Leo man acting weird

You'll need to explain your situation a bit more. What do you fight about? How long have you been together? What's you sign/placements (both of you), etc.

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You'll need to explain your situation a bit more. What do you fight about? How long have you been together? What's you sign/placements (both of you), etc.

He said that all I do is fight and that is why he doesn’t like talking to me so much. We don’t even fight that much, it’s just me asking for attention. We’ve been together for almost an year. He’s a leo and I’m a libra.

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So if I had to guess, when you first started dating he was very attentive and romantic. He probably talked/texted you everyday, etc. Eventually that slowed down which began to bother you. You mentioned it to him, he explained it away without necessarily changing his behavior. If he did change his behavior, it didn't last long. This behavior probably irritated you and made you a bit snippy with him. In order to figure out if this is a Leo question or a guy question, tell me:

1. Does he still take you out on dates/spend time with you?

2. Does he talk to you everyday? Exactly how has his communication dropped?

3. You said that he's less romantic, please explain what you mean? What is he no longer doing that he did before?

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You'll need to explain your situation a bit more. What do you fight about? How long have you been together? What's you sign/placements (both of you), etc.

He said that all I do is fight and that is why he doesn’t like talking to me so much. We don’t even fight that much, it’s just me asking for attention. We’ve been together for almost an year. He’s a leo and I’m a libra.

So if I had to guess, when you first started dating he was very attentive and romantic. He probably talked/texted you everyday, etc. Eventually that slowed down which began to bother you. You mentioned it to him, he explained it away without necessarily changing his behavior. If he did change his behavior, it didn't last long. This behavior probably irritated you and made you a bit snippy with him. In order to figure out if this is a Leo question or a guy question, tell me:

1. Does he still take you out on dates/spend time with you?

2. Does he talk to you everyday? Exactly how has his communication dropped?

3. You said that he's less romantic, please explain what you mean? What is he no longer doing that he did before?

It almost feels like he doesn’t want to be with me. Sometimes, I feel he does over time so that he doesn’t have to be with me. We barely go out together now and it’s maybe because he’s getting his car repaired but that’s not a problem for me. I can take the bus, It’s about spending time together.

This week he’s been so busy, at the end of the day he texts me saying he’s sorry and that he was busy doing this and that. I understand but there are days I know he makes up excuses.

There are no words of appreciation, no thank you’s, no romantic dates and he just seems like he doesn’t want to talk.

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Hm, sounds like he's in fix it/build it mode. The main issue I find with the Leo/Libra dynamic is that one if not both parties are not always ready to accept the hard realities of a long term relationship. It's all about beauty and romance between the two, but when it comes to seeing the realities of love, both parties can fail.

It sounds like the Leo has a lot of pressure right now (at least in his mind). Leo's are very proud and we pride ourselves on being able to handle our own affairs/issues. We spend a majority of our lives trying to create a comfortable life for ourselves and our loved ones. When something is out of sorts, we seek to fix it immediately. If we can't, then we'll pour more time and energy into it while possibly neglecting some of our relationships.

For example, the Leo's car is in the shop. This means that his mode of transportation to and from work isn't an option. This means he has an extra bill to consider that he may have not have been prepared to cover. This means he no longer feels in control of his situation. This means that he doesn't feel like much of a man, so asking you out on a date simply isn't an option if he can't handle his own car issues.

Obviously this is all a bit silly, but this is how Leo men think when we put a lot of pride into handling our own affairs (which we do a lot). The reality is, he could ask you out and take a taxi, uber, Lyft (or other ride sharing option). However he does not SEE it that way. From his perspective he needs to be a man and handle this issue first. So romance is now on the back burner.

I say this because of how he's responding to you. He's not flat out ignoring you. He's even apologizing for his behavior. That means he's aware there's an issue, but probably too proud to divulge it entirely. Why? As men we are taught to keep our issues to ourselves and to handle them quietly on our own. We're taught that if a woman sees us in a moment of weakness, she'll run away. So as men, we need to just handle our own problems and leave women in the dark.

This of course is not conducive to a healthy loving relationship. Is there is an issue, he'll need to be able to open up and communicate with you more. Most men can fail at this and Leo men are no exception. Leo men are not only proud, but we are prone to keeping up appearances at all times. Even if there was a problem that was crushing us, you'd never know.

Then there's the other side. You haven't seemed to grasp there there is clearly an underlying issue outside of you and the relationship. More than likely the issue isn't with you, but with the Leo's own life. If the Leo's life is out of whack, he's going to focus on that first. It's just how we are. Therefore you're going to need to see between the lines and possibly be more supportive so that he opens up to you.

