Leo male, Libra female...

You know how sometimes in relationships there can be for whatever reason a bit of a lull period... Well I've had a few of those with my Leo man...

Problem is, I dont know whether I should be the one to approach him first or wait...mostly the reason is because both being busy or I should say that he is particularly busy so i give him space thinking he'll contact me when he's not so busy but then I feel like it's actually a waiting game...Is he waiting for me? If I am the first to break the silence then he's there like a shot and we are back on the path together but it's just dawned on me that I am always the first...

So what I'm really asking is...is this just a power struggle between us or is me thinking 7-10 days is too long, really not that long at all to men?

The relationship is still strong, it's just this one niggly thing that grates me...

Leo male, Libra female is the best combo.

My Leo friend and his Libra girlfriend are very happy and still going strong after 5 years and they have a baby on the way.

Something, we leos get so wrapped up in work. Call him ask him.

I understand that he is wrapped up in preparation for Xmas and yes he's busy....but I also need to feel like I'm not the only one in this. I'd like him to reach out and put himself on the line...and let me know he's missing me and wants to hear from me too..

it's a libran thing I think, I've done my share now it's his turn... wonder how long I'll be waiting—

Posted by sweethearts

it's a libran thing I think, I've done my share now it's his turn... wonder how long I'll be waiting—

You will be waiting as long as you allow yourself to wait. If you are in a relationship, 7 - 10 days is too long to go without contact. You mentioned that when you do contact him he is there like a shot, so what's the problem? Sounds to me like an ego struggle here. Maybe he is unsure of your feelings because you continue to wait him out each time. Why not just talk to him about this particular issue? Tell him how you are feeling about the situation and how it seems like you are playing a waiting game. Maybe he feels the same way and is sitting over there wondering why you go long periods of time without contacting him as well?

I feel ya LLL, and that has crossed my mind...I guess it just makes me feel like I'm chasing him and as a woman think that he should be the one to make moves or at least let me know that it isn't all one sided. Something I will have to deal with as you say. No point making a mountain over this very small bump! How did you do the LDR thing for so long? Any tips there??

Posted by sweethearts
I feel ya LLL, and that has crossed my mind...I guess it just makes me feel like I'm chasing him and as a woman think that he should be the one to make moves or at least let me know that it isn't all one sided. Something I will have to deal with as you say. No point making a mountain over this very small bump! How did you do the LDR thing for so long? Any tips there??

Yeah, its understandable. As women, we naturally want to feel that. I think it's just somewhat engrained into our DNA.

Hmmm... LDR thing. Well, it really wasn't all that long. Only lasted about six months, however I could've done it longer. I actually like it. It's definitely not for everyone though. In my situation, I had no trust issues. We stayed in contact all the time. Texts throughout the day... phone calls at lunch and after work and we always talked for hours at night and until we fell asleep. We never ran out of anything to talk about, but that was part of our chemistry and why it worked with us for as long as it did. We can still do that now. It is hard sometimes though. You WANT to be able to be with them physically and some days you suffer much pain from that. Personally, being able to talk as much as we did without having the physical contact only reinforced the bond we had with one another. I mean, knowing that someone is devoting so much of their emotional self to you and giving you so much of their time to simply talk to you made me feel like he truly loved me for my inner self. We logged over 2500 minutes and 3500 text messages a month!!!! That's a lot of time corresponding!

As for tips, keep it interesting. COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE!!!! You have to have to keep in contact with one another. Lot's of phone sex and dirty text messages are a must!!! It's hard to do that with some people. You definitely have to connect with one another. I have yet to meet anyone that I have been able to do this with as comfortably and consistently as I could with him. Set goals to see one another. You need something to look forward to. I don't know how often you are able to see one another, but it always helped me get through the days. I LOVED having that to look forward to. Live your life and do your thing but share the details of it with one another. Just because you don't share a zip code doesn't mean you can't share what you do each day. Yo

You have to TRUST! If you can't than it won't work. It will be a waste of time! Besides, you have to remember living under the same roof with someone doesn't guarantee anything, so why does being in another city automatically mean that they are untrustworthy. It's all in what you can deal with. Like I said, not for everyone!

Well, I hope this helps. Good luck!! 🙂

Wow you look even better in this pic LLL, beautiful!

Thanks for all that advice...I'm really not sure where this is all going, yes there is trust there, I should possibly be the vunerable one with him as his morals in the past arent as high as mine but I believe in him and what he says to me...I have lived and experienced alot so not completely blinded! We have been friends most of ours lives and I think this is a huge bond between us...

The connection is there and the communication better than I've ever experienced, any doubts I may have are immediately reassured if I broach the subject and sometimes when I dont.

My main doubts are the distance...I know what he is thinking for a future together, no one knows how that will work out as it is different countries not states and we are still in the prime of our lives!!! It would be easier if we were in our 60's and weren't both running around having so much fun and enjoying our personal separate lives!!! I still feel too fresh out of a 20 year marriage to consider coupling up again... but he has me thinking...He's the one that expresses his desires to slow down and be more settled with one person. Of course only if I feel this way when we see each other will I consider any of it!

It just feels too much like a fairy tale at the moment...

Hey you look a bit like Nicole Richie! 🙂

Dear girl,
I recomend you to read 'Why men love/married bictches' and 'He is not that into you'.
Don't call him! Be wise and strong and don't do that. So far you've been weaker side and every time you called first and after that everything is ok. But you are still not sure about him... Deep in your heart you know if he loves youi he is supppose to call you and every person will tell you that. That's why yuo are not sure... I agree with that girl who geave you advice about communication - but he is supposed to ask you these questions, not you! That is the only way for you to be sure in his intention. YOu already know all this things and that's why you posted here your question because you know something is wrong! And honestly ask yourself - what would happen if he would not call you!!!

Thanks Nela, While I appreciate what you are saying here I think it runs a little differently in this situation, there's a different maturity level i feel here... Yes maybe he should be calling first and there are times when he is and does move forward alot faster than me...he has let me know his intentions and they are honorable and I am the one that is holding back til I know for sure...(so many unanswerable questions at this point to commit myself, if even only verbally)

We havent seen each other in 14 years and so far he has done all the chasing but because we are at a distance there are the lull times where I think as LLL says we both think we are giving each other the space we feel the other needs. We both have a very full on social life!

I for one think that a realtionship is a 50/50 thing, I cant expect to have him chasing me on everything when he has openly put himself on the line many times and I have remained quiet or rather let things go over my head tot he point of ignoring what he is saying til I am sure!

And I have read he's not that into you and Steve Harvey's book which I think is better, anyway I guess time will tell and it isnt long before we meet up and find out what is truely going on and what the future will hold for us...

I come here to get others opinions and different angles which I appreciate and certainly take into account when I am thinking about everything, so thanks for reading and taking the time to comment 🙂

I've been seeing a Leo for awhile now, as well. We are not serious at all, just casually dating a few times per month. He always initiates. I don't know what that means for your situation exactly, but I would definitely have that conversation with your Leo and if his behavior doesn't change, you might want to reconsider ringing him up after a week has passed with no contact.

Will definitely let him know how I feel about it and find out for sure when I see him 🙂

If I was seeing him physically I think this would make the situation a little more urgent...At the moment even though there is soo much going on...it's all still a little surreal...