I currently go to undergrad with a Leo woman and we met in an English class. She doesn't talk too much to anyone in class and is always on her cell phone and laptop. Before she was nice to me and treated me a little different then her other friends. She would be nicer and more polite to me (maybe because I treated her really nice?). I ask her through chat, if she wanted to hang out together. And said i would like to know you better (since its difficult to talk to her in class.) Keep in mind, I didn't mean to ask her out on a date, but I wanted to become closer. She says sorry, I can't I have to study which I understand. I respond saying whenever you are free we should definitely hangout. (She takes awhile to respond). She responds by saying me you and a friend should hangout since we are always so stressed. I respond by saying,Yea exactly. I hope you don't take me wanting to hang out the wrong way, but I just want to know you better is all. She says,she wasn't sure of my intentions and that it made her uncomfortable". And you can tell it was awkward as she responded very slowly and with short responses. She also said, that "wanting to know you better" is ambiguous. So next time i see her, she ignores me and responds with very short responses. What did I do wrong? Is this going to cause a strain in our friendship because I think she's a really nice girl.
kevinjim207... regardless of your intentions she told you you made her feel uncomfortable and her actions and words shows she's not very interested in any kind of relationship. I'd respect her wishes and leave her alone. No one likes anyone, whether friendship or lover potential, to push their way into someones lives...
it's as simple as this sometimes people already have the friends they are comfortable with and aren't interested in making new friends, plus it should happen naturally (so no means no)... especially if that person seems desperate about it... sorry but you do seem a little desperate /: ...
Why be friends with someone who obviously doesn't want to be friends with you anyway? And does it really matter why they don't? The fact of the matter is they don't...
I've been on the Leo girls end and if you keep pushing it gets to a point where you become annoying.
Just being honest and trying to save you a lot of time and trouble (and hurt!).
if you made it uncomfortable the only thing to do is to give it time...try again later and this time be mysterious or aloof...we don't like a guy who tries to hard...you have to make us think about you or want you and by doing that you have to not respond right away or call us constantly....but dont do this for too long
2 weeks ago I gave a Leo woman a little plush from a movie she liked since she was down and upset. I told her that if she needed anything i would be there for her.She was then a bit more receptive to me and showed that she cared a bit more (when compared to other guys as mentioned earlier she usually responds with only one word and doesn't really try to get to know people). I was going through a lot that week with the loss of my grandfather and she texted me a sweet text saying that she's there for me and to let her know if she needs anything. So on valentines day, as I pass her I ask her what her valentines day plans are and she says "I wish I had one" tto me. (Maybe I'm looking too much into that?). So then later on that day, I get to talk to her 1 on 1. At first its awkward since she doesn't talk, but as we talked she opened up a bit and I got to know her.
On the following Monday, she talks to me about her weekend and elaborates until I start talking to my male friend. She then also asks questions about my weekend and how they gym was (something she almost never does with people). Tuesday and Wednesday are the same as Monday. At the end of Wednesday, as we walk with our friends, a friend asks me why I'm single. I say something along the lines that I'm so busy studying to be a physical therapist. Shes not really in the conversation and says "same with me.". (maybe I'm looking too much into it, but this may have effected her mood on Thursday)
So on Thursday, she's a bit distant to me and when I talk to her she responds with one word only. So at the end of the day, I talkj to one of my female classmates who fell (I told her since she was injured that if she needs anything I'm here for her) as I'm talking to my classmate she leaves immediately without saying bye. I obviously follow and catch up with her. I ask her if she wants a a ride to her dorm and she says no. (I'm not sure if me assisting my classmate had her upset, me mentioning that I had no time for a relationship, or just her getting a bad grade got her upset that day.).
Later that day, that whole conversation (that occured on thursday) mentiones onn the other thread occurs and she becomes uncomfortable with me. I talk to her about it today and she mentions that she wasn't sure of my intentions to which I clarify and she later mentions about being lead on by guys ( which seemed sort of out of the blue and I actually don't respond to it...was this a sign—?). She mentioned to me that s
Later that day, that whole conversation (that occured on thursday) mentiones onn the other thread occurs and she becomes uncomfortable with me. I talk to her about it today and she mentions that she wasn't sure of my intentions to which I clarify and she later mentions about being lead on by guys ( which seemed sort of out of the blue and I actually don't respond to it...was this a sign—?). She mentioned to me that she's uncomfortable hanging out with a guy 1 on 1.
I then talk to her online later today, and ask her why she's uncomfortable with me. She says that its because I was too touchy with her (I was patting her back and leg) and that I asked her questions unnaturally when weung out on valentines day. I understand why she would feel uncomfortable, but why does she start feeling uncomfortable after we had the discussion last thursday. She said she started feeling awkward ever since valentines day but i never sensed it. She acted normally on Monday Tuesday and Wednesday but really acted distant on Friday after the conversation on Thursday. I also asked her if she felt I led her on but she said she felt awkward because what was mentioned earlier, too touchy, and questions. What should I think of this? Does she like me or is she really not interested? I don't understand why she's distant with me, the reason she told me doesn't make sense since she tallked to me normally before our conversation. She showed no uncomfortableness until after that conversation. It was mentioned to me that Leo woman are very prideful, so maybe me clarifying with her about my intentions (that I wanted to hang out as friends) hurt her pride since she may have had feelings for me. I should have been more direct but given the circumstances it is very difficult to be direct without her being uncomfortable which apparently happened. What should I do? This Leo woman is special to me.
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I ask her through chat, if she wanted to hang out together. And said i would like to know you better (since its difficult to talk to her in class.)
Keep in mind, I didn't mean to ask her out on a date, but I wanted to become closer.
She says sorry, I can't I have to study which I understand.
I respond saying whenever you are free we should definitely hangout. (She takes awhile to respond). She responds by saying me you and a friend should hangout since we are always so stressed. I respond by saying,Yea exactly. I hope you don't take me wanting to hang out the wrong way, but I just want to know you better is all.
She says,she wasn't sure of my intentions and that it made her uncomfortable". And you can tell it was awkward as she responded very slowly and with short responses.
She also said, that "wanting to know you better" is ambiguous.
So next time i see her, she ignores me and responds with very short responses. What did I do wrong? Is this going to cause a strain in our friendship because I think she's a really nice girl.