You've probably spent so much time overthinking his actions, that you've missed the obvious. You know his car is in the shop and you know he's a busy person (most Leos can be workaholics too). You know he's probably working to fix his car. You also know that he's a Leo and you're a Libra and you BOTH like nice things. You KNOW the bus isn't an option. Even if you're fine with it, you know he's a proud individual. You know that you both value appearances, so he's going to always wants to present the best image to you (because he knows that's probably what you like).

So knowing all of that consider how he feels when you (to put it bluntly) nag him about his inability to be romantic and focus on you. In his mind he probably feels extremely low. If he's saying that you always argue with him and you're saying that you just want more attention from him, then he probably feels as if you're pushing for something that he can't provide at the moment.

As far as I can tell (at least in this scenario) you're both at fault for not listening to one another. This can be a big issue with Leos and Libras. Both parties can focus so much on what they want that they miss the other person's feelings. You both need to communicate better. Stop tiptoeing around each other's sensibilities and be more direct.

The Leo needs to be more open with you about his issues for sure. He also needs to let you know why he's being so distant. However you need to ask in a way that less selfish. You need to talk to him in a manner in which he knows that you understand him. Let him know that you can see that he's working hard and want to understand his position, rather than begging him for more romance. Right now you're probably demanding more than he can offer.

In general the worst thing for a guy is knowing that we can appease our women. So if he feels that you're unsatisfied with him, he'll create distance. As a Leo we also want to be with a partner we feel understands us. When he going gets tough know that a Leo man will hunker down and stubbornly fix whatever problem is posed to him. He'll need to know that you understand this about him and support him, so that he'll feel safe opening up to you.

Devil's advocate That all being said, since I still don't know the main details of your situation, I will say it's possible that he's just no longer interested in you. Maybe he feels as if you're too high maintenance or maybe his feelings have changed. To figure this out though, you should simple give him some space.

By giving him space you'll be able to see what his true intentions are. If he doesn't come back to you, then you'll know there's a much bigger issue. However don't ignore him either, just give him time to figure out his life. If he remains in communication and even makes more of an effort to see you, then you'll know that he's trying to fix something in his own life. At that point the real conversations can begin.

It's possible that you two got swept up in the romance quickly (as is the case for most Libra/Leo relationships) while ignoring the important life details. The Leo may now be aware that he's left some things floating that he now needs to handle. He may not know how to communicate this with you, so he's been avoiding the issue. Libras and Leos need to learn that in a relationship, avoiding the hard side of love simply doesn't work.

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You'll need to explain your situation a bit more. What do you fight about? How long have you been together? What's you sign/placements (both of you), etc.

He said that all I do is fight and that is why he doesn’t like talking to me so much. We don’t even fight that much, it’s just me asking for attention. We’ve been together for almost an year. He’s a leo and I’m a libra.

So if I had to guess, when you first started dating he was very attentive and romantic. He probably talked/texted you everyday, etc. Eventually that slowed down which began to bother you. You mentioned it to him, he explained it away without necessarily changing his behavior. If he did change his behavior, it didn't last long. This behavior probably irritated you and made you a bit snippy with him. In order to figure out if this is a Leo question or a guy question, tell me:

1. Does he still take you out on dates/spend time with you?

2. Does he talk to you everyday? Exactly how has his communication dropped?

3. You said that he's less romantic, please explain what you mean? What is he no longer doing that he did before?

It almost feels like he doesn’t want to be with me. Sometimes, I feel he does over time so that he doesn’t have to be with me. We barely go out together now and it’s maybe because he’s getting his car repaired but that’s not a problem for me. I can take the bus, It’s about spending time together.

This week he’s been so busy, at the end of the day he texts me saying he’s sorry and that he was busy doing this and that. I understand but there are days I know he makes up excuses.

There are no words of appreciation, no thank you’s, no romantic dates and he just seems like he doesn’t want to talk.

Hm, sounds like he's in fix it/build it mode. The main issue I find with the Leo/Libra dynamic is that one if not both parties are not always ready to accept the hard realities of a long term relationship. It's all about beauty and romance between the two, but when it comes to seeing the realities of love, both parties can fail.

It sounds like the Leo has a lot of pressure right now (at least in his mind). Leo's are very proud and we pride ourselves on being able to handle our own affairs/issues. We spend a majority of our lives trying to create a comfortable life for ourselves and our loved ones. When something is out of sorts, we seek to fix it immediately. If we can't, then we'll pour more time and energy into it while possibly neglecting some of our relationships.

For example, the Leo's car is in the shop. This means that his mode of transportation to and from work isn't an option. This means he has an extra bill to consider that he may have not have been prepared to cover. This means he no longer feels in control of his situation. This means that he doesn't feel like much of a man, so asking you out on a date simply isn't an option if he can't handle his own car issues.

