Libras & self-consciousness

Does anyone have any ideas on how to boost a Libra guy's self-confidence? Mine is super confident about his abilities, at work, sports, etc., but a little down on himself in terms of his appearence. He's super hot and I wish he could see himself as I do, but was teased as a child though that was many years ago. I compliment him often (sincerely), and sexually he can't be confused about whether or not I am attracted to him. Any non-appearence compliments he definately soaks up but if it involves how hot he is typically he responds with "I'm alright" and makes negative comments about his body, hair, etc at other times. Not only can't I stand that he thinks negatively about himself but that I am not effectively changing his mind because he has an awesome ability to make me feel great all the time.

This is not typical..just seems like he's fishing for compliments!! Dont give them.

I agree with Sola. But then he could also be truly lacking in self-confidence, or perhaps terribly vain or narcissistic. Either way, nothing you can say or do would change his view of himself. Only he can.

Yeah, that's also true LPJ.

firegirl, in my experience with a LIbran guy, they love compliments and will "fish" for them....they all seem to be low on cofidence apparently, oh and so very shy but funny how the shyness disappears when they want it to LOL

The only way you can give him confidence is by being you and showing him that you lurve spending time with him 🙂

good advice chatzy

Queenie is baffled. Never met a libran guy who wasn't very confident and a little vain... LOL!!!

Lets say never met one who wasn't confident about his appearance, looks, or his performance (sexually) lol!!! It turns me on like hell too. Oh and I am never short of compliments, so yeah those definitely help.

If he really does have a lack of confidence in a cirtain area, wherever it is, isolate it and then encourage him to seek out an activity in that area.

Hmm, interesting Nic, you always have good insight. Not sure how I would isolate it though, his insecurities are restricted to his appearence, which is odd because a lot of women are drawn to him. Would say exercise but he already works out a ton and is in good shape, either way it is not really a huge issue, I just feel bad that I can't "fix" it. He does frequently make comments about my appearence (positive or this thread would have an entirely diff tone lol) and said he was intially intimidated by me in the first few months. (which all my friends LAUGHED at b/c I am not intimidating at all, we are also in the same "league" appearence wise in my opinion, tho his ex was not really attractive at all, tho very nice) More likened the intimidation comment to our work relationship, as he is my direct report. Anyway thanks everyone for the comments, just throwing it out their to see if this is a common Libra thing and if their were any quick fixes, but I guess I got my answer. Either way Libra men ROCK!

lol he's full of it, he knows he looks good!

Some Paxil will clear that self conciousness right up

Do you just tell him straight up complimenting thing...maybe you should tell him these things through your eyes and thats it... let him see through your eyes what you see

libras have self confidence Gem's right hes full of shiiit...i do the same thing with people ...im aiight,not really,who me—... when i know conciously in my mind that I'm the best thing since sliced bread 😄 ... and that everyone else knows it too, and if by chance they don't...they will soon enough...and thats with no effort on my part...they will all soon be groveling at me feet!!! Ah ha ha ha!!!

Ha ha ah ha ha ha