Sag just being nice? Leo jealous..??

Bare with me, this is kinda long...

So things have been going good with the leo, but recently his sag roommate, also one of my good friends, has been talking to me a lot and inviting me out to go places with them (him and their group of friends).

He doesn't like the way the leo treats me because he expects him to offer me drinks/food and be affectionate with me. While I don't really care about the drinks/food bit I have addressed the affection thing with my leo and he's gotten better.

I don't know how I should take the sags behavior tho. It's almost like he's compensating for what he thinks the leo should be doing. I wanna say almost like a big brother, because he's not sexual about anything. But I'm typing out this post to see what everyone else thinks...

He offers me food, asked me if I wanted to go to the club with him and his and the leo's friends (leo couldn't go cus he's broke and the sag didn't even tell him about going to the club). He also invited me to go to a movie thing at their college (no clue if he invited the leo). He knows I stay the night in the leos room and while I'm in there he sends texts to me like "if you want I'm going to be up all night so you can watch me play a video game". (It's a really interesting video game that literally plays like a movie so we all like to watch him play it) I told the leo about the text, but haven't told him the sag doesn't like the way he treats me. The leo seemed almost jealous when I mention the sags texts and wondered why he would ask me to hang...i think it's kinda strange too, especially if I'm there to see the leo and he knows that.

Hmm...thoughts?

Posted by FireDragonScorpio
what don't you get about the sag's behaviour and why are you telling your leo parts of what is going on but retaining the important information? you're clearly being hit on - which is what i feel you want confirming - and you are clearly testing the response of your leo to the news that you're being hit on. so basically, you are poised to play one off against the other.

good luck with that.

It's strange to me because the sag knows I clearly like the leo and he sees me go to bed with him and knows I have sex with him.

Also the sag is generally just a nice guy to all girls. It's not anything different from what he normally does with girls. The only reason I feel like it's different is because he expressed his concerns to me. We sags are very friendly people so it's hard to tell when one of us likes someone.

Posted by FireDragonScorpio


and to be honest, guys who know you are in a relationship and play the part of being understanding about how you are taken for granted....blah, blah...are little more than shit on your shoe and clearly have no sense of decency at all!

word. it's so slimy and fake.

You don't get it? Really? Guys can be just as competitive with each other as women are.

What's the deal with him offering you food and drinks? Your Leo doesn't have much money to take you out so you're bored and starving?
If you allow this to continue and don't shoot down the Sag, the Leo will pick up on it and throw you out because by not shooting down the Sag, you're basically being disloyal and enjoying the attention from the Sag thereby about to jump the Sag's bones. Before you protest, why didn't you tell off the Sag? Oh, wait, he's a friend and you can't (knew it). No, you see, the guy you're dating is supposed to mean more than the friend and you should know his friend is overstepping his bounds with you and it's your responsibility to squelch it before it turns into world war 3.
Playing dumb will result in losing both your boyfriend and your friend.

Posted by FireDragonScorpio
what don't you get about the sag's behaviour and why are you telling your leo parts of what is going on but retaining the important information? you're clearly being hit on - which is what i feel you want confirming - and you are clearly testing the response of your leo to the news that you're being hit on. so basically, you are poised to play one off against the other.

good luck with that.

+1
Bottom line:That sag will treetrunk her eventually.

Posted by FireDragonScorpio
i have the pleasure of sitting next to a sag at work. doesn't strke me there's much subtle about his approach at all!! gives me the creeps actually but i humour him cos he's attractive.

i have seen this soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much on dxp. confusion caused by lack of communication. why don't you ask the guy what his motives are— hate to be obvious but you can dance around unknowns til you're blue in the face...ask the question and you will know immediately!

then you can decide if you want him to fuck you or not cos that's where it's leading and don't think otherwise cos irrespective of astrology, a man will get it where he can and will play any part possible to get what he wants. he's thinking with his dick and has no ounce of sincerity. perhaps he wants to prove to himself that what the leo can have, he can have as well. whatever. do not fool yourself he is in love with you somehow cos guys who haven't had you yet will just keep coming out with bullshit til they get what they want. it's not a bad thing or even personal. men just need to follow their sexual instincts...they can't help themselves...bless.

and to be honest, guys who know you are in a relationship and play the part of being understanding about how you are taken for granted....blah, blah...are little more than shit on your shoe and clearly have no sense of decency at all!