Obviously this is all a bit silly, but this is how Leo men think when we put a lot of pride into handling our own affairs (which we do a lot). The reality is, he could ask you out and take a taxi, uber, Lyft (or other ride sharing option). However he does not SEE it that way. From his perspective he needs to be a man and handle this issue first. So romance is now on the back burner.

I say this because of how he's responding to you. He's not flat out ignoring you. He's even apologizing for his behavior. That means he's aware there's an issue, but probably too proud to divulge it entirely. Why? As men we are taught to keep our issues to ourselves and to handle them quietly on our own. We're taught that if a woman sees us in a moment of weakness, she'll run away. So as men, we need to just handle our own problems and leave women in the dark.

This of course is not conducive to a healthy loving relationship. Is there is an issue, he'll need to be able to open up and communicate with you more. Most men can fail at this and Leo men are no exception. Leo men are not only proud, but we are prone to keeping up appearances at all times. Even if there was a problem that was crushing us, you'd never know.

Then there's the other side. You haven't seemed to grasp there there is clearly an underlying issue outside of you and the relationship. More than likely the issue isn't with you, but with the Leo's own life. If the Leo's life is out of whack, he's going to focus on that first. It's just how we are. Therefore you're going to need to see between the lines and possibly be more supportive so that he opens up to you.

You've probably spent so much time overthinking his actions, that you've missed the obvious. You know his car is in the shop and you know he's a busy person (most Leos can be workaholics too). You know he's probably working to fix his car. You also know that he's a Leo and you're a Libra and you BOTH like nice things. You KNOW the bus isn't an option. Even if you're fine with it, you know he's a proud individual. You know that you both value appearances, so he's going to always wants to present the best image to you (because he knows that's probably what you like).

So knowing all of that consider how he feels when you (to put it bluntly) nag him about his inability to be romantic and focus on you. In his mind he probably feels extremely low. If he's saying that you always argue with him and you're saying that you just want more attention from him, then he probably feels as if you're pushing for something that he can't provide at the moment.

As far as I can tell (at least in this scenario) you're both at fault for not listening to one another. This can be a big issue with Leos and Libras. Both parties can focus so much on what they want that they miss the other person's feelings. You both need to communicate better. Stop tiptoeing around each other's sensibilities and be more direct.

The Leo needs to be more open with you about his issues for sure. He also needs to let you know why he's being so distant. However you need to ask in a way that less selfish. You need to talk to him in a manner in which he knows that you understand him. Let him know that you can see that he's working hard and want to understand his position, rather than begging him for more romance. Right now you're probably demanding more than he can offer.

In general the worst thing for a guy is knowing that we can appease our women. So if he feels that you're unsatisfied with him, he'll create distance. As a Leo we also want to be with a partner we feel understands us. When he going gets tough know that a Leo man will hunker down and stubbornly fix whatever problem is posed to him. He'll need to know that you understand this about him and support him, so that he'll feel safe opening up to you.

Devil's advocate That all being said, since I still don't know the main details of your situation, I will say it's possible that he's just no longer interested in you. Maybe he feels as if you're too high maintenance or maybe his feelings have changed. To figure this out though, you should simple give him some space.

By giving him space you'll be able to see what his true intentions are. If he doesn't come back to you, then you'll know there's a much bigger issue. However don't ignore him either, just give him time to figure out his life. If he remains in communication and even makes more of an effort to see you, then you'll know that he's trying to fix something in his own life. At that point the real conversations can begin.

It's possible that you two got swept up in the romance quickly (as is the case for most Libra/Leo relationships) while ignoring the important life details. The Leo may now be aware that he's left some things floating that he now needs to handle. He may not know how to communicate this with you, so he's been avoiding the issue. Libras and Leos need to learn that in a relationship, avoiding the hard side of love simply doesn't work.

I asked him if he wanted to end this relationship and he said no, can one not have a bad day?

But it’s not just a day. It’s every day. 😔

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Did you not read what I wrote? Asking a question like that is only going to make this situation worse. If he is going through a rough patch, you're just proving how unequipped you are at actually being supportive. You're still only thinking about yourself in this situation. Let me ask you, if the Leo was ill and having trouble seeing you, would you still ask the same question?

Unless you actually want to breakup with the Leo, you're now treading into manipulative territory by guilt tripping him. You're trying to provoke a response that possibly doesn't need to be provoked. There's no way you'd get the answer you want from a question like that.

Stop with the pity party and talk to him directly. Tell him that you want to see him and ask him if he's ok. Again, Leos need to know that our partners care about us through thick and thin. We need to know that our partners are strong.

