
But he cares about you regardless, so he's letting it slide.
For now.
Posted by wagtailSo ia it safe to assume he hasn't fallen out of love right?
He's juggling too much in other areas and the teasing may be getting annoying...
But he cares about you regardless, so he's letting it slide.
For now.
Posted by IlovemyaquaIt's hard to say...Posted by wagtailSo ia it safe to assume he hasn't fallen out of love right?
He's juggling too much in other areas and the teasing may be getting annoying...
But he cares about you regardless, so he's letting it slide.
For now.
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I would never assume anything but I think it'll clear itself up soon.
Just stay positive and keep being yourself. That's the important thing 🙂
Posted by IlovemyaquaI'm sorry I had to quote this particular bit because I want you to see how many times you've said 'scared' and 'afraid'. Why are you in a relationship where you feel you need to walk on eggshells? You think that's love? He shouldn't make you feel afraid to talk about shit if it's bothering you. That's not healthy and guaranteed you will end up resenting him down the line, or even him you. Any healthy and decent relationship has constant and consistent communication. Space is important, giving someone time is important too, but that only happens when the other person EXPLICITLY voices the fact that all they need is space. You're not a fucking mind reader. You seem like a very caring and sweet natured person, almost to a fault where you're only thinking of his needs. He as your boyfriend, who has entered in to a relationship, has a duty to make you feel happy and fulfilled in the relationship too. Next time he goes awol, you do the same. He needs to see through actions how it affects another person.
@JohnnyRed007 Di d I tell you also that last time we broke up because I was being insecure about his gal pals? He said,trust is very important for him,if I can't trust him,he can't trust me and may stray.Can it be that he's seeing it as a chance gone in vain,I mean,we patched up and I'm still doubting him? What else can be the reason? This sudden loss of passion and interest? And it has never happened and it has been a week.Also,I'm afraid of asking him if something's not okay because last time when I asked if he was upset,he said whenever he's low doesn't mean something's wrong and I shouldn't irritate him with that question.So I'm even scared of asking if something is wrong.
Why would a Leo go distancing for so long?
Posted by IlovemyaquaYou're a taurus and all the taureans I know are bad ass and don't take shit for too long. I think you should go look at some of @busyeyes88 posts. I will however say one thing, tone down the insecurities but always watch things and situations like a hawk. Just be observant without jumping to conclusions. The truth about people and things always come out in the end and if you keep watching and just taking mental notes about his behavior with other women, sooner or later you'll be able to conclude if your insecurities or suspicions are warranted. Howeverm don't just act on those feelings out right without any basis. You will push him away that way. Just reign it in a little.Posted by wagtailSo ia it safe to assume he hasn't fallen out of love right?
He's juggling too much in other areas and the teasing may be getting annoying...
But he cares about you regardless, so he's letting it slide.
For now.
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Posted by LibWmanI know what you're saying.The thing is,I'm feeling guilty.In the starting two months of our relationship,I had become a negligent bitch,Idk why,what got into my head.He,however,waa an absolute sweetheart, dealt with all my tantrums and mood swings and never complained.However, our break up opened my eyes and I realised I was at major fault and hence have put a check on myself and am now finally behaving normally, the way I am.So now that he's being moody,I feel I have no right to stand up and say no because he has dealt me when I was much worse than this.Posted by IlovemyaquaI'm sorry I had to quote this particular bit because I want you to see how many times you've said 'scared' and 'afraid'. Why are you in a relationship where you feel you need to walk on eggshells? You think that's love? He shouldn't make you feel afraid to talk about shit if it's bothering you. That's not healthy and guaranteed you will end up resenting him down the line, or even him you. Any healthy and decent relationship has constant and consistent communication. Space is important, giving someone time is important too, but that only happens when the other person EXPLICITLY voices the fact that all they need is space. You're not a fucking mind reader. You seem like a very caring and sweet natured person, almost to a fault where you're only thinking of his needs. He as your boyfriend, who has entered in to a relationship, has a duty to make you feel happy and fulfilled in the relationship too. Next time he goes awol, you do the same. He needs to see through actions how it affects another person.
@JohnnyRed007 Di d I tell you also that last time we broke up because I was being insecure about his gal pals? He said,trust is very important for him,if I can't trust him,he can't trust me and may stray.Can it be that he's seeing it as a chance gone in vain,I mean,we patched up and I'm still doubting him? What else can be the reason? This sudden loss of passion and interest? And it has never happened and it has been a week.Also,I'm afraid of asking him if something's not okay because last time when I asked if he was upset,he said whenever he's low doesn't mean something's wrong and I shouldn't irritate him with that question.So I'm even scared of asking if something is wrong.
