What is friendship to a Leo...

Posted by seraph
. Part of that involves shifting the power *away* from him and back to you, thereby letting *you* assume control.

Now Seraph, you just know she is going to need to know exactly how to do that 🙂 Spill, as a Leo man

Posted by Annoyed

Posted by seraph
continued . . .

Keeping him at bay in the beginning, making him work for his prize - that attitude will usually get you his respect, and that's exactly where you want him. Don't become just another female in his Pride. You need to be the Queen. Which means you have to give a Leo what he wants all the same, but not the way in which everyone else gives it to him.

That's a typical Leo. But there are no guarantees, especially when there are other aspects in his chart to consider. I just gave you the baseline here.

Mr. Does it all apply to the Leo female also?

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Hate to say it, but it kinda does 😉

Posted by callmegenesis
His birthday is July 24, I'm a Libra, October 4. He's mid 40's, I'm a little older.

Thanks Celtic....yes, Seraphe, would appreciate a little info on the "shift" back to me. I am a strong personalityr (not overpowering however, as a Libra, love being part of a partnership), own my own home, single, no kids....not bad looking, lots of self confidence and self esteem. He has sent me a few very sexy pictures of him, me..not going there.

I'm July 24 too. Just a note - DO NOT REPLY to ANY of his sexual text messages.

Posted by Annoyed
I had enough of male ego bashing from the Capricorn board.
OK, tell me how to win your Leo girl back? Nothing drastic went wrong with our relationship. I was feeling a bit neglected and in stead of asking her directly for more time and more sex ,I broke with her.Now I want her.

Oh Foop! You need to be direct, we treasure directness. Be direct now and see what happens. Broke with her, I hope her ego will forgive you, i'm predicting it will - just so she can get you back and do the dumping later on herself. Unless you two really had a great connection, in which case you will be bestowed with the queens forgivenesss, we forgive easily if we can understand where the misdemeanour came from. Good luck. What's your sign by the way.

Just read your story on the Cap board. Elle is a mad one isn't she 🙂 Sorry but you fucked up. Beautiful, generous, kind, loyal queen that you had, you made her an option to you, your option, when you weren't busy, expecting her to be free to devote all that attention she has to bestow on the lucky person that had her. She is her priority and she wasn't yours. You snubbed your queen.

Posted by Annoyed
I had enough of male ego bashing from the Capricorn board.

Lol! I read that. Its just that you're one of us and we know what our negatives are. They called it out. You're a tough skinned Cap - you can take it!

Good luck getting your girl back! Hope it works out for you.

Thanks Celtic....Annoyed, please go start your own post and don't hijack my post. Thanks!

One of my very best male friends is a male Leo. We dated, uhhmmmm, 25 years ago, but now we are nothing but close friends now. We went through a divorce at the same time and he has really helped me in explaining the male point of view and has offered some great advice. We can tell each other anything. I couldn't ask for a better friend. He is caring, attentive, generous and always up for a good laugh. There is nothing going on sexually, but if I offered it, bet ya he'd take it. lol!!!

Its funny that Seraph brought up the "female lion pride" because my exhusband has had one hold up after the other in our divorce and I was whining about why he just won't let me go and my Leo friend used just that same example. Too funny.

Hey, Genesis....

I like him much better as a friend than I ever did as a boyfriend.

I meant to add, he has been divorced almost a year and is still having a hard time with it. He sometimes still feels marriend, but I think that is becoming less and less.

Hang in there, but don't get so caught up you forget to live your own life. Don't miss other opportunities with different men because you are waiting for him. You might be waiting a long time.

Hope this helps from a female perspective.

