I'm married and a bold Leo is interested.

I'm a cusp Scorpio/Sagitarian with Sagitarius in Venus. So, this is why I think Leo men usually want me in a serious relationship. It's nothing new, but I was too much of a freedom loving girl to allow it to get too serious. I usually break it off before we fall madly in love with each other. But this time, I feel different. I met my Leo friend (born July 25, 2014) thru a dear friend who is his family member. So, I'm not sure of this is an older crush that I overlooked being he is 15 years younger than me, I would've never thought! But, just a month ago, he totally hit on me in front of my friend and her boyfriend. He knew I was avoiding him and we have this intuitive mind reading communication that is inexplicable. Finally, he told me he didn't care what his family member thinks and tried to kiss me. He knows I'm married with a kid and there are some issues I have had with my husband. They even met. He sends me messages minimally but when we end up the same environment, he definitely makes it clear he wants me. I already told him I care about him and like him. But, I wasn't sure what he wanted me to do. Do you think I should even spend some time alone and be honest with him? Because that's what I plan to do. I am extremely sexually, emotionally and spiritually attracted to This Leo.
I'm kind of scared to talk to him about wanting to be friends. I would rather haven husband cheat on me than cheat on him and I would like to remain friends without the sex because I don't want to hurt this sweet Leo.

I've been married 15 years. I've never cheated and I'm not planning on it. It's not what it seems. I really think there is something special with my Leo friend and I respect him to where I want him to fall in love with a great person. His heart was broken by someone else and I don't want to see him hurt anymore. I am always going to be honest with him. I just felt something I have never felt before with this Leo and I wasn't sure how to approach it. No offense to any Leo's out there but when they want someone they don't stop till they break something or anything. I am just going to be positive and hope we can overcome this.

Sorry his birthday is July 25th 1987

Posted by loveaddict2014
I'm a cusp Scorpio/Sagitarian with Sagitarius in Venus. So, this is why I think Leo men usually want me in a serious relationship. It's nothing new, but I was too much of a freedom loving girl to allow it to get too serious. I usually break it off before we fall madly in love with each other. But this time, I feel different. I met my Leo friend (born July 25, 2014) thru a dear friend who is his family member. So, I'm not sure of this is an older crush that I overlooked being he is 15 years younger than me, I would've never thought! But, just a month ago, he totally hit on me in front of my friend and her boyfriend. He knew I was avoiding him and we have this intuitive mind reading communication that is inexplicable. Finally, he told me he didn't care what his family member thinks and tried to kiss me. He knows I'm married with a kid and there are some issues I have had with my husband. They even met. He sends me messages minimally but when we end up the same environment, he definitely makes it clear he wants me. I already told him I care about him and like him. But, I wasn't sure what he wanted me to do. Do you think I should even spend some time alone and be honest with him? Because that's what I plan to do. I am extremely sexually, emotionally and spiritually attracted to This Leo.
I'm kind of scared to talk to him about wanting to be friends. I would rather haven husband cheat on me than cheat on him and I would like to remain friends without the sex because I don't want to hurt this sweet Leo.

First off, this post is prime candidate for the validation forum.
He knows you're married with a kid, and yet you admit that you have this overwhelming attraction to this person.
Not going to ask about the happiness of your marital state (probably not).
You've already planned to spend some alone time with this person.
Good luck to you. Titanic was just a movie...

Posted by loveaddict2014
I've been married 15 years. I've never cheated and I'm not planning on it. It's not what it seems. I really think there is something special with my Leo friend and I respect him to where I want him to fall in love with a great person. His heart was broken by someone else and I don't want to see him hurt anymore. I am always going to be honest with him. I just felt something I have never felt before with this Leo and I wasn't sure how to approach it. No offense to any Leo's out there but when they want someone they don't stop till they break something or anything. I am just going to be positive and hope we can overcome this.

Well, the obvious thing is to break contact.
Be plain about it if you value your marriage.
I don't think staying friends is going to work in this case, based on your initial post.

