My Leo is angry and won't speak to me please help

A long story short, I met and fell madly in love with a Leo man. He fought me for a long time, as he was in what I am assuming a few relationships (doesn't look like a ladies man, but he is, it's his charisma). We became very close and have been seeing each other for a year, he told me he loved me and had fought me for so long. He was in love with me, wanted to change his life style , told me he never felt this way about a woman in his life, but was worried he would screw up his life again, and worried he would screw it up with me. I could tell by the way he looked at me, as no man had ever looked at me the way he did, he was in love. We are in our 50's, but youthful, I did lie to him, told him I had nothing to do with my x husband, but I do. I'm sorry I ever lied. What I didn't lie about, was the way I loved this Leo, I have never loved anyone the way I love him. Please help, he no longer speaks to me, and I miss him. I can't figure out if he were playing me the whole year, or coincidentally two days before he dismissed me, he found out I still am on and off with my xhusband. I want to believe it wasn't because he coincidentally met someone else that same week, but he was truly in love and felt damaged when he realized I had lied. It gets so much worse, I tried several times to talk to him, he was cruel and mean and screamed at me each time. He even said, what the fxxk do you care, you're with your husband, etc...he said that twice. Maybe he needed that excuse to dismiss me, or maybe he is hurt. Then we were in his office, I was trying to talk to him, he was so mean again, he said, "we can't do this anymore" etc...he said I have to get the fxxk out of here, he stood up and I said "I miss you" he kissed me passionately, and I thought I broke him, that he couldn't resist because he missed me as well. NO, he proceeded to have sex with me, kissing me like he used to, but wouldn't tell me he loved me. I told him to tell me he loved me, he said NOPE, I'm not saying a word. When we were finished, I said, I knew you missed me. He said "really, NOPE I didn't" I laughed and said "ok, really, why would you have just done that if you didnt miss me" he said " because I'm a guy, and I could" I havent heard from him since, and he won't talk to me when I see him. I miss him, this is not the guy I loved, I don't know what to do, please tell me how to make it right. Please tell me why he did this, was this just him all along, or did I hurt a man who love

I'm sorry, I will try to fix it. Just in a bad way, can someone help me to understand what he's doing.

he is pissed that you are still on and off with your husband. Leo(especially the men) absolutely hate it when we cant have a girl to ourselves, we are possesive, im telling you, that is the quickest way to piss a leo guy off and lose him, its up there with messing with his pride. Im almost 100% positive he is angry because you still mess around with your ex husband. Him not talking to you is because he is still upset and his pride wont let him. He needs time to get over it.

A long story short, I met and fell madly in love with a Leo man. He fought me for a long time, as he was in what I am assuming a few relationships (doesn't look like a ladies man, but he is, it's his charisma).
We became very close and have been seeing each other for a year, he told me he loved me and had fought me for so long. He was in love with me, wanted to change his life style , told me he never felt this way about a woman in his life, but was worried he would screw up his life again, and worried he would screw it up with me.
I could tell by the way he looked at me, as no man had ever looked at me the way he did, he was in love. We are in our 50's, but youthful, I did lie to him, told him I had nothing to do with my x husband, but I do. I'm sorry I ever lied. What I didn't lie about, was the way I loved this Leo, I have never loved anyone the way I love him.
Please help, he no longer speaks to me, and I miss him. I can't figure out if he were playing me the whole year, or coincidentally two days before he dismissed me, he found out I still am on and off with my xhusband. I want to believe it wasn't because he coincidentally met someone else that same week, but he was truly in love and felt damaged when he realized I had lied.
It gets so much worse, I tried several times to talk to him, he was cruel and mean and screamed at me each time. He even said, what the fxxk do you care, you're with your husband, etc...he said that twice. Maybe he needed that excuse to dismiss me, or maybe he is hurt.
Then we were in his office, I was trying to talk to him, he was so mean again, he said, "we can't do this anymore" etc...he said I have to get the fxxk out of here, he stood up and I said "I miss you" he kissed me passionately, and I thought I broke him, that he couldn't resist because he missed me as well. NO, he proceeded to have sex with me, kissing me like he used to, but wouldn't tell me he loved me. I told him to tell me he loved me, he said NOPE, I'm not saying a word.
When we were finished, I said, I knew you missed me. He said "really, NOPE I didn't" I laughed and said "ok, really, why would you have just done that if you didnt miss me" he said " because I'm a guy, and I could"
I havent heard from him since, and he won't talk to me when I see him. I miss him, this is not the guy I loved, I don't know what to do, please tell me how to make it right. Please tell me why he did this, was this just him all along, or did I hurt a man who really love

Thank you AL...Is there anyway I can fix this. I love him so much. I would have given up everything to be with him. I just didn't realize it until now. Please talk to me, I'm heartsick and I need him back. Funny thing is....he became my best friend, and I miss that too. Tell me how to make it right with him.