You need to take the time to understand him. Likewise, if he's not opening up to you right now, let him know that he needs to do so. Let him know that remaining closed off is unfair to you and that you're available to talk whenever he's ready. Then give him space to sort himself out.

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Okay so I called him. He talked for a few and then he said he had to call someone else and hung up all of a sudden. He texted me saying “Talk to you later. I don’t feel good.” I sent him a long text saying everything I had in my mind and how I want him to open up and how much I love him. I got a reply saying “It’s okay. It’s not your fault. So yeah.” That’s it. I’m a very impatient person, this feels like the most difficult thing in my world.

It's difficult because there are some co-dependencies here. I think this will be a good experience for you because if nothing else it will show you how to be strong when dealing with these issues. Also understand that I'm not attacking you. I think the Leo needs to speak up and tell you what's wrong. If he were the one asking for advice here, I'd be telling him about himself too.

Basically my advice will be to hold him to his word and let him come to you at his own pace. Get busy doing other things because you do have a life outside of him. As I mentioned if the Leo wants to make it work, he'll reopen communication with you. Leos only ghost when we definitely aren't interest OR we have something we REALLY need to take care of at that moment. In the latter situation the ghosting only lasts a short while, but the Leo must come back in his own time.

When the Leo does return, gently lay down your ground rules. Let him know if he wants to continue something with you, he'll need to be open and communicative. Let him know that you understand that he's under pressure, but it's unfair to keep you out of the loop. Let him know that you may have even been able to help him had he just been upfront with you. Communication must exist if the relationship is to survive.

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You'll need to explain your situation a bit more. What do you fight about? How long have you been together? What's you sign/placements (both of you), etc.

He said that all I do is fight and that is why he doesn’t like talking to me so much. We don’t even fight that much, it’s just me asking for attention. We’ve been together for almost an year. He’s a leo and I’m a libra.

So if I had to guess, when you first started dating he was very attentive and romantic. He probably talked/texted you everyday, etc. Eventually that slowed down which began to bother you. You mentioned it to him, he explained it away without necessarily changing his behavior. If he did change his behavior, it didn't last long. This behavior probably irritated you and made you a bit snippy with him. In order to figure out if this is a Leo question or a guy question, tell me:

1. Does he still take you out on dates/spend time with you?

2. Does he talk to you everyday? Exactly how has his communication dropped?

3. You said that he's less romantic, please explain what you mean? What is he no longer doing that he did before?

It almost feels like he doesn’t want to be with me. Sometimes, I feel he does over time so that he doesn’t have to be with me. We barely go out together now and it’s maybe because he’s getting his car repaired but that’s not a problem for me. I can take the bus, It’s about spending time together.

This week he’s been so busy, at the end of the day he texts me saying he’s sorry and that he was busy doing this and that. I understand but there are days I know he makes up excuses.

There are no words of appreciation, no thank you’s, no romantic dates and he just seems like he doesn’t want to talk.

Hm, sounds like he's in fix it/build it mode. The main issue I find with the Leo/Libra dynamic is that one if not both parties are not always ready to accept the hard realities of a long term relationship. It's all about beauty and romance between the two, but when it comes to seeing the realities of love, both parties can fail.

It sounds like the Leo has a lot of pressure right now (at least in his mind). Leo's are very proud and we pride ourselves on being able to handle our own affairs/issues. We spend a majority of our lives trying to create a comfortable life for ourselves and our loved ones. When something is out of sorts, we seek to fix it immediately. If we can't, then we'll pour more time and energy into it while possibly neglecting some of our relationships.

For example, the Leo's car is in the shop. This means that his mode of transportation to and from work isn't an option. This means he has an extra bill to consider that he may have not have been prepared to cover. This means he no longer feels in control of his situation. This means that he doesn't feel like much of a man, so asking you out on a date simply isn't an option if he can't handle his own car issues.

Obviously this is all a bit silly, but this is how Leo men think when we put a lot of pride into handling our own affairs (which we do a lot). The reality is, he could ask you out and take a taxi, uber, Lyft (or other ride sharing option). However he does not SEE it that way. From his perspective he needs to be a man and handle this issue first. So romance is now on the back burner.

I say this because of how he's responding to you. He's not flat out ignoring you. He's even apologizing for his behavior. That means he's aware there's an issue, but probably too proud to divulge it entirely. Why? As men we are taught to keep our issues to ourselves and to handle them quietly on our own. We're taught that if a woman sees us in a moment of weakness, she'll run away. So as men, we need to just handle our own problems and leave women in the dark.

