buying thing for leos

So as I bought bf a christmas gift he didn't have enough oney for mine long story short when he was working and had a lot of money he boughtg me a lot now that I a working he keeps asking me why am I getting him this and that......now I want to know is how do leos feel about. Someone gettimg them stuf all the time ad also is it true that leos are super insecure

From what I have seen out of my friend and what I do know about Leos (very little) is that they like to be the center of their world and in control of that world. They have no problem keeping score to make sure they are in the lead. My advice is not to overdo it. Pride plays a HUGE part. Let him always be ahead as to who is giving to whom. It's not about material items either, although they love to give them. Doing nice things for them and WITH them is more of what I think they look for. I actually helped dig a trench and put in an 80ft french drain system with my friend at his folks house after Irene - basement flooded. It's more of a matter of being there. Also, if it was fully up to them, they would probably rather you stay home and let them fully take care of you. And if he had his own business, he would rather you work for him. Whether Leo or not, men need to receive trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement before anything else for us women to get what we need.

awesome , i got it i am also aqua, and i get him anything he might mention even tho he dont ask for it , i ll get it .....as far as having to be in control i am just not getting that... i notice that they love ...but dont like smothered..witch is confusing because they want the attention but any how.....and i notice they love to talk about things they like so i just sit and ask even more question bout it even tho i dont give a crap...

LMAO. I don't give a crap on half the things my friend talks about either (control of conversation)... just pay attention, take a few mental notes for later, give him his acceptance, approval, and encouragement. I notice that most conversations do revolve around him (control of topic). But please, don't keep buying every little thing (form of smothering). Need to keep special days still special. Also, I've found if a Leo, well my leo, wants something, he will just go out and buy it himself if he really really wants it. Mine always say that he has everything he needs, if he wants something he buys it, but theres nothing greater than a gift from the heart in the form of help, etc. If he mentions something a few times before a special day but doesn't have time to go out looking for it, by all means pick it up if it's not too expensive. Save expensive for a higher level in the relationship. Go with the non material gifts and make them an every day habit. He'll give you the world for it along with what you need emotionally, mentally, etc and it'll make it seem like he's in control. Focus on positive attention.

I'm not very fond of being at the recieving end when it comes to gifts and presents... especially not from women. That sounds terrible,lol. Don't get me wrong, I really appreciate the gesture, but the traditionlist in me finds it a litle awkward. I know it doesen't sound very progressive but I'm kind of old-fashioned about certain things... 😉

I do however love getting gifts for other people, girlfriends and such, especially when I know what to get them. I pick up things during the year and I actually keep a little list...

Posted by enfant_terrible
I'm not very fond of being at the recieving end when it comes to gifts and presents... especially not from women. That sounds terrible,lol. Don't get me wrong, I really appreciate the gesture, but the traditionlist in me finds it a litle awkward. I know it doesen't sound very progressive but I'm kind of old-fashioned about certain things... 😉

I do however love getting gifts for other people, girlfriends and such, especially when I know what to get them. I pick up things during the year and I actually keep a little list...

Actually, thats how I think it should be... I would rather do than buy for you guys unless it's a special day or holiday - ok, and an occsional surprise maybe. Actions mean so much more.

I must say, for paying that much attention AND keeping notes AND not doing last minute shopping, you are mature beyond your age in this category.

Posted by DominOo
smking is unattractive. black nasty lungs is gross.

anyways..jusy dont get him smokes

...and that has what to do with the price of tea in China? Maybe he smokes too. Preaching is such a turn off.

Posted by AquaQuinn
I must say, for paying that much attention AND keeping notes AND not doing last minute shopping, you are mature beyond your age in this category.

Yeah I get that a lot. Despite what people may think of me on the boards... 😉

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Posted by AquaQuinn
I must say, for paying that much attention AND keeping notes AND not doing last minute shopping, you are mature beyond your age in this category.

Yeah I get that a lot. Despite what people may think of me on the boards... 😉

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It takes too much energy to care what other people think... I did that most of my life. Always tried to be "perfect"... well, I'm not and proud of it. Being yourself and being honest is all that matters. I'm sure I've been called a "b*tch" more than once and I've only been here for what? a day?

well he mentioned that he wanted these shoes ... few times so i went and got it for him... and then he also said he cant wait to get this game and i got it for him... as far as cooking my bf says he really dont care about cooking as long as its food it could be from any where hehehehe lol ..... but great advice from all you

on this part my leo says he never was the type to buy flowers and little things like that .. i dont know what leo i got lol he was born august 15

Let me get this straight. He doesn't have a job so he can't buy you a friggin' Christmas gift yet he points his fingers at what he expects you to buy for him - and you do?! Please tell me I got this all wrong because that is not a loving Leo, that is a loser.

I remember some of your previous posts from long ago about your relationshp with this Leo, and I'm sorry to break it to you but he just doesen't seem to care about you that much. A Leo who cares will spend his last money on you and he will buy you flowers... we are very material in our ways of expresisng love, for better or worse. And you Leo seems a little off the chart to be honest.

I wonder, how does he show you appreciation? :-/

He doesn't show her appreciation...He mistreats her and this is just another way he's mistreating her and using her. Sad but it's apparently what GaGa wants for herself.

