Leo man and bad break up. Will he come back?

I was dating that wonderful leo man and went abroad to work. Long distance relationship is difficult and he did not come to visit due to administrative problems. To hurt him, I made up a fake boyfriend and one night stand...I regret so much. He said he needs time to think, but no news since 8 days. Will he come back if he loved me?

Thanks

thank you for your answer.

well, i was jealous and not easy going due to problems on my side and I really love him.

If he realizes he misses, will he call?

If I don t hear from him in 2-3 weeks, should I consider that our relationship is really over—

cheers

Indeed, I am a virgo.

I worked abroad for the last five months and he was supposed to come and visit. At the last minute he could not come due to a problem and since I've been mad, awful to him, made up a boyfriend, called him 13 times when he wouldn't answer. He asked for space and I declined asking for a straight answer. He said it s over and messaged me two days after saying he wanted to meet when I d be back. Then I declined saying I was not not a puppet he can play with. Since NO NEWS!!!!

Now I'm back home and he knows it and I miss him terribly.

After my awful behavior, will he come back or chances he s moved on??

Thanks

Many thanks for your answer.

Even if he loves me, is there any chance he will sleep with someone or go on date?

Aurora, how long did last his "time to think" period?

Should I expect contact within a month?

Should I call him despite I said I wanted to move on and agreed on the break up or wait for him to maybe realize he still loves me??

I'm so lost..

Posted by Alex1234
Indeed, I am a virgo.

I worked abroad for the last five months and he was supposed to come and visit. At the last minute he could not come due to a problem and since I've been mad, awful to him, made up a boyfriend, called him 13 times when he wouldn't answer. He asked for space and I declined asking for a straight answer. He said it s over and messaged me two days after saying he wanted to meet when I d be back. Then I declined saying I was not not a puppet he can play with. Since NO NEWS!!!!

Now I'm back home and he knows it and I miss him terribly.

After my awful behavior, will he come back or chances he s moved on??

Thanks

Disclaimer: Jynja's probably right.

But this has not been addressed to my satisfaction-- '... he was supposed to come and visit. At the last minute he could not come due to a problem'

What was the 'problem'?

I would have been LIVID and CRUSHED, so I'm finding it very hard to blame you for acting out-- you did it poorly, yes.

But what a disappointing, mindf*cking letdown that must have been-- especially after God-only-knows how much anticipation must have been building up on your part.

Don't let him minimize that-- based on the magnitude of your response (made up a one nighter), this pretty much ripped your heart out.

Confess what you did; apologize for lying *only* and tell him why you did it-- but don't put yourself at his mercy too much.

Unless there was a death in the family, or an injury, or some other kind of *legitimate* emergency (in which case my advice would be FAR different), I truly wonder what constitutes an "administrative" emergency.

Posted by Alex1234
Should I call him despite I said I wanted to move on and agreed on the break up or wait for him to maybe realize he still loves me??

I'm so lost..

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If I understand correctly, the last thing he heard from you is 'I'm not your *@!#* puppet!'-- there's only so many ways that can be taken. For him to call now would be-- very un-Leo.

*IF* that was the last thing you two said to each other, then yes-- YES. The onus is on you.


And don't make shit up like that, again... lol. 😉 It's probably going to be alright.

Thanks.

He didn't show because his passport expired and he realised a few days before flying over.

I really don't want to call. Will he or simply move on if he does not hear from me?

Posted by Alex1234
Thanks.

He didn't show because his passport expired and he realised a few days before flying over.

I really don't want to call. Will he or simply move on if he does not hear from me?

you're asking questions that no-one here can possibly answer irrespective of astrology. have you heard the expression 'the course of true love never runs smoothly'? sometimes even if things are meant to be, obstacles and challenges are thrown in its path and ultimately you are left with no other option than to sit back and leave things to fate. if something's meant to be it will be....which i realise isn't a great answer from your point of view but really there's nothing you can do or say right now that's gonna affect the outcome.

it's easy to panic and imagine that if there's too much distance or silence between you that there's no hope of a future together and it's during that time of panic that we end up doing stuff that can drive the other person away.....cos our behaviour isn't representative of who we are and what we feel...we're just clinging on to something or someone for our own needs.

don't let this dominate your life. try and let him go in your mind and focus on you. yes it will hurt and yes it may take some time to truly let him go but if you do and he comes back, you'll know it is meant to be but you have to stop wanting him like your life depends on it. it's not healthy and not productive and the only person who suffers is yourself 🙂

when i first met my ex husband, i was devastated when he ended it after a few months to go back to his ex girlfriend. i remember thinking 'i have two options...i can stay at home and be miserable or i can carry on like nothing's happened'. i did the latter and eventually got my man. it wasn't a game to get him back...i was just putting myself first.

You're oh so right and family and friends told me the same thing.

I just expected so much from this relationship. I truly believe we're a great match. So I booked a holiday, got in touch with friends and old friends. Really, I am the priority.

