Catch & Release......... just curious

If you don't remember me, I posted wayyyy back in June about my Libra male friend who I professed fellings for, thanks to everyones wonderfull advice ( plus a month of no communication) We decided to just remain friends. My question is this, Why would he get jealous that I made plans to hang out with another mutual friend ( male & taken, strictly platonic) & why would he get angry that I said we weren't compatable anyway? Why is it that he flirts with me like crazy but then if I flirt back he gets almost defensive & reminds me that he's not ready for a relationship when I haven't uttered a word about one? Is it that he likes the thrill of the chase & once he thinks I'm interested again he does the release thing? I know these are alot of questions but this is the last one.....Is this typical behaviour for a Libra? Thanks in advance 🙂

I think it is typical for a man who is commitment phobic....sounds to me like he wishes he could give you what you want but can't/won't but doesnt want anybody else sniffing around either.....sounds familiar.

Go on with having fun with others 😛

***Is it that he likes the thrill of the chase & once he thinks I'm interested again he does the release thing?***

Yup... He isn't available emotionally, but likes that you like him and Librans luv to be admired liked. Just keep it light and as friends and keep on doing what you are. Who knows, maybe it will make him think about the fact that because he isn't ready for a relationship right now, doesn't mean that another man might be and snatch you up. It is good to keep him thinking that way. He will never get complacant (sp)

Thanks Chatz & QS, I definatly plan on continueing to do my own thing, I just don't think his behaviour is very "friendly" If he's saying things like... when I look at you I "feel" things, we never went on a "real" date & thats sad & I've tried to avoid feeling things & I've failed...... well to me, that's leading me to think he feels more & that is messing with me emotions. Also he wrote me & said "I still luv you my friend" OK, I would never dream of saying something like that to him, 1st I don't really feel Love for him at this point & 2nd he'd be running for the hills for sure 🙂 at any rate I'm starting to re-evaluate my friendship with him because of all the mind games! Thanks again

*** well to me, that's leading me to think he feels more & that is messing with me emotions. Also he wrote me & said "I still luv you my friend" OK, I would never dream of saying something like that to him.***

I will say it again: Librans love on sooooo many levels. They love and care deeply for friends, acquaintances, FWB's but it doesn't mean they want a relationship with you. Trust me on this. They will hold your hand and be there for you like no other friend (except maybe a scorp 🙂) they can love you without "being in love" with you. If they are in love with you, they are pretty direct about it and will let you know.

It sounds like he cares for you deeply and might even love you, just not on the level you want him to. Very common with Libras. This is how they are, no mind games intended.

Thats interesting, maybe I was mistaken but I thought Libras were generally pretty contimplative people hence the going back & forth with decision making, in order to make sure they're doing the right thing, this would lead me to think that they wouldn't throw the word love around, because to me thats a VERY strong word, I care about alot of people but do I love them? No. At any rate, I'm not going to keep beating the dead horse.....as I've read on this board, Libras know from the beginning if they want to date someone & are very honest about what they feel. I just wish he'd learn to be a little more carefull with the words he chooses to use, because as I understand they also hate drama but I think alot of the drama in there life is brought on by themselves, what with the showering people with love & then when getting a natural reaction to that wich they give, becoming closed off & defensive. It doesn't sound like a nice way to live? IMO

CanTaur, Let me give you an example; My ex-husband (taurus) who I hang out with sometimes, have lots of fun with, we flirt, drink and even dance. Not sure what he gets out of it but I love the attention, the compliments etc. I don't love him like I once did I do love him in a special way and really enjoy his company but its just fun and games I do draw the line most definitely. I also have a boyfriend (cancer) whom I love very much and will never do anything to hurt his feelings. I treat both men entirely different and care for them differently as well. I do agree, one should choose his/her words carefully.

***Thats interesting, maybe I was mistaken but I thought Libras were generally pretty contimplative people hence the going back & forth with decision making, in order to make sure they're doing the right thing***

They only do this when they aren't sure they are doing the right thing. When they are sure, they are totally different.

**this would lead me to think that they wouldn't throw the word love around, because to me thats a VERY strong word, I care about alot of people but do I love them?**


Love is a strong word and they do love on different levels. Seriously. I know, most of us are not capable of that. I know this is one of the things I love about librans in general.

*They only do this when they aren't sure they are doing the right thing. When they are sure, they are totally different.*

One of the major reasons why I have questions is because of exactly this, he is constantly making statements, like he's not sure if we would have things in common or be compatible. We are friends so I think that we have some commonalities as far as anything more than friends I guess the only way to find that out would be to spend more time together doing one on one things instead of group activities. If he's not ready for a relationship then thats fine but to continually question "US" & put those questions out there to me, is frustrating! Why is he doing that? wouldn't it make more sence to pose those questions to maybe another friend considering I have some feelings invested in the matter? It almost seems to me as if he's asking me to convince him that its ok to see what happens however I have some issue with doing that because then I feel as if I'd almost be trying to sell myself to him? I dunno this has been going on for sooo long ( I know about being patient with the Libra) but I'm really beginning to feel as though its all for nothing & kind of a game I dont wish to partake in any longer

libras like to fuck with your mind

I say nothing...no dont say it Chatz, dont say it!!!

CT, love isn't this hard... He clearly isn't ready. He might be just asking and maybe thinking about the possibility, but whatever the case, he never SAID he wanted to be in a RELATIONSHIP with you. So, save yourself the drama and don't entertain it unless he confesses it to you.

CT, love isn't this hard... He clearly isn't ready. He might be just asking and maybe thinking about the possibility, but whatever the case, he never SAID he wanted to be in a RELATIONSHIP with you. So, save yourself the drama and don't entertain it unless he confesses it to you.

CT, love isn't this hard... He clearly isn't ready. He might be just asking and maybe thinking about the possibility, but whatever the case, he never SAID he wanted to be in a RELATIONSHIP with you. So, save yourself the drama and don't entertain it unless he confesses it to you.

sorry my laptop is screwing up.

I thought you were truly just trying to make a point LOL

LOL @ Chatz & Thanx QS, I know it's not & he hasn't said anything, just annoyed I guess 🙂 but thanx for all of the advice I appreciate your time & everyone elses for that matter. Have a great night all! 🙂

ooooh but its not night here - its 1.00 in the afternoon!!!! Noooooooo you cannot go to sleep and leave me all alone....noooooooooooooo!!!!

LMAO....its Friday arvo here and its still Thursday night there - that's so freaky!!! Have a great weekend all 😛