respect

Is it wrong to like and care about someone who doesn't respect you? If you do does it mean you don't respect yourself?

"Is it wrong to like and care about someone who doesn't respect you? If you do does it mean you don't respect yourself?"

Not necessarily, heck, it may mean you respect yourself so much that another person's lack of respect for you is totally meaningless.🙂

Yeah! See, thats what I think too. But, I'm finding that people tend to look at it like you don't respect yourself, because if you like someone that doesn't respect you, that somehow translates to, you like being disrespected. This view can be damaging to a leos ego, as it was to mine, bringing out negative traits that will make the person you like disrespect you even more. At least thats what I think.

What exactly does letting them walk all over you mean?

Okay, so lets say you buy a girl a drink. She loves it! She continues to thank you for it for the rest of night. Next time everyone goes out, she ASKS if you're going to buy her one. This really happened, and I did buy it, and she was again pretty grateful, but not quite as much as before. The next time, it was a leading question: you're buying my drinks tonight right? I didn't really like the sound of that, but I still wanted to buy her one. I didn't. But where do you find that place where you can still do what you want for the person without making it look like they got it by walking all over you?

"But where do you find that place where you can still do what you want for the person without making it look like they got it by walking all over you?"

i don't know; maybe you should try asking an aquarius. lol

Yeah, I'm, not a guy like that. Lesson learned from that very incident. I had a comeback the third time: "I dunno, I keep buying them for you, but I'm not really getting anywhere." I don't know if it was the best choice, but it had the desired immediate effect.

Yeah, I know...

Argggg, why couldn't I have known that then... it's so depressing.

No she's a libra. I've been talking this to death for months. She's always stated that she's not interested, but there were a few times when I thought I might have had her coming around. Then of course I think I blew it due to my lack of experience in such matters. I'm not trying to put myself down either, I literally had no experience at all, and I think I made a lot of mistakes without really understanding what was going on. So the reason I'm discussing it is that I can figure it out and not make the same mistakes again.

i agree with the witty comment thing, the second time she asked you, you should have maded some flirty comment just to see if she would respond...you guys could have a back and forth type thing.... but who knows maybe she just liked the fact she was getting a free drink.

Yeah... could have been both, you know how they like to balance things... Honestly, like, I didn't like being asked if I was going to buy her one, but no joke, part of the reason I did it anyway was because I wanted to see and feel what would happen if I did. I mean, to be absolutely sure of yourself, which is what us Leos like to be, you need to be absolutely sure, and learn from actual experiences in order to be that way. So, now I have, and I'm that much more sure of myself as a result. Yay!

yep it's all about experiences and learning, knowing what to do and what not do to,

every experience we have makes us stronger and more confident in ourselves,

next time she asks for a drink just smile and say "what will i get in return" that might catch her attention....

yeah or something like that huh. I bet that would work!

really? i would never take that seriously, even if i really liked the guy i would just think it's funny and move on....imo it would be just harmless flirting....perhaps that's just me though.

My expectation is if a man is dating me, he is paying. It isn't an investment in sex, it is a show of respect and sincere intention.

Libra - you're buying my drinks tonight right?
Banini - depends on when we are going for coffee.

Up the anti. If she doesn't want to go on a date with you and says it flat out at that point ... just say then no. I am not buying your drinks. And walk away.

Trust me. She will think about it and have more respect for you. Anytime she asks you for a drink, ask her out. If she says no. just keeps saying then I am not buying you a drink.

Respect is the precurser to love and attraction. Don't be afraid to put it on the line with this girl.