I'm sorry I'm new to the site. Didn't realize my post was too long and too annoying for people to read. I've tried to fix it, hope it is better. I'd really appreciate some more feedback, as I am completely anxiety ridden over this situation. I have to find a way to make it better with my Leo.

he's just upset rightnow and pretty heartbroken himself. show him some sign of loyalty but most important, figure out this thing with your ex husband. you cant be screwing around with him and claiming to love this leo. you will have to do things to reassure the leo that you truly love him, beyond that there isnt anymore you can do except let him get over being upset.

i can't believe you're even asking about this at your age. how can you possibly believe you can be "on and off" with your ex husband and keep it secret without losing the leo's respect when he found out.

you should let go of one man before you get involved with another. it's not rocket science.

As a leo woman, the one thing that will make me walk away and stay gone is lying. Once you break my trust its almost impossible to get it back. I will go through the motions like I trust you, but my mind will question every move you make. That's not a healthy place to be.

I will still miss you, and will probably tell you (just as he did) but it won't change my mind regarding trust.

i agree with leostrong... once our trust is broken..... its never the same....ever

Posted by AL4813
i agree with leostrong... once our trust is broken..... its never the same....ever

Exactly. I am pretty quick to forgive people. But I NEVER EVER forget. It will completely alter how I look at someone as well. In this situation I would end up thinking everything and the entire relationship was a lie. Even if it wasn't, I would assume so. To me 1 lie is the same as 100.

Yes at my age, I do get that you can't have two men, I get I was so wrong, but the Leo was based on a friendship turned love,

and yes at first he knew what had happened between my x husband and I (my x is a serial cheater, I stayed utterly faithful for close to 30 years, but grew tired of the disrespect and the kids were finally grown)......

I don't know what caused me to tell my Leo the x was no longer around, I guess I wanted to see if the Leo and I would ever take it to another level, but selfishly couldn't let go of my x in case Leo didn't work out........very immature and very underhanded, and I regret it terribly. I'm trying to make it right, If Leo will give me a chance, my x will never be in the picture again, I mean that.

Seraph.....no I didn't find the sex thing hot, I thought it was both of us missing each other and making up.....Now I feel degraded, I feel horrible that my Leo stooped to such level to as they say, get me back for obviously lying to him. Hot for a guy maybe, but for me a total act of love at that moment.....and R1.......I know I should have never let my x come around after Leo and I feel in love. I'm admitting how horrible I have behaved, I know I'm a lying POS right now, but I want to be forgiven and make this better..........
someone tell me there is hope...............

I find you to be so disgustingly self centered. Ewwww.

" I'm admitting how horrible I have behaved, I know I'm a lying POS right now, but I want to be forgiven and make this better."

You don't want to make IT better, you want it make it better for YOU. You don't give a shit how you've hurt the man, you are so wrapped up in getting back what YOU lost. YOU YOU YOU.

You want hope? Stop thinking about you and think how to make amends to the man who cheated on. Put him and his hurt FIRST. Which probably means to leave him the hell alone.

Posted by jayceesmyth
If Leo will give me a chance, my x will never be in the picture again, I mean that.

That statement is what caused the situation in the first place. IF leo will give you a chance, THEN your x will be gone...if you want any chance you'll have to make changes of your own free will. No strings. Just letting go (it's not easy) but by being able to say you realized what you did wrong and fixed it without even knowing if this leo will come back, you will help yourself and your leo (hopefully).

Complete side note, your ex is still hurting you and taking from your life. If you continue to allow him around, you will never have what your really deserve. You should realize you deserve TRUE love and someone who will love you. He's an "ex" for a reason...move on, no matter how hard it is.

Come on guys....this man is not hurt. You know when someone truly hurts us. It's a wrap. There will be no talking, no nothing let alone sex.

She said he found some else coincidentally. He wanted an out. The ex husband was the perfect out. I'm not saying he did not love her at one point but I think he wanted to move on.

If we are all in, an ex husband is really nothing in fact some Leos might find the challenge exciting.

Yes, she was wrong but this extreme anger he seems to be exhibiting is a bit of an overkill IMO.

It's a cover.

Posted by Nala13
Come on guys....this man is not hurt. You know when someone truly hurts us. It's a wrap. There will be no talking, no nothing let alone sex.