This of course is not conducive to a healthy loving relationship. Is there is an issue, he'll need to be able to open up and communicate with you more. Most men can fail at this and Leo men are no exception. Leo men are not only proud, but we are prone to keeping up appearances at all times. Even if there was a problem that was crushing us, you'd never know.

Then there's the other side. You haven't seemed to grasp there there is clearly an underlying issue outside of you and the relationship. More than likely the issue isn't with you, but with the Leo's own life. If the Leo's life is out of whack, he's going to focus on that first. It's just how we are. Therefore you're going to need to see between the lines and possibly be more supportive so that he opens up to you.

You've probably spent so much time overthinking his actions, that you've missed the obvious. You know his car is in the shop and you know he's a busy person (most Leos can be workaholics too). You know he's probably working to fix his car. You also know that he's a Leo and you're a Libra and you BOTH like nice things. You KNOW the bus isn't an option. Even if you're fine with it, you know he's a proud individual. You know that you both value appearances, so he's going to always wants to present the best image to you (because he knows that's probably what you like).

So knowing all of that consider how he feels when you (to put it bluntly) nag him about his inability to be romantic and focus on you. In his mind he probably feels extremely low. If he's saying that you always argue with him and you're saying that you just want more attention from him, then he probably feels as if you're pushing for something that he can't provide at the moment.

As far as I can tell (at least in this scenario) you're both at fault for not listening to one another. This can be a big issue with Leos and Libras. Both parties can focus so much on what they want that they miss the other person's feelings. You both need to communicate better. Stop tiptoeing around each other's sensibilities and be more direct.

The Leo needs to be more open with you about his issues for sure. He also needs to let you know why he's being so distant. However you need to ask in a way that less selfish. You need to talk to him in a manner in which he knows that you understand him. Let him know that you can see that he's working hard and want to understand his position, rather than begging him for more romance. Right now you're probably demanding more than he can offer.

In general the worst thing for a guy is knowing that we can appease our women. So if he feels that you're unsatisfied with him, he'll create distance. As a Leo we also want to be with a partner we feel understands us. When he going gets tough know that a Leo man will hunker down and stubbornly fix whatever problem is posed to him. He'll need to know that you understand this about him and support him, so that he'll feel safe opening up to you.

Devil's advocate That all being said, since I still don't know the main details of your situation, I will say it's possible that he's just no longer interested in you. Maybe he feels as if you're too high maintenance or maybe his feelings have changed. To figure this out though, you should simple give him some space.

By giving him space you'll be able to see what his true intentions are. If he doesn't come back to you, then you'll know there's a much bigger issue. However don't ignore him either, just give him time to figure out his life. If he remains in communication and even makes more of an effort to see you, then you'll know that he's trying to fix something in his own life. At that point the real conversations can begin.

It's possible that you two got swept up in the romance quickly (as is the case for most Libra/Leo relationships) while ignoring the important life details. The Leo may now be aware that he's left some things floating that he now needs to handle. He may not know how to communicate this with you, so he's been avoiding the issue. Libras and Leos need to learn that in a relationship, avoiding the hard side of love simply doesn't work.

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All of this just makes me wanna be born 1-2 days earlier so I can be a leo, ask stuff and have such a full, long and adecquate answers from you. Truly amusing.

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Okay so I called him. He talked for a few and then he said he had to call someone else and hung up all of a sudden. He texted me saying “Talk to you later. I don’t feel good.” I sent him a long text saying everything I had in my mind and how I want him to open up and how much I love him. I got a reply saying “It’s okay. It’s not your fault. So yeah.” That’s it. I’m a very impatient person, this feels like the most difficult thing in my world.

It's difficult because there are some co-dependencies here. I think this will be a good experience for you because if nothing else it will show you how to be strong when dealing with these issues. Also understand that I'm not attacking you. I think the Leo needs to speak up and tell you what's wrong. If he were the one asking for advice here, I'd be telling him about himself too.

Basically my advice will be to hold him to his word and let him come to you at his own pace. Get busy doing other things because you do have a life outside of him. As I mentioned if the Leo wants to make it work, he'll reopen communication with you. Leos only ghost when we definitely aren't interest OR we have something we REALLY need to take care of at that moment. In the latter situation the ghosting only lasts a short while, but the Leo must come back in his own time.

When the Leo does return, gently lay down your ground rules. Let him know if he wants to continue something with you, he'll need to be open and communicative. Let him know that you understand that he's under pressure, but it's unfair to keep you out of the loop. Let him know that you may have even been able to help him had he just been upfront with you. Communication must exist if the relationship is to survive.

😊 Thank you. He was trying to keep up a normal conversation. He called me a few times but I dozed off in the middle of texting. I hope everything gets back to normal.