Why would a Leo go distancing for so long?click to expand
Posted by IlovemyaquaYou know your relationship best. I don't have the ins and outs and can only advise according to what info you have given us on here. So what i'll say is be honest with yourself, and perhaps talk to people who are closer to you and have seen the dynamic of your relationship first hand and can be brutally honest.Posted by LibWmanI know what you're saying.The thing is,I'm feeling guilty.In the starting two months of our relationship,I had become a negligent bitch,Idk why,what got into my head.He,however,waa an absolute sweetheart, dealt with all my tantrums and mood swings and never complained.However, our break up opened my eyes and I realised I was at major fault and hence have put a check on myself and am now finally behaving normally, the way I am.So now that he's being moody,I feel I have no right to stand up and say no because he has dealt me when I was much worse than this.Posted by IlovemyaquaI'm sorry I had to quote this particular bit because I want you to see how many times you've said 'scared' and 'afraid'. Why are you in a relationship where you feel you need to walk on eggshells? You think that's love? He shouldn't make you feel afraid to talk about shit if it's bothering you. That's not healthy and guaranteed you will end up resenting him down the line, or even him you. Any healthy and decent relationship has constant and consistent communication. Space is important, giving someone time is important too, but that only happens when the other person EXPLICITLY voices the fact that all they need is space. You're not a fucking mind reader. You seem like a very caring and sweet natured person, almost to a fault where you're only thinking of his needs. He as your boyfriend, who has entered in to a relationship, has a duty to make you feel happy and fulfilled in the relationship too. Next time he goes awol, you do the same. He needs to see through actions how it affects another person.
@JohnnyRed007 Di d I tell you also that last time we broke up because I was being insecure about his gal pals? He said,trust is very important for him,if I can't trust him,he can't trust me and may stray.Can it be that he's seeing it as a chance gone in vain,I mean,we patched up and I'm still doubting him? What else can be the reason? This sudden loss of passion and interest? And it has never happened and it has been a week.Also,I'm afraid of asking him if something's not okay because last time when I asked if he was upset,he said whenever he's low doesn't mean something's wrong and I shouldn't irritate him with that question.So I'm even scared of asking if something is wrong.
Why would a Leo go distancing for so long?click to expand
If you feel he has
Posted by wagtail^^^^^ThisPosted by IlovemyaquaIt's hard to say...Posted by wagtailSo ia it safe to assume he hasn't fallen out of love right?
He's juggling too much in other areas and the teasing may be getting annoying...
But he cares about you regardless, so he's letting it slide.
For now.
I would never assume anything but I think it'll clear itself up soon.
Just stay positive and keep being yourself. That's the important thing 🙂click to expand
Posted by cheekyfaerieI'm not changing myself,infact,now I'm being myself.I was myself when we got into a relationship, I am myself now,but I don't know what had happened in the past 2 months that I started behaviour like a nagging asshole.I'm not that.Infact,after the break up,I've never picked up a fight and that came naturally.So yes,I guess I've stopped doing all that shit.Yes,I do agree I did tease him on something I shouldn't have,it didn't strike me then,it struck me a little afterwards.I've apologised for the same today.And,this was the only negative thing that I've done since we've patched up and no,I didn't try to change myself to fit in,I'm just being me.
Just stop being insecure. You said you were friends for three years before starting to date and it sounds like you're headed right back to that friend zone. He broke up with you because, through your own words, you were being an insecure bitch. He took you back and you continued to nag him on the same stuff? Not smart, lady.
I'm not saying to want him less, but please realize that a good fit is one that is naturally so. I'm not saying it won't require effort, but it shouldn't have to be forced either. When things become forced, you start to chip away at yourself. Trying to mold yourself into something you perceive to be more attractive to your partner or trying to change them into something you find more attractive. Either way, these actions end up having the opposite effect.
Go back to being the you he fell romantically in love with. Either the two of you are a good fit or you're not and you can't allow yourself to be afraid of the latter. It's the fear that betrayed you in the first place.
Good luck.
Also,today,I'm going back to college.He called me up to ask if I've reached the airport and was surprised and empathetic that I'm actually going so early considering exams will happen later.He then spoke to me on Hangouts for hardly 5 mins and then abruptly said he had to go and can't talk.While signing off though,he said he loves me.
Then he went without seeing my reply.He called me on my other number after that but I missed it.He came back on Hangouts to tell me he loves me.I called him back,no answer.
This is so confusing. 😢 😢
One thing that I'll like to tell here is 2-3 days before,when we were texting,he said,don't worry, when we'll come back and stay together, everything will be okay and we'll be happy again.