As far as I understand, he came back to you. Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? And how long did it take for him to come back?

Posted by Alex1234
Thanks.

He didn't show because his passport expired and he realised a few days before flying over.

I really don't want to call. Will he or simply move on if he does not hear from me?

If you don't want to, then don't.

I'm guessing that's instinct, which is correct 9.99 times out of 10.

If he moves on, then let him-- not renewing a passport is a lame-ass excuse.

That should have the first thing he did.

True. I guess love is blind.

Besides I made his life hell for 3 months after he did not come I can't blame him for leaving.

Just thought he would call after cooling off but as he mentioned many times, he does not let things bother him and moves on easily.

That should have *been the first thing he did. 😉

I love him no doubt but I fear rejection if I call him.

I've done enough bad things and I guess he does not call because he does not want to.

Posted by Alex1234
You're oh so right and family and friends told me the same thing.

I just expected so much from this relationship. I truly believe we're a great match. So I booked a holiday, got in touch with friends and old friends. Really, I am the priority.

As far as I understand, he came back to you. Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? And how long did it take for him to come back?

almost 2 years!! it was slightly different in that we were in a band together and so had regular contact but he had history with his ex and we had none. in the end, like i said, it was meant to be and so it happened....even though he's now my ex LOL!!! we were together for over 20 years and had two beautiful kids together and for that reason alone, it was meant to be.

I assume you're right. But you kept seeing each other as you were in the same band. The situation is slightly different for us.

It's been now 10 days and it feels like 2 months.

Anyhow, I should call but don't feel like doing so. Don't want to appear desperate and if he already moved on, I will look ridiculous.

i do know that in the two intervening years i didn't initiate contact with him. he was still confused over his ex and she was a nice girl who clearly loved him although they had issues. i was very young and just acted on instinct. i remember writing angst ridden letters (pre-internet lol) and ripping them up before sending them. he had absolutely no idea how hurt i was and how much i missed him. when he came back...it was like starting all over again. the final push was when i went back to my native country which is israel...he was at the airport when i returned to london proclaiming his love and his determination that nothing would take me away from him again.

20 years down the line the fucker cheated on me and everything turned to shit. you have to be careful what you wish for in life!

btw...my ex is aries sun/leo rising.

jynja's right you know....honesty is the best policy and your instincts are more often than not completely right. go with your gut feeling with this man...the answer to your situation can't be found externally.

Funny enough I am Jewish too and just spent months in Israel. He did stay in London so it was a long distance relationship!!

My instincts tell me he did not forget me yet but don t know if he still loves me. No clue.

Plus, I have hope which is worse if he never comes back!

He said he was stupid to love me and I apologised at length for what I've done.

I don't think he wants to hear from me anyway.

I ran after him like crazy, apologised like never and still he wanted space to see "if he misses me". Ten days have passed and no news. I assume he doesn't miss me.

And I have to move on.

I really did everything I could. Apologised.

Then he said maybe we should meet but I should not expect too much as he is busy and may not have time.

I was tired of running after him, so I told him that he was right abou the break up, apologised for my behaviour, and had to move on. That was our last exchange. I also had to save my dignity and how him I m not a puppet.

Do you think this is why he did not call or he simply moved on?

Thanks for your analysis. We had arguments in the past, sometimes he called despite my words, sometimes I did.

This time is different.

As a leo, will he call anyway if he misses me?

Posted by Alex1234
My instincts tell me he did not forget me yet but don t know if he still loves me. No clue.

Plus, I have hope which is worse if he never comes back!

@Alex-

Your options are 1.) to be without him not knowing where you stand because you're too proud and stubborn to call him, lest you lose face--

And 2.) Call him and find out where you stand, possibly working the whole thing out.

Worst case scenario? He thinks you're nuts and you live without him.

Which is exactly where you are now.

I still think you need to examine why your reaction was so volatile-- sounds like it wasn't the first time he let you down.

Seems to me that if you really, really wanted to be with him and your reaction was unwarranted, you'd be on your second serving of that 'humble pie' someone mentioned.

Because losing face would be the least of your concerns. 😉

I guess you may be right but I did hurt him a lot and don't want him to suffer anymore.

I am truly ashamed of the way I did act and maybe he will happier without me.

11 days without any news, he for sure moved on by now.

I did contact my Leo man.

He answered saying it was good to hear from me, how i ve been, how is it to be home.

He also asked me why I did contact him today after so many days. I answered honestly that I care and miss him.

Is it a good sign—

Posted by Alex1234
I did contact my Leo man.

He answered saying it was good to hear from me, how i ve been, how is it to be home.

He also asked me why I did contact him today after so many days. I answered honestly that I care and miss him.

Is it a good sign—

Aww.

Idk... how did it end? The conversation.

He still did not answer my email about i miss him and think about it.

He answered because he knew it was me.

Is there hope?

My Leo man said he forgave me but can't forget. Is it irreversible?

I called my leo man and said it was good to hear from but said he needs space. How long does a leo man need? Do they come back?