Leo Pullback

I'm a Libra and met a Leo guy. We talked for several days over text. Went out, talked for hours. Kissed and it was electric. A couple days later, we hung out made out again but it got much more intense. I told him I wanted to wait for sex. He said he really liked me and was fine waiting. A day or so later, we're making out again, this time with our clothes off. He presses for sex, I tell him I want to wait, he says nothing will change, but I hold my ground. Says he's willing to wait b/c he likes me. The texts get really explicit and he wants me to spend the night. I cave 4 days later and go over there. He tells me again that nothing will change between us if we have sex or if it does, it will be for the better. We have sex. He tells me during sex he is trying to make me fall in love with him and that he might be falling in love with me. We have sex for hours and he gets off like 7 times and tells me he had no idea the sex would be so amazing. Go to bfast in the am and was supposed to spend the day with him but when we get back to his place he had obviously pulled back so I told him I would go. He told me how beautiful I was, kissed me and I left. He asked me to text him when I got home, so I did. He replied, then radio silence. We texted light banter a couple of times over the next week. I had coyly said that I should come over to do something sexy and he said he hoped it would be soon. I didn't respond b/c I felt like he had used me for sex. A couple days later I got a text from him asking where I had gone to and was he (the sex) that bad. I replied that I had just been busy. We exchanged a few more texts and that was it. I'm not sure what to do here. Part of me feels like he's not into me at all, another part of me feels like maybe I wasn't attentive enough, and another part is totally confused. I like him and am very attracted to him but I can't tell if he's not chasing me because he's not into me or if it's because I didn't start texting him like crazy after we had sex. I'm not the kind of girl who falls in love just cause I have sex and I have plenty of other guys who want to date me. In fact, when I met him I had a date every night that week but I cancelled bcs I really liked him. Any advice?

Let him be for the time being don't think about it too much. Go date your other guys and keep busy. If he's really into you he will continue pursuing you. If it was just for the sex then he will probably stop communication. This would be a good time to check that by just leaving him be for now.

He might have used you but you also might be getting ahead of yourself. I have Libra gfs and I have a Libra moon and I know from experience we can over think things a bit.

Trust me Leo men usually don't play mind games IME. So if he's into you he will be obvious about it. Just give it a couple weeks. If you notice that his communication with you has slacked and he isn't asking you out anymore I'd throw this one back in the ocean he was just using you for sex. But if he continues communication like before then you're all good.

Just try not to over think things. You didn't do anything wrong, you didn't over do or under do anything. You did what you thought best and that is MORE than good enough. If he likes you cool. If not, there are definitely plenty of other fishes in the sea 😉.

Thanks xtina, that really helps! I def over think things, lol. I will do my best to just let it go and see other guys.

Seraph, that was some truly funny stuff!! I wasn't at all trying to make him mine through sex. I know that doesn't work, trust me. I forgot another thing he told me before we actually had sex. I told him that it would change things and he said, if this was a one and done, I wouldn't have worked so hard to get you and spent so much time with you. I caved because he was so convincing. I caved because he said all the right things. I caved because I like having sex. I hate the fact that a guy loses respect for a women when he gets what he's been begging a pressuring for. It's kind of a messed up game. It sounds like I just need to chalk this up to experience and move on. Thanks for the advice and the laugh 🙂

I totally agree. He wasn't the best I've ever had anyway, good, but not the best 😉

Like the other poster mentioned, I tend to over think things and I actually have a genuine interest in what makes people tick. So why would he send me the text asking where I had gone and if the sex was that bad? Did he just need an ego boost?

Ah, well I guess he didn't get what he wanted then

Thanks JustALeo. I pretty much already knew what kind of guy he was but it was good to hear it confirmed by others.

Are you trying to get a Libra girl?

On a side note, why won't the pic I uploaded show on my post? Will it show if I post a new thread? Thx 🙂

Well, if she's anything like me, I need my alone time and if the guy who's interested is pushing me, being too needy, or doesn't seem confident enough, I won't be interested. But in true Libra form, if he also doesn't pay attention to me at all, I'm not interested. There's a really fine balance with Libras and I'm sure each of us is different. How is your Libra hard to get?

Haha! I've heard Leos can be a bit lazy..I guess it's true then

I'm a huge procrastinator as well. I work best under pressure. If I have time to work on something, I will wait until the last possible moment and then bang it out perfectly.