Thank you I'm new here and I wasn't sure what forum I belonged in. Spending time alone doesn't mean having sex. We are friends and hiking was what we planned on doing. I've known him for at least 18 years and have spend numerous times together with other people and places. Thanks for everything. Sayanara.

Posted by seraph
1. Your "friend" hasn't been born yet.

Hilarious!

To add another point: what you're obviously overlooking is his character. If he's willing to violate the integrity of a committed relationship coming in, he will not respect it "going out." Its clear he has no respect for boundaries and is only thinking of himself. Hell, he may not like your husband, but he should have the basic level of respect fir the fact the the man is your husband. He'd expect nothing less if he was in his shoes. Nothing good ever comes of situations like this. You're not likely to go happily sailing off in the sunset with your new man. The honeymoon will be short lived because its based on fleeting passion. As soon as reality sets in, he'll be on his way with you left behind to pick up the pieces...those leave being broken relationships with your husband, child, and your friends. I'd advise no contact. But if you insist on "being friends" at least tell him, that there is no chance with him and enforce that boundary. But since he doesn't respect the marriage anyway, telling him "no" will only embolden him...hence no contact.

nice, I appreciate those last two postings. I see him thru my friend often enough and I would rather not say his relationship to her. But, I wanted to provide a closure and set the boundaries. I don't see this going far. Yes, a lot to do with age difference.

Posted by seraph
1. Your "friend" hasn't been born yet.

2. You're married.

Posted by loveaddict2014

I would rather haven husband cheat on me than cheat on him.

This is like leaving your car in the path of an oncoming train for the insurance payout. Except you intend to do this with a person rather than an object.

If you're in an unhappy marriage, at least work with your husband honestly and openly, with respect to either staying married (faithfully) or obtaining a divorce so the both of you are free. Don't pollute what you already have with dishonesty and divided loyalties. And you also have a child, so you're responsible for how your psychosexual flights of fancy affect him/her.

Your entire post gives the clear impression that you lack the emotional maturity for committed, adult relationships. Which is fine . . . they aren't for everyone. But at least be clear on either commitment or non-attachment, instead of working both sides of the street, which will only result in people getting hurt (likely including your child.)

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AMEN !

The fucking fact that this guy tried to kiss you with the full knowledge that you are married with a baby is DISGUSTING.

You really need to get your shit together, and think of your husband, child, family, friends and self-fucking-respect.

As others have said, you need to cut all contact with this guy and inform your husband that this punk tried to kiss you.

Personally, I would rearrange his face with my fist if I were your husband.

Posted by seraph
1. Your "friend" hasn't been born yet.

2. You're married.

Posted by loveaddict2014

I would rather haven husband cheat on me than cheat on him.

This is like leaving your car in the path of an oncoming train for the insurance payout. Except you intend to do this with a person rather than an object.

If you're in an unhappy marriage, at least work with your husband honestly and openly, with respect to either staying married (faithfully) or obtaining a divorce so the both of you are free. Don't pollute what you already have with dishonesty and divided loyalties. And you also have a child, so you're responsible for how your psychosexual flights of fancy affect him/her.

Your entire post gives the clear impression that you lack the emotional maturity for committed, adult relationships. Which is fine . . . they aren't for everyone. But at least be clear on either commitment or non-attachment, instead of working both sides of the street, which will only result in people getting hurt (likely including your child.)

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+100

Best advice. You can't have your cake and eat it too without ruining something.

Posted by loveaddict2014
nice, I appreciate those last two postings. I see him thru my friend often enough and I would rather not say his relationship to her. But, I wanted to provide a closure and set the boundaries. I don't see this going far. Yes, a lot to do with age difference.

You're welcome _??_ Be honest with yourself about what is really truly going on and resolve the situation for your family

She's a Scorpio/Sagg, but mostly Sagg...they are so called free spirits, so she'll f $ &/ him just like most, (not all sagg women) do..she's went as far as allowing him to kiss her and they both know she's married.Oh yeah, it's about to go down! If it haven't already happened. She's already said that. I think it's pretty freakin foul that you would even go that far. What were you thinking when you asked that question here? You couldn't thought we would condone this....IJS