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Oh also calling for a Leo is much better than texting. Most of us pretend to be ok with texting, but really prefer not to do it.

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You'll need to explain your situation a bit more. What do you fight about? How long have you been together? What's you sign/placements (both of you), etc.

He said that all I do is fight and that is why he doesn’t like talking to me so much. We don’t even fight that much, it’s just me asking for attention. We’ve been together for almost an year. He’s a leo and I’m a libra.

So if I had to guess, when you first started dating he was very attentive and romantic. He probably talked/texted you everyday, etc. Eventually that slowed down which began to bother you. You mentioned it to him, he explained it away without necessarily changing his behavior. If he did change his behavior, it didn't last long. This behavior probably irritated you and made you a bit snippy with him. In order to figure out if this is a Leo question or a guy question, tell me:

1. Does he still take you out on dates/spend time with you?

2. Does he talk to you everyday? Exactly how has his communication dropped?

3. You said that he's less romantic, please explain what you mean? What is he no longer doing that he did before?

It almost feels like he doesn’t want to be with me. Sometimes, I feel he does over time so that he doesn’t have to be with me. We barely go out together now and it’s maybe because he’s getting his car repaired but that’s not a problem for me. I can take the bus, It’s about spending time together.

This week he’s been so busy, at the end of the day he texts me saying he’s sorry and that he was busy doing this and that. I understand but there are days I know he makes up excuses.

There are no words of appreciation, no thank you’s, no romantic dates and he just seems like he doesn’t want to talk.

Hm, sounds like he's in fix it/build it mode. The main issue I find with the Leo/Libra dynamic is that one if not both parties are not always ready to accept the hard realities of a long term relationship. It's all about beauty and romance between the two, but when it comes to seeing the realities of love, both parties can fail.

It sounds like the Leo has a lot of pressure right now (at least in his mind). Leo's are very proud and we pride ourselves on being able to handle our own affairs/issues. We spend a majority of our lives trying to create a comfortable life for ourselves and our loved ones. When something is out of sorts, we seek to fix it immediately. If we can't, then we'll pour more time and energy into it while possibly neglecting some of our relationships.

For example, the Leo's car is in the shop. This means that his mode of transportation to and from work isn't an option. This means he has an extra bill to consider that he may have not have been prepared to cover. This means he no longer feels in control of his situation. This means that he doesn't feel like much of a man, so asking you out on a date simply isn't an option if he can't handle his own car issues.

Obviously this is all a bit silly, but this is how Leo men think when we put a lot of pride into handling our own affairs (which we do a lot). The reality is, he could ask you out and take a taxi, uber, Lyft (or other ride sharing option). However he does not SEE it that way. From his perspective he needs to be a man and handle this issue first. So romance is now on the back burner.

I say this because of how he's responding to you. He's not flat out ignoring you. He's even apologizing for his behavior. That means he's aware there's an issue, but probably too proud to divulge it entirely. Why? As men we are taught to keep our issues to ourselves and to handle them quietly on our own. We're taught that if a woman sees us in a moment of weakness, she'll run away. So as men, we need to just handle our own problems and leave women in the dark.

This of course is not conducive to a healthy loving relationship. Is there is an issue, he'll need to be able to open up and communicate with you more. Most men can fail at this and Leo men are no exception. Leo men are not only proud, but we are prone to keeping up appearances at all times. Even if there was a problem that was crushing us, you'd never know.

Then there's the other side. You haven't seemed to grasp there there is clearly an underlying issue outside of you and the relationship. More than likely the issue isn't with you, but with the Leo's own life. If the Leo's life is out of whack, he's going to focus on that first. It's just how we are. Therefore you're going to need to see between the lines and possibly be more supportive so that he opens up to you.

You've probably spent so much time overthinking his actions, that you've missed the obvious. You know his car is in the shop and you know he's a busy person (most Leos can be workaholics too). You know he's probably working to fix his car. You also know that he's a Leo and you're a Libra and you BOTH like nice things. You KNOW the bus isn't an option. Even if you're fine with it, you know he's a proud individual. You know that you both value appearances, so he's going to always wants to present the best image to you (because he knows that's probably what you like).

So knowing all of that consider how he feels when you (to put it bluntly) nag him about his inability to be romantic and focus on you. In his mind he probably feels extremely low. If he's saying that you always argue with him and you're saying that you just want more attention from him, then he probably feels as if you're pushing for something that he can't provide at the moment.

As far as I can tell (at least in this scenario) you're both at fault for not listening to one another. This can be a big issue with Leos and Libras. Both parties can focus so much on what they want that they miss the other person's feelings. You both need to communicate better. Stop tiptoeing around each other's sensibilities and be more direct.