This may just be me, but I hate long distance stuff. I know they say Libras are more intellectual and less physical, but I MUST have the guy I'm seeing physically nearby. Like I won't even date someone who lives more than an hour away. Maybe that's part of the problem?

Leos aren't lazy, it's because they "know" their charisma and charm will surely draw their interest in... no need to work for it too hard in their book 😉

At least for the men.

Posted by JustALeo
Ya that's probably what it is but here I am thinking maybe I can win her over with my charms first and keep her interested but cant do that when she wont give me the time of day lol. She thinks im in great shape though so I'm easy on the eyes lol

Bwahaha!!! I just skimmed and must have passed over this one. But I said the exact same thing! HA! I swear I know Leo men too well.

xtina...I think the problem is charisma and charm only get a man so far. If there's nothing underneath that mask, a Libra (and probably other signs) won't stay interested for long. I believe that there may be something deeper to Leos but have no idea how to get to it.

Not saying it works all the time. Reason being why I haven't been with a Leo for a long time.

It's hard to say really because though I do feel like I know Leos pretty well there is something hidden in them but they do hide it pretty well under all that bravado. I see it. It's usually some insecurity or other. It's not hard to see what it is, but getting them to open up about it is a whole other ball park.

To me I always ask myself "Is it worth digging out and working to get him to open up?" The answer is always no IMO

Leos have so much pride I think it would be very hard to get them to open up. I just let them be. My last leo bf and currently my best friend has a sag moon and even he has hidden away some deep secrets. I have an idea what they are, but when it comes to opening up I would think one would have to do a lot of fawning over them to get them to open up, and I feel like this would take at the least a year if not several years to get them to admit to that hidden part of themselves. But I've hardly every tried so what do I know 🙂

Haha, that's exactly the way I feel...way too much work for little reward 😉

So I'm a Libra with Aries rising, so we're probably similar in some ways. What sign do you find you go best with?

Yeah him and I had a lot of issues. I think due to my Virgo rising and Pisces Venus... meh /:

@confusedlibra... whats your moon, venus, merc, and mars?

Mine:
Moon Libra
Venus Pisces
Merc Aries
Mars Gem

Haha thats hard to say for me. I'm always attracted to Sags but I don't feel like I can ever trust them. Leos annoy me in a good way and I feel like I could fully trust them. But I'm currently dating a Cancer with a Taurus moon. I think it helps that he has a Leo merc. It's tough to say with this relationship but I find the squared aspect of our relationship makes me learn a lot about myself and what I'm capable of. And it might just be my Venus in Pisces talking but I feel that I like the Cancer men a lot so far.

Bwahaha! Check out the Cancer forum and I probably look like a groupie nut 😄. You have to be very patient though and not pushy with them because they move at a slow pace. But their love is pretty amazing. Their romantics at heart and they very sweet and sentimental. Which I don't find anything wrong with sentimentality because I am very sentimental. Cardinal signs have a lot more in common than you would think.

Cancers are known to be pushovers but my Cancer has a Taurus moon I don't find him a push over at all on the contrary he is very stubborn and can be an asshole sometimes.

Overall, I find that relationships that aren't technically "meant to be" can teach you a lot about yourself and help you grow. and that includes other aspects in the natal chart. Once dated a Leo with a Cancer moon. LONGEST relationship in my life thus far (six years!!!). So it all depends on your chart and honestly I never let the compatibility of a sign determine my interest or relationship. Who knows I might date a Libra man next 😉 (Oh god).

Moon Virgo
Venus Scor
Merc Libra
Mars Scor

I was married to a Sag for 11 years and I know what you mean. He never cheated, to my knowledge, but I always felt like he wasn't always honest. I really like Leos personality wise, but from a relationship standpoint, so far, I find them boring.

I've only dated one Cancer and he was a little too intense for me. Funny since I can be pretty intense as well. I'm very sentimental as well 🙂 My rebound relationship was with a Capricorn. We couldn't be more different BUT it taught me so much about myself, my needs and what I didn't want. So I totally agree that the not "meant to be relationships" are def worthwhile.

I've never not dated someone due to their sign. I was just wondering who you've had the most luck with. This whole dating thing kind of sucks lol!