I don't know what's going on in his mind.
Then he went without seeing my reply.He called me on my other number after that but I missed it.He came back on Hangouts to tell me he loves me.I called him back,no answer.
This is so confusing. 😢 😢
One thing that I'll like to tell here is 2-3 days before,when we were texting,he said,don't worry, when we'll come back and stay together, everything will be okay and we'll be happy again.
I don't know what's going on in his mind.
Leo male here. I would be so turned off I you were dating me. Not saying you're not a catch but if I was super busy and feeling flustered I need my space. If he isn't stating that he needs space but withdrawing then he night have libra mars and is avoiding conflict.
If it's was me in his situation, I would be head over heels if I came back and found you became more interesting. An I missed you while you were gone and a bit more physical affection plus seeing you became more fun, learned something new, etc is surely going to have him bragging to his friends about you.
So take a step back, relax, focus on yourself for a bit. Read, go jogging, start a new hobby, or anything. Just make sure you don't set the tone that you're better without him in your life.
If it's was me in his situation, I would be head over heels if I came back and found you became more interesting. An I missed you while you were gone and a bit more physical affection plus seeing you became more fun, learned something new, etc is surely going to have him bragging to his friends about you.
So take a step back, relax, focus on yourself for a bit. Read, go jogging, start a new hobby, or anything. Just make sure you don't set the tone that you're better without him in your life.
Posted by PillowFortBuilderIs this a Leo male thing, or a man's general way of thinking? Just for future reference. In regards to your first paragraph.
Leo male here. I would be so turned off I you were dating me. Not saying you're not a catch but if I was super busy and feeling flustered I need my space. If he isn't stating that he needs space but withdrawing then he night have libra mars and is avoiding conflict.
If it's was me in his situation, I would be head over heels if I came back and found you became more interesting. An I missed you while you were gone and a bit more physical affection plus seeing you became more fun, learned something new, etc is surely going to have him bragging to his friends about you.
So take a step back, relax, focus on yourself for a bit. Read, go jogging, start a new hobby, or anything. Just make sure you don't set the tone that you're better without him in your life.
To me this would be a general man item but more so for passionate or cerebral peps like air or fire signs.
Yesterday he called me up to ask if I safely reached.He was quite warm then,telling me he loves me and all.He then spoke to me that day once more,because I had sent him a funny text.He seemed very happy,called me up and was very affectionate.Then he had to travel by bus in the night yesterday to our college,he calles when he got into it,since I told him to and then said he couldn't talk because of disturbance while the bus was running.However, the bus does take a gap of 2 hrs in it's journey when he used to call me earlier but he didn't yesterday.Today when he reached,I asked him if we can meet.He was not sure but agreed to meet in an hour as suggested by me.We had to reach a place by 11,I was a little late and he dozed off meanwhile.When I called,he had just woken up,he said we may meet after half an hour,but then thought I got upset so Said he'll meet at 11.But I don't know what happened, he suddenly said he'll meet me tomorrow, he wasn't in the mood.I really felt bad,he always met me earlier, no matter how tired he was..he had said meeting me is a stress buster.I got upset,with all that pent up worries and then this,and told him I'll call later.He sensed my sadness and again said he was coming over.We met,had nice conversations,made out and all.He also said we should plan a trip together.
While we hung out,I felt his passion,he wasn't brimming with it though,like he always is,but was still very passionate,maybe he was tired? Then in the night he calls me a little early,talks for hardly 5 mins,the hangs up,no love you and all.
Maybe my anxiousness is unwanted, but the fact that he has still not gotten back to normal, even after 10 days and my apology,is making me worried all the more.
While we hung out,I felt his passion,he wasn't brimming with it though,like he always is,but was still very passionate,maybe he was tired? Then in the night he calls me a little early,talks for hardly 5 mins,the hangs up,no love you and all.
Maybe my anxiousness is unwanted, but the fact that he has still not gotten back to normal, even after 10 days and my apology,is making me worried all the more.
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On 3Rd I had to go to my hometown.He dropped me at the airport.He asked about my co passenger and she was a girl so I teased him again but immediately realised I shouldn't have so I just let the topic go.That day he was very concerned if I reached home safely.However,he has gone cold after that.Earlier when I went home,he would constantly text me and be all lovey dovey,but now,I am the one who's texting him.I've started giving more attention to him and am showering him with lots of affection.He gives a compensatory one line reply to my several lovey dovey texts and sometimes takes many hours to reply or doesn't reply at all.Also,he's not been talking to me in the night since 2nd.I don't know what has happened to him.
What is he thinking? What has happened to him?