The Leo needs to be more open with you about his issues for sure. He also needs to let you know why he's being so distant. However you need to ask in a way that less selfish. You need to talk to him in a manner in which he knows that you understand him. Let him know that you can see that he's working hard and want to understand his position, rather than begging him for more romance. Right now you're probably demanding more than he can offer.

In general the worst thing for a guy is knowing that we can appease our women. So if he feels that you're unsatisfied with him, he'll create distance. As a Leo we also want to be with a partner we feel understands us. When he going gets tough know that a Leo man will hunker down and stubbornly fix whatever problem is posed to him. He'll need to know that you understand this about him and support him, so that he'll feel safe opening up to you.

Devil's advocate That all being said, since I still don't know the main details of your situation, I will say it's possible that he's just no longer interested in you. Maybe he feels as if you're too high maintenance or maybe his feelings have changed. To figure this out though, you should simple give him some space.

By giving him space you'll be able to see what his true intentions are. If he doesn't come back to you, then you'll know there's a much bigger issue. However don't ignore him either, just give him time to figure out his life. If he remains in communication and even makes more of an effort to see you, then you'll know that he's trying to fix something in his own life. At that point the real conversations can begin.

It's possible that you two got swept up in the romance quickly (as is the case for most Libra/Leo relationships) while ignoring the important life details. The Leo may now be aware that he's left some things floating that he now needs to handle. He may not know how to communicate this with you, so he's been avoiding the issue. Libras and Leos need to learn that in a relationship, avoiding the hard side of love simply doesn't work.

All of this just makes me wanna be born 1-2 days earlier so I can be a leo, ask stuff and have such a full, long and adecquate answers from you. Truly amusing.

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Pretty sure my Virgo Moon plays a part.

Posted by Chuckcem

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You'll need to explain your situation a bit more. What do you fight about? How long have you been together? What's you sign/placements (both of you), etc.

He said that all I do is fight and that is why he doesn’t like talking to me so much. We don’t even fight that much, it’s just me asking for attention. We’ve been together for almost an year. He’s a leo and I’m a libra.

So if I had to guess, when you first started dating he was very attentive and romantic. He probably talked/texted you everyday, etc. Eventually that slowed down which began to bother you. You mentioned it to him, he explained it away without necessarily changing his behavior. If he did change his behavior, it didn't last long. This behavior probably irritated you and made you a bit snippy with him. In order to figure out if this is a Leo question or a guy question, tell me:

1. Does he still take you out on dates/spend time with you?

2. Does he talk to you everyday? Exactly how has his communication dropped?

3. You said that he's less romantic, please explain what you mean? What is he no longer doing that he did before?

It almost feels like he doesn’t want to be with me. Sometimes, I feel he does over time so that he doesn’t have to be with me. We barely go out together now and it’s maybe because he’s getting his car repaired but that’s not a problem for me. I can take the bus, It’s about spending time together.

This week he’s been so busy, at the end of the day he texts me saying he’s sorry and that he was busy doing this and that. I understand but there are days I know he makes up excuses.

There are no words of appreciation, no thank you’s, no romantic dates and he just seems like he doesn’t want to talk.

Hm, sounds like he's in fix it/build it mode. The main issue I find with the Leo/Libra dynamic is that one if not both parties are not always ready to accept the hard realities of a long term relationship. It's all about beauty and romance between the two, but when it comes to seeing the realities of love, both parties can fail.

It sounds like the Leo has a lot of pressure right now (at least in his mind). Leo's are very proud and we pride ourselves on being able to handle our own affairs/issues. We spend a majority of our lives trying to create a comfortable life for ourselves and our loved ones. When something is out of sorts, we seek to fix it immediately. If we can't, then we'll pour more time and energy into it while possibly neglecting some of our relationships.

For example, the Leo's car is in the shop. This means that his mode of transportation to and from work isn't an option. This means he has an extra bill to consider that he may have not have been prepared to cover. This means he no longer feels in control of his situation. This means that he doesn't feel like much of a man, so asking you out on a date simply isn't an option if he can't handle his own car issues.

Obviously this is all a bit silly, but this is how Leo men think when we put a lot of pride into handling our own affairs (which we do a lot). The reality is, he could ask you out and take a taxi, uber, Lyft (or other ride sharing option). However he does not SEE it that way. From his perspective he needs to be a man and handle this issue first. So romance is now on the back burner.

I say this because of how he's responding to you. He's not flat out ignoring you. He's even apologizing for his behavior. That means he's aware there's an issue, but probably too proud to divulge it entirely. Why? As men we are taught to keep our issues to ourselves and to handle them quietly on our own. We're taught that if a woman sees us in a moment of weakness, she'll run away. So as men, we need to just handle our own problems and leave women in the dark.