She said he found some else coincidentally. He wanted an out. The ex husband was the perfect out. I'm not saying he did not love her at one point but I think he wanted to move on.

If we are all in, an ex husband is really nothing in fact some Leos might find the challenge exciting.

Yes, she was wrong but this extreme anger he seems to be exhibiting is a bit of an overkill IMO.

It's a cover.

Valid point! I definitely wouldn't sleep with someone I don't trust but I was thinking maybe men were different. (?)

Yes I do think you shouldn't of told him that your ex husband was out of the picture when he really wasn't but I don't think you should beat yourself up about it day and night either. You knew you were wrong and you apologized and I definitely do believe that you're truly sorry. But you also have to realize that there's consequences to your actions. You can't just be dishonest and hurt someone like that and think that everything is gonna be alright just because you said sorry. It's gonna take time. I do think that he obviously still cares about you or he wouldn't be in your life at all. So you might still have a chance here. So I agree with AL, you just have to give him some time to get over it. You may have to do a lot of ego boosting to get him back.

But most of all, don't lie anymore. He may forgive you now, but next time, he may not. And I don't like how he had sex with you on his desk like that and degraded you. He knew what he was doing. I really don't think you should have sex with him anymore until you guys can work things out. And if it doesn't work out, then maybe it just wasn't meant to be. Good luck hun. 🙂

I appreciate all the feedback......Nala you have such a valid point.....I was teetering on whether or not the anger he is displaying was over the top....yes, be angry......but it's like you say....overkill.....wow.....I've know this man for a year....more than a year...and maybe he needed the xhusband excuse because he didn't know how to move on.....maybe this is just him......maybe he goes from one to the next......and needs to degrade and humiliate each one.....so they never come back....who knows....

I was married to my husband for eight years before I realized he had more women then I have panties.......and I'm at Victoria Secret every week........And thirty years later......It still boggles me that I had no clue whatsoever back then.....

maybe the Leo just wasn't that into me anymore.....maybe he was going to ditch me anyway......just strange how it all happened two days after the xhusband thing came about....two days before it.....the Leo was so in love......I don't get it.....it's so overkill..it's such a personal vendetta.....hatred.......it's scary......he's flipped the script like nobody's business.......ouch!!!!

I never even thought to ask.... Are Leo's players, or when they love do they truly love— I am only

asking because I have to question the amount of relationships(way too many) and marriages (3) he has been in. Maybe I thought I hurt him, but maybe like Nala said, he needed an excuse to get out of it,

and I so willingly provided it....

maybe as I suspect......because of his over the top anger.......he met someone else and wanted me out of the way with out any lingering......as they say....no drama no tears no sad

goodbyes....Just thinking to all of you.....as I am new to this site and wondering if maybe I was the

one who was being played.......now wouldn't that be a twist..........

He'll get over it.

Give him time. If he can't get over it, then it may as well. Meaning, he didn't care enough for you.

I will agree for infidelity is a big issue for Leo. However, I have also experienced if he wants to make it work with you, you will get second chances. Just stop pushing him.

Bite off your time and you will find out.

Leos are not players, jayceesmith. There is always the exception but his 'anger' is a sign in itself that you hurt him.

I don't wish to point my finger at you, by questioning why on earth you would hook up with your cheating ex husband again. I mean, even if you were not with this Leo man... why putting yourself in this f*cking man's arms again?

There can be overlaps in new relationships. Where people just continue same old habit for sake of who knows what, like old habits, not wanting to rock the boat... or they may not be aware how important the new person is to them until big moment of confrontation comes, etc.

You cannot make assumptions that he used you to get on with someone else. A Leo is just too direct and right in your face. He either will tell it straight out or he will reserve his silence if he does not want to hurt you, but he WILL let you know either way.

Things said in anger should not be lingered on.

Again, just calm down, honey.

Leo's are all or nothing. You either get complete love and devotion or nothing.

It doesn't mean we won't casually date people. That would fall under the "nothing". But if we commit to a relationship we are very loyal and expect the same in return.

Thank you for your feedback.......all or nothing scares me Leostrong, does that mean, he will never forgive me?......I'm just so sad that he seems like he hates me and he is so angry.......and to be honest, if he needed to break it off, I would have been sad, but would have loved to have had him in my life as a dear friend, because we so enjoyed each others company....boy did we laugh.......I will miss him....I just hope someday he will miss me too..

