Misunderstood?

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SpiceNSugar
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Fellow Leos, have you been feeling terribly misunderstood lately? Unwittingly setting friends and family off in angry fits of rage where they slam the proverbial door in your face?

I'm trying to figure out if this is a transit thing? A Leo thing? A them thing? Or a me thing?

Thanks for sharing some of your recent relevant experiences. I could use some feedback right now.
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Oh yea OP- all the time.

Welcome to my life!

I don't need to be fully understood at all times- people are people

I could say one thing- and a group of 5 people could all individually interpret that sentence totally different.

Something i reflect on during those times is my personal intent.

If the person is upset, and i said the statement/question whatever- in a way that didn't come from a place malice- Why should i care how they feel?

I'm not going to treat you like your apart of the Sweatpants Mafia, Breaking down each word, every syllable, until we come to a place where you now feel content with what i've just said.

Those are your feelings- your interpretation- take personal responsibility for it.

If there wasn't any harm- just tell em to calm the f down.
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Posted by leowww
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Yeah, I don't know guys... I'm feeling like I need to watch everything I say.
I feel this way but only with strangers, people who don't know me well enough & have already judged me in their minds.

I can't be bothered unless it's someone I care about otherwise eh not gonna keep justifying myself especially if the person doesn't matter to me.

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Yes. But what about when the people DO matter?

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Posted by leowww
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Yeah, I don't know guys... I'm feeling like I need to watch everything I say.
I feel this way but only with strangers, people who don't know me well enough & have already judged me in their minds.

I can't be bothered unless it's someone I care about otherwise eh not gonna keep justifying myself especially if the person doesn't matter to me.


Yes. But what about when the people DO matter?

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just take a deep breath when you feel yourself getting worked up and never say things in the heat of the moment. That is something i have learned the hard way.
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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Posted by leowww
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Yeah, I don't know guys... I'm feeling like I need to watch everything I say.
I feel this way but only with strangers, people who don't know me well enough & have already judged me in their minds.

I can't be bothered unless it's someone I care about otherwise eh not gonna keep justifying myself especially if the person doesn't matter to me.


Yes. But what about when the people DO matter?

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Refer back to Seraphs post- You can't control peoples feelings, you can't control how people are going to react to your words or actions.

Be yourself- If you intended no harm- and these people care about YOU, they will figure it out- and come around.