No eye contact from Leo?

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tiki33
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Stop obsessing and over analyzing, you are making this worse for yourself. Go find something to do, take a weekend off, go on a trip, get a plan together to take care of yourself, you can't depend on him to be there for you anymore, it's over for him in his mind so analyzing will do you no good.

When is the lease up? Have you considered moving into your own place?

You truly need a break. Leo men are not that complicated and when you sit in a loveless relationship he won't love you if he see you don't love yourself enough not to allow yourself to be in a neglectful situation, he'll begin to lose attraction and stop loving you.

LOVE YOURSELF and if you love yourself what would you do to SHOW HIM how much you love yourself at a time like this? It's not about him, it's about you and your ability to stay in a loveless relationship and endure this kind of sad relationship, most men would be turned off.

Don't put up with it because as long as you sit there in this neglectful situation and REWARD him by being Ms. True Blue even when he's clearly no longer into you, he'll continue to carry on the way he is.

If you love him let him go and if he's yours he'll come back to you, he won't let you out of his site for too long but right now it's about YOU, take better care of yourself. A man can't love you if you're not loving yourself and right now you don't have your own back, you are so focused on him that he's no longer on focused on you, he's just focused on himself.

The focus must come off of him before he can start to think about you again.
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Posted by Mistery
How does this post come after: QUOTE: "So I am not sure if I have cornered him by asking So you want to meet different women and have sex with them. He said Yes and I told you that in the beginning before we got into the relationship."

What about this is confusing you?



Gee that clears up everything. Thanks Mistery

If he said he wants to sleep with other women BEFORE you both got into a relationship well there's your answer. I'm not sure why you took him on after he revealed that but it explains his current behavior perfectly.
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I mean what he told me is that he really liked me in the beginning but he wasnt ready to be in a relationship, as he just got out of one but he was very attracted to me and i was with him.

He mentioned only like in two weeks into our involvment that he said he wanted to meet other people. The sex part wasnt mentioned only until the recent conversation.

We have both talked about people who sleep around probably um 6 months ago or something and he had the same way of thinking but now its like he has done a 360.

If that is what he wants to do, i cant stop him. I just know I have morals and prefer not to have that mindset. I am who i am.

I love him alot and he told me recently he loves me too. But according to him he says We dont work and he doesnt want to make it work?? Its ashame because we have something really good going and if we can iron out or remove the blocks, we would be just close to perfect.
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tiki33
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Not to pick apart what you say but LISTEN to YOURSELF. Listen to what he is and has said to you and you'll know what to do for yourself.

He said "he really liked me in the beginning but he wasnt ready to be in a relationship, as he just got out of one."

He said "according to him he says We dont work and he doesnt want to make it work?? "

Now what does that SAY to YOU? No really, I'm not trying to be mean or funny or pull you away from your relationship, I want you to have what you want but the reality is, you can't have it with him, he's done, he never really was truly sure about you, liking you doesn't mean FOREVER, living with you doesn't mean FOREVER. Maybe there was a part of him that needed/wanted to try it out with you because maybe you made it REALLY SIMPLE AND EASY to be with you, maybe you made life so easy b/c you were so nice and sweet and giving that it was really hard for him to break away/break it off with you.

I'm not telling you to give up, I can't tell you what to do, you're an adult but deep down those blocks are there because he DOESN'T WANT to work it out. He mean it when he said I doesn't want to make it work, he isn't interested in being with you long term. He's done.

If I were you, I would be looking for a new place, attempting to get on with my life, there is no way I would sit there too long attempting to convince a man to want me. Most of us have been in a situation similar to yours, convincing a man doesn't work, he'll rebel and continue to devalue your worth. I hope you find the inner strength and inner peace you need to ACCEPT his choice, no you may not like it but accepting it gives you YOUR POWER BACK which gives you the inner strength to move on.

Maybe he'll change his mind some day but today his mind is made up and if you've done everything you can to salvage the relationship only to be met with the SAME ENERGY and same blocks well it's time that you ACCEPT he's over with the relationship and from what you've told us here he NEVER SEEMED all that into you from the start, being attracted to you physically doesn't really count long term.

If you're honest with yourself you know it's true, just because he took you on because no other woman was around didn't mean he'd be with you forever.
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tiki33
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I believe you OVER INVESTED yourself in this man/relationship, you either didn't listen to what he was saying and/or didn't care about what he was saying to you before the relationship took off or you didn't understand what he was saying and thus over invested your time, energy, heart, mind, soul and you're paying for it, you are paying the price for not listening/understanding and now you have to WAKE UP, plant your feet in reality and start listening, start understanding and start taking good care of yourself and if moving on is part of taking good care of yourself then you have to be an adult woman and do it. This man/failing relationship is forcing you to stop the little girl thinking by checking out on yourself and preferring the fantasy of the relationship working over the reality of your relationship not working and grow up.
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Wow, this was me a few years back, hanging onto a man that clearly had told me he wasnt ready for a commitment of any sort...no matter how hard I tried. My God, the hard work I put in and for what? a man who seriously wasnt in that place....it had nothing to do with how I looked, what I did for a living, where I lived, how much or little money was involved, he simply had nothing to offer but he wanted the sex LOL.

Take it from Tiki, just look after yourself and enjoy being yourself. you dont need to do ANYTHING to entice him or for you to work him out....just go elsewhere, preferrably where its easier 🙂

Men, not only Leos, but all men mean what they say. He probably isnt giving you eye contact because he doesnt want to see the disappointment or have another talk.