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I'm a Libra Female with a Cancer Male.
We've been dating /living together for over a year now and we just cannot get enough of each other (at least i hope) ! I'm CRAZY about him.
We both know our differences & they can be a bit hard to handle but we try to look past that
The negatives are:
-> TRUST ISSUES- I cant go anywhere without him worrying
->We both also have HUGE jealously problems. And I'd hate to think thats what keeps us together
->We both like to avoid conflict, which isn't very good considering there are some unsolved problems. I know there are things he'd like to mention, myself as well.
->He cannot stand my "flirtatious/wild" side - so he says
->HIS MOODS DRIVE ME INSANE!!!!!!!!!!. I try to be optimistic and he's pessimistic
----->>&LAST
This may sound overly silly but i have to get it out if its bothering me: i just cannot stand how obsessed he is with his mom.
I expect him to respect and love his mother of course(i like her as well), but he talks about her sooo/tooo much.
[The both of them are cancers if that makes a difference]
ANYWAYS
He will randomly say something about his mom in the middle of our conversation that had nothing to do with anything.
TURN-OFF MANIA!

I can't even sleep with his blanket because his "mommy" gave it to him.
So many times I've heard:
"MY MOM gave me this and that, so don't touch or get rid of it
shes makes the best___
shes so good at_____"

Basically he thinks shes perfect
And he LOOVES to mention my flaws, and give little attention.
I spoil that fucker its not fair! I do whatever i can to make him happy, because if hes not happy I'm not happy.

He says he wants a future with me, thats hard for me to believe.I would constantly feel like 2nd in his heart, when he would be first in mine. I don't want that :/
I almost feel like the little problems will only expand, making this relationship a waste of time !

Advice, comments, help ?!!?!??

Well at least he has a good relationship with his mom. You ever see a cancer man that hates his mom, it controls their lives, literally everything they do and every partner they have.

It is going to be hard to bring it up to them because Cancer men are fixated on their mothers. I think the only thing you can do is be your diplomatic self. Tell him you admire their relationship but are concerned about cirtain aspects that have an effect on your relationship. Honestly at some point it is going to be obviouse that he wants you to be a mother figure to him, this drives a lot of girls crazy about cancer guys. You ever seen Back to the Future where the main character goes back to the fifties and his mom ends up having a crush on him...cancerian wet dream I tell you.