This of course is not conducive to a healthy loving relationship. Is there is an issue, he'll need to be able to open up and communicate with you more. Most men can fail at this and Leo men are no exception. Leo men are not only proud, but we are prone to keeping up appearances at all times. Even if there was a problem that was crushing us, you'd never know.

Then there's the other side. You haven't seemed to grasp there there is clearly an underlying issue outside of you and the relationship. More than likely the issue isn't with you, but with the Leo's own life. If the Leo's life is out of whack, he's going to focus on that first. It's just how we are. Therefore you're going to need to see between the lines and possibly be more supportive so that he opens up to you.

You've probably spent so much time overthinking his actions, that you've missed the obvious. You know his car is in the shop and you know he's a busy person (most Leos can be workaholics too). You know he's probably working to fix his car. You also know that he's a Leo and you're a Libra and you BOTH like nice things. You KNOW the bus isn't an option. Even if you're fine with it, you know he's a proud individual. You know that you both value appearances, so he's going to always wants to present the best image to you (because he knows that's probably what you like).

So knowing all of that consider how he feels when you (to put it bluntly) nag him about his inability to be romantic and focus on you. In his mind he probably feels extremely low. If he's saying that you always argue with him and you're saying that you just want more attention from him, then he probably feels as if you're pushing for something that he can't provide at the moment.

As far as I can tell (at least in this scenario) you're both at fault for not listening to one another. This can be a big issue with Leos and Libras. Both parties can focus so much on what they want that they miss the other person's feelings. You both need to communicate better. Stop tiptoeing around each other's sensibilities and be more direct.

The Leo needs to be more open with you about his issues for sure. He also needs to let you know why he's being so distant. However you need to ask in a way that less selfish. You need to talk to him in a manner in which he knows that you understand him. Let him know that you can see that he's working hard and want to understand his position, rather than begging him for more romance. Right now you're probably demanding more than he can offer.

In general the worst thing for a guy is knowing that we can appease our women. So if he feels that you're unsatisfied with him, he'll create distance. As a Leo we also want to be with a partner we feel understands us. When he going gets tough know that a Leo man will hunker down and stubbornly fix whatever problem is posed to him. He'll need to know that you understand this about him and support him, so that he'll feel safe opening up to you.

Devil's advocate That all being said, since I still don't know the main details of your situation, I will say it's possible that he's just no longer interested in you. Maybe he feels as if you're too high maintenance or maybe his feelings have changed. To figure this out though, you should simple give him some space.

By giving him space you'll be able to see what his true intentions are. If he doesn't come back to you, then you'll know there's a much bigger issue. However don't ignore him either, just give him time to figure out his life. If he remains in communication and even makes more of an effort to see you, then you'll know that he's trying to fix something in his own life. At that point the real conversations can begin.

It's possible that you two got swept up in the romance quickly (as is the case for most Libra/Leo relationships) while ignoring the important life details. The Leo may now be aware that he's left some things floating that he now needs to handle. He may not know how to communicate this with you, so he's been avoiding the issue. Libras and Leos need to learn that in a relationship, avoiding the hard side of love simply doesn't work.

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Holy shit this explains how my relationship with my Aries collapsed after 13 years. Fantastic post!

Posted by Leoguy8
Holy shit this explains how my relationship with my Aries collapsed after 13 years. Fantastic post!

I think every Leo has been in that "build it/fix it" place and had someone get thoroughly upset by it. Being opposites Aries and Libra are two sides of the same coin. So you probably saw a lot of similarities in your own situation because of that.

Agree with Chuckcem, when Leo is stressed, give them some space especially when they explained to you already. If you just gonna throw your emotions at them when they are unstable, it's gonna push them further away into their cave and avoid talking to you (because we do not wanna flare are you) plus its emotionally exhausting.

Call is always better than texting, less chance of bad interpretation of a message and higher chance of soothing each other's frustration through the tone and context. Plus too much text of your own thoughts sounds like nagging messages like bunch of bubble spam chats of - I feel... I dislike... I hate... I am dissapointed blah blah blah vs calls like - we should work it out mode.

All the best! Have some patience or a cup of tea!

Posted by omlunn
Okay wow, my leo man told me that he doesn’t know what he feels for me but he wants me to stay in his life. I’m officially tired of this. I just cannot. I’m trying really hard to get past this whole thing. He just seems to not pay any attention to how I feel and why I feel like that.

Time to walk away. When someone tells you that they don't know how they feel about you, that means you are now on the back burner. You can't force/manipulate this situation by trying to communicate your disappointment.