Posted by jayceesmyth
Thank you for your feedback.......all or nothing scares me Leostrong, does that mean, he will never forgive me?......I'm just so sad that he seems like he hates me and he is so angry.......and to be honest, if he needed to break it off, I would have been sad, but would have loved to have had him in my life as a dear friend, because we so enjoyed each others company....boy did we laugh.......I will miss him....I just hope someday he will miss me too..

It's hard to say if he will forgive or not. I forgiven a lot of shit in my life and relationships. Somethings ended up ok, others would have been better off if I would've just let go. I don't know if its a leo thing, but I'm never indecisive. Once I've made up my mind I'm content with my decision. Sometimes it takes me a while to decide though.

I'm a firm believer that whatever is meant to be will be. Just focus on being the best "you" and only time will tell. I know that's a complete cliche but its the truth. And good luck! 🙂

Thank you Leostrong.....I will be the best me......and that will include never deceiving anyone again...believe or not.....I never had until now......I guess being so unsure of myself and the Leo..led me to be someone I am not......I pray he forgives me.....his friendship meant the world to me....I will now give him space...although I only tried to contact him once......no response....ouch........but if he did love me.....he may decide I'm worth giving a second chance.......

Seraph.......I take it you think hes using his anger as an excuse to break it off....Why the conflict? Why the act? We are adults....it's easy to just say....this isn't for me....I've moved on...why the stupidity.......If he wanted out, he should have just said it....and to end it with humiliation to add to the injury......why would anyone want someone to end up hating them in the long run, do it like a man....and have someone's respect......I'm confused.....handling conflict is one thing, but to flip the script is a bit more cruel than just walking away....
p.s. I should linger in atonement.....regardless of what he is doing......I wronged him.....no matter what his reason (either being hurt or using bs excuse to get out)....I know in my heart.....I was wrong

Posted by jayceesmyth
Seraph.......I take it you think hes using his anger as an excuse to break it off....Why the conflict? Why the act? W

If I were him and I wanted out. I would probably treat you the way he is treating you. I mean you still won't go away. So imagine if he tried to be honest or even caring he would never break free.

Stop worrying about if he will forgive you, will he come back.....What you need to do is focus on you and take some self esteem classes...anytime a man talks to you the way he is talking to you and you still want to make excuses for his behavior talking about "I was wrong" you need to have your head examined...and yes I did not use punctuation on purpose for an added effect.

If I am 50 and acting like you...someone please take me out back and put me down. Preferably another Leo since it would be easier to take.

WoW Nala........If you were 50 and acting like me.....someone take you out back and put you down....

Wow...pretty harsh.....I didn't say I even text him at all....sent 1 email in four weeks....I'm internally upset......and asking for advice.....but trust me.......no one but people on this site know how I feel about lying to him or how sad I am I caused this rift......

I guess since this is the first time in 50 years I've deceived someone I care for.....I'm struggling with it.......doesn't mean I should be put down like an animal....

I was just looking for the kindness of strangers to help me right the wrong......I felt I did, said it already....it's not what he did that's eating me half as much as what I did...because its not me to behave that way........

Guess there are stranger's who lack kindness and believe people who are struggling with hurt should be put down like a dying dog..........hope you never struggle internally the way I am.....because there will be someone out there who kicks you when your down like you just did me.....

Thanks again for your kindness Nala..........

The one thing I truly despise is when someone says I said something I clearly did not say.

So now Im done with this thread.

I see now... where I meant he is 'hurt', I can see it is more his pride.

If a woman keeps going back to ex, it means she does not care for the guy she is with. Her emotions are more deeply rooted with the ex.

You may as well get used to the idea that Leo will not further invest his feelings in you.

Even if he comes back, you need to make sure he doesn't just come back because 'he is a man'.


The term 'LOVE' can be misunderstood in so many ways.

Dear Jaycee, this will give you the opportunity to re-think if you are truly in love with him. Sometimes we just WANT something.

Thank you Fum........I like what you had to say.......I'm beginning to believe I did not hurt him, but I wounded his astounding pride.......He came to me yesterday.....his words were jumbled.....

at one moment it seemed as if he missed me terribly and wanted it to be like it was......but then he told me......I never was in-love with you......I'm not in love with you........ouch!!! Then the dreaded topic of my ex came up......almost as if he couldn't wait to throw the dig.....

I didn't know what to say.....I told him I wished things were different......and how I missed him.....he kissed me.......then backed off.....but he looked at me......the way he used to.......like no man has ever.....

so I hope he only said he never was in-love with me because I wounded his pride.....not because it's true.....I don't know if I'll ever hear from him again......But I guess he was who I wanted, not necessarily who I loved.........so thank you for your kind words.......