OK, here's a thing if you really want her back. Firstly understand the good person that you had. Appreciate her kindness and generousity, her instinctive need to help her friends, don't take that away from her. Next, think how to make time for her in your busy schedule not in your nothing else to do schedule. So while you are working out and thinking about all of that here's a bit of a plan for you:

Stay away from her, do not bump into her by accident - for at least a few weeks, give it 4 if that's all you can handle, no contact no nothing.
Then contact her in a non-emotional way - just check in with her. If she replies then good but don't launch into a full scale conversation, keep it light and unemotional, do not bring up anything that happened as you will just remind her of what you did, proceed slowly over a term of a few weeks to see if you can sense she would like you to build up to going for a coffee or something, if you do this and can build up to a few more "dates" then bring out the romantic in you, you cappys do have it, but keep it slow, you need to show her she can trust you again - trust you to respect her life. Keep building slowly and show her respect, look for sex and you've lost it. Make sure to make time for her then DURING your busy schedule. In the time that you stay away from her you may lessen your own emotional involvement and you will see for sure whether you really want her back or not, so its a good break for you, because to be honest, if you love someone enough you wouldn't have broken with her in the first place.

Sorry Callmegenisis 😢

That was to annoyed, hope you're still around - no going off in a huff cause you didn't get the right attention 😉

Posted by callmegenesis
LOL, Celtic, no problem whatsoever.

True, thanks! There is no way I am putting my life on hold for this guy....I def have my own life and friends, and come and go as I please, waiting for no one. If he contacts me great, if he doesn't, then that is OK too.

You're such a dear 🙂 You're a classy one 😉

And 'Annoyed', once you dump a Leo female - she'll never allow herself to stoop down to your level again. You'll always seem weak and indecisive as well - which won't be comfortable for a Lioness, anyway.

Posted by KittyKnitter
I am a Leo female. The people I call friends are those I can trust to be honest, loyal, and confident in themselves. Not pushy, not a pushover, but open-minded and forthright, people I can trust to stand behind me, walk with me or stand up to me too and tell me when they see me doing something wrong for me. I have a strong personality and I like people who give off a confident energy, can laugh at themselves and help me not take myself too seriously. My women friends are like sisters and my guy friends are like brothers. there is something to be learned from all the people in my life.

I am dating someone I also call my friend. I like him as a person and would choose to be his friend no matter what. We have common values and we share a deep bond that is not based on where things may or not be going but on what is happening in our lives today. I demand a lot of my friends but I give a lot. Yes I guess I see my friends and family as my pack. I expect them to let me know when we have a problem and I expect them also to show the same loyalty and consideration they would expect from me. Respect is key. As for all of my relationships, I put into it what I want to get out of it and I tell people, they get what they give. Sure I am a giver but when I need someone if they are not consistent or turn out to be fake, I have no problem walking away. I look for quality in a person. Not perfection. Just someone who is aware of who they are, someone with a good heart and open mind. So much can be said for basic respect. If you don't have that, then no two people can be themselves and build a connection between them. I also think I look for someone who has softer and harder aspects than I do. Something that can challenge and make me look for balance so I am forced to grow. Sometimes the growing is uncomfortable but it's necessary. Mind you, I don't always appreciate life's lessons, lol.

+1

That's very well put!

Kitty, thanks for the wonderful post. In August of 2011, I ended a very bad relationship with a narcissistic Scorpio, 3 1/2 years. I am a very giving, loving person to those people truly *in* my life. Months of therapy, (I had never been to "therapy" in my life), lots of soul searching and lots of work on me to make me a better person, not only for my sake, but to have something to bring to the table for my next relationship. It's been a very long road with lots of sleepless nights,n but I am a better woman for it.

In January, on the same day, I got word that my ex was remarrying and my new Leo friend was divorcing. Coincidence? I think not. I had a very hard time processing these two difference pieces of information.,.,.and really...when one door closes, does another one open?.

The *friend* label gets used alot. There is a lot of gray area and I feel like we are more *dating* then friends. For instance, if we were *friends*, then I would be able to tell him about this cool guy I met yesterday that asked for my number. But I'm not sure how that info would go over with my Leo friend, so I will keep this info under wraps for now. That was the reason for my post. Nothing physically has happened between us, but lots of "sexual" texts back and forth...def lots of sexual tension. So are we *friends*? I would say we are, with a bit more on the line here.

I'm chillin' for the time being. He's trying to get his life on track but does take time for me every week.