GAGA..When will you ever learn!

Posted by enfant_terrible
I'm not very fond of being at the recieving end when it comes to gifts and presents... especially not from women. That sounds terrible,lol. Don't get me wrong, I really appreciate the gesture, but the traditionlist in me finds it a litle awkward. I know it doesen't sound very progressive but I'm kind of old-fashioned about certain things... 😉

I do however love getting gifts for other people, girlfriends and such, especially when I know what to get them. I pick up things during the year and I actually keep a little list...

+1 - almost exactly what I was gonna type...

NO CORRECTION HE HAD A JOB HE HAS ONE NOW THAT HE JUST STARTED AND DIDNT GET PAID ON TILL AFTER CHRISTMAS ..SO I WAS NOT WORRIED SO I M NOT MAKING HIM SEEM LIKE A BAD GUY.... HE NEVER ASKED FOR ANYTHING....I GOT IT FOR HIM HE ASKED WHY DID I GET IT NOT WHY I DIDNT GET IT ...

Sorry, my bad....

GaGa that is an excuse and you know it. He could have made you a card, borrowed money to get you a gift or asked you not to get him anything and agree on another day to exchange gifts. He's never asking for anything, he just ALLUDES to it by mentioning what he wants, he says I like something and you are JUMPING THROUGH HOOPS trying to win his love and affection by giving it to him. He know he doesn't have to come straight out and ask for anything because you are sitting there wagging your tail waiting for a command. Please wake up and stop doing this to yourself.

I'm an Aqua too so I know the behavior all too well, your self esteem is horrible. You can't buy love to get/keep a man. Leo will burn an Aqua female out to the core, he will use you if you let him.

He wants attention, love, affection but if you don't respect yourself he will USE you. Stop disrespecting yourself around this guy, he wants a Queen not a doormat. Unless he's asking you directly to buy him something DON'T buy him anything, he's not taking your behavior as something positive, you are being a doormat and he will walk all over you, throw his head up like he's the King and you are nothing, a peasant.

Tiki33, i read your post and ur awesome, very on point in ur comments about leo's...however, GAGA unfortunetly, in my opinion needs something more deeper then what any of us can offer! I get the whole somewhat low self esteem, b/c im sure at one point or another everyone has been there!... But GAGA's seem to be in a Deep denial withthis guy..now granted ( we only read her posts) so there's three sides to a story ..but i just think that anyone who is not getting a considerable amount of respect in a realtionship should not be in it! Hopefully, she'll find her self worth and be able to walk out of this situation with a lesson learned.

Posted by tiki33
He wants attention, love, affection but if you don't respect yourself he will USE you.

Leos don't crave attention or affection from a doormat, keep in mind that dishonesty and false flattery is punished harder in the Leo kingdom than open disapproval. We only value praise and attention from people we respect. Apart from that you're spot on.

I did not say they crave attention from doormats. I said "He wants attention, love, affection but if you don't respect yourself he will USE you." And that's exactly what he's doing, using her, alluding, mentioning what he wants and she's jumping through hoops to get it and that's not how a leo or any man for that matter behaves when he has respect for a woman and love for a woman but a man who is taking advantage of a woman will behave the way he's behaving. Maybe his intentions aren't malevolent, I don't know really but she's clearly allowing herself to be ran over like a doormat.

Posted by bibiana
Tiki33, i read your post and ur awesome, very on point in ur comments about leo's...however, GAGA unfortunetly, in my opinion needs something more deeper then what any of us can offer! I get the whole somewhat low self esteem, b/c im sure at one point or another everyone has been there!... But GAGA's seem to be in a Deep denial withthis guy..now granted ( we only read her posts) so there's three sides to a story ..but i just think that anyone who is not getting a considerable amount of respect in a realtionship should not be in it! Hopefully, she'll find her self worth and be able to walk out of this situation with a lesson learned.

+1

i read this 6 times, true he could have borrowed money when i did get him the gift he said why did you do it ...because yyou know i won't have enough money to buy you something because i still got to get my daughter something to... as far as attention and waiting for command i thought they like for them to be #1

Effort. Don't you feel you are WORTH the effort? Did he even try to give back to you in some way?

It's not always about money if he can't afford to give back in some way financially, for example and it's just an example, it could be something simple like a great dinner he cooked especially for you, a poem written by him, a nice hand made card, a nice foot massage to show his appreciation and love for having someone like you in his life. You don't have to give to a man for him to feel he's #1, showing him appreciation and respect is enough.

Do yourself a huge favor, stop associating love with giving him stuff, the 2 are mutually exclusive from one another, put your money up and save it for something special YOU want for yourself or just save it for a rainy day and if he allude to wanting something please don't give him anything, he's not a child, he's a grown man that not only has to provide for himself but also has a daughter to provide for as well so he doesn't need you to treat him like he's a kid. It's beyond #1 with you, you are being a doormat.

If he truly cared about you he would not take from you, he'd take care of himself or go without and the mere fact that he is says he's taking advantage of you and you're contributing to this behavior by him being able to do that to you. There are deep emotional repercussions for how you're behaving with him.