Leo friend

So,

I had a Leo friend. We were friends since elementary school. I'm older than her, so I went to middle school before her. We reconnected when she got to middle school. We remained friends after high school. But we got into an argument. It was a rough time for me. I lost a family member, my boyfriend broke up with me, and I was confiding in everyone. This upset her, since she only wanted me to care about her and take her advice, and no one else's? But we were friends for so long. I actually think she likes me more than friends. We would do everything together. We did talk for a few months. I tried contacting her - we talked a little bit, but then she deleted me. She's ignored me since. It's been 2-3 years. I tried reaching out again, as I have in the past. She told me she has no interest or care in being my friend ever again. That our friendship is over and long since done. I'm really concerned. I care about her with everything in me. My heart hurts. I'm nothing to her. In my opinion, I didn't hurt her badly. But who knows. Any input from Leo girls? Should I ever expect this person back in my life?

I actually think she likes me more than friends.


Really?

What an odd thing to say, alongside these statements:


I'm really concerned. I care about her with everything in me.

My heart hurts. I'm nothing to her.



You're speaking from both sides of your mouth.

Maybe this LEO woman has also noticed that about you... let her go.

I don't think it's an odd thing.
As a Cancer, we care infinitely more about our friends, than we do ourselves.
We love and cherish our friends.
And losing my childhood friend, knowing she wants nothing to do with me, is heartbreaking.
I always reached out and put myself out there, trying to get her back as a friend.
I didn't give up and now I'm realizing that she really wants nothing to do with me.

Did I have sexual feelings for her? No.
Did she offer to do sexual things to me? Yes.
Did she act like she was more than a friend towards me? Yes.

Your comment wasn't even useful.
It was offensive, if anything.
I didn't come here to get more hurt lol

Posted by Montgomery
I actually think she likes me more than friends.


Really?

What an odd thing to say, alongside these statements:


I'm really concerned. I care about her with everything in me.

My heart hurts. I'm nothing to her.



You're speaking from both sides of your mouth.

Maybe this LEO woman has also noticed that about you... let her go.

Posted by Arieslovesaqua
How did you hurt her then?

She was upset that I would get advice from other people. She wanted me to only take her advice. She wanted to have a serious talk about our friendship, the same day I'd lost a family member. I told her I couldn't have that conversation, until I was in a different frame of mind and she kept pushing and pushing. And we ended up exploding on each other. And they were small things. She was upset when I told her to control herself. That's what caused her to block me and defriend me.

There was an incident before then, when my other friend was IMing me about her. He didn't like her very much. And she was sleeping over that night and while I was asleep, she read through my messages, like had to scroll up and read it. And she ended up leaving. Now, I didn't agree with him. I didn't say anything bad about her, however she was upset that I didn't yell at him or defend her to him.

No, you shouldn't expect her back. When a Leo shuts a door, it tends to stay shut. If it's been three years, move on and heal yourself.

Posted by Zanbee
I don't think it's an odd thing.

Your comment wasn't even useful.
It was offensive, if anything.
I didn't come here to get more hurt lol

Okay.... but you said this

Posted by Zanbee
Any input from Leo girls? Should I ever expect this person back in my life?

I assumed you meant LEO women.

I also thought you wanted your question answered.


Silly me.

Posted by Zanbee

... however she was upset that I didn't yell at him or defend her to him.

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Oh... the nerve.


lol

This is one of the few threads around here, that makes me want to hear the other side of the story.

Zanbee, I can completely relate to you! I'm was in the same position as you, however, my situation was something that could of been fixed. A mature adult who truly cares, adores and VALUES your friendship will do what it will takes to fix it. I can completely understand if the individual maliciously and intently wanted to hurt you then by all means - remove the toxic person from you life. We are all imperfect and we will have moments when we will act out as teenagers but that's still the process of growing up - molding yourself to be a better person every second, every day. In your situation, you've done all that was what you needed, a person who truly cares about this person and your friendship. I had one Leo guy not speak to me for 2-3 yrs and out of no where requested me on FB and I asked him why did you come back after our fallout he stated because I'm a good person and it was petty. I have a Leo female friend on FB left, her a message back in 2015 and she never responded, do I feel a little hurt, of course but I would not disrespect her or treat her any less if she decided to reach out to me. Now, if she had feelings for you in this instance, sometimes a woman needs to cut the friendship cord to heal because at that moment we want more! Some can do it, some can't depends on the individual as a whole! Someone stated that you extend the olive branch and with that, the ball is in her court. She can NEVER say you didn't reach out to her! Keep your head up and move forward! 🙂

Posted by 000sillylion000
No, you shouldn't expect her back. When a Leo shuts a door, it tends to stay shut. If it's been three years, move on and heal yourself.

This.