I have an update on the situation, but I'd like to address this comment first.

There is no where in the context of anything him and I talk about that leads me to believe he wants to get with me. And I do nothing to lead him on in that sense. He is kind yes, but he does not flirt with me.

I have been trying to set him up with my leo girl friend recently and I always emphasize this.
I've never thought he was in love with me. Him and I have been friends for 5 years now and he and I dated for a few months a while back. We ended it on mutual grounds because we didn't feel anything for each other. If there had been something there it would be awkward for me to come over to see the leo because him and the sag live together. But it's cool. So in the sense you think he hasn't "had me" yet...well he has and we both didn't feel like that worked out.
I don't doubt that he'd want to have sex with me. That's how guys are wired, and most of my guy friends do have that desir

Posted by Jonleo
You don't get it? Really? Guys can be just as competitive with each other as women are.

What's the deal with him offering you food and drinks? Your Leo doesn't have much money to take you out so you're bored and starving?
If you allow this to continue and don't shoot down the Sag, the Leo will pick up on it and throw you out because by not shooting down the Sag, you're basically being disloyal and enjoying the attention from the Sag thereby about to jump the Sag's bones. Before you protest, why didn't you tell off the Sag? Oh, wait, he's a friend and you can't (knew it). No, you see, the guy you're dating is supposed to mean more than the friend and you should know his friend is overstepping his bounds with you and it's your responsibility to squelch it before it turns into world war 3.
Playing dumb will result in losing both your boyfriend and your friend.

Shoot him down from what? From his kindness? There is zero flirting there. That's like dismissing a priest because I feel like his kindness is too forward.

As long as he's not obviously flirting there is no reason to "shoot him down". The one thing I do tho is tell him I'm going to introduce him to some of my girl friends.

Update:

I invited my leo to this event at our school and told him that the sag should come along with my leo suitemate if she doesn't have a date. He thought that would be great, so he has someone to talk to and not feel uncomfortable around people he doesn't know.

I also told him I'm trying to set the sag up with my leo suitemate...we'll see where that goes.

Just to clarify me and the leo are not official.

In the long run I think everything's going to be fine. After thinking about it I realize the sag has been this way since before he was single so I'm not going to worry about it a whole lot. Obviously I'm not going to rub this in the leo's face and just treat all of this like it's normal, cus really it is.

Thanks all for your opinions

Hi I want to add something on this.
First and foremost you have relationship with leo and you need to sort it out with him and get it on track.
You happy with kindness from someone else that compensates leos missing kindness is going to make things worst.
Now if this guy Sag is really a good friend why don't he make you guys sit together and help you reach a balanace.
Wasn't that a good option? Your leo is suffering too..right?
How much would you appreciate if one of your female friends is compensating leo for something that he is not getting
from you?Like not asking him to come out because he has no money but rather give him good company at home and be kind with him (with 0 flirting).
They say a girl knows it very well how a girl is deep down.Similarly a guy knows it very well how a guy is deep down.
Leo and Sag are both guys.And Leo being jealous is natural.
I am a guy too and if I sincerely want to be your big brother then I will try my best to get you on track with Leo.
But if I am being kind with you,offer to take you out just leo cant afford den surely I am crossing boundaries.Even though at this moment of time I might not give you any clue about my feelings for you but deep down I am just waiting for the time when you are over leo and come with me.And....and..when it comes to Sag..They are the players of Zodac.They don't miss any chance of being with a girl no matter who she is.

Best of luck.

Am sure Sag would have got his share.After all they opportunist.Never miss the chance lol