ouch Leo dude thanks for bumming me out

ok before i start ranting,yes I know im sad, yes I know im going thru it so i may sound bitter or whatever and I get it and whatever.

But I'm really friggin bummed out right now,heart hurts and stuff.



I started a new relationship with a leo guy a month ago.Thats after a slow building courtship starting back in June.My leo guy kept freaking out from the get go ,when he first asked me out he got nervous and backed out for a week,but later ended up stepping up and getting it together.I maybe should have taken that as a sign of things to come,but maybe not I'm not sure.

So we finally started dating.He was super sweet to me,we really get along. He opened up to me about his childhood and life pretty quickly.He was outwardly affectionate with me even around all his super macho guy friends. we went on dates and talked for hours and hours and even just last week spent two days with one another in a row.i felt like things were really solid and great, he communicated well. head in the clouds happiness


but then he has this friend who is going thru some stuff right now, and i get it they've been friends forever and im new ,but basically whats happened in a weeks time (and i find myself in disbelief typing this but) in a week everything went from super solid to super crappy. his friend lives an hour away and basically is lonely right now bc his girlfriend left him with this house they bought together.so anyways i guess between being a rad friend to his buddy or something ,our relationship kinda like...i dont know turned.

im so confused.

we went from communicating,to i havent heard from him in a week because he has gone to stay w his friend.

one of our mutual friends saw him this weekend and he expressed he was anxious to get back home to see me,but that his friend was paying him to do housework .

uh why isnt he contacting me telling me he misses me?


but then another mutual friend was like to my dude ,"dont you think its sorta dicked you are just here and kinda bounced out on (my real name)?" and the dude said,"i dont want to talk about it."


WTF IS GOING ON?

did he just like get over me in a week?


should i tell him to f off?

how do things switch so quick like this?


majorly sad

any perspective would be really cool.

Give him his space. It may not be anything personal in regards to you. He's distracted and is going to fully support his friend. Don't go off on him. When he decides to rejoin you let him know that you felt abandoned and confused by his actions (or lack of communication). Express that you understand him needing to help is friend but in the process you also felt alienated.

Good luck.

Patience...Leos are very loyal to friends in need..

I agree with the prior posts, but I can understand lv519's frustration. When you like someone, and you are with them and everything is great, then they "fall off" or become distant, it hurts a little (lot) even if it's for valid reasons.

thank you guys for taking the time to respond,i really appreciate your perspective.


leos,is the disappearing act common for your kind?like i guess from what im reading it may not be really a mean spirited thing,but im trying to understand if it is a trait of the sign

Leo's are fiercly loyal (as are Taureans 🙂) so, they do take their friends and families issues and treat them as if they are their problems. The Leo I've been seeing has done this from time to time during the course of our "relationship" (I use the term loosely), but he's always come back after his "disappearing" acts. Now, since we've been getting closer over the past couple years, he will acknowledge his distant behavior; however, I also temper myself to him and I drop my temperature from 90 degrees to 55 degrees and just wait till he comes to me, as I DON'T chase after anybody, and he knows that too. I won't lie, sometimes, it's very frustrating, because I'm not like that, but I guess this is also what makes the world go round. Don't sit around pining. Do your own thing, and he will come back. One thing I can attest too is that he respects me a lot, and he has never lied to me about anything. I'm not saying all Leo's are the same, but I've read a lot of threads and they seem to like to give and receive the truth.

I'm a taurus as well ! I heard this is a tough but good combo for Leo.

*waves at cosmic twin* yeah, it's not always fun and easy, but it's all good! And I know that he trust me. We both have trust/commitment issues. He's very jealous, and he (doesn't say it, but implies) that he doesn't really like that I have a lot of male friends. He'll get over it! lol.

@lv519 - yeah, this combo is a blessing and a curse. There are very distinct similarities between the two signs, but some bigger differences in communication style s. Both signs aren't ones to just jump whole a $ $ into relationships without perusing every angle; however, Leo's do their hot/cold/disappearing thing - which is disconcerting and confusing to us Taurus peeps, cause when we are into you, we are INTO you. That doesn't mean we will forsake our friends, families and jobs for our relationship, but that person damn sure knows they are important to us, as we make no secret of it; however, the disappearing act doesn't bode well with Taureans as we take awhile to get close to someone so if they disappear on us it makes us anxious, but we are stubborn & prideful, so we don't want to show it! Arghhhhh! lol

Sounds like an odd Leo he may be bisexual or gay.

lol i do not think he is bi or gay believe me!

but today I do think he is a f'ing d**khead


he finally logged into myspace .i wrote him last week ,he didnt respond.

seriously in a week in a half how did he totally shut off.

wow..

I've only dated one Leo, so I'm not giving opinions based on his zodiac sign. But for a typical guy like this, I think you are giving him too much attention. I mean I understand he is caring for his friend atm, but a simple message won't take half of his day. I'm not sure whether he's backing out b/c what he saw his friend is going through after a breakup. But I think a mature guy doesn't back down that easily? I think you should ignore him for a while but not entirely shut him off (if you know what I mean), let him do whatever he wants, and you go have fun yourself, girl.

Like others were saying, you'll need to be patient. If I were you, I would stay calm and rethink about this situation whether he's really worth my time. I mean if he's not in a hurry, then I don't think you should be. You're a Taurus right? You should be good at playing it "slow." =)

I had issues once with a Leo I dated that were similar. He would do anything for his friends. Many times I felt left out due to this. So I ended things with him. It was a decision I regretted later as we were so perfectly matched in many ways. This Leo ended up killed in a car crash. Years later, I wish I would have just realized that he loved me but needed to be loyal to his friends.

Give him time, let him come to you. Perhaps he is just as confused about his feelings towards you. Do whatever you know is in your hearts best interests. Whether that be waiting for him or letting him go. Just don't end up regretting letting him go like I did.

Gneiss

oh my ,im so sorry to hear about your story.thank you for sharing it though, i cant even fathom how painful that must have been for you 😢


im going thru every emotion daily .sometimes right now i agree with you that he is confused , i think im the first girl he has ever really tried to date date(way to go buddy at the tender age of 31 ahahah). sometimes im like he is over me .sometimes im like he is just wrapped up in his friends situation (which is really crappy she left the guy with a house they bought together and a mortage etc).sometimes i think he is sad bc he is kinda on the broke side and that may make him feel bad.


i dont know. i dont want it to be over, but i also dont want to be that taurus cliche that holds on when they shouldnt.

Its hard when the heart is involved, but my advice:

Dump Him and move on, plenty more Great Leo's out there

:-)

So... Leos like to play the disappearing thing in general or it depends on other factors?

She's right Cancer. It will be hard (I know!) but just leave it be. He'll come to you. Now, the question is, if he waits too long will YOU still be there. Most men, in general, like a challenge and for Leo's it appears they also like their space, so you are dealing with both of these issues with him. By the way, I like my space too, and have been known to have my own disappearing acts too; not that I'm proud of that!

"mor...what are the factors?"

Like..confusion and doubt. It's hard for me to picture that people would disappear for their friends like in lv's case..probably because I'm an Aries and I value friendship differently.. ^_^ I mean I play the disappearing act(permanent) too but only on the people who I hate esp. those who betrayed/cheated on me. If I'll be gone/unavailable for a while, I will be sure to drop a note to whoever I was dating..

Oh..I know Leos value friendship a lot, so friends come before lovers for them?