You know what my bff is a Libra with a Virgo moon lol and she is currently seeing a Virgo. They have had a really rough journey but she is heads over heels with this guy. It could work considering your venus, mars, and rising. Aries and Virgs naturally attract one another. Plus, Virgo and Libras are neighboring signs, which has a lot of similarities and enough differences. Hey maybe give it a shot if you ever come across one. You never know 🙂

JustALeo...this will probably just make you try harder, but I'm thinking Leos and Libras are not a good combo. Obviously as xtina said, it has more to do with your individual chart but one of my favorite astrology books is called Darkside Zodiac. Is the negative aspects of our signs. I think the most telling statement in the book about Leo/Libra is the incompatibility rating which says "They (Libras) expect unconditional adoration; so do you (Leo)"

Thats surprising that the Cancer didn't work for you considering your venus and mars

Interesting, I've only dated one Virgo and we had a hard time of it but I was totally in love with him.

I think the problem with the Cancer guy was he was a virgin when I met him and he got super clingy. I like togetherness but I also need my space lol.

Posted by confusedlibra78


I was married to a Sag for 11 years and I know what you mean. He never cheated, to my knowledge, but I always felt like he wasn't always honest. I really like Leos personality wise, but from a relationship standpoint, so far, I find them boring.

HAHA I totally agree! Sags are fun but there is just something about them that is not completely trustworthy... men that is. I love the women to death.

And Cappy men are so hot IME. Have never been able to date one, I don't think they like my forward bluntness haha 🙂.

As for the men for me that I've had most luck with mainly earth or fire. A lot of Leos, a lot of Sags.

Maybe you should try Scorps? with your scorp dominant it seems likely.. plus another neighboring sign 🙂

Oh Yikes! A virgin... no wonder. Cancers can be a little clingy sometimes, but I think it also depends on their moon and how secure they feel in the relationship. I think once they feel secure they are pretty lax and not so clingy. Sounds like either a Virgo or a Scorpio might be your best bet. Though I've never been with a Scorp. I've heard both sides of the coin, that they're great and amazing and that they're overrated and a snoozefest. Bwahaha!

Caps are HOT!!! And in bed they are AMAZING! That cool exterior they have goes out the window in bed. The two Caps I've had relationships with wanted long term with me but honestly, they can be really, really boring...outside of the bedroom 😉 My rebound's ex was an Aries and they were together for a long, long time. However, in the end she was very bossy and used him for his money. I think she was too direct for him too.

I may try a Scorp. Maybe I should just date someone and not find out what their sign is. I wonder sometimes if I'm projecting to much onto them haha!

Hahaha Yes! I know I tried that but I swear wanting to know their sign is like an itch you got to scratch, once you acknowledge it (guess their sign), it's all over you have to find out what it is.. hahaha at least for me 🙂

Posted by confusedlibra78
honestly, they can be really, really boring...outside of the bedroom 😉 My rebound's ex was an Aries and they were together for a long, long time. However, in the end she was very bossy and used him for his money. I think she was too direct for him too.

I may try a Scorp. Maybe I should just date someone and not find out what their sign is. I wonder sometimes if I'm projecting to much onto them haha!

Hahaha thats what I was afraid of, Caps are kind of notorious for being boring...

Oh man I can be bossy. My Leo ex told me so... that coupled with my Virgo rising. He said he would get so annoyed because not only would I boss him around but I would tell him exactly how things are suppose to be done -_-. Lol!

I feel like I project to but sometimes... man you guess their sign and it's right on target (sometimes I get their sun and moon right!) and its hard to think you're projecting. But I would definitely try that just date and don't ask for birthdays and then kind of go from there lol.

Posted by xtina
Hahaha Yes! I know I tried that but I swear wanting to know their sign is like an itch you got to scratch, once you acknowledge it (guess their sign), it's all over you have to find out what it is.. hahaha at least for me 🙂

OMG, this is soooo me! With the Leo I dated before the one I posted about, I did the whole sneak a peek at his driver's license when he got carded for drinks. Haha!! I hope I was subtle about it. With my Cap, I pretended to be interested in his license picture. We're terrible hahaha 🙂

Hahaha thats what I was afraid of, Caps are kind of notorious for being boring...

Yep. He could sometimes be a ton of fun but that was only when he had been drinking and his inhibitions were gone. Aside from that snore fest lol 🙂